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Wife just had twins! So life is crazy... No eating, up 90% of the night, stressed out, still working.
Is it pointless to try to work out if there is never a recovery period? Would it just put too much stress on the body and make things worse? Maybe just take 3-6 months off and get back with it then?
Thoughts?
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There's always time for 45-60 minutes 3 days a week.
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i have 3 never stopped ,and it got tough at times..like a death sentence or sorta...
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Wife just had twins! So life is crazy... No eating, up 90% of the night, stressed out, still working.
Is it pointless to try to work out if there is never a recovery period? Would it just put too much stress on the body and make things worse? Maybe just take 3-6 months off and get back with it then?
Thoughts?
You sound like a bitch.
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Wife just had twins! So life is crazy... No eating, up 90% of the night, stressed out, still working.
Is it pointless to try to work out if there is never a recovery period? Would it just put too much stress on the body and make things worse? Maybe just take 3-6 months off and get back with it then?
Thoughts?
Congratulations.
When my first was born I took 3 months off. Twins has to be even tougher.
Good luck
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You sound like a bitch.
Lol!
No, I'm a father who takes care of his kids. I get up just as my wife, it's called being a man! Not many can do it. You must be a black fella.
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Lol!
No, I'm a father who takes care of his kids. I get up just as my wife, it's called being a man! Not many can do it. You must be a black fella.
I'm just joking friend, good luck with your goals.
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I'm just joking friend, good luck with your goals.
Thanks man
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Either you or your wife should take extended time off work. No sense in being stressed and sacrificing gains.
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Keep at least 3 days a week in there to go to the gym. You will have a lot more energy. You need the stores relief. You might not make gains but you need to blow off steam and keep your feel goodd hormones flowing.
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You sound like a bitch.
:D
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Also need pics of the wife before final determination can be made.
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Forget bodybuilding for a year. Then try to start again.
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Buy some home gym equipment. A few dumbbells, rubber bands, maybe a bench. This may not be enough to grow, but at least you will maintain what you have.
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Buy some home gym equipment. A few dumbbells, rubber bands, maybe a bench. This may not be enough to grow, but at least you will maintain what you have.
This is a great suggestion. One minor tweak I would do is tell the wife you are going out for milk and cigarettes; buy a one way plane ticket to Italy. Once there bang 20 years olds with names like Sofia and Francesca and spend the rest of your life there.
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In a word, yes.
Quit fooling yourself. You'll always be a prize twink.
On another note, you now have kids (and a wife).
Game over.
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In a word, yes.
Quit fooling yourself. You'll always be a prize twink.
On another note, you now have kids (and a wife).
Game over.
Man im avoiding the kids thing so hard right now. Wife is gonna divorce me early nextbyear probly when i tell her i dont want them. Gotta be true to myself though. Life will suck
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You will wish you had continued hitting the gym...If you want something enough you'll get it and fit it in....You can build a very good physique going to the gym 3 days a week...In fact if you're staying natural that is almost ideal....Give yourself as much recovery time as possible and hit it hard when you're in there...Eat clean while you're out of the gym, work hard when you're in the gym...Find sleep where you can, even if it's broken up...
Jog 2 miles instead of 1, Eat the whole cake instead of a slice, burn your ex's house down. I believe in you theworm
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Forget bodybuilding for a year. forever. Concentrate on strength and conditioning.
Fixed
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Wife just had twins! So life is crazy... No eating, up 90% of the night, stressed out, still working.
Is it pointless to try to work out if there is never a recovery period? Would it just put too much stress on the body and make things worse? Maybe just take 3-6 months off and get back with it then?
Thoughts?
That's the beginning of the end bro ;D
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HTH
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I feel sorry for you.
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:D
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HIT then volume. 3 or 4 work outs by 30-40 mins. plus cardio.
twins gets two out of the way in one go.
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:D
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HTH
This was unsettling lol but more or less this is how a lot of marriages go...It's just not a sustainable thing these days it really isn't
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Lol!
No, I'm a father who takes care of his kids. I get up just as my wife, it's called being a man! Not many can do it. You must be a black fella.
My mate was a total slacker, had IVF treatment with his gf and had twins. I've seen him 3/4 times in past year (and that is with healthy kids). Lot of stress if they take turns crying as his kids do, especially as twins are likely premature. Put them first, then worry about your physique.
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This is a great suggestion. One minor tweak I would do is tell the wife you are going out for milk and cigarettes; buy a one way plane ticket to Italy. Once there bang 20 years olds with names like Sofia and Francesca and spend the rest of your life there.
This is truly making me lol.
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This is truly making me lol.
If he goes to Sardinia I know a nice girl who takes it up the arse.
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I feel sorry for you.
Why?
Children >>>> Bodybuilding.
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Good luck with your refractory phase of life.
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This is a great suggestion. One minor tweak I would do is tell the wife you are going out for milk and cigarettes; buy a one way plane ticket to Italy. Once there bang 20 years olds with names like Sofia and Francesca and spend the rest of your life there.
Lol! Best post yet!
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Lol! Best post yet!
Glad so many like my ideas. :D
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If he goes to Sardinia I know a nice girl who takes it up the arse.
I too love "nice" girls who take it in the can. LOFL.
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Don't quit entirely. It's really terrible psychologically for a person who has gotten used to working out four or more times a week to stop. To some extent you body and brain have learned to rely on this to deal with stress. If you quit, even "temporarily" you WILL regret it. Then years later if you are lucky enough to get back into it, you will kick yourself for choosing to stop.
Try try try to get 3 days 45-1 hr. If not 3, at least 2. You wife will like you better. Your kids will have a better dad.
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First off congratulations! You should be very happy and proud to be a father. Take care of your kids and do what needs to be done for them and your family. Family is everything and you are the one who can really make an impact on your kids lives starting from day 1.
Second, my suggestions would be to go 2 times a week full body workout on both of those days. If for nothing and you aren't even maintaining, well think of it as a stress reliever and when you leave that gym and shower and get dressed you are ready to take on the world for not only you and your wife now but also your family. It really is a precious thing and not many will understand it until they have kids. Good luck and congratulations again!
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Why?
Children >>>> Bodybuilding.
everything>>>having kids
what a fucking life destroying money sucking waste having kids is. Fuck people who say,.."Oh its the greatest thing ever blah blah blah" You just sucked a minimum 18 years out of the prime of your life to do whatever you want whenever you want. Now its just plowed into some brat who there is a good possibility wont respect you and may turn into a piece of shit. Look at me, my parents were normal and Im still a pain in their ass. And no, anyone who says their kids will be different fuckkkkkkkkk you. I would love to know how many morons say kids are oh so fucking wonderful but if you stuck a truth serum in them they would regret the day they had kids. Today alone I met 2 people who had a kid in the last year and absolutely hate it. They are honest with me cause they know I am a blunt person, and know they can speak the truth to me.
All you nancys who say your kids are so great and you love having em, spit out the fucking truth for once in your lives.
kids.....get a dog instead
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In a word, yes.
Quit fooling yourself. You'll always be a prize twink.
On another note, you now have kids (and a wife).
Game over.
Rather than "game over" why not say let the games begin? Having a wife and kids is great! It is far more fulfilling than a few short-lived years working on your narcissism.
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You have to change your identity... try to forget the part of your self that needs to look a certain way
Then, like others have said, get in the gym a couple of times a week. If you can forget yourself, you may find a new perspective which will allow you to continue enjoying your workouts.
After years and years of butting my head against a wall and racking up injuries, I found myself incapable of continuing. I could no longer muster the desire to overcome the ever-increasing pain and disappointment I felt. I've tried to shift my focus to cycling and abandon my self-conception as a "person who lifts weights". Lifting is now secondary, and -- so far so good.
Focus on your kids, job, whatever you can -- this might allow you to change what you expect from the gym, and become happy with less. That's the best advice I can give, anyway.
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You have to change your identity... try to forget the part of your self that needs to look a certain way
Then, like others have said, get in the gym a couple of times a week. If you can forget yourself, you may find a new perspective which will allow you to continue enjoying your workouts.
I agree that workouts should be enjoyable and not a chore. What constitutes enjoyment varies from person to person.
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I agree that workouts should be enjoyable and not a chore. What constitutes enjoyment varies from person to person.
I think enjoyment, like you say, is ultimately the ONE single factor shared by all those who find long term success in fitness. I used to think there were no common factors -- for every scheme of sets and reps, nutrition strategy, or "supplementation" protocol, you could find two exemplars: one who swore by it, and one who didn't use it at all.
Recently, I finally realized that, long term, no one who looks miserable in the gym as they torment themselves with a boring, rote routine succeeds. On the other hand, everyone who has a great physique looks like they're having fun. Whether they're relaxed or "going to war" is just a matter of style, you can tell they're into it.
I concluded: just because you do a workout you enjoy doesn't mean it will lead to success... but if you aren't enjoying your time in the gym, you certainly won't succeed.
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I agree that workouts should be enjoyable and not a chore. What constitutes enjoyment varies from person to person.
I'll be open and fully honest here. After a while of slacking off from the gym and not eating right or as much as I should be I lose weight very quickly. So whenever I decide to get back to it, the gym is a chore for the first 2 weeks. After that my stance to it is neutral. Usually after 4 weeks I have put on 15-20lbs (remember I came from not training and not eating properly so when I become on point with both I blow up fast), that is when I really ENJOY going to the gym very much. When I am jacked and swole and big as shit, watching the monster pumps coming from the mirror. Feeling like a god, confidence at an ultra high level. It's almost like a feeling of BEING HIGH!! I love that shit.
Then... something major pops up in life. And I am smart and realize this whole gym and physique upkeeping doesn't mean an ounce worth of crap. I refuse to be one of those guys who can't see the bigger picture of LIFE and have a hard time grasping the simple concept of priorities and that maintaining your chemically enhanced swole physique means crap to many other things! Job opportunities, business, schooling, so much stuff.
What I'm trying to say is. When I am swole as fuck I absolutely love going to the gym and getting a feeling of being high with confidence and just feeling fucking great. But I am also not a retard who puts lifting above everything else in life. I wish more people would see this but I think it comes with time, humbleness, acceptance, and really learning to love the skin you are in and being smart enough to know there are more important things to deal with at times.
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No reason why you cant train, I worked and trained through both of mine... Its no big deal
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I managed to find time for training with family, children, full-time job and friends. All while getting in 7-8 hours of sleep. What's the matter with you people?
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Start curling the twins.
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Get a Good pair of Squat stands, solid Bench and or Dipping/chinning set up. Get a copy of Brawn and do some Abbreviated training 2x a week. Abbreviated training is not bad at all if you are pushed for time.
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I managed to find time for training with family, children, full-time job and friends. All while getting in 7-8 hours of sleep. What's the matter with you people?
Twins =/= one baby.
I've seen impact it had on my mate and his partner. They were 5 weeks premature or so as well which means non stop feeds every 2 hours min EACH and if they don't feed or sleep together...
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everything>>>having kids
what a fucking life destroying money sucking waste having kids is. Fuck people who say,.."Oh its the greatest thing ever blah blah blah" You just sucked a minimum 18 years out of the prime of your life to do whatever you want whenever you want. Now its just plowed into some brat who there is a good possibility wont respect you and may turn into a piece of shit. Look at me, my parents were normal and Im still a pain in their ass. And no, anyone who says their kids will be different fuckkkkkkkkk you. I would love to know how many morons say kids are oh so fucking wonderful but if you stuck a truth serum in them they would regret the day they had kids. Today alone I met 2 people who had a kid in the last year and absolutely hate it. They are honest with me cause they know I am a blunt person, and know they can speak the truth to me.
All you nancys who say your kids are so great and you love having em, spit out the fucking truth for once in your lives.
kids.....get a dog instead
And if you have a female, prepare for the very real possibility she'll grow to become just another skanky broad. Look at that chick Belle Knox. Father comes home from an extended work placement overseas as a doctor, only to discover his cherished little girl is now starring in hardcore porn, getting reamed in the vag, pooper and mouth by giant cocks of all colours for all the world to see.
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I just had ky 3rd daughter about 9 weeks ago,It is hectic but i get 3 workouts in a week and all my cardio carrying her around a couple hours ad ay to keep her quiet.It can be done.
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I'll be open and fully honest here. After a while of slacking off from the gym and not eating right or as much as I should be I lose weight very quickly. So whenever I decide to get back to it, the gym is a chore for the first 2 weeks. After that my stance to it is neutral. Usually after 4 weeks I have put on 15-20lbs (remember I came from not training and not eating properly so when I become on point with both I blow up fast), that is when I really ENJOY going to the gym very much. When I am jacked and swole and big as shit, watching the monster pumps coming from the mirror. Feeling like a god, confidence at an ultra high level. It's almost like a feeling of BEING HIGH!! I love that shit.
Then... something major pops up in life. And I am smart and realize this whole gym and physique upkeeping doesn't mean an ounce worth of crap. I refuse to be one of those guys who can't see the bigger picture of LIFE and have a hard time grasping the simple concept of priorities and that maintaining your chemically enhanced swole physique means crap to many other things! Job opportunities, business, schooling, so much stuff.
What I'm trying to say is. When I am swole as fuck I absolutely love going to the gym and getting a feeling of being high with confidence and just feeling fucking great. But I am also not a retard who puts lifting above everything else in life. I wish more people would see this but I think it comes with time, humbleness, acceptance, and really learning to love the skin you are in and being smart enough to know there are more important things to deal with at times.
Your perspective on weight training is right on. Anything you do that becomes an obsession is not healthy, whether it's working out, sex or food, etc. At this point in life, I'm pleased just to be reasonably fit and healthy. Like you, I tend to lose weight when not working out. It used to make me panic. That's not the case anymore.
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Wife just had twins! So life is crazy... No eating, up 90% of the night, stressed out, still working.
Is it pointless to try to work out if there is never a recovery period? Would it just put too much stress on the body and make things worse? Maybe just take 3-6 months off and get back with it then?
Thoughts?
God bless you and the family....that is awesome!!
I've never experienced caring for twins so I'm not about to tell you how to do that! :o
Although, I am a Dad and I understand exactly what you've said.
My opinion (based upon myself) is that if I'm unable to get sufficient rest and I attempt to continue pushing in the gym that my body becomes so depleted that I get sick.
Given the newborns I would just put them above all else for a bit and back off the gym until they settle into a routine, sleep more a night and you're sleeping more at night.
I'd make sure your diet is solid regardless, take your vitamin/minerals, drink plenty of water and just hang on.....you'll get through. Gym for now can go on backburner status unless you can legitimately make time for it.
We're all a little different so I'm just speaking from my own perspective and how I function on minimal sleep with stress and all that. In a couple months the kiddos will be more stable and you can get more full-time in the gym.
This universal of "you can always find [enter time frame] for the gym" isn't true....we're all different with different circumstances. I find that people that say those things don't have any real experience with parenting, family, working, providing for others....those types of responsibilities.
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God bless you and the family....that is awesome!!
I've never experienced caring for twins so I'm not about to tell you how to do that! :o
Although, I am a Dad and I understand exactly what you've said.
My opinion (based upon myself) is that if I'm unable to get sufficient rest and I attempt to continue pushing in the gym that my body becomes so depleted that I get sick.
Given the newborns I would just put them above all else for a bit and back off the gym until they settle into a routine, sleep more a night and you're sleeping more at night.
I'd make sure your diet is solid regardless, take your vitamin/minerals, drink plenty of water and just hang on.....you'll get through. Gym for now can go on backburner status unless you can legitimately make time for it.
We're all a little different so I'm just speaking from my own perspective and how I function on minimal sleep with stress and all that. In a couple months the kiddos will be more stable and you can get more full-time in the gym.
This universal of "you can always find [enter time frame] for the gym" isn't true....we're all different with different circumstances. I find that people that say those things don't have any real experience with parenting, family, working, providing for others....those types of responsibilities.
I agree. Folks should enjoy the time they spend bonding with their young children while they can. Before you know it, they are grownup and want little to do with their parents. Well, at least until they are in their twenties anyway.
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Thanks guys! I have 4 kids, all under 4... So it's hard
If I work out and don't sleep at all that night I feel like shit. Already have no energy and no energy to even cook so it's all take out. I know it's bad but I just have to do this for maybe 3-4 more months and I'll get back into it
Trying to get the wife to agree with a night nanny 2x a week, that way I can work out solid and actually get an ounce of sleep that night
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Thanks guys! I have 4 kids, all under 4... So it's hard
If I work out and don't sleep at all that night I feel like shit. Already have no energy and no energy to even cook so it's all take out. I know it's bad but I just have to do this for maybe 3-4 more months and I'll get back into it
Trying to get the wife to agree with a night nanny 2x a week, that way I can work out solid and actually get an ounce of sleep that night
Try pulling out.
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Try pulling out.
bahahahahahah
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Try pulling out.
It's a little late for that, isn't it?
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Try pulling out.
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Try pulling out.
Ha! ;D
'Bobby said he'd pull out. Bobby stayed in.'
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Incorporate your children into your training.
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Incorporate your children into your training.
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Fucking stupid ass people doing that shit.although it is funny.
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^^^ crossfit imbecile no doubt
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I have 4 kids and worked crazy hours. I remember at one point I would wake up 430AM in the morning and drive to work for 4 days then for another consecutive 4 days I would have to start work at 9pm. 8 days in a row of day shift and night shift.
I always worked out. If there's a will there is a way. Why not do a whole body workout on your day off and another or two on work days. That will hit your body twice or three times in a week. Start with the biggest body part and work down to the smallest. Pick one or at the max two exercises per body part. Do two work sets per exercise. It's old school but it's effective. You can use different exercises for each work out. It also helps if you work out at home so there's no travel time.
Adjustable dumbbells like power blocks or Iron Master and one of their benches you can do so much at home.
Do something like this.
Power cleans 3 x 3
squats 2 x 8
Lunges 2 x 10
dumbbell bench 2 x 8 (placed before lats so you won't have two pressing movements back to back)
Pull ups 2 x max
Low cable row 2 x 12
Military press 2 x 8
Dumbbell lateral raise 2 x 10
weighted dips 2 x 8
barbell curls 2 x 10
Hanging leg raise 2 x max
weighted crunches 2 x max
standing calf raises 2 x 15
neck work.
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Ha! ;D
'Bobby said he'd pull out. Bobby stayed in.'
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With your wife having all these babies make sure she is losing the weight she put on. No sense having a family if you're going to have a fat wife. Make sure she keeps working out.
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dont stop working out... you will regret the time off after a while.
3 times a week for 45 mins is nothing major.
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