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Getbig Main Boards => Gossip & Opinions => Topic started by: El Diablo Blanco on May 28, 2016, 04:04:03 PM
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Here's the deal. A good friend of mine asked me to be part of his wedding party. He's getting married in July. Plane tickets will cost me about $1200 , then hotel for a few nights is $600, tux rental is like $250. I'll be out over $2k already. Not even counting $ for food and drinks and anything else we do plus I might need a rental car. Shit load of money for a wedding that isn't even mine. Now I'm trying to figure out how much I should give him as a present.
I don't need bullshit answers about him bailing out. I know marriage is a suckers deal but he's going through with it.
What's a good amount to give? I really need some advices.
Thanks.
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300 bucks.
Not cheap, not over the top, considering you're a good friend and have spent a bunch already.
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Don't forget to tip the groomsmen and bridesmaids.
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Cash is so crass. Can't you get something off the registry, like a blender or 3 fucking place settings?
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I'd give 5 hondos, and write a check, don't give cash. They won't remember who it's from.
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Wrap a large empty box and don't put a tag on it. Other guests will see you walk in with it, and when the "happy couple" opens shit, your empty box will be a source of quickly-forgotten mystery.
No one will ever even think about what it was you gave. No one cares.
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"A donation has been made in your name to the Angel Adams Childrens' Fund."
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As far as weddings, I've been in several, and a best man at one. The whole thing is a sham of epic proportions.
Tell them it's squat day and save yourself the money/misery.
(At the wedding for which I served as best man, my buddy and his bride spent the entirety of the afternoon and evening fighting. In the limo ... at the park taking photos ... at the reception ... Nightmare. Within a year of the "happy nuptials", he porked some ditzy broad he knew from high school, years and years ago. In his car. Now he has two bratty-as-fuck boys with the wife and she's perpetually angry with him about everything.)
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I remember back when a $50 wedding gift was a lot of money, now $150-200 is about average.
I don't go to weddings because I don't believe in marriage. Problem solved.
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Not trying to hijack your thread but I'm in a similar situation. I have to pay a thousand bucks for plane tickets 250 for tux rental 300 for hotel. I'm one of his groomsmen. I have to travel for another wedding a month later and spend almost as much. Sister is having a baby I have to fly home for that.
I don't think I'm going to be able to fly again for his bachelor party. I have a feeling he's going to be disappointed but fuck I just started making half way decent money recently.
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Cash is so crass. Can't you get something off the registry, like a blender or 3 fucking place settings?
How about some bootstraps?
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Declare primae noctis on that ass
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Not trying to hijack your thread but I'm in a similar situation. I have to pay a thousand bucks for plane tickets 250 for tux rental 300 for hotel. I'm one of his groomsmen. I have to travel for another wedding a month later and spend almost as much. Sister is having a baby I have to fly home for that.
I don't think I'm going to be able to fly again for his bachelor party. I have a feeling he's going to be disappointed but fuck I just started making half way decent money recently.
If you don't want to go just tell 'em you appreciate the invitation but can't afford to attend. It's a whole lot nicer than "I don't care to come to your stupid shit."
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Here's the deal. A good friend of mine asked me to be part of his wedding party. He's getting married in July. Plane tickets will cost me about $1200 , then hotel for a few nights is $600, tux rental is like $250. I'll be out over $2k already. Not even counting $ for food and drinks and anything else we do plus I might need a rental car. Shit load of money for a wedding that isn't even mine. Now I'm trying to figure out how much I should give him as a present.
I don't need bullshit answers about him bailing out. I know marriage is a suckers deal but he's going through with it.
What's a good amount to give? I really need some advices.
Thanks.
shit, i wouldn't give him any money, just a bottle of johnnie walker blue label and call it a day.
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This seems like an odd thread for Getbig.
I'd say $200, or whatever you can afford.
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Cash is so crass. Can't you get something off the registry, like a blender or 3 fucking place settings?
They're Greek so they don't register. Cash is key. I'd easily give $500 if it wasnt costing me 2k already. Basically $300 will probably just cover their cost per guest.
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This seems like an odd thread for Getbig.
I'd say $200, or whatever you can afford.
Lol at odd thread. So army of one asking who in the ifbb you want to fuck you in the ass is not odd?
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Bout tree fiddy
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Lol at odd thread. So army of one asking who in the ifbb you want to fuck you in the ass is not odd?
Nope. And that is sad.
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Lol at odd thread. So army of one asking who in the ifbb you want to fuck you in the ass is not odd?
Funny enough not really. :)
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If you do go, and it's gonna cost you one or two grand, give 'em the ol' zippo for a gift.
Weddings = colossal waste of time and money
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300 bucks.
Not cheap, not over the top, considering you're a good friend and have spent a bunch already.
I'd hope they realize how much it's costing me to be there. That is fly to cancun and fuck prima whores for a week money and I'd still have $1k left.
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$300 is the magic number for a close friend
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If you do go, and it's gonna cost you one or two grand, give 'em the ol' zippo for a gift.
Weddings = colossal waste of time and money
You what to know what is a waste of money? Fucking diamonds. Not rare, monopoly, you can even get man made ones. The only reason women want them is propaganda and mind fucking.
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You what to know what is a waste of money? Fucking diamonds. Not rare, monopoly, you can even get man made ones. The only reason women want them is propaganda and mind fucking.
There are enough diamonds being held that if they were to hit the market the value would plummet. The fuckers control the market and release only what they want. I heard rumors of mines in Siberia that contain millions of carats then all of a sudden nothing. No more news. No more mention.
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Bout tree fiddy
LOL
(http://i179.photobucket.com/albums/w289/mr5minutes/treefiddytuna.jpg)
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A wedding you say, is there a money-back guarantee?
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You what to know what is a waste of money? Fucking diamonds. Not rare, monopoly, you can even get man made ones. The only reason women want them is propaganda and mind fucking.
Buy her a concrete cutting blade. If she gets it she's a keeper.
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Pics of the brides tits or gtfo.
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Donate to the 1992 Clinton election fund.
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Donate to the 1992 Clinton election fund.
you mean to that election coach dkdnt vote for clinton?
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Fuck out-of-state people who have the gall to invite me to their goddamn weddings and expect me to waste my hard-earned travel money! >:( I think it's more polite NOT to invite me!
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Fuck out-of-state people who have the gall to invite me to their goddamn weddings and expect me to waste my hard-earned travel money! >:( I think it's more polite NOT to invite me!
I got a invite to go to a wedding in Spain and they wanted a thousand dollars as a gift. ::) so, I pay for travel, hotel for a week, give them a thousand bucks and i have to pay my ticket back. :-\ It seems like a wedding is some kind of racket. Ohh, and they also want their guests dressed on suits that start off at $500.... >:(
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nothing, they will be separated in a few years and you will bit your ass for spending money on them...
pretend to be sick or ingured and safe the money, marriage - oh brother
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Fuck out-of-state people who have the gall to invite me to their goddamn weddings and expect me to waste my hard-earned travel money! >:( I think it's more polite NOT to invite me!
I went and spent to one wedding, they were divorced in one year. :P
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$100 casual friend, $300 close friend, don't expect me to pay for your new house bitch.
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$0, business card for a divorce attorney, odds are, one will be needed.........
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I'd hope they realize how much it's costing me to be there. That is fly to cancun and fuck prima whores for a week money and I'd still have $1k left.
Chances are they haven't given your expenses a second thought. It will cost you more than you think... rehearsal dinner night, time off work, new clothes for the trip, bachelor party, the money dance...). One week out from the wedding, I'll guarantee they won't remember the amount of cash you gave.
How close are you to the groom? Would you choose him to be in YOUR wedding party? How many bridesmaids/groomsmen? Have you been asked just to fill a spot because the bride is having a bunch of sorority sisters stand up? Do you know the bride? How long have they been together? Are they set in their careers or just starting out? Are they currently living together? Own or renting? Where is the wedding; East coast, West coast, Midwest?
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20 buck plus any left over free sample preworkout pills you have left over from the Arnold.
It's the thought that counts.
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I got a invite to go to a wedding in Spain and they wanted a thousand dollars as a gift. ::) so, I pay for travel, hotel for a week, give them a thousand bucks and i have to pay my ticket back. :-\ It seems like a wedding is some kind of racket. Ohh, and they also want their guests dressed on suits that start off at $500.... >:(
Sounds like you need to lower your standards for friends.
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Don't go to begin with. A real friend wouldn't expect that much of you unless you are very well off. They should be paying if they want you to do that much.
Not really an honor to be in a wedding, more like punishment when they expect that of you.
My groomsmen spent $10 total on their outfit. Just a shirt. The whole rental stuff is terrible/bad move to do to your friends, IMO.
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Sounds like you need to lower your standards for friends.
:D :D
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When one of my best mates got engaged and they had a whip round at work I refused to contribute and made a point to tell him that I didn't put owt in.
Good mates don't need to buy/give each other owt, that shits for women and fags
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Buy yourself a decent tuxedo. Every man should own at least 1 tuxedo and at least 5 different suits of various colors.
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To expect someone to shell out hundreds, if not thousands, to attend their marriage, is extraordinarily selfish and uncaring.
My very good bud is getting hitched late this Summer. He's 47.
The wedding will cost me, and everyone else invited, only the price of gas to and from and ... that's it.
They've decided against any grandiose event as they, too, are hugely repulsed by what these events have become.
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Take a couple hundred bucks.
Put it in a 7 year CD and if they are both still married, they can take the money and go.
If not, it comes back to you.
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Take a couple hundred bucks.
Put it in a 7 year CD and if they are both still married, they can take the money and go.
If not, it comes back to you.
That is a dick move tho. :D
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That is a dick move tho. :D
At least you know it won't go to a divorce attorney. ;D
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I hate when people invite me to their weddings and then say "hey can you you bring your camera with you? Cause they are to cheap to hire a photographer and know i shoot weddings to. Then they get pissed when i say im going there to" enjoy" your wedding and not work.
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I got a invite to go to a wedding in Spain and they wanted a thousand dollars as a gift. ::) so, I pay for travel, hotel for a week, give them a thousand bucks and i have to pay my ticket back. :-\ It seems like a wedding is some kind of racket. Ohh, and they also want their guests dressed on suits that start off at $500.... >:(
You're joking right? They asked for a present?
I someone is having an out of state wedding let alone an out of the country wedding they shouldn't expect gifts to recompensate them for their damn wedding.
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$0.00
Any wedding that costs the guests money to attend negates them having to provide cash. The expenses they incur to be at your wedding is their gift.
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Fuck out-of-state people who have the gall to invite me to their goddamn weddings and expect me to waste my hard-earned travel money! >:( I think it's more polite NOT to invite me!
x2. Do not attend.
Most people have limited time off work and limited funds. And what little you have is supposed to be spent attending a party for a couple that is likely to call it quits? I think not.
True story: couple I know decided to have a wedding on a Caribbean island. I was invited but declined to attend. Dozens of guests spent time and money flying in from thousands of miles away to watch them say I do. Less than two years later the marriage was over. The bride is now on husband number two and few people--even family members--recall the name of husband number one. ::)
The second wedding was a very modest affair. I didn't attend that one either.
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You're joking right? They asked for a present?
I someone is having an out of state wedding let alone an out of the country wedding they shouldn't expect gifts to recompensate them for their damn wedding.
They asked for gifts and for us to spend our own money on a flight to Spain! I saw some of the gifts they asked for and some were like a Samsung washer and dryer (stainless steel none the less) and expensive as hell appliances, dishes, new TV, etc,...
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Take a couple hundred bucks.
Put it in a 7 year CD and if they are both still married, they can take the money and go.
If not, it comes back to you.
haha nice
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I hate when people invite me to their weddings and then say "hey can you you bring your camera with you? Cause they are to cheap to hire a photographer and know i shoot weddings to. Then they get pissed when i say im going there to" enjoy" your wedding and not work.
Yeah. That's bullshit.
It just means they are too cheap to hire a photographer. I have seen that kind of thing and I hate it. Absolutely hate it.
You're a friend, you're not supposed to be working.
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No way I'm spending 2K on attending a wedding. It's not the money although that would be hard to part with for something like a wedding. It's the principle of it. I'd be embarrassed to ask my friends to attend my wedding knowing it will cost them even half that.
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No way I'm spending 2K on attending a wedding. It's not the money although that would be hard to part with for something like a wedding. It's the principle of it. I'd be embarrassed to ask my friends to attend my wedding knowing it will cost them even half that.
X2. I would feel bad asking me friends to take the two hour $300 flight to Vegas even.
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Or don't go
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x2. Do not attend.
Most people have limited time off work and limited funds. And what little you have is supposed to be spent attending a party for a couple that is likely to call it quits? I think not.
True story: couple I know decided to have a wedding on a Caribbean island. I was invited but declined to attend. Dozens of guests spent time and money flying in from thousands of miles away to watch them say I do. Less than two years later the marriage was over. The bride is now on husband number two and few people--even family members--recall the name of husband number one. ::)
The second wedding was a very modest affair. I didn't attend that one either.
no shit right? I was asked to attend a couple years ago to an out-of-state. Thankfully my work has horrid deadlines per gig, so i was able to conveniently use that as an excuse. "Hey, attend your wedding or I lose my job?" When put that way, they usually shut up :D
A friend of mine was invited twice to his friend's wedding--an extravagant one in France (he DID attend and blew a boatload of money--bad move since my friend eventually ended up being unemployed and broke later), and than AGAIN by the same guy who wanted to "do a celebration in the US for friends who couldn't attend France." The gall of some people >:(
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X2. I would feel bad asking me friends to take the two hour $300 flight to Vegas even.
ugh, was just asked this last week, to attend a bachelor party in Vegas later this summer. I think I'll conveniently "run into work deadlines" that weekend ;)
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Why not just look at the registry and give the equivalent of one of the nicer items?
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I think anytime someone out of state or country asks you to be in their wedding party that they also need to include a plane ticket and hotel voucher with that invite. Kind of bullshit to ask a friend to be in the wedding party expecting them to dole out thousands to be there where the majority of people will just spend $10 in gas.
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It's hilarious.
Used to be, weddings cost the parents of the groom a boatload of money.
Now everyone, including the fuckin' guests, is emptying their wallets.
Tens of thousands so some broad can be star for a day and receive a hot blast of jizz to the face back at the hotel to "consummate" (oh brother) the marriage.
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I am getting married next year. (I know, I know :-[)
3 of my groomsmen will be from out of state (one will be coming from a different continent)
I think I will offer to rent their tuxedos, and provide them with a place to stay at the reception site so they can truly enjoy the alcohol and bridesmaids. Probably get them a really good bottle of whiskey/scotch.
So they just have to make their own travel plans and show up.
Luckily the wedding will be in a stone's throw from our hometowns so they can justify the trip to see family as well.
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x2. Do not attend.
Most people have limited time off work and limited funds. And what little you have is supposed to be spent attending a party for a couple that is likely to call it quits? I think not.
True story: couple I know decided to have a wedding on a Caribbean island. I was invited but declined to attend. Dozens of guests spent time and money flying in from thousands of miles away to watch them say I do. Less than two years later the marriage was over. The bride is now on husband number two and few people--even family members--recall the name of husband number one. ::)
The second wedding was a very modest affair. I didn't attend that one either.
You are a good man. I hate weddings
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I am getting married next year. (I know, I know :-[)
3 of my groomsmen will be from out of state (one will be coming from a different continent)
I think I will offer to rent their tuxedos, and provide them with a place to stay at the reception site so they can truly enjoy the alcohol and bridesmaids. Probably get them a really good bottle of whiskey/scotch.
So they just have to make their own travel plans and show up.
Luckily the wedding will be in a stone's throw from our hometowns so they can justify the trip to see family as well.
Don't just offer to pay for Tux and Hotel but do it. Tell them up front that you're covering the cost and even offer to help with airfare.
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Don't just offer to pay for Tux and Hotel but do it. Tell them up front that you're covering the cost and even offer to help with airfare.
Only one will be flying. and he will be coming from fucking Peru. ($800 + round trip, economy)
He is my current roommate and an idiot. Just graduated college with a degree in political science (30k + in student loans). And he is going to teach abroad; to go "find himself" with his Art Major g/f. Prime example of that generation though.
Needless to say, the wedding will go on if he can or can't afford the damn plane ticket. That money would come out of my Honeymoon funds. Fuck it, I'm selfish.
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I am getting married next year. (I know, I know :-[)
3 of my groomsmen will be from out of state (one will be coming from a different continent)
I think I will offer to rent their tuxedos, and provide them with a place to stay at the reception site so they can truly enjoy the alcohol and bridesmaids. Probably get them a really good bottle of whiskey/scotch.
So they just have to make their own travel plans and show up.
Luckily the wedding will be in a stone's throw from our hometowns so they can justify the trip to see family as well.
Take care of the tux expenses and hotel for the wedding night (assuming they'll be staying with family the rest of the time). You'll likely be getting a group discount on the tuxes and rooms. The dude from Peru may have an issue taking liquor back with him.
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Take care of the tux expenses and hotel for the wedding night (assuming they'll be staying with family the rest of the time). You'll likely be getting a group discount on the tuxes and rooms. The dude from Peru may have an issue taking liquor back with him.
Nope. No group discount for tuxes. Each person pays their own. These places don't give a fuck about group discounts since they have people lining up to give them money all summer long for weddings.
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I stopped going to weddings 25 years ago. Close friend, or distant acquaintance, I never gave more than 100.00... Stupid F'ing customs.
Sort of like wakes / funerals... I just dont go to 'em...
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shit, i wouldn't give him any money, just a bottle of johnnie walker blue label and call it a day.
Exactly!!
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It's hilarious.
Used to be, weddings cost the parents of the groom a boatload of money.
Now everyone, including the fuckin' guests, is emptying their wallets.
Tens of thousands so some broad can be star for a day and receive a hot blast of jizz to the face back at the hotel to "consummate" (oh brother) the marriage.
I think you have that backwards. Traditionally, the father of the bride pays for the wedding... and in the really old days he had to cough up a dowry too.
You are a good man. I hate weddings
I don't hate weddings; I just think they have gotten way out of control... with family members and guests spending money they do not have... couples focusing on the wedding and not the marriage (hence the break up a year or two later)... devoting money to the wedding, yet the couple cannot afford to buy a decent home... etc.
btw, I'd marry Stan Efferding. :P
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Should give them a box of condoms and tell them not to be stupid and bring a child into this fucked up world.
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Should give them a box of condoms and tell them not to be stupid and bring a child into this fucked up world.
;D
If it's a traditional Greek wedding, that would be hilarious during the money dance
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A tux I'm renting for my buddies wedding is 250 dollars lol.
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A tux I'm renting for my buddies wedding is 250 dollars lol.
Yup. Rip off for something you'll wear for a couple hours. For $250 I can bang a a sexy hooker and still have $175 cash left over.
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I think you have that backwards. Traditionally, the father of the bride pays for the wedding... and in the really old days he had to cough up a dowry too.
I don't hate weddings; I just think they have gotten way out of control... with family members and guests spending money they do not have... couples focusing on the wedding and not the marriage (hence the break up a year or two later)... devoting money to the wedding, yet the couple cannot afford to buy a decent home... etc.
btw, I'd marry Stan Efferding. :P
Yes, you're correct, of course. I made a mistake.
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I remember back when a $50 wedding gift was a lot of money, now $150-200 is about average.
This.
Although, my groomsmen put on a great stag and did a lot for me. I bought them each brand new suits, shoes etc for the wedding and told them no gift needed from them.
If your mate doesnt say that then he is an asshole, or maybe you aren't that good friends.