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Title: Just found out one of my best friends died this morning.
Post by: robcguns on June 24, 2022, 07:12:32 PM
So my other best friend texts me Tim’s dead. He tried calling me last night and I didn’t answer and he called a few times but didn’t leave a message or text me. Now I’m sitting here alone waiting for a visit from his ghost asking why I didn’t answer the phone.ive been friends with Tim for 30 years, he had a very bad drug problem for years so I would talk to him and see him maybe 2-3 times a year just cause I don’t like that shit but now I feel bad. Just rambling on a Friday night prob sounds stupid. Just a weird feeling is all. Anyone ever have a situation like this?
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Post by: Moontrane on June 24, 2022, 07:16:19 PM
Sorry, man, hang in there.
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Post by: Cook on June 24, 2022, 07:26:22 PM
Don’t beat yourself up buddy.It’s not your fault he died.
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Post by: Marty Champions on June 24, 2022, 07:36:15 PM
Hang in there stud pray to jesus hopefully there is mercy for our imperfections. Jesus is the true lord still talked about 2 this day
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Post by: wes on June 24, 2022, 07:54:49 PM
Sorry for your loss Rob.
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Post by: Royalty on June 24, 2022, 07:54:51 PM
So my other best friend texts me Tim’s dead. He tried calling me last night and I didn’t answer and he called a few times but didn’t leave a message or text me. Now I’m sitting here alone waiting for a visit from his ghost asking why I didn’t answer the phone.ive been friends with Tim for 30 years, he had a very bad drug problem for years so I would talk to him and see him maybe 2-3 times a year just cause I don’t like that shit but now I feel bad. Just rambling on a Friday night prob sounds stupid. Just a weird feeling is all. Anyone ever have a situation like this?

This happened to a girl that I know. A few days ago, a male friend sent her a text saying that he was suicidal. She was out at a bonfire with her fiancé and did not respond to the text.

Well, the friend wasn’t bluffing. His body was found yesterday.

She is very upset because she was forewarned in a text.


PS: You could not have known !!!!! You did nothing wrong.

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Post by: beakdoctor on June 24, 2022, 07:55:31 PM
Yes... ive been there. Shit feeling. Really an empty feeling because he was there and now he isn't but you can't play 'what if?' And you can't go back and change anything.  So don't do that to yourself.

Be good to yourself and just think about the good times you had with your bud when he was at his best and forgive him for when he was at his worst.

Sorry to hear.
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Post by: Marty Champions on June 24, 2022, 08:05:44 PM
try drinking beer be careful of heme iron tim westcox is a prime example
Title: Re: Just found out one of my best friends died this morning.
Post by: robcguns on June 24, 2022, 08:09:34 PM
Thanks everyone, appreciate the input and well wishes. Took an edible for the first time in quite a while and just laughing about shit we used to do with my other buddy. Family is away for the weekend so just enjoying being baked and waiting for his ghost to appear hahaha.
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Post by: chaos on June 24, 2022, 08:52:23 PM
RIP to your friend.
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Post by: pamith on June 24, 2022, 09:20:18 PM
Brutal if true
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Post by: sync pulse on June 24, 2022, 09:40:24 PM
So my other best friend texts me Tim’s dead. He tried calling me last night and I didn’t answer and he called a few times but didn’t leave a message or text me. Now I’m sitting here alone waiting for a visit from his ghost asking why I didn’t answer the phone.ive been friends with Tim for 30 years, he had a very bad drug problem for years so I would talk to him and see him maybe 2-3 times a year just cause I don’t like that shit but now I feel bad. Just rambling on a Friday night prob sounds stupid. Just a weird feeling is all. Anyone ever have a situation like this?

My first death of a close friend was a college classmate who was a broadcast tech who worked for NEP in Los Angeles with the nickname "Falcon"...He just stopped answering his house phone...after a few months trying now and then I got through to his widow who told me what happened.

I have had a close friend in high school smack his Mach Mustang head on into a concrete truck his freshman year in high school...But Falcon was different, he didn't have an fatal accident...He got sick and died of lymphoma.

Has anyone noticed that this is a subplot in "Top Gun Maverick"...Someone you knew as a very young person gets sick and dies.
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Post by: Dave D on June 24, 2022, 09:52:40 PM
I’m sorry for your loss Rob.

There are many “good”, or maybe relevant, shared experiences here.

You can’t own this, it’s natural to think you have some responsibility but I guess the only take away is dont beat yourself up. Mourn. Grieve. And remember the good times.

I know this isn’t the real world but we are here for you…
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Post by: keanu on June 24, 2022, 10:41:27 PM
I've experienced plenty of death . It happens when you get older. The sadness dissapears quickly, then i remember all the good times. A celebration of the persons life should be happening, not misery.
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Post by: Henda on June 24, 2022, 10:55:48 PM
Really sorry to hear Rob Hope your ok brother 30 years is a long friendship
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Post by: Phantom Spunker on June 24, 2022, 11:45:05 PM
Sorry to hear, Rob. I've had quite a few close friends die young. Life is brutal. Keep focused on your walking for a few days until that initial feeling of gloom subsides. Walk a little longer and faster and focus your thoughts. I always turn to running. 
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Post by: pamith on June 25, 2022, 01:50:44 AM
In a way it's your fault because you were not there for him, no?
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Post by: Flexacon on June 25, 2022, 02:19:32 AM
In a way it's your fault because you were not there for him, no?

Brutal if true
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Post by: pamith on June 25, 2022, 02:26:14 AM
Brutal if true
My nikka
Title: Re: Just found out one of my best friends died this morning.
Post by: joswift on June 25, 2022, 03:09:57 AM
So my other best friend texts me Tim’s dead. He tried calling me last night and I didn’t answer and he called a few times but didn’t leave a message or text me. Now I’m sitting here alone waiting for a visit from his ghost asking why I didn’t answer the phone.ive been friends with Tim for 30 years, he had a very bad drug problem for years so I would talk to him and see him maybe 2-3 times a year just cause I don’t like that shit but now I feel bad. Just rambling on a Friday night prob sounds stupid. Just a weird feeling is all. Anyone ever have a situation like this?

I had a mate I hadnt seen for years, a mutual acquaintance phone me and said he wanted to come and see me
I said Yes and arranged for them to come the Friday night
They didnt show

He killed himself Friday afternoon.
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Post by: FitnessFrenzy on June 25, 2022, 03:13:40 AM
sorry for your loss
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Post by: Taffin on June 25, 2022, 04:22:11 AM
Sorry to hear that Rob

2 years ago, the Godfather to 3 of my kids decided enough was enough.  It was strange, because although he had a very stressful job he was always very happy.  Then one day that was it...

It's natural to wonder if you could have done anything,  men are born problem solvers.  But try to do plenty of the laughing and reminiscing that I see you mentioned above too :)

Taf
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Post by: Gym-Rat on June 25, 2022, 04:31:48 AM
Im at that age now where everyone's dying. Wake to go to tomorrow for a buddy who dropped in his sleep.
(Another possible clot-shot 'ignored statistic').

Sorry to hear about your buddy Rob...
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Post by: Rambone on June 25, 2022, 04:40:42 AM
Damn. Sorry for your loss, Rob.
Title: Re: Just found out one of my best friends died this morning.
Post by: Fortress on June 25, 2022, 04:56:41 AM
I’m so very sorry, brother.

Know his death is NOT on you, in any way.

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Post by: IroNat on June 25, 2022, 05:22:31 AM
I felt like this when Elvis died.

Shit happens when you least expect it.

If it's any consolation, you are still alive.
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Post by: LurkerNoMore on June 25, 2022, 05:36:54 AM
Sorry to hear man.  It sucks.  Just remember you got 30 years out of that friendship.  Invaluable. 
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Post by: webstar on June 25, 2022, 05:45:52 AM
Damn, sorry to hear.
Title: Re: Just found out one of my best friends died this morning.
Post by: robcguns on June 25, 2022, 06:34:51 AM
Thanks a lot guys, appreciate the encouragement. Going to his house shortly with my other buddy cause supposedly there are two letters there that he wrote years ago that he wanted us to both have in the event of his death. Should be interesting.
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Post by: joswift on June 25, 2022, 08:01:26 AM
Thanks a lot guys, appreciate the encouragement. Going to his house shortly with my other buddy cause supposedly there are two letters there that he wrote years ago that he wanted us to both have in the event of his death. Should be interesting.

Be strong pal..

PS, hope its not a bill for the funeral..
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Post by: King Shizzo on June 25, 2022, 08:10:30 AM
Be strong pal..

PS, hope its not a bill for the funeral..
......
Title: Re: Just found out one of my best friends died this morning.
Post by: robcguns on June 25, 2022, 08:17:55 AM
Be strong pal..

PS, hope its not a bill for the funeral..

Hahaha, he already owed me 20k from over the years.
Title: Re: Just found out one of my best friends died this morning.
Post by: King Shizzo on June 25, 2022, 08:23:09 AM
Hahaha, he already owed me 20k from over the years.
Onemorerep, is ready to help file your taxes.
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Post by: Walter Sobchak on June 25, 2022, 09:23:19 AM
Thanks a lot guys, appreciate the encouragement. Going to his house shortly with my other buddy cause supposedly there are two letters there that he wrote years ago that he wanted us to both have in the event of his death. Should be interesting.

Sorry to hear about your loss.

Hopefully you can find some type of silver lining in all of this.
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Post by: OneMoreRep on June 25, 2022, 09:47:05 AM
So my other best friend texts me Tim’s dead. He tried calling me last night and I didn’t answer and he called a few times but didn’t leave a message or text me. Now I’m sitting here alone waiting for a visit from his ghost asking why I didn’t answer the phone.ive been friends with Tim for 30 years, he had a very bad drug problem for years so I would talk to him and see him maybe 2-3 times a year just cause I don’t like that shit but now I feel bad. Just rambling on a Friday night prob sounds stupid. Just a weird feeling is all. Anyone ever have a situation like this?

I'm sorry for your loss friend.

It's not your fault he died (whether by suicide or natural causes). Don't beat yourself up over whether having picked up the call would have made any difference.

Take with you the fact that he felt you cared enough about him that it drove him to even call you a few times on the last day of his life. That's a testament to the fact that your love for him drove him even during his darkest of times to seek you out. You picking up the phone might have helped, but it also could have given him the final affirmation needed for him to take the plunge (i.e. got to speak to one of my close friends one last time, now I can die in peace - kind of thing).

Anyhow, we are with you man. At the very least, we will get you to laugh.

"1"
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Post by: keanu on June 25, 2022, 10:01:39 AM
If he had a massive porn collection that you have little  interest in..... ;D
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Post by: Walter Sobchak on June 25, 2022, 10:06:50 AM
Onemorerep, is ready to help file your taxes.

I will bet you have had a lot of gay men “file your taxes.”

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Post by: King Shizzo on June 25, 2022, 04:22:47 PM
I will bet you have had a lot of gay men “file your taxes.”
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Post by: a_pupil on June 25, 2022, 04:24:24 PM
Sorry for your loss.

Was he vaccinated?
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Post by: robcguns on June 25, 2022, 06:00:00 PM
Thanks again everyone, appreciate the thoughts, I found out some stuff today and it kind of helped I guess. Anyways coming on here and having a good laugh helps the most haha.
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Post by: AbrahamG on June 25, 2022, 07:50:00 PM
Sorry to hear my friend.  You're a good dude.  Easier said than done but try not to feel guilty. 
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Post by: _bruce_ on June 26, 2022, 12:43:00 AM

Things that you couldn't properly  clear up before death will weigh you down until you die - there's no escaping this immensely crushing feeling.
Title: Re: Just found out one of my best friends died this morning.
Post by: Marty Champions on June 26, 2022, 07:37:16 AM
Things that you couldn't properly  clear up before death will weigh you down until you die - there's no escaping this immensely crushing feeling.
hey african american when life goes downhill read more bible
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Post by: Coach is Back! on June 26, 2022, 10:37:16 AM
My condolences, Rob. Happened to me in 1990.
Title: Re: Just found out one of my best friends died this morning.
Post by: robcguns on June 27, 2022, 06:34:15 AM
Thanks guys,appreciate all the posts. last few days hanging out with a couple buddies and seeing his family and what they said he said about me is enough to make me not feel so bad about not answering his calls that night. Still sucks cause he went thru some horrific stuff that night and just wanted me there with him I imagine.
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Post by: pamith on June 27, 2022, 08:19:25 AM
A long time ago my friend died
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Post by: Phantom Spunker on June 27, 2022, 08:45:24 AM
A long time ago my friend died

Poor soul.
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Post by: Flexacon on June 27, 2022, 08:46:35 AM
A long time ago my friend died

Brutal if true
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Post by: funk51 on June 27, 2022, 09:37:20 AM
sorry to hear it. some of my friends started dropping in 2007, now they're dropping much more frequently. makes one think about your own mortality.
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Post by: Taffin on June 27, 2022, 09:49:52 AM
A long time ago my friend died

What sentence did you get..?
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Post by: Rascal full on June 27, 2022, 10:01:48 AM
I am sorry to hear this, don't feel guilty you were a good friend and it's not your fault.
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Post by: pamith on June 29, 2022, 08:34:41 AM
Poor soul.
Bro...
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Post by: pamith on June 29, 2022, 08:35:58 AM
What sentence did you get..?
I did not kill him, relax
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Post by: Rambone on June 29, 2022, 08:41:32 AM
What sentence did you get..?

Relax, bro. No?
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Post by: pamith on June 29, 2022, 09:15:12 AM
Relax, bro. No?
I'm calm
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Post by: Rambone on June 29, 2022, 09:20:37 AM
I'm calm

For sure, bro. Too calm. I was talking to Taffy, bro. I’m defending you!
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Post by: IroNat on June 29, 2022, 09:53:45 AM
Just found out my brother almost drowned in a farm pond last week.

Kept his cool and didn't.

He's no Elvis.
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Post by: Gym-Rat on June 29, 2022, 02:07:55 PM
Was looking at some old band pictures from the mid to late 80's, and of course it reminded me of when one of our band members (Daryl - guitar player) got murdered.

He started to get into drugs bad,and introduced us to some darker feller's from Lowell MA.
Daryl himself was mulatto, lived in Lowell and met them at a "black bar" if you would. He took us there once and it was like Animal House, hole place stopped what it was doing and just stared.
4 white guys in their bar. Daryl said: "They're with me" so they welcomed us.

Anyways months later he told us abut a big coke-score he was gonna do with the "guys from the bar we met".
They found him the next morning (behind a school), hands tied behind back, shot in the back of the head. That one sucked.

He was a great guy who got into some bad stuff...
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Post by: Rascal full on June 29, 2022, 02:28:05 PM
Was looking at some old band pictures from the mid to late 80's, and of course it reminded me of when one of our members (Daryl - guitar player) got murdered.

He started to get into drugs bad,and introduced us to some darker feller's from Lowell MA.
Daryl himself was mulatto, lived in Lowell and met them at a "black bar" if you would. He took us there once and it was like Animal House, hole place stopped what it was doing and just stared.
4 white guys in their bar. Daryl said: "They're with me" so they welcomed us.

Anyways months later he told us abut a big coke-score he was gonna do with the "guys from the bar we met".
They found him the next morning (behind a school), hands tied behind back, shot in the back of the head. That one sucked.

He was a great guy who got into some bad stuff...

Shit bro, sorry to hear that. Did it all get traced back to scumbags from the bar?
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Post by: wes on June 29, 2022, 03:09:18 PM
Was looking at some old band pictures from the mid to late 80's, and of course it reminded me of when one of our members (Daryl - guitar player) got murdered.

He started to get into drugs bad,and introduced us to some darker feller's from Lowell MA.
Daryl himself was mulatto, lived in Lowell and met them at a "black bar" if you would. He took us there once and it was like Animal House, hole place stopped what it was doing and just stared.
4 white guys in their bar. Daryl said: "They're with me" so they welcomed us.

Anyways months later he told us abut a big coke-score he was gonna do with the "guys from the bar we met".
They found him the next morning (behind a school), hands tied behind back, shot in the back of the head. That one sucked.

He was a great guy who got into some bad stuff...
Christ that`s fucking rough....sorry to hear it bud.
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Post by: Gym-Rat on June 29, 2022, 04:03:56 PM
Shit bro, sorry to hear that. Did it all get traced back to scumbags from the bar?

Well it was almost 35 years now, so no need to feel bad.  But thx anyways.
But, the guys never got caught.

Whats also weird, is like 5-6 years ago, me and my old singer were talking about the old band days, etc.
We said "I wonder whatever happened to Brewster"? (his last name) so we looked him up online.

A year before, he disappeared, they found him like a month later, he drove deep into the woods and shot himself in the head (Suicide).

2 gun deaths, one band??  Hmmm, Is Oak onto something??   ::)  (NOPE)

Not meant to derail Robs thread, sorry Rob, just reminiscing out loud.  (Wow, I just spelled "reminiscing" without a spell-check correction).

Smarter than Joe Biden  ;)
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Post by: SGT BARNES on June 29, 2022, 08:26:26 PM
estrogen soaked pity thread
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Post by: pamith on June 29, 2022, 09:00:00 PM
For sure, bro. Too calm. I was talking to Taffy, bro. I’m defending you!
My nikka
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Post by: Flexacon on June 29, 2022, 09:13:04 PM
estrogen soaked pity thread

Brutal and true.

If a subject deserved a thread it's the 20K that got grifted
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Post by: pamith on June 30, 2022, 01:33:59 AM
Brutal and true.

If a subject deserved a thread it's the 20K that got grifted
Bro...