Last month my g/f and I celebrated 11 years together.
Nice, good stuff ND...what day? not to be too gay, but me and my GF celebrated two years on Feb 20th.
Valentines day :-X I know gay.
Happily married for 5 years, married 12 yearslol :D
10 years of weddedmiserybliss come next October.
Have been married for two years now
Married for six years this June... Never been happier in my life! :)
Happily married for 5 years, married 12 years
My wife and I just had our 1 year anniversary of being married 2 weeks ago.
My wife and I just had our 1 year anniversary of being married 2 weeks ago.Congrats brother! ;)
getbiggers are running off from this serious thread about GFPffff....... I'm going back to the serious nutsack thread.
edit , together for 10yr married 7 yr
Che has a stunning wife.I hate him for it too. :(
Che has a stunning wife.
I hate him for it too. :(
I hate him for it too. :(
I'm sure the Mighty Time Westcock has a pretty woman too...LOLYes I do,as a matter of fact.
Fuck you too Che ! ;D
;DI love you man. :-*
I love you man. :-*
OUTED!! :D
Married to my handHey no back talk,you know whose name to call out during sex,no wet spot to lay in,no need to hold somebody after you come,etc. etc.
Hey no back talk,you know whose name to call out during sex,no wet spot to lay in,no need to hold somebody after you come,etc. etc.
all good benefits at times! :)
I'm curios as to how many people here are actually in a serious (1 year)...or semi-serious (6 months) relationship.Married, 4 years in May. I love my wife more and more everyday.
I ask GF/BF because there is Tbombz in the mix as well ;D
this isn't a contest either, or me trying to brag...I am sure there are other GBers with attractive girls...we are GBers after all...just wondering how many dudes here are in a committed thing, and how they make it work, what concessions and compromises they have had to make (if any) to stay in a relationship
I married the woman of my dreams. It's been nearly 3 years now.
9 years this June.......Holy shit, I'm old. :'(
yes you are. So am I. I will never get divorced cuz I am too lazy to put in the time to "court" ::) a new bitch.X2 ;D
Married 13 years. Nice dual income. ;D
Dual income? What's your secret?
I made that shit mandatory before we got married..lol.
Married 4 years now, dated for about 12 months, first kiss on our wedding day :PI'm not sure I get this..............
Married 4 years now, dated for about 12 months, first kiss on our wedding day :PSeriously?
Married 4 years now, dated for about 12 months, first kiss on our wedding day :PPlenty of fish?
Plenty of fish?
Last month my g/f and I celebrated 11 years together.
do we count girly-friends?;D
Got married in October, was together 4 years prior. Nothing changed for me after marriage, shit was good before and it's good now. We just put rules in place before hand to make sure it goes smooth. We have no debt, except house payment, and we put an extra $1,000 a month on that so it will be paid off early. From what I have seen, debt and lack of money are the killers of relationships, and I want to do everything possible to control that. Control the controlables, and everything else is cake.You forgot about unkown black stud on the side ;D That could be a killer as well.
You forgot about unkown black stud on the side ;D That could be a killer as well.lol
I've been dumping my load in a married woman. Started 3 years ago. She said her hubby like RATM.
oh gee wizz, are you allright :o ?! Oh my gosh, this is so hoOOowible!
go FUCK yourself, asshole!
Let this be a lesson...don't get overly vested in a relationship! Know when to say WHEN!
my gf decided to end our relationship today. She told me we can still be friends. i told her the only friends i hang out with are my bros.
I'm having pizza night today with a new girl who is into me. Lets see how it works.
Go fuck yourself. Hope this helps. ;D
But in all seriousness, just find something else to break the tension. My wife and I can get close to murdering each other in cold blood and then a friend might pop by and we're all faggy and lovey dovey. The hard part usually is getting rid of the bitches and finding the time apart to cool off.
Maybe hit the gym or do whatever it is you do for a hobby. Just get away from the bitch until she's cooled off. Women are volatile and irrational creatures. They don't care to reason and fix problems, they just like to engage in conflict. My tactic now is to find my happy place and just let my wife get it out of her system without it phasing me. When I used to really get engaged it drove me insane but no I just ride the storm and all is well. 8)
What would you guys do or have you guys done when things in your relationship are not going well. I'm having alot of arguments with my girlfriend and i found out some stuff recently that really hurts inside even if it snot a big deal. Now we are thinking things over and deciding whether to continue our relationship or end it here. Sucks because we had lots of plans for holidays and to me it seems out the blue. Spent the entire day feeling like someone had stabbed me in the gut and got that achey feeling inside. Going to go gym in an hour or so and eat really well to hopefully make myself feel better.
I'm sure i'll get some typical getbigger responses but I am curious as to what some of you did to get over break ups or rough times in your relationship. I kind of feel like a failure aswell and that I should of tried harder and almost like I should have listened to her more. But then I suppose this is a typical reaction when things get bad, you question yourself and your lifestyle. Relationships are hard fucking work!
Domthemilky, I've dealt with broken heart, like "torn to shreds" broken heart, but I rose from it and got stronger and wiser and was glad the relationship ended.
I just don't want another mediocre middle school level therapy thread about relationships where booty and newmom and primemuscle form their fucking group of "wisdome" to help you suckers.
Every person goes through sorrow, hatered and fear. Part of life. Chew it up, swallow it and shit it out.
ye i was supposed to see her tonight after work but she says its probably better we dont see each other. i just said ok and she can think things through, but when u feel like shit its difficult to focus on other things, specially as ive got 2 days off now so im gonna be at home winding myself up.
Yeah, once she chills out it's a whole different ball game. Just don't get sucked into it... I let my wife do that for years and it was really exhausting.
I even tell mine straight up that I'll let her bitch until she gets it out of her system, then when she's willing to not be a retard we can act like adults and hash shit out. She flips shit in the heat of the moment but when she's calm, she'll just roll her eyes and laugh it off because she knows women are crazy bitches. ;D
If things don't work out, the least you can do is make the best of a bad situation and learn from all the mistakes that were made on both ends. I'm not a genius or anything, but I know how NOT to fuck things up because of the mistakes I've made in the past. Same thing applies to anything in life.
hey man idk if you saw, but i started a similar thread up. sucks bro we've all been there, my best advice would just be to take things one day at a time. i dont know your situation, but me and my girl are going through some hard times.
we live together and she has two kids so that plays into it as well, but we are just taking things day by day after we sat down and discussed the whole situation
best of luck man...keep your head up
yeah i know you've probably been through worse but it kinda helps talking to people who have been through the same and just listening. the worst thing is my sitting at home keeping it inside. I know i sound like a pussy ;D and i know i shouldnt feel sorry for myself but its difficult cause I haven't felt like this in so long till now.
This anti male society (the entire planet) has brainwashed us to think that men can't speak about their emotions with other men, or that makes them pussys or fags, EVEN though men have the exact same needs and feelings as women do, how stupid is that.
Womenen are almost the same as men, and it's only healthy to talk with another heterosexual male about sorrow and the feeling of loss. Men allways joke around about sorrow and fear, no wonder men are avaragely much more depressed than women are.
Listen, just think it over. I know how you feel, but life goes on and you will become wiser. And even though you might get laid inbetween these months, you will feel like you've gone forward, but then there will become times you feel a little less comfortable about it, but it means you're going through it and you're gonna make it.
When I lost my "only love of my life, my life energy" girlfriend, I thought I died. But I just changed. It was very hard at the beginning but after 2 months I was able to start moving forward, but it's because I dealth my emotions everyday, I talked to my uncles, my friend, my mom, crying like a baby... but then finally I got the courage to say "tsssh, fuck that" and moved on.
And this was a woman who was my soulmate, believe me. No anti depressants, no weed, no nothing.
Believe in yourself!
I am with the dude who says to never get too emotionally invested in a romantic relationship. They very rarely become anything more than anger, resentment and frustration.
NEVER marry. And if possible, never live with a woman.
With all this said, don't stress about keeping the relationship going. When it stalls, for whatever reason, just ditch it and find another broad. They're a dime a dozen, just like guys are for them.
I learned all this the hard way.
This anti male society (the entire planet) has brainwashed us to think that men can't speak about their emotions with other men, or that makes them pussys or fags, EVEN though men have the exact same needs and feelings as women do, how stupid is that.
Womenen are almost the same as men, and it's only healthy to talk with another heterosexual male about sorrow and the feeling of loss. Men allways joke around about sorrow and fear, no wonder men are avaragely much more depressed than women are.
Listen, just think it over. I know how you feel, but life goes on and you will become wiser. And even though you might get laid inbetween these months, you will feel like you've gone forward, but then there will become times you feel a little less comfortable about it, but it means you're going through it and you're gonna make it.
When I lost my "only love of my life, my life energy" girlfriend, I thought I died. But I just changed. It was very hard at the beginning but after 2 months I was able to start moving forward, but it's because I dealt with my emotions everyday, I talked to my uncles, my friend, my mom, crying like a baby... but then finally I got the courage to say "tsssh, fuck that" and moved on.
And this was a woman who was my soulmate, believe me.
No anti depressants, no weed, no nothing.
Believe in yourself!
cheers man, appreciate it. I went to see my training partner last night and he helped alot and told me not to make any impulsive decisions. i suppose all i can do is wait. I just hate the fact anyone has power over me, i'd much rather be back to the times where all I cared about was going out drinking and attention from girls, but saying that i've had some great experiences with my girlfriend and it would be shame just to throw all that away.
your wife sounds a lot more hot headed than my girlfriend lol. last night it was mainly me getting angry and saying shit and her just apologising but I don't want her to say sorry. i just want her to tell me how she feels. I'm more annoyed she couldn't fucking speak to me about things before it got to this stage. I'm a real laid back guy and I'm up for whatever. Another big issue is her wanting to go travelling and I don't really want to do that, doesn't interest me. but thats another story lol
I know you're right and I know my situation is far better than most peoples. I guess I need to stop being a pussy and just take each day as it comes. I just feel like shit at the moment and its hard to be positive. I appreciate your comments though dude.
What would you guys do or have you guys done when things in your relationship are not going well. I'm having alot of arguments with my girlfriend and i found out some stuff recently that really hurts inside even if it snot a big deal. Now we are thinking things over and deciding whether to continue our relationship or end it here. Sucks because we had lots of plans for holidays and to me it seems out the blue. Spent the entire day feeling like someone had stabbed me in the gut and got that achey feeling inside. Going to go gym in an hour or so and eat really well to hopefully make myself feel better.
I'm sure i'll get some typical getbigger responses but I am curious as to what some of you did to get over break ups or rough times in your relationship. I kind of feel like a failure aswell and that I should of tried harder and almost like I should have listened to her more. But then I suppose this is a typical reaction when things get bad, you question yourself and your lifestyle. Relationships are hard fucking work!
any time man. i hear you bro, idk your age but being 23 it has crossed my mind before.....to go back to the single life...go out, get fucked up, bang random bitches. but while thats all fun and all, at the end of the day its the same shit...spending hundreds of dollars each weekend, possibly getting into fights, and risking catching an std from that random girl you smashed on the beach
but i found a girl that makes me happy and takes care of me. as a man i realize i have a problem and thats why im getting help about it...fuck the whole" im too good for that" attitude. sorry for the rant but just giving you some personal experiences here. again man take it day by day, i know you've heard it before(probably from your mother lol) but things will work out how they're supposed to. keep moving forward!
Yes, hold back, always.
Only tell the girl what she needs to know, not an inch more. As said, I have learned all this the hard way.
Chicks can turn on a dime, unlike most men. One day you're their entire world; the next, someone "from their past" (and they recover emotionally much, MUCH faster than males).
Loyalty is not an attribute found strongly in females.
Make sure there's nothing in your life that you can't walk away from in 30 seconds flat.
yeah i used to drink so often and always love talking to other girls till I met my girlfriend. even when we got together I'd still flirt like crazy and love attention but about a year in things felt alot more serious and I started to actually respect her and stop doing it just because I felt it was wrong. I still get tempted of course when I see a girl that looks amazing but I would never cheat cause I know its never worth it and I didn't want to ruin this. I never drink anymore it would feel so strange to go out 'clubbing'. I also didn't go to Uni because I wanted to stay with this girl and ended up working some crappy job I don't really enjoy but its just a source of income. I probably would of been far better off ending it there but now im in too deep. I'll just have to see whether we will stay together in a few days.
One thing I definetly don't want to do is: be friends or having an on off relationship. I cannot be fucked with all that shit, ive been through it before, the jealousy, the arguments and it never works out. Even though my girlfriend was probably my best friend I would want no contact at all. would be too difficult.
agreed, i could not do the whole friends thing...just too hard. if you havent already sit down and try talking out any differences and really lay everything out
could you walk away from your wife in 30 seconds flat, wes?I was kidding bro,that`s a line from the movie Heat stated by Robert DeNiro.
this is what i wanted to do, but at the moment my temper seems to suddenly erupt out of nowhere and I say stupid things to try feel better. I just can't stand her saying "i don't know" cause it is probably the worst thing she could say, i fucking hate uncerntainty.
I was kidding bro,that`s a line from the movie Heat stated by Robert DeNiro.^^
I feel where you`re coming from trust me dude,been in lots of relationships that took a huge toll on me mentally as well as a few that broke my fucking heart.
These days though,I`m a lot harder to hurt and though I would feel terrible,if leaving was the thing I thought I should do,though it would be hard to do, and if I couldn`t rectify the situation,I would leave.
I used to beat myself up by drinking for months if a relationship went South.........no longer would I hurt myself more than the breakup hurt initially.
Good luck dude.........I just poured out my true feelings and I know I`m gonna` get flamed but fuck it.......won`t be the first time.
Also,I`m a lot older than you and this is partially why I wrote the above post.
All the best bud! ;)
i feel your right about that. Feels like it's going to take me ages to recover and she's probably going to be talking to her friends now and thinking about moving on already. The amount of times I told her last night to fuck off and not speak to me again and she just stood there crying. felt so bad but at the same time I know i shouldn't be sympathetic and that I don't mean it, its just anger taking over my emotions.
^^Thanks bro. ;)
x 1,000,000 Excellent words there WES!!!
What would you guys do or have you guys done when things in your relationship are not going well. I'm having alot of arguments with my girlfriend and i found out some stuff recently that really hurts inside even if it snot a big deal. Now we are thinking things over and deciding whether to continue our relationship or end it here. Sucks because we had lots of plans for holidays and to me it seems out the blue. Spent the entire day feeling like someone had stabbed me in the gut and got that achey feeling inside. Going to go gym in an hour or so and eat really well to hopefully make myself feel better.
I'm sure i'll get some typical getbigger responses but I am curious as to what some of you did to get over break ups or rough times in your relationship. I kind of feel like a failure aswell and that I should of tried harder and almost like I should have listened to her more. But then I suppose this is a typical reaction when things get bad, you question yourself and your lifestyle. Relationships are hard fucking work!
My ex has likely banged multiple cocks, and most of them porbably within a few shorts months of our cancellation as a couple. Girls move on very rapidly. They love you until they decide not to love you anymore. At that point, a dude is history, whether he wants to accept this or not.Shit,on the first few days of a breakup I was crying in my beer and a buddy comes up to me and says he`s just seen my ex living it up and dancing with other guys in another bar having a ball.
As the famous Marlboro Man character (Don Johnson) says in Harley Davidson and the Marlboro Man, "Never chase women or buses. You'll always be left behind."
You just break up and start the process all over again, letting a little piece of yourself die each time, until you eventually become cold and dead inside.
At that point you've become a man.
My ex has likely banged multiple cocks, and most of them porbably within a few shorts months of our cancellation as a couple. Girls move on very rapidly. They love you until they decide not to love you anymore. At that point, a dude is history, whether he wants to accept this or not.
As the famous Marlboro Man character (Don Johnson) says in Harley Davidson and the Marlboro Man, "Never chase women or buses. You'll always be left behind."
I am with the dude who says to never get too emotionally invested in a romantic relationship. They very rarely become anything more than anger, resentment and frustration.
NEVER marry. And if possible, never live with a woman.
With all this said, don't stress about keeping the relationship going. When it stalls, for whatever reason, just ditch it and find another broad. They're a dime a dozen, just like guys are for them.
I learned all this the hard way.
You sound like a miserable, lonely fuck quite honestly
You sound like a miserable, lonely fuck quite honestly
it does sound like a pretty crappy existence, all alone for the rest of ur life, afraid to show ur emotions and open up to a girl. but i suppose you don't get hurt when you do that, but how can you explain to a girl about why you won't commit. unless you're a master of bullshitting, im not.
she went out saturday night drinking, ended up staying at a girlfriends house. then a guy i really dont like just cause hes thinks hes a smooth #### was talking to her for ages. she then slept on the sofa next to him with another one of her girlfriends, apparently nothing happened. thing is i do believe my girlfriend, if she had cheated i think she would just tell me. he then gave her a lift to her friends in the morning and they hugged goodbye. he sent her a message saying your nice and with a smiley face on facebook (lol) and she just wrote a smiley back. she says she is not intersted in him, hes just a nice guy. When i asked her what exactly they spent talking about for ages she said she doesn't remember. the story sounds so bad and maybe im just being an idiot but I believe what she said as she didn't have to tell me any of this.
But she claims to understand exactly why im angry and admits she was out of order. I have told her before I'm not happy with her speaking to this guy as we all know why boys chat to girls, its not for friendship. she acts naive about it originally, which angers the fuck out of me. If she had told me straight up she cheated or wanted tot ake things further with this guy I actually would have found it way easier. The story sounds so bad but part of me does believe her as I do believe she'd tell me honestly if it happened. but i guess you never know....
yes well, this is why it's hard for me to trust women now days, I'd never throw my self at every girl that's "more than good looking" .
Mind you that my relationship ended because I was too thick headed, but overally women now days are human garbage under my eyes. "uuuuh, it wasn't letting him touch me to places and snuggling and getting my pussy wet, it was just an innocent flirt. Yeah he wants to fuck me but I only have his phone number, address and facebook, no big deal", tsssh, lol.
Well, sure. It isn't some big secret few know. What's your point?
Life sucks. At least I accept this and can therefore get down to jamming some rockin' tunes and lifting heavy shit for fun.
am i doomed to become a bitter #### who never wants a proper relationship again? :o
she also says that she hasnt been single in about 6 years as she jumped straight from a previous relationship to this one, but thats not really a valid excuse forbreaking up with someone. she says she doesn't know what single feels like so how can she know wehter she likes it. ahhh fuck my life. lol.
Good thread man. If she is talking to other people and being shady just ingore her. As hard as it might seem I would just be done with her. She sounds like a bitch anyways. Ignore her act like you don't care. Have confidence and conviction about what you do and she will come crawling back. You have to be strong though.
I'm talking about what Fortress said..between that and his other post...he's obviously had a woman do a fucking number on him, and he's bitter.
feel bad for the guy, but don't go telling everyone that all women suck, never commit... because you got fucked over....you ever stop and think it was YOU ?
My point is you shouldn't be giving advice on women, you are a bitter dude who has been burned. sucks for you, no doubt....but don't paint us all with your brush
You sound like a miserable, lonely fuck quite honestly
Of course he is..
Just look at him..
(http://a5.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/267588_101517696610085_100002555650181_12785_3789924_n.jpg)
He looks like a fucking gremlin..
:-X
What woman would want to be with this ugly loser?
Of course he is..
Just look at him..
(http://a5.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/267588_101517696610085_100002555650181_12785_3789924_n.jpg)
He looks like a fucking gremlin..
:-X
What woman would want to be with this ugly loser?
Haha asshole
Of course he is..
Just look at him..
(http://a5.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/267588_101517696610085_100002555650181_12785_3789924_n.jpg)
He looks like a fucking gremlin..
:-X
What woman would want to be with this ugly loser?
she went out saturday night drinking, ended up staying at a girlfriends house. then a guy i really dont like just cause hes thinks hes a smooth #### was talking to her for ages. she then slept on the sofa next to him with another one of her girlfriends, apparently nothing happened. thing is i do believe my girlfriend, if she had cheated i think she would just tell me. he then gave her a lift to her friends in the morning and they hugged goodbye. he sent her a message saying your nice and with a smiley face on facebook (lol) and she just wrote a smiley back. she says she is not intersted in him, hes just a nice guy. When i asked her what exactly they spent talking about for ages she said she doesn't remember. the story sounds so bad and maybe im just being an idiot but I believe what she said as she didn't have to tell me any of this.
But she claims to understand exactly why im angry and admits she was out of order. I have told her before I'm not happy with her speaking to this guy as we all know why boys chat to girls, its not for friendship. she acts naive about it originally, which angers the fuck out of me. If she had told me straight up she cheated or wanted tot ake things further with this guy I actually would have found it way easier. The story sounds so bad but part of me does believe her as I do believe she'd tell me honestly if it happened. but i guess you never know....
she went out saturday night drinking, ended up staying at a girlfriends house. then a guy i really dont like just cause hes thinks hes a smooth #### was talking to her for ages. she then slept on the sofa next to him with another one of her girlfriends, apparently nothing happened. thing is i do believe my girlfriend, if she had cheated i think she would just tell me. he then gave her a lift to her friends in the morning and they hugged goodbye. he sent her a message saying your nice and with a smiley face on facebook (lol) and she just wrote a smiley back. she says she is not intersted in him, hes just a nice guy. When i asked her what exactly they spent talking about for ages she said she doesn't remember. the story sounds so bad and maybe im just being an idiot but I believe what she said as she didn't have to tell me any of this.
But she claims to understand exactly why im angry and admits she was out of order. I have told her before I'm not happy with her speaking to this guy as we all know why boys chat to girls, its not for friendship. she acts naive about it originally, which angers the fuck out of me. If she had told me straight up she cheated or wanted tot ake things further with this guy I actually would have found it way easier. The story sounds so bad but part of me does believe her as I do believe she'd tell me honestly if it happened. but i guess you never know....
What the fuck is he doing in that picture ? is he making a fist at the weights?...us?....his ex?
yup, seems to me she thinks relationships are one dimensional, just for fun theatrik. And seems she doesn't really even care, she just hold on to him because she knows he will atleast kiss her ass and tell her she's ammazing which fuels her empty tank of selfesteem.
Forget about her, but you need to sharpen your senses when it comes to women.
I was going to reply to your first post and say there's another guy involved, women never swing off one dick unless they have a firm hold over another, then sure enough I read this.My personal feeling is that you shouldnt get serious with any woman under 35, as they still are too easy to jump from cock to cock.And I can tell you with a high degree of certainty that she's lying to you about what went on.
she went out saturday night drinking, ended up staying at a girlfriends house. then a guy i really dont like just cause hes thinks hes a smooth #### was talking to her for ages. she then slept on the sofa next to him with another one of her girlfriends, apparently nothing happened. thing is i do believe my girlfriend, if she had cheated i think she would just tell me. he then gave her a lift to her friends in the morning and they hugged goodbye. he sent her a message saying your nice and with a smiley face on facebook (lol) and she just wrote a smiley back. she says she is not intersted in him, hes just a nice guy. When i asked her what exactly they spent talking about for ages she said she doesn't remember. the story sounds so bad and maybe im just being an idiot but I believe what she said as she didn't have to tell me any of this.
What would you guys do or have you guys done when things in your relationship are not going well. I'm having alot of arguments with my girlfriend and i found out some stuff recently that really hurts inside even if it snot a big deal. Now we are thinking things over and deciding whether to continue our relationship or end it here. Sucks because we had lots of plans for holidays and to me it seems out the blue. Spent the entire day feeling like someone had stabbed me in the gut and got that achey feeling inside. Going to go gym in an hour or so and eat really well to hopefully make myself feel better.Yet another Beta. ::)
I'm sure i'll get some typical getbigger responses but I am curious as to what some of you did to get over break ups or rough times in your relationship. I kind of feel like a failure aswell and that I should of tried harder and almost like I should have listened to her more. But then I suppose this is a typical reaction when things get bad, you question yourself and your lifestyle. Relationships are hard fucking work!
phew, can't be my wife cuz i'm a springsteen, not RATM, fan. ;D
I'm curios as to how many people here are actually in a serious (1 year)...or semi-serious (6 months) relationship.a year and a half for me, will probably end soon since i want to live in another province and we don't have the same goals as far as children goes and shits like that
I ask GF/BF because there is Tbombz in the mix as well ;D
this isn't a contest either, or me trying to brag...I am sure there are other GBers with attractive girls...we are GBers after all...just wondering how many dudes here are in a committed thing, and how they make it work, what concessions and compromises they have had to make (if any) to stay in a relationship
she went out saturday night drinking, ended up staying at a girlfriends house. then a guy i really dont like just cause hes thinks hes a smooth #### was talking to her for ages. she then slept on the sofa next to him with another one of her girlfriends, apparently nothing happened. thing is i do believe my girlfriend, if she had cheated i think she would just tell me. he then gave her a lift to her friends in the morning and they hugged goodbye. he sent her a message saying your nice and with a smiley face on facebook (lol) and she just wrote a smiley back. she says she is not intersted in him, hes just a nice guy. When i asked her what exactly they spent talking about for ages she said she doesn't remember. the story sounds so bad and maybe im just being an idiot but I believe what she said as she didn't have to tell me any of this.
But she claims to understand exactly why im angry and admits she was out of order. I have told her before I'm not happy with her speaking to this guy as we all know why boys chat to girls, its not for friendship. she acts naive about it originally, which angers the fuck out of me. If she had told me straight up she cheated or wanted tot ake things further with this guy I actually would have found it way easier. The story sounds so bad but part of me does believe her as I do believe she'd tell me honestly if it happened. but i guess you never know....
I'm getting married in a couple months and if my girl gave me some story about passing out beside some douchebag on a couch, I'd kick her ass out and call it off.
You gotta have self-respect...because the only person you're guaranteed to wind up with is yourself.
Ive been were you are...the thing that helped me most was to cut my losses, cut all ties, say "fuck bitches" and work an ass load of OT at work and put in some big time workouts. Build yourself up from the inside-out, and do it only for your benefit. Become a man you're proud to be, then decent chicks will start showing you some attention instead of these scandalous drama-queen skanks.
Self-respect....be proud to be you....and life kinda starts getting easy.
guy you're dreaming.
even if you catch her with the guy banging her she'll find an excuse or just tell you "it's not what you think, believe me".
girl are patologic liar.
they lie, and they lie about the lie they told.
she had sex with the "friend". period. she didn't sleep next to him and nothing happened.
the shitty smiley on facebook is just a code to say "sex was great tonight".
dump her.
spot on.
guy you're dreaming.
even if you catch her with the guy banging her she'll find an excuse or just tell you "it's not what you think, believe me".
girl are patologic liar.
they lie, and they lie about the lie they told.
she had sex with the "friend". period. she didn't sleep next to him and nothing happened.
the shitty smiley on facebook is just a code to say "sex was great tonight".
dump her.
I'm getting married in a couple months and if my girl gave me some story about passing out beside some douchebag on a couch, I'd kick her ass out and call it off.
You gotta have self-respect...because the only person you're guaranteed to wind up with is yourself.
Ive been were you are...the thing that helped me most was to cut my losses, cut all ties, say "fuck bitches" and work an ass load of OT at work and put in some big time workouts. Build yourself up from the inside-out, and do it only for your benefit. Become a man you're proud to be, then decent chicks will start showing you some attention instead of these scandalous drama-queen skanks.
Self-respect....be proud to be you....and life kinda starts getting easy.
she went out saturday night drinking, ended up staying at a girlfriends house. then a guy i really dont like just cause hes thinks hes a smooth #### was talking to her for ages. she then slept on the sofa next to him with another one of her girlfriends, apparently nothing happened. thing is i do believe my girlfriend, if she had cheated i think she would just tell me. he then gave her a lift to her friends in the morning and they hugged goodbye. he sent her a message saying your nice and with a smiley face on facebook (lol) and she just wrote a smiley back. she says she is not intersted in him, hes just a nice guy. When i asked her what exactly they spent talking about for ages she said she doesn't remember. the story sounds so bad and maybe im just being an idiot but I believe what she said as she didn't have to tell me any of this.
But she claims to understand exactly why im angry and admits she was out of order. I have told her before I'm not happy with her speaking to this guy as we all know why boys chat to girls, its not for friendship. she acts naive about it originally, which angers the fuck out of me. If she had told me straight up she cheated or wanted tot ake things further with this guy I actually would have found it way easier. The story sounds so bad but part of me does believe her as I do believe she'd tell me honestly if it happened. but i guess you never know....
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I was done over once too. April 1, 2002. That bastard day got forever seared into my mind.
Changed me you know. I'm still changed because of that.
The last 10 years I've been in relationships on and off, but nothing came close the the fire and love I felt for her. Nothing came close.
I sort off got over it but still look at her pic on and off. Wondering what if. Some happy occasion where we went mountain climbing, another were we went paddling, walking, playing tennis. We looked young and happy. Smiling. I was so happy that time I was with her. True-always-goofy-smiling happiness. When she rang, when I saw her, when she touched me, my heart started fucking singing. I know, I know, so what?
But you know, perhaps the fire was too great and burnt us. That damned night she told me she 'wanted some space and come up for air' .... I'm not ashamed to say I drove around aimless in my car, sobbing like a little girl. I remember giving my phone to my best buddy so I couldn't call her and beg her to come back. For weeks I had no phone. That night, it rained heavy early evening and later I drove on some stretch of road near her town, just so I could feel close to her, hoping that me being near would melt her. For some reason I kept thinking; 'rain can melt ice. Rain can melt ice'. As long as it rained, I felt there was hope. God knows why. Perhaps I really got crazy the first few weeks after.
She lived an hour away from me in a different city and I would drive over twice a day, sometimes three times and just drive around, feeling closer because it was her city. When I drove past her flat and saw her car parked there, I died a little every time. We were so close man. We took her car and went racing on Sundays. Now it sat there, lonely in a car park on windy, warm, nostalgic, lonely Sunday afternoons, with just memories left. Just a few short weeks ago, we were so happy. We were in the car, happy. that's what I kept thinking. Yes yes, I did myself no favors. So what?
Aight, enough with the bitching. With a purely brutal effort of will, I forced myself to viciously cut her from my mind and snapped out of my funk. She never existed to me. After 3 months she got in touch, wondering how I was. I smashed my phone and burned my SIM card. Now try and get in touch with me bitch. All the while still I would've sold my mother into Africa as a prostitute to get her back. But I knew she was gone. Perhaps I should've begged, maybe she would've came back to me. Perhaps my life would've been TOTALLY different today, But it's the only way I felt somewhat in control. If only the littlest of control since inside me I was being tossed around as if in a never ending tempest.
I finally moved away from my town in 2004, across country away from that shitty past. The night before the removal truck came, I sent her a sms. Almost two years from last speaking to her. She sent back immediately that she was so happy that I got in touch and told her about me. I told her that I'm pleased we got to spend a short time together and we had a laugh about the old days. Her final sms was her wishing me 'happiness and a big green tree in my back garden', fuck knows what that meant, but it made me smile. These days when I wish somehow well for something, I always wish for them to have a big green tree in their backgardens. It does get its fair share of funny looks.
So 10 years later where am I? Cannot commit for too long because that fire I had with her isn't there anymore. Somehow it's gone. I look at girls and think 'The moment I'm sick of your vagina, you're gone'. I'm NOT scared of letting anyone in because nobody will truly ever match up so what pain can I possibly feel?
Anyway, enough of this. Gotta get to the gym. Legs. Fucking legs >:(
Coming up a TLDR ...
I was done over once too. April 1, 2002. That bastard day got forever seared into my mind.
Changed me you know. I'm still changed because of that.
The last 10 years I've been in relationships on and off, but nothing came close the the fire and love I felt for her. Nothing came close.
I sort off got over it but still look at her pic on and off. Wondering what if. Some happy occasion where we went mountain climbing, another were we went paddling, walking, playing tennis. We looked young and happy. Smiling. I was so happy that time I was with her. True-always-goofy-smiling happiness. When she rang, when I saw her, when she touched me, my heart started fucking singing. I know, I know, so what?
But you know, perhaps the fire was too great and burnt us. That damned night she told me she 'wanted some space and come up for air' .... I'm not ashamed to say I drove around aimless in my car, sobbing like a little girl. I remember giving my phone to my best buddy so I couldn't call her and beg her to come back. For weeks I had no phone. That night, it rained heavy early evening and later I drove on some stretch of road near her town, just so I could feel close to her, hoping that me being near would melt her. For some reason I kept thinking; 'rain can melt ice. Rain can melt ice'. As long as it rained, I felt there was hope. God knows why. Perhaps I really got crazy the first few weeks after.
She lived an hour away from me in a different city and I would drive over twice a day, sometimes three times and just drive around, feeling closer because it was her city. When I drove past her flat and saw her car parked there, I died a little every time. We were so close man. We took her car and went racing on Sundays. Now it sat there, lonely in a car park on windy, warm, nostalgic, lonely Sunday afternoons, with just memories left. Just a few short weeks ago, we were so happy. We were in the car, happy. that's what I kept thinking. Yes yes, I did myself no favors. So what?
Aight, enough with the bitching. With a purely brutal effort of will, I forced myself to viciously cut her from my mind and snapped out of my funk. She never existed to me. After 3 months she got in touch, wondering how I was. I smashed my phone and burned my SIM card. Now try and get in touch with me bitch. All the while still I would've sold my mother into Africa as a prostitute to get her back. But I knew she was gone. Perhaps I should've begged, maybe she would've came back to me. Perhaps my life would've been TOTALLY different today, But it's the only way I felt somewhat in control. If only the littlest of control since inside me I was being tossed around as if in a never ending tempest.
I finally moved away from my town in 2004, across country away from that shitty past. The night before the removal truck came, I sent her a sms. Almost two years from last speaking to her. She sent back immediately that she was so happy that I got in touch and told her about me. I told her that I'm pleased we got to spend a short time together and we had a laugh about the old days. Her final sms was her wishing me 'happiness and a big green tree in my back garden', fuck knows what that meant, but it made me smile. These days when I wish somehow well for something, I always wish for them to have a big green tree in their backgardens. It does get its fair share of funny looks.
So 10 years later where am I? Cannot commit for too long because that fire I had with her isn't there anymore. Somehow it's gone. I look at girls and think 'The moment I'm sick of your vagina, you're gone'. I'm NOT scared of letting anyone in because nobody will truly ever match up so what pain can I possibly feel?
Anyway, enough of this. Gotta get to the gym. Legs. Fucking legs >:(
a year and a half for me, will probably end soon since i want to live in another province and we don't have the same goals as far as children goes and shits like that
I'm getting married in a couple months and if my girl gave me some story about passing out beside some douchebag on a couch, I'd kick her ass out and call it off.
You gotta have self-respect...because the only person you're guaranteed to wind up with is yourself.
Ive been were you are...the thing that helped me most was to cut my losses, cut all ties, say "fuck bitches" and work an ass load of OT at work and put in some big time workouts. Build yourself up from the inside-out, and do it only for your benefit. Become a man you're proud to be, then decent chicks will start showing you some attention instead of these scandalous drama-queen skanks.
Self-respect....be proud to be you....and life kinda starts getting easy.
Try to work things out via conversation and understanding each other, also go out and visit places you two have been before and had fun, it should bring back good memories and eventually tie you back.
Coming up a TLDR ...
I was done over once too. April 1, 2002. That bastard day got forever seared into my mind.
Changed me you know. I'm still changed because of that.
The last 10 years I've been in relationships on and off, but nothing came close the the fire and love I felt for her. Nothing came close.
I sort off got over it but still look at her pic on and off. Wondering what if. Some happy occasion where we went mountain climbing, another were we went paddling, walking, playing tennis. We looked young and happy. Smiling. I was so happy that time I was with her. True-always-goofy-smiling happiness. When she rang, when I saw her, when she touched me, my heart started fucking singing. I know, I know, so what?
But you know, perhaps the fire was too great and burnt us. That damned night she told me she 'wanted some space and come up for air' .... I'm not ashamed to say I drove around aimless in my car, sobbing like a little girl. I remember giving my phone to my best buddy so I couldn't call her and beg her to come back. For weeks I had no phone. That night, it rained heavy early evening and later I drove on some stretch of road near her town, just so I could feel close to her, hoping that me being near would melt her. For some reason I kept thinking; 'rain can melt ice. Rain can melt ice'. As long as it rained, I felt there was hope. God knows why. Perhaps I really got crazy the first few weeks after.
She lived an hour away from me in a different city and I would drive over twice a day, sometimes three times and just drive around, feeling closer because it was her city. When I drove past her flat and saw her car parked there, I died a little every time. We were so close man. We took her car and went racing on Sundays. Now it sat there, lonely in a car park on windy, warm, nostalgic, lonely Sunday afternoons, with just memories left. Just a few short weeks ago, we were so happy. We were in the car, happy. that's what I kept thinking. Yes yes, I did myself no favors. So what?
Aight, enough with the bitching. With a purely brutal effort of will, I forced myself to viciously cut her from my mind and snapped out of my funk. She never existed to me. After 3 months she got in touch, wondering how I was. I smashed my phone and burned my SIM card. Now try and get in touch with me bitch. All the while still I would've sold my mother into Africa as a prostitute to get her back. But I knew she was gone. Perhaps I should've begged, maybe she would've came back to me. Perhaps my life would've been TOTALLY different today, But it's the only way I felt somewhat in control. If only the littlest of control since inside me I was being tossed around as if in a never ending tempest.
I finally moved away from my town in 2004, across country away from that shitty past. The night before the removal truck came, I sent her a sms. Almost two years from last speaking to her. She sent back immediately that she was so happy that I got in touch and told her about me. I told her that I'm pleased we got to spend a short time together and we had a laugh about the old days. Her final sms was her wishing me 'happiness and a big green tree in my back garden', fuck knows what that meant, but it made me smile. These days when I wish somehow well for something, I always wish for them to have a big green tree in their backgardens. It does get its fair share of funny looks.
So 10 years later where am I? Cannot commit for too long because that fire I had with her isn't there anymore. Somehow it's gone. I look at girls and think 'The moment I'm sick of your vagina, you're gone'. I'm NOT scared of letting anyone in because nobody will truly ever match up so what pain can I possibly feel?
Anyway, enough of this. Gotta get to the gym. Legs. Fucking legs >:(
I am also a changed man where women are concerned.
I hope it isn't the case, but I find it difficult to conceive of a time when I will again trust a female in a romantic context.
James, same year, different date and somewhat different circumstances. I had broken up with her, only because I realized the necessity of the situation.
She had made 2 comments that stood out during our relationship for which she desperately needed to be called on the carpet. Plus, her mother was trying to get way too far into my business.
I didn't go so far as you did to see her, because I saw her almost every day because of our jobs.
Breaking up with her was like committing Seppuku and I knew the pain in my gut would last for a few months. But that empty feeling was going to have to be, as it was well worth the trade off of dealing with her lunatic mother for the next 30 plus years (think of the Mom in Carrie, only a fringe Christian). Her mother was so crazy that she told me that my grandfather, who had been the first president of our Catholic Church, served in WWII, was most certainly in hell because of his Catholic Faith.
The next few months I went on a rampage of hook ups and I honestly felt like Patrick Bateman. I simply wasn't there.
Jon, realize I had been in a number of relationships prior to the one I am speaking of. And anyone that tells you that they are still friends with their exes has no backbone. I am friends with exactly one of my exes and that is because we both realize that our fondness for each other was borne out of intellectual respect. We should have been contemporaries in our field, not intimate.
Besides, unless you have children with a person, why would you still want to know what is going on in their lives after you are broken up? Wish them well, sure. But do you want to talk to a girl about how she went shopping with her friends, or how she got drunk one night and ended up sleeping with a total loser?
Anyhow, back to the original topic. One of the comments that stood out to me was when she was doing something that had really annoyed me. Her friends from "church" would meet up for fun every couple of weeks. It was always innocent, they would make dinner, watch movies and play board games. Well, I knew for a fact that one of the dorky dudes had expressed an interest in her, and was trying to drive a wedge between she and I. I never blow up at a girl, but I did express my displeasure of her attending these gatherings where there was very clearly a person who was trying to poison our well. She told me how much she loved me, wanted to have my children, etc.
Somewhat jokingly she said: "What are you going to do if I continue to go? Break up with me? You would never break up with me." I gave her a cold look and calmly said: "You want me to call your bluff?" She responded that she was just joking and that I was her soulmate, yadda yadda yadda.
The other thing she told me is how her mother taught her that the man should always be more in love with the woman, than the woman is with the man. That will keep a man honest. I told her that her mother was crazy, and that a relationship is not a competition, and that you shouldn't keep score.
Realize, much like James, up to this point in my life, this was the greatest sex I ever had. This girl could cook up a storm, keep a home immaculate, and loved having sex. What more could you ask for?
But, a man has to have his principles. And I don't care how hot, how horny, how good a cook a girl is, I wasn't going to let a comment like that slide. From a psychological standpoint, her comment was what I call "planting a seed of doubt".
1-dump her instantly
2-mother isuue dump her
I have intimate but futureless sex with a mentally ill woman on a semiregular basis and am too busy/lazy/cynical to seek out a better woman for the long term, so I don't know what the hell to call that but thanks for making me put into words how lame it is.
Who cares how much you see your tranny girlfriend. Why make a thread about it.
usually i cant stand a girl anymore after I fuck her more than 3 times and I tend to avoid a girl if Im in love with her
Coming up a TLDR ...I love ya man, but........... outed
I was done over once too. April 1, 2002. That bastard day got forever seared into my mind.
Changed me you know. I'm still changed because of that.
The last 10 years I've been in relationships on and off, but nothing came close the the fire and love I felt for her. Nothing came close.
I sort off got over it but still look at her pic on and off. Wondering what if. Some happy occasion where we went mountain climbing, another were we went paddling, walking, playing tennis. We looked young and happy. Smiling. I was so happy that time I was with her. True-always-goofy-smiling happiness. When she rang, when I saw her, when she touched me, my heart started fucking singing. I know, I know, so what?
But you know, perhaps the fire was too great and burnt us. That damned night she told me she 'wanted some space and come up for air' .... I'm not ashamed to say I drove around aimless in my car, sobbing like a little girl. I remember giving my phone to my best buddy so I couldn't call her and beg her to come back. For weeks I had no phone. That night, it rained heavy early evening and later I drove on some stretch of road near her town, just so I could feel close to her, hoping that me being near would melt her. For some reason I kept thinking; 'rain can melt ice. Rain can melt ice'. As long as it rained, I felt there was hope. God knows why. Perhaps I really got crazy the first few weeks after.
She lived an hour away from me in a different city and I would drive over twice a day, sometimes three times and just drive around, feeling closer because it was her city. When I drove past her flat and saw her car parked there, I died a little every time. We were so close man. We took her car and went racing on Sundays. Now it sat there, lonely in a car park on windy, warm, nostalgic, lonely Sunday afternoons, with just memories left. Just a few short weeks ago, we were so happy. We were in the car, happy. that's what I kept thinking. Yes yes, I did myself no favors. So what?
Aight, enough with the bitching. With a purely brutal effort of will, I forced myself to viciously cut her from my mind and snapped out of my funk. She never existed to me. After 3 months she got in touch, wondering how I was. I smashed my phone and burned my SIM card. Now try and get in touch with me bitch. All the while still I would've sold my mother into Africa as a prostitute to get her back. But I knew she was gone. Perhaps I should've begged, maybe she would've came back to me. Perhaps my life would've been TOTALLY different today, But it's the only way I felt somewhat in control. If only the littlest of control since inside me I was being tossed around as if in a never ending tempest.
I finally moved away from my town in 2004, across country away from that shitty past. The night before the removal truck came, I sent her a sms. Almost two years from last speaking to her. She sent back immediately that she was so happy that I got in touch and told her about me. I told her that I'm pleased we got to spend a short time together and we had a laugh about the old days. Her final sms was her wishing me 'happiness and a big green tree in my back garden', fuck knows what that meant, but it made me smile. These days when I wish somehow well for something, I always wish for them to have a big green tree in their backgardens. It does get its fair share of funny looks.
So 10 years later where am I? Cannot commit for too long because that fire I had with her isn't there anymore. Somehow it's gone. I look at girls and think 'The moment I'm sick of your vagina, you're gone'. I'm NOT scared of letting anyone in because nobody will truly ever match up so what pain can I possibly feel?
Anyway, enough of this. Gotta get to the gym. Legs. Fucking legs >:(
I love ya man, but........... outed
I'm curios as to how many people here are actually in a serious (1 year)...or semi-serious (6 months) relationship.I'm married and happy. Wife and I went to the Hard Rock the other night. We saw a lot of single desperate guys hoping to get some ass. Most probably went home alone. Most here say they enjoy the single life but I highly doubt it. Going home to an empty house every night seems like a lonely and sad existence.
I ask GF/BF because there is Tbombz in the mix as well ;D
this isn't a contest either, or me trying to brag...I am sure there are other GBers with attractive girls...we are GBers after all...just wondering how many dudes here are in a committed thing, and how they make it work, what concessions and compromises they have had to make (if any) to stay in a relationship
Finally met a great girl who will do anything for me after a string of shitty dramatic relationships. However I am not as attracted to this girl physically as I am to a lot of women. Am I stupid for staying because she is an incredible woman, or am I finally growing up and realizing looks aren't everything?Looks fade personality is forever. You're welcome.
I'm married and happy. Wife and I went to the Hard Rock the other night. We saw a lot of single desperate guys hoping to get some ass. Most probably went home alone. Most here say they enjoy the single life but I highly doubt it. Going home to an empty house every night seems like a lonely and sad existence.
It sure is if you're a type of person that can't function too well alone. It sucks then.I did function well alone. I didn't get married until I was in my thirties. I don't believe anyone should get married until they are past their twenties. In your twenties you don't know who you are or what you want. Now that I'm married I am a lot happier. I have my best friend who I know will be there for me in the end.
I'm curios as to how many people here are actually in a serious (1 year)...or semi-serious (6 months) relationship.
I ask GF/BF because there is Tbombz in the mix as well ;D
this isn't a contest either, or me trying to brag...I am sure there are other GBers with attractive girls...we are GBers after all...just wondering how many dudes here are in a committed thing, and how they make it work, what concessions and compromises they have had to make (if any) to stay in a relationship
I did function well alone. I didn't get married until I was in my thirties. I don't believe anyone should get married until they are past their twenties. In your twenties you don't know who you are or what you want. Now that I'm married I am a lot happier. I have my best friend who I know will be there for me in the end.
Yea I'd love to have that too. Although I'm slowly coming to believe that we all have one great love in our lives and some people get to marry them, others lose them. Everything after that will never compare really. Oh, it'll be good, but that feeling, that impact, that torrent of emotions you only get to experience once. After that, you settle as best you can. I lost my great love and while I've had wonderful girlfriends in the past that were good people, they just didn't live up to that benchmark my great love set.
But I still have faith.
I don't have a gf, not even pussy on rare occasion of course unless I pay for it. Get this a woman I don't invites me to Las Vegas, even rents the room at Planet Hollywood and guess where I got to sleep: that's right on the fucking couch. That's how much of a loser I'm with women. The woman looks like a brown troll and I got shitted on. There's no hope, man. Actually gh15 says when he lays out his protocols in the new website I can least one girl to fuck me for free. Imagine that an actual woman that likes me and wants to have sex w/me, that'd be like a dream come true.
Approved.
I'm married and happy. Wife and I went to the Hard Rock the other night. We saw a lot of single desperate guys hoping to gets some ass. Most probably went home alone. Most here say they enjoy the single life but I highly doubt it. Going home to an empty house every night seems like a lonely and sad existence.
I agree. one of my best friends was a confirmed bachelor for the longest time, good looking guy with a TON of money... and would give me shit all the time about how important my relationship is to me, tell me I'm nuts for being with the same girl, I'm a good looking guy, I should be out there with him knocking them down, my woman runs my life, why do i put up with her shit. And she isn't even like that, she's chill... he was just soured to being in a serious thing
Well he met a girl 4 months ago, he's engaged now and she's moving in..and boy has his tune changed LOL, he can't shut up about her....and I've said to him.."see, it's different when you care about someone...you'll do anything for her, right?'...and he agrees with me.
I could break his balls mercilessly about his total 180, but I'm not that kind of guy..I'm happy for him and hope it lasts.
You just break up and start the process all over again, letting a little piece of yourself die each time, until you eventually become cold and dead inside.
At that point you've become a man.
I agree. one of my best friends was a confirmed bachelor for the longest time, good looking guy with a TON of money... and would give me shit all the time about how important my relationship is to me, tell me I'm nuts for being with the same girl, I'm a good looking guy, I should be out there with him knocking them down, my woman runs my life, why do i put up with her shit. And she isn't even like that, she's chill... he was just soured to being in a serious thingPeople have to be mental to get engaged after only dating for months. It's like marriage doesn't mean shit anymore. "Oh well if it doesn't work out, i'll just get a divorce and try again!"
Well he met a girl 4 months ago, he's engaged now and she's moving in..and boy has his tune changed LOL, he can't shut up about her....and I've said to him.."see, it's different when you care about someone...you'll do anything for her, right?'...and he agrees with me.
I could break his balls mercilessly about his total 180, but I'm not that kind of guy..I'm happy for him and hope it lasts.
Wow. Quick engagement. Did he have time to really think things through.. with his "tons of money" and all?
10 years of weddedShe must hate your fucking guts. Probably a fall down drunk too.miserybliss come next October.
I did function well alone. I didn't get married until I was in my thirties. I don't believe anyone should get married until they are past their twenties. In your twenties you don't know who you are or what you want. Now that I'm married I am a lot happier. I have my best friend who I know will be there for me in the end.Same here. Didn't get married until I was 32. That's when I was finally certain I could leave the fucking around scene. Got it all out of my system (the wife as well, used to be a bigger slut than me), so I never feel like I'm missing out on anything.
I'm curios as to how many people here are actually in a serious (1 year)...or semi-serious (6 months) relationship.
I ask GF/BF because there is Tbombz in the mix as well ;D
this isn't a contest either, or me trying to brag...I am sure there are other GBers with attractive girls...we are GBers after all...just wondering how many dudes here are in a committed thing, and how they make it work, what concessions and compromises they have had to make (if any) to stay in a relationship
I agree. one of my best friends was a confirmed bachelor for the longest time, good looking guy with a TON of money... and would give me shit all the time about how important my relationship is to me, tell me I'm nuts for being with the same girl, I'm a good looking guy, I should be out there with him knocking them down, my woman runs my life, why do i put up with her shit. And she isn't even like that, she's chill... he was just soured to being in a serious thinghttp://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?topic=394976.250
Well he met a girl 4 months ago, he's engaged now and she's moving in..and boy has his tune changed LOL, he can't shut up about her....and I've said to him.."see, it's different when you care about someone...you'll do anything for her, right?'...and he agrees with me.
I could break his balls mercilessly about his total 180, but I'm not that kind of guy..I'm happy for him and hope it lasts.
I did function well alone. I didn't get married until I was in my thirties. I don't believe anyone should get married until they are past their twenties. In your twenties you don't know who you are or what you want. Now that I'm married I am a lot happier. I have my best friend who I know will be there for me in the end.
If you don't trust your mother 100%, you will never trust any other woman on the planet. It's not good, its not bad, its just the way it is.
Age has no bearing on when you find the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. I married at 20 years of age. I am 67 years old and still madly in love with the woman I married way back then. Like with you, she is my best friend and lover forever. Incidentally, both of our kids married young (in their twenties) and are still happily married.
I married a gal so unlike the "gal that married dear old dad." If you mean by trusting your mother, you are saying she was faithful to your dad, then I would agree that I think you have a point in some cases. However, I also must tell you that it pays to get over it. Some folks spend their whole miserable lives blaming everything on having a "dysfunctional" childhood. Believe it or not, one is not committed to repeat their parents' mistakes. My mom had several lovers and three husbands. I married the girl of my dreams when I was still a kid. Next October, that girl and I will have been married for 48 years. She is the polar opposite of my mom....god rest her soul.
Quote from: A Professional on March 12, 2012, 11:16:47 AM
You just break up and start the process all over again, letting a little piece of yourself die each time, until you eventually become cold and dead inside.
At that point you've become a man.
Depends. This is what happen to atheists who are unable to have faith in anything/anyone and who are simply told to fuck other people up to insure their own survival. Atheists have a great "magical" childhood being spoonfed and spoiled by their divorced parents and then growing up have a hard time realizing they re just powerless animals with very limited possibilities like all single life form on earth, reproducing subconsciously most of the time patterns they learnt from their own caregivers, and whose sole purpose everyday is to ...survive, facing the competition of other life forms. Believers dont have that problem as they re able to give a meaning to their existence, are more low profile/humble, able to be satisfied with what they have instead of always wanting more. Basically atheists grow up the wrong way while believers grow up the healthy -psychologically, spiritually speaking- way.???
This is why religion is important; it allows one to get better with age instead of getting more miserable. Being able to say "this is good, this is bad, I'm on that side of the fence" , being able everyday to place yourself in the grand scheme of thing is just fundamental for one's mental balance. Atheists think that all that matter is to dominate at all costs and that only this will insure their "hapiness". Obviously when their strenghts start to disapear, melt over time, they re left with nothing else, as they developed no spirituality and global understanding of life, only a cynical view of the world that made them focus solely on themselves. As a result others dont care about them anymore, as they never cared about others anyway.
???The Best is sometimes the enemy of the Good. You should know that if you re into asian philosophies/religions as it is a core principle of buddhism for example.
like my wise grandfather always said, a good woman is a dead one.
I'm curios as to how many people here are actually in a serious (1 year)...or semi-serious (6 months) relationship.Married. Going on 2 years. Son on the way. Life is good.
I ask GF/BF because there is Tbombz in the mix as well ;D
this isn't a contest either, or me trying to brag...I am sure there are other GBers with attractive girls...we are GBers after all...just wondering how many dudes here are in a committed thing, and how they make it work, what concessions and compromises they have had to make (if any) to stay in a relationship
Depends.
This is what happen to atheists who are unable to have faith in anything/anyone and who are simply told to fuck other people up to insure their own survival. Atheists have a great "magical" childhood being spoonfed and spoiled by their divorced parents and then growing up have a hard time realizing they re just powerless animals with very limited possibilities like all life forms on earth, reproducing subconsciously most of the time patterns they learnt from their own caregivers, and whose sole purpose everyday is to ...survive, facing the competition of other life forms. Believers dont have that problem as they re able to give a meaning to their existence, are more low profile/humble, able to be satisfied with what they have instead of always wanting more. Basically atheists grow up the wrong way while believers grow up the healthy -psychologically, spiritually speaking- way. Believers enjoy shaping a better world and are working on it through every single of their actions and thoughts while atheists willingly live in a "free for all" kind of lifestyle/mentality every single day.
This is why religion is important; it allows one to get better with age instead of getting more miserable. Being able to say "this is good, this is bad, I'm on that side of the fence" , being able everyday to place yourself in the grand scheme of thing is just fundamental for one's mental balance. Atheists think that all that matter is to dominate at all costs and that only this will insure their "hapiness". That life is absurd and it's only all about survival of the fittest/strongest. It's all good as long as they re in a position of power, it starts to get nasty whent hey lose that position of power for whatever reasons. Obviously when their strenghts start to disapear, melt over time, they re left with nothing else, as they developed no spirituality and global understanding of life, only a cynical view of the world that made them focus solely on themselves. As a result others dont care about them anymore, as they never cared about others anyway.
The same goes for religious folks
Cheers.
The Best is sometimes the enemy of the Good. You should know that if you re into asian philosophies/religions as it is a core principle of buddhism for example.I can see that.
Valentines day :-X I know gay.
Ive heard that the woman you will be together for the next of your life is like an idol of your mother or something like that..like boys have their mothers as an ideal for a wife and marry a girl with the same personality and/or the same appearence.
You suck dick while you're married.
Your input is worthless here.
Ive heard that the woman you will be together for the next of your life is like an idol of your mother or something like that..like boys have their mothers as an ideal for a wife and marry a girl with the same personality and/or the same appearence.
As crazy as it sounds I think this is true as well. Classic Oedipus Complex.
Don't you suppose this depends on what ones mother was/is like? If I were looking for a mother, someone like my mother wouldn't have been the kind of person I would chose. She was more like a buddy then a mother. When I married my wife, I was looking for someone who would eventually be the mother or our children. My wife has more mothering instincts than my mom ever did. Likewise, if I was picking a wife, I would not chose someone like my mother because she was a difficult wife to both my dad and my stepdad. She was definitely a "high maintenance" kind of woman. My wife is the oposite of my mother in every respect. That is exactly what I was hoping for when we got married,It does. Its not as simple as "Will find a mother identicle to theirs".
It does. Its not as simple as "Will find a mother identicle to theirs".
If there mother was a piece of shit, and they know it, theyre not going to settle down with a broad that reminds them of their mom.
Much more complicated.
That being said, I married a woman that reminds me of my mom more every single day.
Married 17 yrs two daughters!God dang.. Congrats bro.
Married 17 yrs two daughters!
like my wise grandfather always said, a good woman is a dead one.Women, can't live with them,.............
I got a year on valentines day also. My girl is pretty cool
yeah.. shes pretty bubbly.. thanks.. im not gonna front i think this girl is the one.. ive known her for like 10 years.
If you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it.
Fuck broads and the cocks they ride in on.
If you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it.
If you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it.Speaking of rings, weren't you thinking of knotting up some young bird with $$$$ ???
Of course he is..
Just look at him..
(http://a5.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/267588_101517696610085_100002555650181_12785_3789924_n.jpg)
He looks like a fucking gremlin..
:-X
What woman would want to be with this ugly loser?
4 year relationshipMmmmm, are you the one that invites your male friends over for fine wine and tasty cheese or the one with the dirty towels in your pic ???
best friends for 7
Mmmmm, are you the one that invites your male friends over for fine wine and tasty cheese or the one with the dirty towels in your pic ???
I think neither ???Didnt you post a pic of yourself in a tank top in the bathroom mirror and we could see dirty towels in the background?
I'm the one who used to post a lot on the gayer than thread
4 year relationship
best friends for 7
Speaking of rings, weren't you thinking of knotting up some young bird with $$$$ ???
lol @ "uberman", what a sad individual he is.
lol @ "uberman", what a sad individual he is.
like my wise grandfather always said, a good woman is a dead one.
Didnt you post a pic of yourself in a tank top in the bathroom mirror and we could see dirty towels in the background?
She must hate your fucking guts. Probably a fall down drunk too.Your mother fell down and her hungry mouth landed right on my cock..............dick munch.
Your mother fell down and her hungry mouth landed right on my cock..............dick munch.What are the odds?
platonic love for almost 6 years now
10% of the men fuck 90% of the women. think it's true. life suks...
spoken like a lonely black bastard who has sworn off hookers ;D
Same applies to most men these days. They're all ruled by their gerkin. Hardly any decent ones left.Sounds like you're having a hard time finding a good man, "john".
Same applies to most men these days. They're all ruled by their gerkin. Hardly any decent ones left.
Same applies to most men these days. They're all ruled by their gerkin. Hardly any decent ones left.