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Getbig Female Info Boards => Open Talk for Girl Discussion => Topic started by: Original Sin on May 21, 2008, 04:25:19 PM
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So I got dumped, it has happened before and more then likely will happen again.
I am sure we've all been through this.
My question is....
If he goes out and has an affair how is my fault?
discuss please
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move on, getbig will make it more painful, why do you wanna be with him if he had a affair?? is your self esteem that low??
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So I got dumped, it has happened before and more then likely will happen again.
I am sure we've all been through this.
My question is....
If he goes out and has an affair how is my fault?
discuss please
Why would it be your fault? He makes a decision to do that, not you! Sorry that happened to you. Yes, everyone goes through it. Take a break from him. Hangout with your friends.....You have been given a gift... Imagine if you planned your whole life with this guy? All the best!!!!
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Why would it be your fault? He makes a decision to do that, not you! Sorry that happened to you. Yes, everyone goes through it. Take a break from him. Hangout with your friends.....You have been given a gift... Imagine if you planned your whole life with this guy? All the best!!!!
exactly, the best thing is think of fun things, don't dwell on it, or else it just plays on your mind, watch a funny movie, go exercise, he sounds like a loser anyway.
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Why would it be your fault? He makes a decision to do that, not you! Sorry that happened to you. Yes, everyone goes through it. Take a break from him. Hangout with your friends.....You have been given a gift... Imagine if you planned your whole life with this guy? All the best!!!!
i agree
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Bottom line: men are pigs. If you want the bacon, you gotta accept the occasional swine.
HTH.
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Bottom line: men are pigs. If you want the bacon, you gotta accept the occasional swine.
HTH.
Lol, what is Laurinatis?
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Lol, what is Laurinatis?
James Laurinaitis, Ohio State Buckeyes # 33 senior linebacker, best linebacker in the country.
We all love him around here for skipping the NFL and coming back for his senior year :)
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James Laurinaitis, Ohio State Buckeyes # 33 senior linebacker, best linebacker in the country.
We all love him around here for skipping the NFL and coming back for his senior year :)
It sounded like a disease.
Oh, and what is HTH?
Call me blonde, but I'm just not figuring it out. :)
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It sounded like a disease.
Oh, and what is HTH?
Call me blonde, but I'm just not figuring it out. :)
"Hope this helps."
HTH ::)
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"Hope this helps."
HTH ::)
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh duh. :-\
Can I blame it on the drugs I'm not on yet? ;D
Thankd dweetir :D
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So I got dumped, it has happened before and more then likely will happen again.
I am sure we've all been through this.
My question is....
If he goes out and has an affair how is my fault?
discuss please
NOT saying it's your fault, but a lack of excitement somewhere (in the bed) in the relationship will drive wandering eyes.
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Agree with chaos. Also, maybe you were the interim girl, and he was too ___ to break-up. In any case, it's a good excuse to do some heroin.
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If he goes out and has an affair how is my fault?
Depends. Have you lost that extra 80 lbs yet? Many men like a thicker girl, but not outright porkers (no offense).
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So I got dumped, it has happened before and more then likely will happen again.
I am sure we've all been through this.
My question is....
If he goes out and has an affair how is my fault?
discuss please
You're hooking up with the wrong type of people, Sin. Not your fault.
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Did he tell you it was your fault? Why would you even think something like that?
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So I got dumped, it has happened before and more then likely will happen again.
I am sure we've all been through this.
My question is....
If he goes out and has an affair how is my fault?
discuss please
I am confused, your man went out and cheated on you and dumped you and how is it your fault he cheated on you
or....
you were dating a married man who dumped you and how is it your fault that he was having an affair with you in the first place?
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where the fuck is Original sin???? how old is the guy, how long were you with him??
or was this a one night stand, and you caught feelings??
Tough break, at least you have your health, everyday someone gets cheated on, who gives a fuck.
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I am not pining over the guy as some might think
I was totally floored when he said it was my fault that he slept with somebody else and I think Getbig is the perfect place for this type of question.
We have so many different people here and so many gimmicks, I thought it would be a good topic to discuss.
I think the only person who looks at things the way i do is Tasha, but she is my age and likes to play the same "games" I do :)
and Flower no he wasn't married, just a scumbag.
Honestly, Hustleman and Laura is who I was looking for input from they are the "better angels of my soul" even though I fight them for there wisdom. (Nobody likes to be shown the truth, ever. but I love you for the fact you choose to dare to do so) :-*
but have fun with the topic!!! Damn it have fun!!
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I am not pining over the guy as some might think
I was totally floored when he said it was my fault that he slept with somebody else and I think Getbig is the perfect place for this type of question.
We have so many different people here and so many gimmicks, I thought it would be a good topic to discuss.
I think the only person who looks at things the way i do is Tasha, but she is my age and likes to play the same "games" I do :)
and Flower no he wasn't married, just a scumbag.
Honestly, Hustleman and Laura is who I was looking for input from they are the "better angels of my soul" even though I fight them for there wisdom. (Nobody likes to be shown the truth, ever. but I love you for the fact you choose to dare to do so) :-*
but have fun with the topic!!! Damn it have fun!!
This thread is worthless without pictures of you
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I am not pining over the guy as some might think
I was totally floored when he said it was my fault that he slept with somebody else and I think Getbig is the perfect place for this type of question.
We have so many different people here and so many gimmicks, I thought it would be a good topic to discuss.
I think the only person who looks at things the way i do is Tasha, but she is my age and likes to play the same "games" I do :)
and Flower no he wasn't married, just a scumbag.
Honestly, Hustleman and Laura is who I was looking for input from they are the "better angels of my soul" even though I fight them for there wisdom. (Nobody likes to be shown the truth, ever. but I love you for the fact you choose to dare to do so) :-*
but have fun with the topic!!! Damn it have fun!!
Wait, aren't you a stripper? It's part of the stripper lifestyle to take advantage of men for $$$. Why are you pissed now that the shoe is on the other foot? Not flaming, just curious.
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Wait, aren't you a stripper? It's part of the stripper lifestyle to take advantage of men for $$$. Why are you pissed now that the shoe is on the other foot? Not flaming, just curious.
Where is it stated I was pissed?
I mean if your going to flame at least show a little intelligence behind it.
The 80 lbs things was funny Squad. keep trying though, I like laughing at you
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So did he actually tell you why it was your fault, or was he too much of an inarticulate retard to get that far... or you were so shocked you didn't hear his reason?
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I was totally floored when he said it was my fault that he slept with somebody else and I think Getbig is the perfect place for this type of question.
I hope you take this in the spirit of someone being honest and don't perceive me as insensitive. But someone who strays could be doing so because he or she is not fulfilled by the other person, it could be physical, emotional, even intellectual. So is it possible it is your fault? Maybe not in the moral sense that we examine fault. But yes, in the sense that maybe you could have been something more to the other person than you were. It soes not make you a bad person or inadequate, but it could mean that you did not meet the promise the other person saw in you when you became a couple.
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Translation: Original Sin is a shitty lay.
Not my point at all.
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Where is it stated I was pissed?
I mean if your going to flame at least show a little intelligence behind it.
The 80 lbs things was funny Squad. keep trying though, I like laughing at you
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I wasn't flaming you at all. I made every effort to keep things civil: please re-read my post.
I would like to get a serious answer to my (serious) question about the stripper mentality.
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Strippers provide a good service. I haven't been to a strip club in over ten years but I always had a ton of fun when I used to go. Naked girls being all happy for you... can't beat that.
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Strippers provide a good service. I haven't been to a strip club in over ten years but I always had a ton of fun when I used to go. Naked girls being all happy for you... can't beat that.
Yeah I used to go to all the time when I was younger. Even fell in love with one of those hot bitches who was twice my age. :P I consider myself a pretty sensitive guy when it comes to understanding the "stripper plight". I just don't understand why "original sin" is being so testy ???
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Yeah I used to go to all the time when I was younger. Even fell in love with one of those hot bitches who was twice my age. :P I consider myself a pretty sensitive guy when it comes to understanding the "stripper plight". I just don't understand why "original sin" is being so testy ???
She does seem to have a chip on her shoulder. Don't know if I would have patronized her back in the day.... not really a big fan of the "I'm really an existentialist philosopher masquerading as a stripper so that I can despise humanity" type stripper.
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She does seem to have a chip on her shoulder. Don't know if I would have patronized her back in the day.... not really a big fan of the "I'm really an existentialist philosopher masquerading as a stripper so that I can despise humanity" type stripper.
Good point. If she pulled that crap on me back in the day, I would have tipped her a dollar bill instead of a 50.
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I was totally floored when he said it was my fault that he slept with somebody else and I think Getbig is the perfect place for this type of question.
it is always the cheaters fault no matter what the other person did or didn't do.
Nothing to stop a person from saying "see yeah!" and then going with someone else. You make the decision to not break it off and cheat on the person, so therefore it is the cheaters fault they cheated. It may be the other persons fault that the person left, but not their fault if someone cheats.
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it is always the cheaters fault no matter what the other person did or didn't do.
Nothing to stop a person from saying "see yeah!" and then going with someone else. You make the decision to not break it off and cheat on the person, so therefore it is the cheaters fault they cheated. It may be the other persons fault that the person left, but not their fault if someone cheats.
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Yes and NO
I agree about 90% BUT sometimes there is a bigger picture with no way out in the forseeable future.
Then it can become a grey area thing.
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it is always the cheaters fault no matter what the other person did or didn't do.
Nothing to stop a person from saying "see yeah!" and then going with someone else. You make the decision to not break it off and cheat on the person, so therefore it is the cheaters fault they cheated. It may be the other persons fault that the person left, but not their fault if someone cheats.
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exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!! >:(
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I agree.
Cheating just shows a lack of morals on the cheaters part - male or female.
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I agree.
Cheating just shows a lack of morals on the cheaters part - male or female.
sex is the most primitive thing amongst humans. It is embedded to spread the male seed. When tempted with something new it just cannot be helped.
That does not mean the man doesn't love his main girl. She will always be the one the man stays with if she doesn't get all bent out of shape from a meaningless romp.
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sex is the most primitive thing amongst humans. It is embedded to spread the male seed. When tempted with something new it just cannot be helped.
That does not mean the man doesn't love his main girl. She will always be the one the man stays with if she doesn't get all bent out of shape from a meaningless romp.
Oh, I guess knowing the difference between right and wrong just fell out of that seed. ::)
btw...it was also a part of the male "primitive seed" to provide....yet those that are "dumping their male sex seed" where ever they please are the first to jump off the that ship too. ::)
It's all to plain and simple. No matter what sex you are (male/female), if you cheat you are a scum bag. A total loser. There is no need. The grass is not greener on the other side...when taking for a sample. You want some of the other side, break up with the current and then move on. Don't sample while with someone. It's not right and it ALWAYS hurts the other person. No one deserves to be cheated on (except maybe a cheater).
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Oh, I guess knowing the difference between right and wrong just fell out of that seed. ::)
btw...it was also a part of the male "primitive seed" to provide....yet those that are "dumping their male sex seed" where ever they please are the first to jump off the that ship too. ::)
It's all to plain and simple. No matter what sex you are (male/female), if you cheat you are a scum bag. A total loser. There is no need. The grass is not greener on the other side...when taking for a sample. You want some of the other side, break up with the current and then move on. Don't sample while with someone. It's not right and it ALWAYS hurts the other person. No one deserves to be cheated on (except maybe a cheater).
Why does the cheater have to be a scumbag for giving into temptation? Cheating happens all the time so yes there is a need obviously.
You're a woman so I know you don't understand a man's point of view. I am sure Mike knows. He knows that men want to get with at least 10 woman every time you go to the grocery store or mall. I am sure he is faithful but I guarantee if you guys had sex 10 times...he would picture 8-10 different women in his mind nailing them all. You might be in his thoughts for a second or two. Is that considered cheating?
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Why does the cheater have to be a scumbag for giving into temptation? Cheating happens all the time so yes there is a need obviously.
You're a woman so I know you don't understand a man's point of view. I am sure Mike knows. He knows that men want to get with at least 10 woman every time you go to the grocery store or mall. I am sure he is faithful but I guarantee if you guys had sex 10 times...he would picture 8-10 different women in his mind nailing them all. You might be in his thoughts for a second or two. Is that considered cheating?
Why does the cheater have to be a scumbag for giving into temptation?
There is this thing called commitment.
Cheating happens all the time so yes there is a need obviously.
This is the first i have ever heard something like this! What good comes out of having a cheating partner other than you find out they are not the one for you?
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Why does the cheater have to be a scumbag for giving into temptation? Cheating happens all the time so yes there is a need obviously.
You're a woman so I know you don't understand a man's point of view. I am sure Mike knows. He knows that men want to get with at least 10 woman every time you go to the grocery store or mall. I am sure he is faithful but I guarantee if you guys had sex 10 times...he would picture 8-10 different women in his mind nailing them all. You might be in his thoughts for a second or two. Is that considered cheating?
What are you prepubescent? If you serious believe that...it's truly sad. ::)
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What are you prepubescent? If you serious believe that...it's truly sad. ::)
lol...I don't have to believe..I know so.
It's all a game/sport and sometimes people get hurt and/or traded.
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It's all to plain and simple. No matter what sex you are (male/female), if you cheat you are a scum bag. A total loser. There is no need.
That depends. It is always wrong to cheat on a spouse or someone you've been exclusive with for years, but how long was she going out with this guy? In a month-long or two-month long realtionship, I don't think exclusivity is a moral issue or that you've become "property" just yet. ;)
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So I got dumped, it has happened before and more then likely will happen again.
I am sure we've all been through this.
My question is....
If he goes out and has an affair how is my fault?
discuss please
It isn't. It never really is. It's just a tried and tested scapegoat for an excuse, O.S. Then again, men who date strippers, such as yourself aren't traditionally clean living wholesome men.
This girl I used to train with last summer was a stripper like you are, O.S. She always had 'boy drama' and couldn't understand that the guys she went out with always wound up cheating on her and leaving. The common similarity of it all was she met them at her club.
Get it?
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That depends. It is always wrong to cheat on a spouse or someone you've been exclusive with for years, but how long was she going out with this guy? In a month-long or two-month long realtionship, I don't think exclusivity is a moral issue or that you've become "property" just yet. ;)
I agree but you know when you're in an "relationship" or when you're just "dating".
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So I got dumped, it has happened before and more then likely will happen again.
I am sure we've all been through this.
My question is....
If he goes out and has an affair how is my fault?
discuss please
Do you have pics ?
If he had an affair and blames you, means you gotta be more loving, i agree with the man, your fault.
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It isn't. It never really is. It's just a tried and tested scapegoat for an excuse, O.S. Then again, men who date strippers, such as yourself aren't traditionally clean living wholesome men.
This girl I used to train with last summer was a stripper like you are, O.S. She always had 'boy drama' and couldn't understand that the guys she went out with always wound up cheating on her and leaving. The common similarity of it all was she met them at her club.
Get it?
Yes, this is a sticky thing. I like Original Sin, always have, find her intelligent and quite the wit.
Each to their own, I am am in no way downing her employment choice, but I know had I ever - well, um, appeared naked/topless in front of other men - my husband would have most definitly taken that within itself as cheating.
Not saying it is, just within my personal life it would have been taken as such. However, I am quite sure the guy and your training partners dates knew their professions before they started dating, so they can't [or should not] turn around and make any complaints about it.
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There is really no justification for cheating on somebody and blaming somebody for your cheating is pretty ignorant. That being said there isnt enough info here about you or this guy to say that you couldnt have prevented it, whats the old saying you lay down with dogs and your gonna get fleas. If the dude was a "scumbag" you shouldnt be suprised, shoot you might should have of expected it, if that is indeed the case.
This may not pertain to you b/c this doesnt seem like it bothers you much, if any. But one of the most annoying things to me that I see all the time are these girls who piss and moan about their guy troubles and how they treat them bad(cheat, lie, general mistreatment) yet still go after the same type of guy. So to say its your fault is wrong to say that you may be to blame not for his cheating but for you being in the situation might be accurate. Hope that helps
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If he had an affair and blames you, means you gotta be more horny, i agree with the man, your fault.
hahaha. She takes her clothes off for a living, I'd HOPE she could get it on in the bedroom. But maybe since she does this stuff for a living, she doesn't feel like doing it on her offtime. Kinda like a professional handyman who fixes everyone else's houses but never has time for his own.
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Yes and NO
I agree about 90% BUT sometimes there is a bigger picture with no way out in the forseeable future.
Then it can become a grey area thing.
So give some examples of "grey areas" where a phone call or even a text or email in today's age of technology that would prevent someone from breaking it off with someone before they got it on with a new person are not called for?
::)
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I used to have a girl friend that said "mama always says what ever you do to get a man you need to do to keep a man!"
Amen
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So next chapter in the "adventure" since this one has ran its course.
If the other woman turned out to be a friend of yours, what would you do?
confront her? Beat her down? or just pretend nothing happened so you can keep your friend?
or none of the above?
No drama here, I think this question could be a lot of fun to "play with".
So let's see where this one goes :)
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So next chapter in the "adventure" since this one has ran its course.
If the other woman turned out to be a friend of yours, what would you do?
confront her? Beat her down? or just pretend nothing happened so you can keep your friend?
or none of the above?
No drama here, I think this question could be a lot of fun to "play with".
So let's see where this one goes :)
personally i will dismiss anyone associated, the cheater the cheatee, always move forward.
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So next chapter in the "adventure" since this one has ran its course.
If the other woman turned out to be a friend of yours, what would you do?
confront her? Beat her down? or just pretend nothing happened so you can keep your friend?
or none of the above?
No drama here, I think this question could be a lot of fun to "play with".
So let's see where this one goes :)
No. If it bothers you, drop her. If it doesn't, don't waste your time posting about it.
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No. If it bothers you, drop her. If it doesn't, don't waste your time posting about it.
This question is purely hypothetical. I thought it might be a good topic
That is why I said no drama, sorry I wasn't more clear.
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This question is purely hypothetical. I thought it might be a good topic
That is why I said no drama, sorry I wasn't more clear.
A better topic is why a woman goes from being a paramedic to a stripper. Any thoughts on this hypothetical woman?
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A better topic is why a woman goes from being a paramedic to a stripper. Any thoughts on this hypothetical woman?
ahhh THE MONEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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So next chapter in the "adventure" since this one has ran its course.
If the other woman turned out to be a friend of yours, what would you do?
confront her? Beat her down? or just pretend nothing happened so you can keep your friend?
or none of the above?
No drama here, I think this question could be a lot of fun to "play with".
So let's see where this one goes :)
Im a guy so ill switch it around for me but if she cheated on me with a friend I would most likely disown both of them. Im not a very violent person, so I probably wouldnt try and find the guy to beat his ass, but if he approached me even to apologize I would probably go ape shit on him.
Why all the hypothetical questions about relationships?
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Why all the hypothetical questions about relationships?
Hypothetically, the woman he cheated with could be the hypothetical cheatee's only friend IRL, which might, hypothetically, lead to unburdening oneself on a message board. :P
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So next chapter in the "adventure" since this one has ran its course.
If the other woman turned out to be a friend of yours, what would you do?
confront her? Beat her down? or just pretend nothing happened so you can keep your friend?
or none of the above?
No drama here, I think this question could be a lot of fun to "play with".
So let's see where this one goes :)
I would be done with that person completely. They were obviously not a friend. A real friend wouldn't do that. I wouldn't waste my breath or time confronting her or beating her down. What goes around...comes around...and usually 10 fold. ;)
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I'm a guy so ill switch it around for me but if she cheated on me with a friend I would most likely disown both of them. Im not a very violent person, so I probably wouldnt try and find the guy to beat his ass, but if he approached me even to apologize I would probably go ape shit on him.
Why all the hypothetical questions about relationships?
So far there have only been two scenarios.
Only the second one was hypothetical.
Besides isn't this what a forum is all about, discussions and variance of opinions?
I thought the topics would be good to discuss, despite what some are trying to imply it was a question for the forum nothing more.
And thanks for the answer :-*
I would be done with that person completely. They were obviously not a friend. A real friend wouldn't do that. I wouldn't waste my breath or time confronting her or beating her down. What goes around...comes around...and usually 10 fold. ;)
Do you honestly believe that? It has been my experience, that those that need a long bout of bad Karma usually walk away Scot free.
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you only have so many minutes to breath on this planet, right?
So don't spend another minute on them. They're losers, they're part of your past.
Find a new friend, and find a new person to cuddle with.
Don't think about them again. Get a book you've been trying to learn - Spanish, or Art, or Tech, or whatever interests you. Everytime you think of the ex or the friend, open the book and read a few pages. Get your mind off it.
Time is the only thing that'll heal the pain. Move on. Today.
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Do you honestly believe that? It has been my experience, that those that need a long bout of bad Karma usually walk away Scot free.
Absolutely. It may not be today, or tomorrow....but it will happen. ;)
I do my best not to worry or dwell about it and just move on and remove the negative from my life. :D
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you only have so many minutes to breath on this planet, right?
So don't spend another minute on them. They're losers, they're part of your past.
Find a new friend, and find a new person to cuddle with.
Don't think about them again. Get a book you've been trying to learn - Spanish, or Art, or Tech, or whatever interests you. Everytime you think of the ex or the friend, open the book and read a few pages. Get your mind off it.
Time is the only thing that'll heal the pain. Move on. Today.
Exactly, rules i live by, why waste your life thinking of someone that does not like you
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A better topic is why a woman goes from being a paramedic to a stripper. Any thoughts on this hypothetical woman?
You know, I still can't figure out why someone who takes her clothes off for a living and lets men ogle her and fondle her is upset about a man cheating on her. Seems to come with the territory, no? I'm just a little confused, that's all.
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You know, I still can't figure out why someone who takes her clothes off for a living and lets men ogle her and fondle her is upset about a man cheating on her. Seems to come with the territory, no? I'm just a little confused, that's all.
why all the hate for O.S.? It doesnt matter what you do for a living if two ppl enter into a monogamous relationship you have a right to expect that person to not cheat on you. Monogamous = no cheating (or shouldnt be cheating) for any reason and trying to justify it is bush league ball.
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why all the hate for O.S.? It doesnt matter what you do for a living if two ppl enter into a monogamous relationship you have a right to expect that person to not cheat on you. Monogamous = no cheating (or shouldnt be cheating) for any reason and trying to justify it is bush league ball.
No hate at all, just had some innocent questions. But like I said, when somebody makes her living by "entertaining" guys, most of whom are probably married or attached, should it come as much of a surprise if the men she's likely to attract (the married/attached type) treat her in the same way they treat their own partners by ogling her on stage and in the backseat of a car?
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No hate at all, just had some innocent questions. But like I said, when somebody makes her living by "entertaining" guys, most of whom are probably married or attached, should it come as much of a surprise if the men she's likely to attract (the married/attached type) treat her in the same way they treat their own partners by ogling her on stage and in the backseat of a car?
Now this goes back to my original statement, dont associate with trash...that being said many ppl cheat not just ppl who go to strip clubs bro. The bottom line is if your in a monogamous relationship no matter what you do for a living, doctor, stripper, soldier there is no justification for cheating. Like I said earlier she is not at all to blame for him cheating if the facts of the situation are as we understand them, but she maybe responsible for being in that situation if she knew the guy was a "scumbag" (her words) and dated him anyway.
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Now this goes back to my original statement, dont associate with trash...that being said many ppl cheat not just ppl who go to strip clubs bro. The bottom line is if your in a monogamous relationship no matter what you do for a living, doctor, stripper, soldier there is no justification for cheating. Like I said earlier she is not at all to blame for him cheating if the facts of the situation are as we understand them, but she maybe responsible for being in that situation if she knew the guy was a "scumbag" (her words) and dated him anyway.
He wasn't trash or a scumbag until he cheated on me. He cheats, I get to call him a scumbag. It is the law of the universe.
I met him at a BBQ at a friends place.
I'm not aching for the loss, I have been and will be dumped again. I may even dump the odd one here or there ;D
My point was that he tried to say it was my fault he couldn't keep his pants on. I am still shaking my head over this fine bit of logic.
and you guys say we women are illogical :-*
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My point was that he tried to say it was my fault he couldn't keep his pants on. I am still shaking my head over this fine bit of logic.
People often like to take their shortcomings and act like it is someone else's fault. People like that annoy me to no end.
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He wasn't trash or a scumbag until he cheated on me. He cheats, I get to call him a scumbag. It is the law of the universe.
I met him at a BBQ at a friends place.
I'm not aching for the loss, I have been and will be dumped again. I may even dump the odd one here or there ;D
My point was that he tried to say it was my fault he couldn't keep his pants on. I am still shaking my head over this fine bit of logic.
and you guys say we women are illogical :-*
OS, once anyone who cheats on you starts to try and flip the blame....quit listening and walk away. Not only are they shitty at cheating (obviously...cuz they got caught) but they are shitty at lying (cuz no one should be that stupid to believe it could ever be their fault that their sig other cheated on them). You are given the choice of "fooling around" with some or not. If you even entertain the thought...you don't belong in a relationship and should first remove yourself (break up) from that relationship as it obviously isn't working out. Why waste both peoples time. Allow that person some dignity to move on without such betrayal or embarrassment.
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He wasn't trash or a scumbag until he cheated on me. He cheats, I get to call him a scumbag. It is the law of the universe.
I met him at a BBQ at a friends place
I'm not aching for the loss, I have been and will be dumped again. I may even dump the odd one here or there ;D
My point was that he tried to say it was my fault he couldn't keep his pants on. I am still shaking my head over this fine bit of logic.
and you guys say we women are illogical :-*
LOL hey hey hey now ive never cheated on any woman ive ever been with dont lump me in with that douche
p.s. yall are kinda irrational, just a tad bit ;D
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I agree but you know when you're in an "relationship" or when you're just "dating".
Not always. I think it's pretty common in early relationships for one person to think exclusivity exists and the other to have no such understanding.
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Not always. I think it's pretty common in early relationships for one person to think exclusivity exists and the other to have no such understanding.
Surprisingly, I agree with goat. In college this one chick announced we were breaking up and I was very surprised as I didn't even know we were in a relationship. And I don't consider myself a "player" type.
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Not always. I think it's pretty common in early relationships for one person to think exclusivity exists and the other to have no such understanding.
I agree. I for one have never considered myself "in a relationship" when I first started dating someone. It's a whole getting to know you thing, You see each other probably once a week if that. How can you consider yourself committed then? But, even if I had the "urge" to date someone else early in the "dating" stages, I would definitely ask where I/we stand with the other person. But then again I think I'm more aware of the other persons feelings because I've been cheated on. I would never consider putting someone through that. :-\
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Cheating is all about the person who cheated, ...and has nothing to do with the person who was cheated on.
It's not your fault and never will be no matter how hard someone tries to claim so. they made the choice to cheat.
As for your "friend", ...do you really want to have someone like that as a "friend"?
With friends like that, ...you don't need enemies. I say move on. The two of them deserve each other.
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Laura, I would never cheat on you!! With you but never on you! ;D
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Laura, I would never cheat on you!! With you but never on you! ;D
;D
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That's not really funny, laura. I thought you were above this. >:(
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That's not really funny, laura. I thought you were above this. >:(
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Cheating is never right but it takes two people for things to work out or not.
If it was a friend and she knew it was your man.... I'm 100% certain the guidebook not only allows for, but encourages, a beating.
Stuff like that sucks but strong people come through bad times even stronger in the long run.
If all else fails there's Haagen Daas or Ben and Jerry's Chunky Monkey!! :)
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Cheating is never right but it takes two people for things to work out or not.
If it was a friend and she knew it was your man.... I'm 100% certain the guidebook not only allows for, but encourages, a beating.
Stuff like that sucks but strong people come through bad times even stronger in the long run.
If all else fails there's Haagen Daas or Ben and Jerry's Chunky Monkey!! :)
Haagen Daas!!! :P
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Haagen Daas!!! :P
I don't eat the stuff, LOL! I do frozen yogurt when the kids have to have ice cream and I always buy chunky monkey when my girl is pissed about something. Before anyone makes any 'monkey' comments it's already been done, LOL!
I only have two bad meals/month and actually don't like ice cream that much at all.
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I don't eat the stuff, LOL! I do frozen yogurt when the kids have to have ice cream and I always buy chunky monkey when my girl is pissed about something. Before anyone makes any 'monkey' comments it's already been done, LOL!
I only have two bad meals/month and actually don't like ice cream that much at all.
Have you ever tried Baskin Robbins 'daiquiri ice'? It is absolutely heavenly, ...I mean heavenly!!!
It is extremely hard to find these days, but if you can... go for it. it's the absolute best.
Their pineapple ice is a close 2nd, ...and could be an adequate consolation if no daiquiri ice was available.
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Have you ever tried Baskin Robbins 'daiquiri ice'? It is absolutely heavenly, ...I mean heavenly!!!
It is extremely hard to find these days, but if you can... go for it. it's the absolute best.
Their pineapple ice is a close 2nd, ...and could be an adequate consolation if no daiquiri ice was available.
You are obviously substituting ice cream for some missing need. :)
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Somebody is trying to start a fight!
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You are obviously substituting ice cream for some missing need. :)
Oh my! Is it that obvious?
Gotta go... need to make a phone call. :-X
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Oh my! Is it that obvious?
Gotta go... need to make a phone call. :-X
I can see it from here, LOL!
Probably need a spanking too!! :)
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I can see it from here, LOL!
Probably need a spanking too!! :)
{blush} :-[ :-X
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So I got dumped, it has happened before and more then likely will happen again.
I am sure we've all been through this.
My question is....
If he goes out and has an affair how is my fault?
discuss please
As someone who has had this happened a few times I would say don't down on yourself. You'll wonder if you did anything wrong but like everyone says, he could have just dumped you and moved on. It's pretty ballsy for him to say it was your fault. Even if you think you did something to warrant a break up, it doesn't excuse the infidelity.
If he said it was because of sex that is lame. If he said his emotional needs weren't met, you're better off. ;D
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As someone who has had this happened a few times I would say don't down on yourself. You'll wonder if you did anything wrong but like everyone says, he could have just dumped you and moved on. It's pretty ballsy for him to say it was your fault. Even if you think you did something to warrant a break up, it doesn't excuse the infidelity.
If he said it was because of sex that is lame. If he said his emotional needs weren't met, you're better off. ;D
I was so dumbfounded about how he said it was my fault, I never listened to the rest of the verbal diarrhea.
We were only going out for 3 months so it really isn't to hard of a thing to let go.
I don't understand it, but maybe I never will.
As far a sex goes, I am FAR more open minded and liberal about the entire game, so I can't see how he could be unsatisfied.
Maybe I intimidated him?
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OS,
Why does the reason matter?
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As far a sex goes, I am FAR more open minded and liberal about the entire game, so I can't see how he could be unsatisfied.
Maybe I intimidated him?
Care to elaborate? Maybe you were too open minded and liberal about the entire game and like you said he may have been intimidated.
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Care to elaborate? Maybe you were too open minded and liberal about the entire game and like you said he may have been intimidated.
Maybe he wanted a girl who would let him out of the handcuffs after the fun was over.
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Maybe he wanted a girl who would let him out of the handcuffs after the fun was over.
LMAO! Well she is a self proclaimed sex goddess so that could be the norm on an evening out with her!
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I say this with caution, but men often want to screw the sex goddess and date/marry the good girl. It's no excuse for him to cheat but if he viewed her as a slut and could not deal with that, it could explain why he bounced over to a different woman.
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I say this with caution, but men often want to screw the sex goddess and date/marry the good girl. It's no excuse for him to cheat but if he viewed her as a slut and could not deal with that, it could explain why he bounced over to a different woman.
This is the operative word I hope she get's your point here! I totally agree too (with caution that is) ;D that is why women need to be careful of the way they portray/present themselves to men especially the ones they care about.
Dig this philos from my mom (R.I.P.) (she told my ex this when we were dating (actually my mom was ck blocking))
Short version: "Think of yourself as a box of chocolates when you present yourself to a man, do you want to give him a box of half-eaten candies or do you one him to have the first bite when you give him the sweets?" She went on more but you get the gist. Some woman forget when, where, what, why and how to present themselves to a man they just want to fill that emotional void and end up getting used or turning cold. And some men are too stupid to guide her.
I am sure OS is the perfect LT partner for someone out there, she just needs to have the patience and take the time to see if they are just as mucked up as she is.
HMIC
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Reasons don't matter.
I doubt anyone has ever heard a good reason for being broken up with. By good, I specifically mean a reason that made them a better partner for having heard it.
Also, sometimes things just don't work. Doesn't mean anything is wrong with the people, just that they aren't a good fit.
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OS,
Why does the reason matter?
Good point, I guess it doesn't but that doesn't stop people from looking for them.
LMAO! Well she is a self proclaimed sex goddess so that could be the norm on an evening out with her!
I know for a fact I have never proclaimed myself a Sex Goddess. (your words not mine).
I don't believe sex is the taboo that it seems the older people (you fit in here) portray it to be.
It should be fun and adventurous. Play the game smart and safe and there is no reason why everybody shouldn't have
fun with it.
The thinking it belongs hiding in the bedroom with the doors locked is an outdated way of thinking.
This is the operative word I hope she get's your point here! I totally agree too (with caution that is) ;D that is why women need to be careful of the way they portray/present themselves to men especially the ones they care about.
Dig this philos from my mom (R.I.P.) (she told my ex this when we were dating (actually my mom was ck blocking))
Short version: "Think of yourself as a box of chocolates when you present yourself to a man, do you want to give him a box of half-eaten candies or do you one him to have the first bite when you give him the sweets?" She went on more but you get the gist. Some woman forget when, where, what, why and how to present themselves to a man they just want to fill that emotional void and end up getting used or turning cold. And some men are too stupid to guide her.
I am sure OS is the perfect LT partner for someone out there, she just needs to have the patience and take the time to see if they are just as mucked up as she is.
HMIC
You seem to think I am wanting to settle down, I'm not.
Woman can go out, party and look to get laid every now and then as well.
What is an LT partner?
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Good point, I guess it doesn't but that doesn't stop people from looking for them.
I know for a fact I have never proclaimed myself a Sex Goddess. (your words not mine).
I don't believe sex is the taboo that it seems the older people (you fit in here) portray it to be.
It should be fun and adventurous. Play the game smart and safe and there is no reason why everybody shouldn't have
fun with it.
The thinking it belongs hiding in the bedroom with the doors locked is an outdated way of thinking.
You seem to think I am wanting to settle down, I'm not.
Woman can go out, party and look to get laid every now and then as well.
What is an LT partner?
I know for a fact I have never proclaimed myself a Sex Goddess. (your words not mine).
I was joking honey.
I don't believe sex is the taboo that it seems the older people (you fit in here) portray it to be.
Sex is not taboo but I think it has it's place in general. Yeah I used to be wild but I have matured past that. "When I was a child I had childish toys but now I am a man with responsibilities and I have to behave accordingly.
It should be fun and adventurous. Play the game smart and safe and there is no reason why everybody shouldn't have
fun with it.
Fun with your partner yes but when you start playing games with a process that has the greatest impact to the existence of humankind I think you should be more respectful of its power and not so risqué. One day you will learn LMAO!
The thinking it belongs hiding in the bedroom with the doors locked is an outdated way of thinking.
Hey did'nt you see my post about the nudist resort I visited? I have no problem climbing up in a tree to enjoy an intimate encounter with my committed partner.
You seem to think I am wanting to settle down, I'm not.
Yes you are, you just don't know how to do it yet so you keep searching. Something is missing, you are looking to fill an empty void it's very obvious.
I think its abnormal not to want to settledown and share your life with a suitable partner; we are innately wired that way. Anything else outside of man and woman coming together in manogamy a perversion of the obvious truth.
Question for you; What's the primary reason for two different sexes?
Woman can go out, party and look to get laid every now and then as well.
Yes and you can also look to get dumped out of disrespect every now and then as well.
Again you will learn as you go along but right now you are just what every 18-30 yr old man wants. You seem to be empty somewhere in side so you suppress it with partying and promiscuity every now again again, it's understandable.
LT=Long Term.
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Bottom line is OS was involved with a coward (sorry OS) who didn't want to own his $H|T, so he blamed her for his own shortcomings and character flaws. OS don't buy into it, or waste brain cells on it.
He cheated. end of story. It's his fault not yours, ...unless you tied him down and inserted his anatomy into your "friend's"? Or was this fallout out from the birthday present you gave him? ???
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Question for you; What's the primary reason for two different sexes?
Because you can only laugh at the dog for so long. Men, we can laugh at for ever ;D
and no reason to apologize Jag.
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Hard to say, ending things is usually a pain in the butt. We all 'stay to long at the party' hoping things will get better to some extent. Better communication would save a lot of relationships/time in the long run. Looking back I probably should have ended most of my bad relationships a lot sooner. :)
I find the whole 'dancer' mentality interesting. It's too bad people get all weird when you answer questions because I'm curious how the job has affected your views on men and relationships in general. In the same vein, I get how most women find dancers intimidating.
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Because you can only laugh at the dog for so long. Men, we can laugh at for ever ;D
Now that's too funny! I think you are a keeper, you need some training though but other than that I would intro you to mom if it were possible.\
http://properladytraining.com/Home_Page.html
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Now that's too funny! I think you are a keeper, you need some training though but other than that I would intro you to mom if it were possible.\
http://properladytraining.com/Home_Page.html
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ps: I s'pose saying "Dammit, I just missed the fvcking ice-cream truck" wouldn't be considered ladylike huh? :-[
I keep telling that SOB he drives too fast going through the neighbourhood! >:(
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ps: I s'pose saying "Dammit, I just missed the fvcking ice-cream truck" wouldn't be considered ladylike huh? :-[
I keep telling that SOB he drives too fast going through the neighbourhood! >:(
If you keep that thought internal you are good but if you decide you have to run the ice-cream truck down just to voice your criticism then I think you should enroll ASAP!
HM
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Hard to say, ending things is usually a pain in the butt. We all 'stay to long at the party' hoping things will get better to some extent. Better communication would save a lot of relationships/time in the long run. Looking back I probably should have ended most of my bad relationships a lot sooner. :)
I find the whole 'dancer' mentality interesting. It's too bad people get all weird when you answer questions because I'm curious how the job has affected your views on men and relationships in general. In the same vein, I get how most women find dancers intimidating.
"Dancer" lol.
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If you keep that thought internal you are good but if you decide you have to run the ice-cream truck down just to voice your criticism then I think you should enroll ASAP!
HM
oh no no no, ...not to voice my criticism. To kick that mutherfvcker in the gonads for driving by so fast! >:(
djyu think I need to enroll? they're not going to make me balance a bloody book on my head while walking are they?
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oh no no no, ...not to voice my criticism. To kick that mutherfvcker in the gonads for driving by so fast! >:(
djyu think I need to enroll? they're not going to make me balance a bloody book on my head while walking are they?
Yes I hope they will.
I can only imagine your training being like a scene from the Bridget Fonda movie "Point of No Return" she was very defiant but as time went by she saw how beautiful she could be as a well trained "Lady" this could happen to you as well.
I was told once you become well trained in manners, etiquette, style, grace, demure and allure your hips automatically spread out and you have to spit out a few it's the law! So if you can't handle wide hips don't become a well trained lady.
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Yes I hope they will.
I can only imagine your training being like a scene from the Bridget Fonda movie "Point of No Return" she was very defiant but as time went by she saw how beautiful she could be as a well trained "Lady" this could happen to you as well.
I was told once you become well trained in manners, etiquette, style, grace, demure and allure your hips automatically spread out and you have to spit out a few it's the law! So if you can't handle wide hips don't become a well trained lady.
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Touché
No thanks, ...been there, ...done that. I'm a John Robert Powers grad myself,
...and I have the dents on the top of my feet to prove it. There are a lot of books on my shelf with dented spines.
Truth be told, ...I walk talk, breathe & exude grace, style, poise, and charm ...in the real world.
It's only online that the foul-mouthed biyatch raises up. It's the only place I get to vent.
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Touché
No thanks, ...been there, ...done that. I'm a John Robert Powers grad myself,
...and I have the dents on the top of my feet to prove it. There are a lot of books on my shelf with dented spines.
Truth be told, ...I walk talk, breathe & exude grace, style, poise, and charm ...in the real world.
It's only online that the foul-mouthed biyatch raises up. It's the only place I get to vent.
The duality of the Jaguar lady. It would be hypocritical not to respect that!
You must be very pretty in order to attend a John Robert Powers school system?
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The duality of the Jaguar lady. It would be hypocritical not to respect that!
You must be very pretty in order to attend a John Robert Powers school system?
{blush} :-[ Modesty preludes me from confirming your conclusion, ...but they say a pic is worth 1,000 words ;D
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I find the whole 'dancer' mentality interesting. It's too bad people get all weird when you answer questions because I'm curious how the job has affected your views on men and relationships in general. In the same vein, I get how most women find dancers intimidating.
When I was in my early 20s, I dated a 31 year old stripper for a few months. The most high maintenance person I've ever been around. And also just plain bitter about men, relationships, and life in general.
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{blush} :-[ Modesty preludes me from confirming your conclusion, ...but they say a pic is worth 1,000 words ;D
That was my EX's facial expression during labor and birth?
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That was my EX's facial expression during labor and birth?
Good thing the image is still fresh in your mind. :)
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Good thing the image is still fresh in your mind. :)
Why do you think he doesn't want any more babies? ;D
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Why do you think he doesn't want any more babies? ;D
Are you referring to moi?
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Are you referring to moi?
Unless you hit a urologist office real soon..... expect children.
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Unless you hit a urologist office real soon..... expect children.
I went last summer and after he manipulated my twig and berries during the pre-op consultation I turned into little bissy and never went back, so yes I am still fully loaded with olympic swimmers.
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I went last summer and after he manipulated my twig and berries during the pre-op consultation I turned into little bissy and never went back, so yes I am still fully loaded with olympic swimmers.
To late now, HM.
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Haven't been 'trolling' the girl board lately...
Even if the sex/romance was truely lackluster, the adult thing to do is to discuss it.
cheating and then using that as an excuse is kindergarten politics at it's finest!