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Okay it is a Merlot evening so the strange posts are starting to appear...
What was the last really romantic thing your partner did, or you did for your partner?
Bring some warm fuzzies into a single girls life :'( :'(
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Okay it is a Merlot evening so the strange posts are starting to appear...
What was the last really romantic thing your partner did, or you did for your partner?
Bring some warm fuzzies into a single girls life :'( :'(
My husband is pretty thoughtful all the time (although i don't give him the credit he deserves sometimes), but most recently he sent me off to an outdoor all day "day spa" where i got a massage, ate and relaxed in the sun...this was just this past Sunday.
Also, his family owns a flower shop so i get random bouquets with notes like "sorry i was being a jackass". There really is something forgiveable when they use the word "jackass" to define their behavior.
Lisa
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My husband is pretty thoughtful all the time (although i don't give him the credit he deserves sometimes), but most recently he sent me off to an outdoor all day "day spa" where i got a massage, ate and relaxed in the sun...this was just this past Sunday.
Also, his family owns a flower shop so i get random bouquets with notes like "sorry i was being a jackass". There really is something forgiveable when they use the word "jackass" to define their behavior.
Lisa
Damn girl that is sweet. Random bouquets, nothing beats those. :-* :-*
I'll go pour another glass of wine and cry some more now :'(
j/k
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I know it may not sound romantic, but my best friend in the world and better then I deserve wife puts up with me being me and never gives me to hard a time or smacks me when I know I deserve it and one of the things I love to do with her is drive. I know your thinking drive but sometimes just exploring new areas or driving to her parents we get so lost in talking that I have driven past our destination. There is something really great about the cool wind coming in your window, radio playing your favorite music and holding your ladies hand and just getting into talking and joking and enjoying each other like we are the only ones in the world.
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Hope the Merlot was good. :)
Last winter. I was involved in a long distance relationship (American boy/Canadian girl) and after a few months of trekking back and forth, only seeing each other on weekends, in and out of airports constantly, we decided it was too much and agreed to end it. There was a night of tender break-up love and a few tears…and when I woke up early the next morning he was already gone. Of course I was in abject misery and my heart felt like it was busted in two, and on top of the emotional upheaval, it was the day our horrible ice storm hit. The whole city was one big skating rink and the torrential freezing rain didn’t let up all day. That morning I could hear my neighbor struggling to get his SUV out of the driveway and I knew if he couldn’t get his big ass truck out, there was little chance for me. But, I couldn’t call in sick because people had come from far and wide to attend an annual corpie mind meld meeting, so I had to find some way to get into town. At some point I opened the drapes in the front of the house… and I almost fell over from the shock. There was my guy, soaking wet in the freezing downpour, hacking away at the ice on my car and throwing salt in the driveway. I just knew at that moment I couldn’t let this man out of my life. :)
There are other things… the feeling of his hand on the small of my back when he opens a door… looking up when I’m cooking to see him standing in the doorway just watching me… it's little everyday things that are most romantic.
Flowers are great too, though. We love flowers!
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Your making me all really jealous.
I am very happy for all you lucky sobs Ladies. (and Always Sore).
I do have a warm fuzzy feeling brewing inside me though. I love hearing stories like these.
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Your making me all really jealous.
I am very happy for all you lucky sobs Ladies. (and Always Sore).
I do have a warm fuzzy feeling brewing inside me though. I love hearing stories like these.
me too but it makes me feel a little sorry for myself :'(
Bast why don't you do nice things for me like buy me fried mac and cheese?
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The last romantic thing ...
Poured me a glass of wine, like he does whenever he knows I had a tough day.
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Your making me all really jealous.
I am very happy for all you lucky sobs Ladies. (and Always Sore).
I do have a warm fuzzy feeling brewing inside me though. I love hearing stories like these.
Are you still drinking your Merlot? ;D
Lisa
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looking up when I’m cooking to see him standing in the doorway just watching me… it's little everyday things that are most romantic.
so do you guys have webcams set up around your houses, or did he move to Montreal?
Moving someplace to be w a girl is pretty romantic . . . I've never done it, but I stayed in a place too long b/c of one . . . i will never make that mistake again. >:(
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so do you guys have webcams set up around your houses, or did he move to Montreal?
Moving someplace to be w a girl is pretty romantic . . . I've never done it, but I stayed in a place too long b/c of one . . . i will never make that mistake again. >:(
;) Lol, right now I may be closer to you than you think.
Actually, I went to school in the States and lived there for a few years. I only came back to Montreal with the intention of staying a year so it seemed dumb to get involved with someone there and then have to wrench myself away again. I met the American by fluke... it was just tough going doing the long distance thing. I wouldn't recommend it. I think I supported the airline industry all by myself for 6 months. >:(
So what happened with yours, if you want to share. Do you mean you had the chance to pursue whatever opportunities elsewhere but didn't go because of your LI?
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The last romantic thing i did was a while back. I was seeing this woman and she was going through a rough time with some court issues pertaining to her ex and other miscellaneous issues. Her little girl went on vacation with her cousins and I decided it would be a nice gesture to plan a trip for her so that she would get away from the court worries etc. So i went to the store and bought really nice linen stationary and wrote her a note in the best caligraphy i could manage. I sealed it in an envelope and put a wax seal on it. Just a throw back to more civilaized courting. In the letter i wrote that she has been given a weekend in a mountain cabin with a lake view and was to be lavished with cooked meals, drawn baths, nightly massages and that she would not worry about packing anything as she would be treated to a little shopping excursion by me. While we were to be away i had arranged for a cleaning service to come to her place and clean it and spruce it up so that she could return to a clean tidy home. She ended up sending me an email telling me that she won't go and to not send her things like that.
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The last romantic thing i did was a while back. I was seeing this woman and she was going through a rough time with some court issues pertaining to her ex and other miscellaneous issues. Her little girl went on vacation with her cousins and I decided it would be a nice gesture to plan a trip for her so that she would get away from the court worries etc. So i went to the store and bought really nice linen stationary and wrote her a note in the best caligraphy i could manage. I sealed it in an envelope and put a wax seal on it. Just a throw back to more civilaized courting. In the letter i wrote that she has been given a weekend in a mountain cabin with a lake view and was to be lavished with cooked meals, drawn baths, nightly massages and that she would not worry about packing anything as she would be treated to a little shopping excursion by me. While we were to be away i had arranged for a cleaning service to come to her place and clean it and spruce it up so that she could return to a clean tidy home. She ended up sending me an email telling me that she won't go and to not send her things like that.
damm man I really like your idea but got to the end and its the prom all over again..that is just crushing my brother.
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yeah i try to do nice things and for one reason or another i get worked over. I have yet to spend a valentines day with someone. Somthing always comes up. I've ordered White horse driven carriages, nice dinners, flowers and the like.
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yeah i try to do nice things and for one reason or another i get worked over. I have yet to spend a valentines day with someone. Somthing always comes up. I've ordered White horse driven carriages, nice dinners, flowers and the like.
stop man your killing me. Its to the point I would introduce you to my sister if she was not already dating some guy because you would treat her like a queen and thats how she deserves to be treated. If you ever think of moving to Utah were she lives let me know.
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well the girl that i wrote the letter and planned all that for, ended up lying to me about several things. I caught her with anoother guy and she ended up taking me to the cleaners as far as money was concerned. A word of advice. Never, Never, never be a co-signer for anything
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So what happened with yours, if you want to share. Do you mean you had the chance to pursue whatever opportunities elsewhere but didn't go because of your LI?
i shouldn't really blame her . . . if I had been ready to go, I would have gone. Yeah, but that relationship and my own immaturity meant that I spent a long time basically twiddling my thumbs in a lot of areas of my life. I try not to think about it too much . . .
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Yes, it's usually best not to dwell on the past, because doing so only creates baggage, which ends up infecting the next relationship.
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true, but it is often hard to let some things go.
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agree w deedee . . . you can only change the future.
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yeah but every once in a while something pops up in your head and you relive it all over again.
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stop man your killing me. Its to the point I would introduce you to my sister if she was not already dating some guy because you would treat her like a queen and thats how she deserves to be treated. If you ever think of moving to Utah were she lives let me know.
Hey Miggy, I can vouch for AS's sister. She's a great gal! (Her brother is a crazy psycho who threatens to dig very deep holes and bury guys in them if they make his sister cry, ...but other than that, she's a great gal) :)
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one that comes to mind...from a while back...my girlfriend ws working the makeup counter at nordstroms ..it ws the day before her 21st b-day..
my dork ass chased people around the mall and made em take her red roses..one at a time and wish her hapy b-day...20 people in all...and the last one..the 21st ws a pink one and me! ;D
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my dork ass chased people around the mall and made em take her red roses..one at a time and wish her hapy b-day...20 people in all...and the last one..the 21st ws a pink one and me! ;D
Good one Toxy... very creative!
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her pretty little cheeks were soo red when i showed..show me a woman that can blush and i know she's a woman thats not lost her innocence..its adorable.. :)
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When they get birthday or Xmas presents seem to be the only times I ever see a man blush. I wonder why that is, lol.
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When they get birthday or Xmas presents seem to be the only times I ever see a man blush. I wonder why that is, lol.
i simply cant handle it when i get sudden compliments...last week at my bar some cutie came up 2 my friend and said something to him about me that i over heard...she said it loud enough for me to hear it..and it ws something naughty..i couldn't even play my pool shots after and i left the upstairs area of the bar to hide with some friends downstairs...i HATE being disarmed like that >:(
i should b making her blush and tremble and get all anxious and nervous talking to me..NOT the other way around :( normally i pride my self in my eloquence and tonality and mannerisms to do just that..
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one that comes to mind...from a while back...my girlfriend ws working the makeup counter at nordstroms ..it ws the day before her 21st b-day..
my dork ass chased people around the mall and made em take her red roses..one at a time and wish her hapy b-day...20 people in all...and the last one..the 21st ws a pink one and me! ;D
That is very sweet Toxie. Are you still with this girl?
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That is very sweet Toxie. Are you still with this girl?
thanx cher :)
however..no...i cant stand lies..she lied about something...she went bye bye.
there r no second chances with me...
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Hey Miggy, I can vouch for AS's sister. She's a great gal! (Her brother is a crazy psycho who threatens to dig very deep holes and bury guys in them if they make his sister cry, ...but other than that, she's a great gal) :)
well if im ever in utah. it's not easy to find a good match
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I would also like to say that Michael is a perfect gentleman. He opens and closes every door for me, inclusive of car doors. He always holds my hand ... even when we sleep. He doesn't have to do the things that some think have to be done in order to be considered "romantic". All the little things he does...to me/for me are truly romantic in my eyes. And I love him very much.
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I gave this girl a nice massage in a sauna. She wasn't my gf at the time, but after 3 mins she was, ;D.
Magic hands, baby. That's probably my specialty.
When your partner is visibly glad to see you, i think that's hot. My heart warms up then.
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I would also like to say that Michael is a perfect gentleman. He opens and closes every door for me, inclusive of car doors. He always holds my hand ... even when we sleep. He doesn't have to do the things that some think have to be done in order to be considered "romantic". All the little things he does...to me/for me are truly romantic in my eyes. And I love him very much.
Still , and as consistant as the sunrise :-*
I want to have a man like him someday , he's a keeper . The holding hands while sleeping is to die for :)
I gave this girl a nice massage in a sauna. She wasn't my gf at the time, but after 3 mins she was, ;D.
Magic hands, baby. That's probably my specialty.
When your partner is visibly glad to see you, i think that's hot. My heart warms up then.
That look in their eyes is priceless , it's that feeling I adore more than any other.
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This morning as I lay in the bed, I asked my woman to come lie down beside me. I pulled her close to me and gently caressed her back until she fell asleep. No talking, no fondling, no sex, just silently embracing one another and realizing how much we love each other.
That to me was very romantic!
HMIC
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Ahhhhhhhh this was a good read! Love to hear about all the romance.
My hubby isn't traditionally romantic but he treats me like a Queen everyday. Before he does anything he takes me into consideration first. He always holds my hand and kisses me often, he hugs me all night long (even when it's uncomfortable ;) ) If I mention I want anything, it always seems to appear. From putting in new lighting in the pantry because I complained I couldn't see my spices ;D to building a closet organizer because I kept stressing over my mess. More than that he loves me unconditionally, even when I am a snotty brat! That is all the romance I need :-*
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Okay it is a Merlot evening so the strange posts are starting to appear...
What was the last really romantic thing your partner did, or you did for your partner?
Bring some warm fuzzies into a single girls life :'( :'(
Romance is a silly, artificial construct and wholly unnecessary.
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Romance is a silly, artificial construct and wholly unnecessary.
You couldn't be more wrong, and as you are someone who understands how evolution works, I am surprised at your flippant comment. Romantic love between two people is the "commitment aid" that ensures they will remain together long enough to nurture their offspring to the point of being able to fend for themselves. It's all about survival.
Besides, it feels incredible. And, without it we wouldn't have Tolstoy, and the Louvre would be empty.
So there. :)
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You couldn't be more wrong, and as you are someone who understands how evolution works, I am surprised at your flippant comment. Romantic love between two people is the "commitment aid" that ensures they will remain together long enough to nurture their offspring to the point of being able to fend for themselves. It's all about survival.
Besides, it feels incredible. And, without it we wouldn't have Tolstoy, and the Louvre would be empty.
So there. :)
I didn't say it serves no purpose, just that it has a certain artificiality to it as romantic situations are almost always contrived and forced.
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I didn't say it serves no purpose, just that it has a certain artificiality to it as romantic situations are almost always contrived and forced.
almost always contrived and forced ? ... don't become bitter so young
you're not one of the lucky one's yet that's all it says ..what you're going to realize in your life is that what you think now isn't the same thing you will think when you're in that relationship with the woman who flips your switch better than any other person could.
true romance is natural and comes as easy as taking a breath
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let her be with another guy in front of me, true story.
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that's not romantic that's stimulating
different story ;D
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how sad and pathetic, i bet you enjoyed watching it, I imagine your wife is also a "he"...u should of had another girl,.,u chose a guy ..lol
she chose him, not me.
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she chose him, not me.
only once or would you do it again ?
and would she do the same for you ?
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she chose him, not me.
thats even worse,,look Squad i am 100 percent not bashing u ,,but u let another guy sleep with ur wife,,WTF?
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thats even worse,,look Squad i am 100 percent not bashing u ,,but u let another guy sleep with ur wife,,WTF?
it wasn't a wife it was a girlfriend and yes w8m8 i'd let her do it again, don't know if she'd let me do it or not.
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it wasn't a wife it was a girlfriend and yes w8m8 i'd let her do it again, don't know if she'd let me do it or not.
remember next time,,its 2 girls 1 guy,,,
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remember next time,,its 2 girls 1 guy,,,
if she would have let me i'd have done it in a heartbeat.
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if she would have let me i'd have done it in a heartbeat.
so she wanted to sleep with another guy..or u offered?
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she wouldn't touch a black dude she thought they were gross, i'm secure enough in my "size" to let her do that, it's a fantasy of most women if they're really honest.
I dunno about saying most , but I'll raise my hand !!! ;D
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Wow SF, I'm surprised at you. Why be in a relationship if the person you are with wants to be with others?
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Wow SF, I'm surprised at you. Why be in a relationship if the person you are with wants to be with others?
i view sex as something purely physical and so did she, no big deal, different strokes i guess.
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i view sex as something purely physical and so did she, no big deal, different strokes i guess.
It's only physical and unattached when there is no "emotion" there. Someone who has feelings for you...isn't going to want that physical attention from another (IMO).
I find it funny that you stated "if she would have let me i'd have done it in a heartbeat". It's ok for her, but not for you? Why the double standard?
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It's only physical and unattached when there is no "emotion" there. Someone who has feelings for you...isn't going to want that physical attention from another (IMO).
I find it funny that you stated "if she would have let me i'd have done it in a heartbeat". It's ok for her, but not for you? Why the double standard?
who knows, you'd have to ask her.
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who knows, you'd have to ask her.
And you have no problem offering her to another man, while she refuses you to be with another woman?
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I didn't say it serves no purpose, just that it has a certain artificiality to it as romantic situations are almost always contrived and forced.
You're speaking of boxed chocolates and awkward dinners. That has nothing to do with real romance.
Just as an aside, do you know the story of Tristan and Iseut? I picked them out of a hat, but tragic tale notwithstanding, their relationship bore all the hallmarks of a true romance.
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let her fucck another guy in front of me, true story.
Zees ees not ze romance! That's sex.
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You're speaking of boxed chocolates and awkward dinners. That has nothing to do with real romance.
Just as an aside, do you know the story of Tristan and Iseude? I picked them out of a hat, but tragic tale notwithstanding, their relationship bore all the hallmarks of a true romance.
I need to read that story :D thanks Deedee
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I need to read that story :D thanks Deedee
I had spelled her name wrong. :P It's usually either Iseult or Isolde. If you like the tales of Arthur and Camelot... it's along the same vein.
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she wouldn't touch a black dude she thought they were gross...
Squad,
Of course this is her pref but why does she think black dudes are gross? Just curious, I have never heard that before.
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almost always contrived and forced ? ... don't become bitter so young
you're not one of the lucky one's yet that's all it says ..what you're going to realize in your life is that what you think now isn't the same thing you will think when you're in that relationship with the woman who flips your switch better than any other person could.
true romance is natural and comes as easy as taking a breath
Of course people change but my primary goal is life is not the propagation of my DNA (though I wholly respect the biological necessity of it for the species) but the acquisition of knowledge. If I were too meet an appropriate female with which I could propagate my DNA I might consider it. Just not one of my great interests to be honest...
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You're speaking of boxed chocolates and awkward dinners. That has nothing to do with real romance.
Just as an aside, do you know the story of Tristan and Iseut? I picked them out of a hat, but tragic tale notwithstanding, their relationship bore all the hallmarks of a true romance.
Yes, I know the story of Tristan and Iseult. I had to write an extensive research paper on the dispersal of the legend from the Celtic literature (notably the Mabinogion) to the continent, focusing on the Old French and Middle High German development and treatment of the story. I think it was after this episode that decided against philology in favour of pure linguistics.
The story, originally has far less to do with romance than it does the culture and politics of the day. Even if one were to view it through 21st century eyes, it remains nothing more than chains of chemicals shooting through the body in order to produce offspring. Not very impressive to me.
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Yes, I know the story of Tristan and Iseult. I had to write an extensive research paper on the dispersal of the legend from the Celtic literature (notably the Mabinogion) to the continent, focusing on the Old French and Middle High German development and treatment of the story. I think it was after this episode that decided against philology in favour of pure linguistics.
The story, originally has far less to do with romance than it does the culture and politics of the day. Even if one were to view it through 21st century eyes, it remains nothing more than chains of chemicals shooting through the body in order to produce offspring. Not very impressive to me.
Yeah, I'm not sure why that story came to mind and you're right. Maybe somehow I associated the long trips at sea with your own travels far away. Not sure.
As far as romance goes, maybe it is unnecessary. But the clothes you're wearing today are probably unnecessary too, since rags would do the job of covering you just as well. I guess romance makes the difference between living and existing. :)
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Yeah, I'm not sure why that story came to mind and you're right. Maybe somehow I associated the long trips at sea with your own travels far away. Not sure.
As far as romance goes, maybe it is unnecessary. But the clothes you're wearing today are probably unnecessary too, since rags would do the job of covering you just as well. I guess romance makes the difference between living and existing. :)
All depends what you consider 'romance'. You would need to establish a firm definition for a discussion to proceed.
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good stories HM and mbell :)
I didn't say it serves no purpose, just that it has a certain artificiality to it as romantic situations are almost always contrived and forced.
I suppose some romantic situations could be contrived...
I think a "forced" romantic situation would not qualify as a romantic situation though.
But there are many romantic situations that are very spontaneous and even surprising. Something that I consider very romantic is when one day my husband and I were talking about something and laughing and laughing, he stopped and said, "Have you ever thought we were meant to be together?" In his wording/inflection the indication was that he believes that we are. It was dreamy ;D
Of course people change but my primary goal is life is not the propagation of my DNA (though I wholly respect the biological necessity of it for the species) but the acquisition of knowledge. If I were too meet an appropriate female with which I could propagate my DNA I might consider it. Just not one of my great interests to be honest...
Please do not ever have children with the purpose being to "propagate your DNA."
Some of us still value romance and have never propagated our DNA.
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As far as romance goes, maybe it is unnecessary. But the clothes you're wearing today are probably unnecessary too, since rags would do the job of covering you just as well. I guess romance makes the difference between living and existing. :)
good post!
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Something that I consider very romantic is when one day my husband and I were talking about something and laughing and laughing, he stopped and said, "Have you ever thought we were meant to be together?" In his wording/inflection the indication was that he believes that we are. It was dreamy
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I LOVE THIS!!!! :)
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good stories HM and mbell :)
I suppose some romantic situations could be contrived...
I think a "forced" romantic situation would not qualify as a romantic situation though.
But there are many romantic situations that are very spontaneous and even surprising. Something that I consider very romantic is when one day my husband and I were talking about something and laughing and laughing, he stopped and said, "Have you ever thought we were meant to be together?" In his wording/inflection the indication was that he believes that we are. It was dreamy ;D
Please do not ever have children with the purpose being to "propagate your DNA."
Some of us still value romance and have never propagated our DNA.
Stella, this is the reason everyone has children though. I don't understand what you mean? ???
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Stella, this is the reason everyone has children though. I don't understand what you mean? ???
I guess I should have said "with the sole purpose" .....it's just the way "propagate my DNA" is phrased that makes me think more of simply "breeding" but I'm sure you didn't mean it that way. My bad.
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Lol at propegating one's DNA. Deicide, I think you're spending too much time around the demon children.
All depends what you consider 'romance'. You would need to establish a firm definition for a discussion to proceed.
I think everyone is referring to romantic love on this thread. I guess the dynamic of the relationship would drive whether or not the romantic act was contrived/forced, or genuine.
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Lol at propegating one's DNA. Deicide, I think you're spending too much time around the demon children.
I think everyone is referring to romantic love on this thread. I guess the dynamic of the relationship would drive whether or not the romantic act was contrived/forced, or genuine.
:D :'(
Yes. I fear it is true though I tend to think in such a manner anyway.
At the moment, exhaustion and sheer hatred of my work are clouding my judgement with regards to DNA.
Romantic love is not something very interesting; 5 years of romance and a year of painful, financially costly divorce is not pleasant...
How about we talk about the socially sanctioned and accepted form of domestic slavery otherwise known as marriage? ;D