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Getbig Main Boards => Gossip & Opinions => Topic started by: Wiggs on March 16, 2025, 04:21:01 PM
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I saw this on the Instagram and it saddened me as Dave has always been a nice and genuine guy. I clicked on the link and read his story regarding his situation and I can't help but wonder....Where's his long time buddy Jay (financially)? Obviously Jay has no responsibility and perhaps he has helped already. Just some thoughts that ran through my head. Anyway, if you can help, here's the link.
https://www.spotfund.com/story/b9d9f2c5-b23c-4c1f-9b1b-53694aa6fb7c?source=s&share_location=i&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaYXUcP4jIQ0mYllRyqpqbHyADwi6k6UmwPaU2IhwVcqYAMU4q3ZlXhSktQ_aem_otkuMSFjGNFPkVVwXFIIbg&SFID=26v7t5ksi&referral_id=f37a1bce-6c00-4817-bf7c-a53be52fd40c
I never imagined in a million years that I would be writing this message. I have always disliked asking for help. I much prefer being the one who helps others.
When I have to deal with problems, I keep them to myself until things get better but this is something really big and I have reached a point where I have no other choice than asking for help.
3 years ago now, I was diagnosed with kidney failure. I had to start dialysis immediately. It has been very difficult and quite a life adjustment as I have to do it at least four days per week/4 hours at the time.
I have had to deal with hospitalization, and countless doctor’s appointments. I have tried to keep my life as normal as possible and not think about it constantly but it is not easy. I think the worst thing I had to deal with is the appetite loss due to the anemia caused by the kidney failure and a huge loss of freedom because of the constant dialysis sessions.
Anyway… I am at the point where I can get a kidney transplant. In Vegas, it s about 3 years wait and I am just there. I have had insurance since the start of all this but in April, my insurance will pay for only 20% of all the cost including all the meds. Aside from that, I have accumulated tons of medical fees due to hospital visits and medical appointments as the insurance doesn’t cover everything and the stress of it all is getting unbearable. Also when I do get the transplant, my part of the surgery will be 20k plus a lifetime of anti rejection meds for the new kidney. After the surgery, I will not be able to work or leave the house for at least a month, so… no money coming in at all.
I have sold my nice car, motorcycle and other random stuff to help pay for my expenses but now, the much older car I got is having major engine issues and I am being told by the mechanic might now last much longer. Ugh! Everything seems to be falling apart around me. Luckily, my son agreed to let me borrow his car so I could still function.
So here I am, asking my friends and the people I hope I have touched in a positive way throughout my life to help me get through this difficult part of my life. All I want is to get this transplant and be able to have a normal life. Being able to eat normally, train, work, go on vacation with my girl and enjoy life again without stressing all the time.
If you met me at some point and I left a good impression, please consider helping if you can. I know times are tough but anything will help me and I would greatly appreciate it. If you cannot, maybe share my story.
I have never talked about this publicly until today, mostly because I don’t like when people are feeling bad for me, I prefer to be a source of positive energy for people. A few friends I did confide into and I want to say thank you to, my bestie Jay Cutler (who visited in the hospital every-time I was there) my coach and trainer Eric “Merlin “ Broser, my good friend Flex Lewis at Dragon’s Lair, Dr Rand who helped a ton since the start of this nightmare and finally, my girl Jenny Worth for her support and taking me into her life even though i am dealing with this condition.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this all the way and your help in advance.
Dave
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Least Jay could do is give Dave one of his kidneys
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If I'm a multimillionaire and my close friend is going through what Dave is, I'd ensure I easily cover the 45k plus more to ensure my close friend doesn't have to hawk his personal belongings. Obviously I don't have all the info so there may be more to this but this is my initial reaction. I used to call Dave Jay's right nut because he was always with him and his biggest cheerleader so forgive me if I'm a little disturbed. I hope I'm just early and Jay takes care of his friend. Based on what Dave wrote, Jay has visited him in hospital. So there's that.
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If I'm a multimillionaire and my close friend is going through what Dave is, I'd ensure I easily cover the 45k plus more to ensure my close friend doesn't have to hawk his personal belongings. Obviously I don't have all the info so there may be more to this but this is my initial reaction. I used to call Dave Jay's right nut because he was always with him and his biggest cheerleader so forgive me if I'm a little disturbed. I hope I'm just early and Jay takes care of his friend. Based on what Dave wrote, Jay has visited him in hospital. So there's that.
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Jay does seem like a cheapskate though but who knows
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Agreed Wiggs Dave is a super nice guy. Jay is worth well over 30 mill and could just cover it. Dave used to work for him full time as a camera guy and worked on Jay’s social media as well. Who knows if something has happened and then they split apart.Dave is Canadian and I’m not sure how good is their free health care system.All I know Dave was divorced and took care of 2 kids. Jay used to travel a lot and Dave wanted some time off with the kids ???Who knows They are probably young adults now .
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Yeah jay should have given him the 45k already. I hate cheap fucks. Hell I would hand him 100k if I was him.
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To be fair, we don't know if, when, or what Jay has given him privately.
I will note the donators list is looking decent. Lot of people digging relatively deep.
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I’m sorry to see that he’s going through this.
I would guess Jay paid the transplant money and the donations are to cover meds and living expenses BUT if he said Jay paid for whatever no one would donate?
Or maybe Jay will come through and cover the difference after the go fund runs?
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He might think about the Rice diet… they use it for kidney disease… low protein, sodium and fat seem to help when things get really bad in the kidneys.
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Yeah jay should have given him the 45k already. I hate cheap fucks. Hell I would hand him 100k if I was him.
Even if not 45k at least 20-25k cover half
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I’m sorry to see that he’s going through this.
I would guess Jay paid the transplant money and the donations are to cover meds and living expenses BUT if he said Jay paid for whatever no one would donate?
Or maybe Jay will come through and cover the difference after the go fund runs?
Yes, for all Dave did for Jay that’s the least he could do. Dave did jays laundry while living with him
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Seems like a good guy with a post that came off genuine although I don’t know him.
I wish him luck; glad to see some people have chipped in for him.
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Yes, for all Dave did for Jay that’s the least he could do. Dave did jays laundry while living with him
Jay has always come across like a good guy.
Maybe he doesn’t have an extra $45k laying around, maybe he’s more check to check than actually being loaded?
Or maybe he doesn’t want to give away the full amount because he thinks he will be an enabler?
There are so many questions but really no answers. It’s not like Dave is going to give anyone a full financial audit. He said he had to sell his car, that could have been to eliminate a payment or to have some instant cash.
There may also be the slight chance Jay maybe freaking out about his own kidneys.
It’s easy to say what other people should do with their money but we really don’t have any idea what anyone has.
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If I was let's say Jay in this situation I wouldn't donate publicly, because obviously it becomes questionable if I'm just thinking about good PR that will perhaps even pay off monetarily in the long run or people will criticize the amount (and perhaps justifiably). I think I saw some Johnny Bravo clip where someone had given only $500 to someone else who had helped him a ton in the past, perhaps it was this "Big Boy" fella. No one is required to pay anything but rich people are often remarkably stingy, even with money they wouldn't notice if it went missing.
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Stop worrying about Jay, and start worrying about Dave’s kidneys. HTH
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“I have had insurance since the start of all this but in April, my insurance will pay for only 20% of all the cost including all the meds.”
The insurance will only cover 20% of surgery and meds? What kind of insurance does he have? Even after reaching your deductible, the insurance tends to pay a lot more than 20%, unless you have horrible insurance.
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“I have had insurance since the start of all this but in April, my insurance will pay for only 20% of all the cost including all the meds.”
The insurance will only cover 20% of surgery and meds? What kind of insurance does he have? Even after reaching your deductible, the insurance tends to pay a lot more than 20%, unless you have horrible insurance.
Maybe it has to do with having a pre existing condition. Same in my country.
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Aaron Singernan $500.He could easily cover it as well.When he had signed Dallas he gave him 100k Range Rover. Dave knows so many people in this industry that could pay it off in a heartbeat. Dan Solomon donated and knows Dave ,so he could tell his wealthy boss Jake Wood who owns the Olympia and his company makes parts for aircrafts.
Bottom line everyone has a reasons and is not required to donate.
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People who have money never give it away, not even a tiny micro-penile fraction.
I had many cases where some folks I know could have helped out easily and guess what... "nobody's home", "business trip", "don't you have parents?".
This behavior will intensify as the rift between rich and poor is steadily growing... instinctively the "rich" will try to depart from the poor as much as possible and hope they'll quietly die off.
The only people willing to share are the ones who don't have much as they know how it feels when the walls are closing in.
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Craziest thing is people donated millions to family of George Floyd ,family that did not see him probably for years and did not care , family that got guaranteed millions already from the lawsuits.
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He had to sell his cars and his motorcycle. I feel so bad for him.
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Maybe it has to do with having a pre existing condition. Same in my country.
It doesn’t work that way in America. You can’t force someone into a type of insurance because of pre-existing conditions.
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People who have money never give it away, not even a tiny micro-penile fraction.
I had many cases where some folks I know could have helped out easily and guess what... "nobody's home", "business trip", "don't you have parents?".
This behavior will intensify as the rift between rich and poor is steadily growing... instinctively the "rich" will try to depart from the poor as much as possible and hope they'll quietly die off.
The only people willing to share are the ones who don't have much as they know how it feels when the walls are closing in.
Great post, i agree 100%
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People who have money never give it away, not even a tiny micro-penile fraction.
I had many cases where some folks I know could have helped out easily and guess what... "nobody's home", "business trip", "don't you have parents?".
This behavior will intensify as the rift between rich and poor is steadily growing... instinctively the "rich" will try to depart from the poor as much as possible and hope they'll quietly die off.
The only people willing to share are the ones who don't have much as they know how it feels when the walls are closing in.
Never lend friends money, always give it if you can afford it but make sure they know its a one time only thing.
A real friend will return it to you even though it was a gift
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People who have money never give it away, not even a tiny micro-penile fraction.
I had many cases where some folks I know could have helped out easily and guess what... "nobody's home", "business trip", "don't you have parents?".
This behavior will intensify as the rift between rich and poor is steadily growing... instinctively the "rich" will try to depart from the poor as much as possible and hope they'll quietly die off.
The only people willing to share are the ones who don't have much as they know how it feels when the walls are closing in.
BS….and what does “have money” mean?
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Never lend friends money, always give it if you can afford it but make sure they know its a one time only thing.
A real friend will return it to you even though it was a gift
Yes, and certainly never give it away to famous people who wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire.
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Yeah jay should have given him the 45k already. I hate cheap fucks. Hell I would hand him 100k if I was him.
well, not to be a dick, but that's exactly why you don't have 100k or 45k to give. you don't get to be worth 30mil, or even 30k by giving money to people just because they need it and you have it.
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well, not to be a dick, but that's exactly why you don't have 100k or 45k to give. you don't get to be worth 30mil, or even 30k by giving money to people just because they need it and you have it.
have you been asking for handouts again?
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well, not to be a dick, but that's exactly why you don't have 100k or 45k to give. you don't get to be worth 30mil, or even 30k by giving money to people just because they need it and you have it.
I have given my best friend over 100k and my other really good friend 25k. I’m not rich and have no desire to be. I don’t care for the rich and people who hoard money. But I get what you are saying.
My best friend actually gave me back 90k about 5-6 years later. The other one died.
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One lesson to be learned here is don't destroy your kidneys doing drugs.
Utterly foolish and stupid thing to do.
This guy made his bed and now has to lie in it.
He f*cked himself.
Like Swifty said, don't loan friends or family money.
Most likely you'll never get paid back and that ruins the relationship.
If you can't gift it don't do it.
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One lesson to be learned here is don't destroy your kidneys doing drugs.
Utterly foolish and stupid thing to do.
This guy made his bed and now has to lie in it.
He f*cked himself.
Like Swifty said, don't loan friends or family money.
Most likely you'll never get paid back and that ruins the relationship.
If you can't gift it don't do it.
He had a congenital problem.
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I have given my best friend over 100k and my other really good friend 25k. I’m not rich and have no desire to be. I don’t care for the rich and people who hoard money. But I get what you are saying.
My best friend actually gave me back 90k about 5-6 years later. The other one died.
You good dude Rob. I’ve done the same. If I have friends or family in need and they are good people, I’ll help it. Too many pricks in this world , you aren’t going to take it with you when you die
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He had a congenital problem.
If he did have a congenital kidney condition why did he do the drugs?
Irresponsible and foolish.
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If he did have a congenital kidney condition why did he do the drugs?
Irresponsible and foolish.
I actually don’t know if he did or not, but that seems to be the go to answer these days.
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I actually don’t know if he did or not, but that seems to be the go to answer these days.
I thought you were being serious.
Can't believe I didn't get it.
:-[
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It doesn’t work that way in America. You can’t force someone into a type of insurance because of pre-existing conditions.
Lol no. If you have any ailment and go do an insurance, to treat it, most likely it's rejected. The treatment at least.
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Lol no. If you have any ailment and go do an insurance, to treat it, most likely it's rejected. The treatment at least.
That’s never happened to me or anyone I know.
My father had pre-existing conditions and got treated for all of them through surgery. Do people get rejected based on preexisting conditions? Yes. But that does not mean you can’t get insurance with pre-existing conditions. You’re talking about two different things: 1) being denied good coverage with pre existing conditions vs. 2) once you have insurance, getting denied care.
But that still does not answer the initial question: why was his health insurance so bad? It could be that he had catastrophic insurance, which is the bare minimum.
It also comes down whether you’re getting insurance through your job or privately.
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I thought you were being serious.
Can't believe I didn't get it.
:-[
Please step up your game.
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I remember a few years ago making jokes how Jays schome was bigger than him now. I guess he should have downsized when Jay did.
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He had a congenital problem.
Leave his genitals out of this.
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Can someone give me the cliff notes on who this guy is?
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Can someone give me the cliff notes on who this guy is?
Jays buddy,training partner,camera man, owner max muscle supp shop with jay maybe.
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Can someone give me the cliff notes on who this guy is?
Unfortunately this classic Getbigger video is now private….
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Unfortunately this classic Getbigger video is now private….
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https://www.instagram.com/p/CLPTtjRnzlQ/?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==
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I am sure Jay is helping out, as it is nice to see others help out too. Quite a few of our friends are helping.
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Wiggs must be one of those people, who think just because someone is well off, that they are obligated to help out all of thier family and friends, when they are in need. Well guess what, if your always "helping" other people with money: 1. It always seems like the line for people needing help never goes away 2. You needlessly stress yourself out, thinking you always have to be "Captain save a hoe" 3. You eventually run out of money yourself.
People aquire means in a variety of ways. However, they don't keep those means, if they are constantly giving it away to people that have their hands out.
It's a noble thought, Wiggs, but it isn't practical in the long run.
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Wiggs must be one of those people, who think just because someone is well off, that they are obligated to help out all of thier family and friends, when they are in need. Well guess what, if your always "helping" other people with money: 1. It always seems like the line for people needing help never goes away 2. You needlessly stress yourself out, thinking you always have to be "Captain save a hoe" 3. You eventually run out of money yourself.
People aquire means in a variety of ways. However, they don't keep those means, if they are constantly giving it away to people that have their hands out.
It's a noble thought, Wiggs, but it isn't practical in the long run.
Shaun, thank you for your enlightening commentary regarding the ins and outs of fiscal responsibility. Seeing how you've had a decorated history of level headed decision making and personal discipline, I should have consulted you regarding these complex, interpersonal matters. I was clearly in over my head and am embarrassed and hold my head in shame....
Now fuck off, you inbred, bald, obese, barely graduated high school, babbling, alcoholic, recessive chromosome, broke ass dipshit. How dare you dictate any socially commentary towards me other than how much of a massive example of failure your adult life has been and continues to be. Know your role pleb.
I stand by what I said and if you had the ability to understand what I wrote, I clearly stated, Jay has no responsibility to him and let me tell you, if Jay decides to donate nothing to the man that has bequeathed his time and energy to Jay in the way he has, then I would classify him as a piece of shit but I don't think Jay would do that. And you haven't and likely will never be in a position to make a decision like that you bumbling retard.
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Craziest thing is people donated millions to family of George Floyd ,family that did not see him probably for years and did not care , family that got guaranteed millions already from the lawsuits.
People are paying 4 million dollars/month for some Bikini pics of some random OF-slut :D
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Shaun, thank you for your enlightening commentary regarding the ins and outs of fiscal responsibility. Seeing how you've had a decorated history of level headed decision making and personal discipline, I should have consulted you regarding these complex, interpersonal matters. I was clearly in over my head and am embarrassed and hold my head in shame....
Now fuck off, you inbred, bald, obese, barely graduated high school, babbling, alcoholic, recessive chromosome, broke ass dipshit. How dare you dictate any socially commentary towards me other than how much of a massive example of failure your adult life has been and continues to be. Know your role pleb.
I stand by what I said and if you had the ability to understand what I wrote, I clearly stated, Jay has no responsibility to him and let me tell you, if Jay decides to donate nothing to the man that has bequeathed his time and energy to Jay in the way he has, then I would classify him as a piece of shit but I don't think Jay would do that. And you haven't and likely will never be in a position to make a decision like that you bumbling retard.
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After further review, I was overboard Shaun. I apologize. Your response didn't deserve that scorched earth response. A ribbing. Sure. What I did to that degree. No.
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After further review, I was overboard Shaun. I apologize. Your response didn't deserve that scorched earth response. A ribbing. Sure. What I did to that degree. No.
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Shaun, thank you for your enlightening commentary regarding the ins and outs of fiscal responsibility. Seeing how you've had a decorated history of level headed decision making and personal discipline, I should have consulted you regarding these complex, interpersonal matters. I was clearly in over my head and am embarrassed and hold my head in shame....
Now fuck off, you inbred, bald, obese, barely graduated high school, babbling, alcoholic, recessive chromosome, broke ass dipshit. How dare you dictate any socially commentary towards me other than how much of a massive example of failure your adult life has been and continues to be. Know your role pleb.
I stand by what I said and if you had the ability to understand what I wrote, I clearly stated, Jay has no responsibility to him and let me tell you, if Jay decides to donate nothing to the man that has bequeathed his time and energy to Jay in the way he has, then I would classify him as a piece of shit but I don't think Jay would do that. And you haven't and likely will never be in a position to make a decision like that you bumbling retard.
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Wiggs must be one of those people, who think just because someone is well off, that they are obligated to help out all of thier family and friends, when they are in need. Well guess what, if your always "helping" other people with money: 1. It always seems like the line for people needing help never goes away 2. You needlessly stress yourself out, thinking you always have to be "Captain save a hoe" 3. You eventually run out of money yourself.
People aquire means in a variety of ways. However, they don't keep those means, if they are constantly giving it away to people that have their hands out.
It's a noble thought, Wiggs, but it isn't practical in the long run.
Weren’t you begging for money last year?
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Weren’t you begging for money last year?
I have given and I have received. And no, it wasn't last year.
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:-* ;)
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I have given and I have received. And no, it wasn't last year.
So we've been told.
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So we've been told.
Yeah.....I knew I was in trouble when I thought about how I phrased it. :D
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I have given and I have received. And no, it wasn't last year.
You’ll most likely receive PM from Vince G .
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Dave played and lost. No one other than himself should be paying for his procedure.
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Dave played and lost. No one other than himself should be paying for his procedure.
At least send him your prayers.
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He is promoting one of Jays products in his most recent IG post. Loyal to the end..
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Jay has never had a lot of close guy friends. Not unless they work for him or do something for him. Just look at his history. Never even had a close friend as a training partner either. Always trained by himself or his first wife. He now spends most of time with his Manager. Even does his podcast with him. And Matt just gases him up telling him how great is/was. Even the way he interacted with Dave was weird. He treated Dave like a fan not a close friend.
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Jay has never had a lot of close guy friends. Not unless they work for him or do something for him. Just look at his history. Never even had a close friend as a training partner either. Always trained by himself or his first wife. He now spends most of time with his Manager. Even does his podcast with him. And Matt just gases him up telling him how great is/was. Even the way he interacted with Dave was weird. He treated Dave like a fan not a close friend.
Cause Jay is a phony , typical bber like the rest of them
Everything he does is a facade , sure he’s successful in his profession but that’s all he has, no lineage to pass on his genetics , no real women like Kerry was to him, still living like he’s in the early to mid 2000’s. It’s actually really lonely
Dave would take a bullet for Jay , even doing his laundry for free, including folding his clothes. That kind of loyalty doesn’t exist these days
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Weren’t you begging for money last year?
I'm quite certain Shizzo at least provided a "service" for the money he received.
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Dave Bourlet update
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I dislike asking for help, and I don't like to help others. Now what?
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Dave Bourlet update
Sad stuff! He doesn’t look well and why is his teeth rotting?
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I dislike asking for help, and I don't like to help others. Now what?
Take care of yourself and expect others to do the same.
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Dave would take a bullet for Jay , even doing his laundry for free, including folding his clothes. That kind of loyalty doesn’t exist these days
It's called being gay.
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It's called being gay.
He was just curious about how it felt to do laundry...
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BS….and what does “have money” mean?
Looks like you're one of these penny people - congrats.
"Having money" means you give somebody something in need that does not hurt your purse... can be a dollar, can be a million depending on your finances. Also I'm talking about somebody that is of worth to you and not a random stranger saying "muh rich? money me give!"
@joswift - I agree to some extent but some people may need some experiences to learn this. I personally gave a lot of cash to friends and even one stranger and it was quite the unique experience.