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Title: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: The Squadfather on February 23, 2007, 01:50:28 PM
this is a question that has puzzled me for a long time, it's not just women but men too but you listen to average looking women talk and they all think they can land a good looking successful rich guy, what makes them think that, more than likely that dude is looking for an unbelievable looking woman and vice versa.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: 24KT on February 24, 2007, 03:38:05 PM
this is a question that has puzzled me for a long time, it's not just women but men too but you listen to average looking women talk and they all think they can land a good looking successful rich guy, what makes them think that, more than likely that dude is looking for an unbelievable looking woman and vice versa.

Probably because they can. Looks aren't everything...and extremely good looking people are acutely aware of that.
They have talents, abilities, characteristics and needs that go way beyond their looks that are often not even recognized, let alone appreciated. When someone meets your core needs or is able to appreciate you for all you bring to the table, beyond your looks, if you have any sense at all, you're not going to toss that aside in pursuit of something so superficial as looks.

There are plenty of couples where one is not considered as attractive as the other. I'm not going to name any famous ones right now 'cause I don't want to offend anyone, ...but Hollywood is full of them.

PS - There was also the Prince of Wales and Wallace Simpson. I'd definately say she was less than average.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Deedee on February 24, 2007, 03:46:01 PM
Yes, hard to believe Wally managed to get a king to abdicate.

Also, what some people forget, is that not all men want an SO/wife who is gorgeous because they don't want to be "worried" all the time. They prefer the down-to-earth, less attractive woman who's going to love them, take care of the kids & home, etc... and won't have grandiose ideers about herself.  Same goes for some women.  ;)

Besides, have you ever seen two gorgeous people together?  :-X
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: gtbro1 on February 24, 2007, 03:50:30 PM
  I am ugly as sin....but I have dated nice looking women.Maybe not supermodels but certainly not ugly.(like me)Once they get past the whole knife to their throat thing,they actually have a nice time.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Deedee on February 24, 2007, 03:53:38 PM
  I am ugly as sin....but I have dated nice looking women.Maybe not supermodels but certainly not ugly.(like me)Once they get past the whole knife to their throat thing,they actually have a nice time.

witty and funny - knife to the throat... tomaytoe, tomahtoe. Lol.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Montague on February 24, 2007, 04:35:00 PM
not all men want an SO/wife who is gorgeous because they don't want to be "worried" all the time.

Somewhat analogous to saying, “My wife’s no beauty, but at least I know where she is.”
I actually heard someone say that once.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: 24KT on February 24, 2007, 05:49:44 PM
Yes, hard to believe Wally managed to get a king to abdicate.

A woman with stong handcuffs, a sturdy paddle and a well equipped dungeon can do wonders.  ;)

Quote
Also, what some people forget, is that not all men want an SO/wife who is gorgeous because they don't want to be "worried" all the time. They prefer the down-to-earth, less attractive woman who's going to love them, take care of the kids & home, etc... and won't have grandiose ideers about herself.  Same goes for some women.  ;)

Besides, have you ever seen two gorgeous people together?  :-X

Yep all the time, ...especially on Oscar night. Then at the end of the night, after all the cameras have stopped flashing, she goes home to her plain under the radar boyfriend, ...and so does he.  ;D
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: freespirit on February 25, 2007, 02:37:33 AM
Looks are indeed not everything. I know an average looking woman, and she literally can make heads turn as she walks by. She's got that attitude, or whatever you might call that in English. X-factor?
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Devon97 on February 25, 2007, 06:25:32 AM
Sorry but I have maby only once in my life seen an 'Average" woman with a good looking successful man.
HOWEVER I know we have all seen the average guy with the hot girl, or the fat yet wealthy guy with a hot woman.

Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: The Squadfather on February 25, 2007, 09:09:34 AM
Sorry but I have maby only once in my life seen an 'Average" woman with a good looking successful man.
HOWEVER I know we have all seen the average guy with the hot girl, or the fat yet wealthy guy with a hot woman.


that's because society judges a woman on what she looks like first and foremost and a man on how much money he makes, that's just the truth.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Montague on February 25, 2007, 10:06:11 AM
that's because society judges a woman on what she looks like first and foremost and a man on how much money he makes, that's just the truth.

I hear a lot of women say that age is irrelevant.
Looks mean nothing.
Money’s not important.

But I have yet to see a beautiful, young girl with an old ugly guy who’s broke.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Playboy on February 26, 2007, 06:50:35 AM
this is a question that has puzzled me for a long time, it's not just women but men too but you listen to average looking women talk and they all think they can land a good looking successful rich guy, what makes them think that, more than likely that dude is looking for an unbelievable looking woman and vice versa.
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PB
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: 24KT on February 26, 2007, 10:43:03 AM
Sorry but I have maby only once in my life seen an 'Average" woman with a good looking successful man.
HOWEVER I know we have all seen the average guy with the hot girl, or the fat yet wealthy guy with a hot woman.



I suppose this is my cue to start naming names all throughout Hollywood, of gorgeous rich successful hunks, married to homely plain janes, ...but I don't want to offend anyone so I'll simply say... they exist.

When you have a couple like Brad Pitt & Angelina Jolie, the press goes wild. It's a publicists dream.
but when you have a handsome leading man, who is married to a homely plain jane who is NOT in the business, and wants OUT of the spotlight, everyone does their best to keep her out of the spotlight. At least they can have somewhat of a normal existence.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: 24KT on February 26, 2007, 10:44:15 AM
I hear a lot of women say that age is irrelevant.
Looks mean nothing.
Money’s not important.

But I have yet to see a beautiful, young girl with an old ugly guy who’s broke.


Céline Dion and René Angelil
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people?????
Post by: Quickerblade on February 27, 2007, 07:53:35 PM
I suppose this is my cue to start naming names all throughout Hollywood, of gorgeous rich successful hunks, married to homely plain janes, ...but I don't want to offend anyone so I'll simply say... they exist.

When you have a couple like Brad Pitt & Angelina Jolie, the press goes wild. It's a publicists dream.
but when you have a handsome leading man, who is married to a homely plain jane who is NOT in the business, and wants OUT of the spotlight, everyone does their best to keep her out of the spotlight. At least they can have somewhat of a normal existence.
Like mel gibson and his wife
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: gtbro1 on February 27, 2007, 11:49:31 PM
Sorry but I have maby only once in my life seen an 'Average" woman with a good looking successful man.
HOWEVER I know we have all seen the average guy with the hot girl, or the fat yet wealthy guy with a hot woman.



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Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Playboy on February 28, 2007, 05:43:04 AM
I think some people are just overly confident. Lets face it....looks do matter. You certainly do not want to be hooked up with someone you do not find attractive. Thats why we all hit the gym and take care of ourselves. I think some people look in the mirror and assume they are a twelve out of ten in the looks range, but in reality they are not. How many times has everyone on this board been hit on a bar or club by someone that they found very unattractive? I'm sure its happened to everyone here.

PB
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Deedee on February 28, 2007, 11:40:25 AM
Wealthy, unattractive men often have no problems approaching beautiful women. Aside from the obvious buying power money has, very often the kind of man who amasses great wealth has some kind of never give up, inner drive, determination, stubbornness, etc... which translates into other areas.  Like getting what you want as far as people go.

If you look at the broke, works as a Walmart greeter guy, chances are his vibes will reflect his situation... not very confident, probably pedantic and set in his ways, fatalistic, etc... people aren't usually attracted to that. Old, broke poets and painters sometimes do okay with young women for awhile because of the whole "romantic" image they have.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: trab on February 28, 2007, 12:17:42 PM
Very attractive women intimidate many (most?) men.
Theres more available there than you'd think.
These chicks are also SO SO sick of what usually comes on to them;
If you can get 'em past the plain look, and show them you are a interesting person-
You can get in their pants :P!
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: 24KT on February 28, 2007, 03:23:17 PM
 ;D
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: 240 is Back on February 28, 2007, 09:41:29 PM
despite being a mess for very long, i often dated out of my own league.  if you have something in common and give em time to get used to your ugly ass, you'll be surprised how well you can do :)
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Deedee on March 01, 2007, 09:57:39 AM
What money does to a woman's sex life when she becomes mega- wealthy!  :D

http://blogs.wsj.com/wealth/2007/01/23/the-rich-libido/

The survey’s most-surprising findings relate to the impact that money has on the sex lives of women. More than 80% of both the men and women surveyed were married, although the women’s wealth was independent of their husbands’. Among the respondents, nearly three-quarters of the women surveyed (about 150) said they’d had affairs, compared to about 50% of the men. While the male numbers are in keeping with findings for the broader American population, the figure for women is almost twice as high as the national average, according to sex researchers. (More than half of all the men and women surveyed had been divorced at least once.)

Fully 63% of rich men said wealth gave them “better sex,” which they defined as having more-frequent sex with more partners. That compares to 88% of women who said more money gave them better sex, which they defined as “higher quality” sex.

“This tells us that the women as a whole receive more sexual benefits from wealth than men,” says Ms. Grove.

The women in the survey were almost twice as likely than their male counterparts to have “more adventurous and exotic” sex lives than they did before they were wealthy. They were also more than twice as likely than men to be members of the “mile high club,” meaning they’ve had sex on an airplane. Fully 72% of the female respondents said they were mile-high-club members, compared to 33% of the men. (Both numbers are larger than the norms even for the wealthy for a simple reason: All the survey respondents owned jets or shares in jets.)
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“I see in my practice that financial stress can have huge impacts on the libido and can cause general dissatisfaction,” he says. “When you strip away those elements of financial hardship and stress, that can make for better sex. This shows that sex and money are very intertwined.”

The wealthy also tend to travel more, leading to more-exotic and adventurous sex lives, Mr. Kerner says. “There is just more stimuli and luxury in their lives, so that would increase libido.”

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Mr. Kerner says the increased sexual activity by wealthy women doesn’t reflect the “pool boy” syndrome commonly portrayed in the media: bored young trophy wives having affairs with household help. Today’s rich women are powerful businesspeople who feel secure in having relationships outside their marriage — mostly with professional colleagues.

“We’re not talking about the woman who’s home with two kids and who’s dependent on her husband,” Mr. Kerner says. “Those women are more likely to worry about the consequences of having other relationships.”

He added that especially for women, sex is closely linked to self-esteem. And since wealth usually brings greater self-esteem, it can improve a woman’s sex life.

“For the minute percentage of women who are that wealthy, this wealth can be a big ego booster and allow them to feel very comfortable and relaxed about sex,” he says. “They have a strong sense of identity and they know they don’t have to be inhibited about communicating their needs. It’s about the confidence and power and opportunity that comes with having a lot of wealth.”
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: gtbro1 on March 02, 2007, 12:46:12 AM
Very attractive women intimidate many (most?) men.
Theres more available there than you'd think.
These chicks are also SO SO sick of what usually comes on to them;
If you can get 'em past the plain look, and show them you are a interesting person-
You can get in their pants :P!

  You can have any woman you want if you can some how get them to go on one date with you...just one. Once you go on a date all that you need to do then is EDITED,THEN QUIT YOUR JOB!!  they will never leave...It's sad but true.Think about it.The biggest most worthless lazy bumb you know probably has a good woman that loves him. EDITED.

Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: trab on March 02, 2007, 06:44:43 PM
Beat the Hell out of them? :'( Wow, and I was worried about being offensive.
Most of the women TRAPPED in THAT kind of relationship are just that.Trapped.  It's Easy to tell others what's so simple to do when your not in their skin. Just leave is not as simple as it sounds for many women.
Sure, Just leave with some kids, no good paying job skills and nowhere to go...
Thats a whole nasty topic to itself.     
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people?????
Post by: Parker on March 04, 2007, 06:22:27 PM

  The biggest most worthless lazy bumb you know probably has a good woman that loves him.THEY ALWAYS DO.

I've seen so many times in my line of work.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Deedee on March 04, 2007, 06:59:08 PM
Beat the Hell out of them? :'( Wow, and I was worried about being offensive.
Most of the women TRAPPED in THAT kind of relationship are just that.Trapped.  It's Easy to tell others what's so simple to do when your not in their skin. Just leave is not as simple as it sounds for many women.
Sure, Just leave with some kids, no good paying job skills and nowhere to go...
Thats a whole nasty topic to itself.     

Yes, unfortunately it is.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people?????
Post by: Deedee on March 04, 2007, 07:02:13 PM
I've seen so many times in my line of work.

Without being nosy, don't you work in law enforcement somehow, or in a courthouse? So it isn't really indicative of the general pop. Just the unfortunate percentage.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: trab on March 04, 2007, 07:07:37 PM
I'm guessing BARTENDER or COP. Our jobs give us a limited view of the world. Doesn't make an expert.
Ive got to say most women in a bad relationship probably wish out. Theres exceptions.
I'm hearing frustration. Beat them is not  good -how to date/ marry out of your league advice.
Or did I miss something here?
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Deedee on March 04, 2007, 07:17:48 PM
I'm guessing BARTENDER or COP. Our jobs give us a limited view of the world. Doesn't make an expert.
Ive got to say most women in a bad relationship probably wish out. Theres exceptions.
I'm hearing frustration. Beat them is not  good -how to date/ marry out of your league advice.
Or did I miss something here?

Are you a cop, Trab?
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: trab on March 04, 2007, 07:20:47 PM
Ha HA  HA :)
Construction Trades/ Own Biz.

Our experiences color our view of the world. Maybe theres lots of Rich gals somewhere who stay with
"Big abusive Bums" by choice. But it's a whole lot easier for THEM to leave, than some poorer girl with not many options.  Beat the hell out of them to get a girl out of your league to hang around AND Love you? 
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people?????
Post by: Parker on March 05, 2007, 05:06:40 AM
Without being nosy, don't you work in law enforcement somehow, or in a courthouse? So it isn't really indicative of the general pop. Just the unfortunate percentage.

Courthouse. I used to think the same thing. That maybe my views are skewered. But when 4 women you work with have 20- something sons, who are bums, no jobs, and the girls in their lives take care of them. Or just helping people, some of the most attractive, intelligent (attorneys, med. school, docs, professional) women that I met thru my job are either with bums, or thugs. They take care of these dudes, but at the same time are pissed off of their situation. And when you are face to face with and try and be emphathic to these women with their situation, one can't help to be frustrated at the same ol song and dance routine. I've been hit on by these women, but knowing that even though I match up to these women (mentally, physically, etc.) I have to watch myself---'cause  I know their situations, and where it will end up (only sex---but for her the same situation as before). And the energy and vibe, they give off!!! Dee, you just don't know!!!!



I listened to Michael Baisden one day (author of Maintenance Man,  and other titles) and he said that women (black women he was speaking about) today are angry, and don't have tha glow, of GOOD LUVIN' (not sex), unlike women back in the 70's all had that all natty glow, cause they were getting some good luvin (mind body and soul)

I trace this back to above, when your with a bum, all you do is focus on the small amout of positives (and supposed potential), but the negatives outweigh the positives.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: trab on March 05, 2007, 06:31:14 PM
These women might consider stop dating within a mile of the court house.
   
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Deedee on March 06, 2007, 05:09:41 PM
These women might consider stop dating within a mile of the court house.
   

Good point! Although Parker works there, and seems like a great, normal guy!

Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: trab on March 06, 2007, 05:25:48 PM
Parker is cool, I was talkN w/ him.  Courthouse area is always a dreary place to go for me.
I avoid like the plague. Record needs only.I couldn't work in there. He & I were talkN about a -

Why do nice women stay w/ Guys who Abuse  'em?  And- HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM! Thread.
                                        Put some teeth in it, Huh?

That stuff hits a nerve. He prolly has a lot of good advice on the  mater. It (abuse) covers every part of society. Rich/ Poor.  Hit him up on it. Might come in handy for someone.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Deedee on March 07, 2007, 09:06:14 AM
Parker is cool, I was talkN w/ him.  Courthouse area is always a dreary place to go for me.
I avoid like the plague. Record needs only.I couldn't work in there. He & I were talkN about a -

Why do nice women stay w/ Guys who Abuse  'em?  And- HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM! Thread.
                                        Put some teeth in it, Huh?

That stuff hits a nerve. He prolly has a lot of good advice on the  mater. It (abuse) covers every part of society. Rich/ Poor.  Hit him up on it. Might come in handy for someone.

Actually that sounds like a good idea.  I'll send him a note. As long as we don't get into women-bashing...  :)
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Parker on March 08, 2007, 04:37:40 AM
Actually that sounds like a good idea.  I'll send him a note. As long as we don't get into women-bashing...  :)

No, I ain't in to bashing women. Men who bash women do so because (generally) that can't get what they want from them and are sexually frustrated because of that.
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Deedee on March 08, 2007, 04:34:12 PM
No, I ain't in to bashing women. Men who bash women do so because (generally) that can't get what they want from them and are sexually frustrated because of that.

I know you don't... wasn't directed to you.  It's just that some threads get people passionate, and the men do outnumber the women 6:1 on Getbig.  ;)
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Playboy on March 09, 2007, 10:24:49 AM
I know you don't... wasn't directed to you.  It's just that some threads get people passionate, and the men do outnumber the women 6:1 on Getbig.  ;)
That's a damn shame. We need more women on this forum period.

PB
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people?????
Post by: xxxLinda on March 09, 2007, 12:36:31 PM
every single ugly man, most average looking men and half the drop dead gorgeous ones
get hardons.  (That's when they re-arrange their underwear, their pants.  I used to think they were just scratching their balls, but now that I'm a bit older, I realise it's an erection they are re-arranging.


Everyone wants to score with hot people.  What's this thread about?

xLinda
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people?????
Post by: xxxLinda on March 09, 2007, 12:48:08 PM
oh hey, you've got me going now, you've really go me going...


Average men (people), with a sense of humour and common decency (and perhaps money) will always be able to score with the hot people.

Go for it
Have fun

with mad love
xLinda
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people?????
Post by: xxxLinda on March 09, 2007, 12:50:25 PM
I know you don't... wasn't directed to you.  It's just that some threads get people passionate, and



the men do outnumber the women 6:1 on Getbig. ;)





I reckon it's more like 250-1?
xL
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: ThaRealist on March 09, 2007, 01:12:18 PM
I am an average looking guy shorter than most (5'6") and I bodybuild....Now when I worked normal sales/marketing jobs I wouldn't pick up that many attractive women...But, during the years I was a personal trainer I had no trouble what-so-ever picking up attractive women every weekend and during the week the minute I would tell them I was a personal trainer....I need a woman's point of view on why this made an obvious difference with women????
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people???????
Post by: Playboy on March 09, 2007, 01:28:36 PM
I am an average looking guy shorter than most (5'6") and I bodybuild....Now when I worked normal sales/marketing jobs I wouldn't pick up that many attractive women...But, during the years I was a personal trainer I had no trouble what-so-ever picking up attractive women every weekend and during the week the minute I would tell them I was a personal trainer....I need a woman's point of view on why this made an obvious difference with women????
Cool...i'm the same height.

PB
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people?????
Post by: xxxLinda on March 09, 2007, 01:49:01 PM
We're all the about the same height, when horizontal.

Perhaps you have a great sense of humour
and a nice car?

xxxL
Title: Re: Why do average looking people think that they can score with hot people?????
Post by: xxxLinda on March 10, 2007, 06:57:18 AM
I am an average looking guy shorter than most (5'6") and I bodybuild....Now when I worked normal sales/marketing jobs I wouldn't pick up that many attractive women...But, during the years I was a personal trainer I had no trouble what-so-ever picking up attractive women every weekend and during the week the minute I would tell them I was a personal trainer....I need a woman's point of view on why this made an obvious difference with women????


Perhaps you have a great deal more self-esteem now that you're working as a trainer than you did when you were a mere salesman?

Plus you're meeting many more attractive women.

xL