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this guy lays the smackdown on marriage, should be made law that any man considering a life of slavery read this first
http://dontmarry.wordpress.com/
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ok didn't read but what does he say about common law marriage?
No way to avoid that other than never living with a chick.
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haha
"Very simply put, it’s enormously powerful to have your wife become aware of the fact that a younger woman expressed sexual interest in you. That cuts right through the nonsense of a fantasy Sex Rank and puts the actual Sex Ranks into play in her head. If your wife is walking around thinking that she is still a 9 because she was a 9 twenty years ago, nothing kicks that thought to the curb faster and harder than having a woman 10-20 years younger than her, express interest in you."
http://marriedmansexlife.com/2012/06/relative-sex-rank-vs-true-sex-rank/
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Don't marry and stay child-free :)
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I can imagine that being in a retirment home, having never loved, been loved, or have any children visit or take care of you would be quite the bummer
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Don't marry and stay child-free :)
I'm a Christian who's doing the latter, so I probably won't have any choice but to do the former.
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christmas is more fun with somone else around.
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I can imagine that being in a retirment home, having never loved, been loved, or have any children visit or take care of you would be quite the bummer
Many of the traditional reasons why a man gets married are a myth.
“I won’t die alone”
Wrong. The simple fact is that one spouse WILL die alone. Visit the hospital and go to the terminally ill or cardiac departments. Few people have the time to sit with an ill relative all day and all night. Yes, you may get visitors, but they aren’t having the same thoughts as you are. You’re contemplating your mortality, while they’re wondering what food the hospital cafeteria offers. In the end, even with a loving and supportive family, most of us will leave this world alone, unless you both die simultaneously in an accident of some kind. Your spouse may die fifteen years before you, or you may be in the hospital for your last year. Ultimately, we all die alone. Married or not.
“I won’t grow old alone”
Not necessarily. A marriage can self-destruct at any time. Your partner may initiate divorce at age 20, 25, 30, 35, 40, 45, 50, 55, 60, 65 or 70. Many married people end up in the same position (alone) as if they had never married at all. Now they enter their twilight years broke, as a result of being stripped of half or more of their life’s assets, losing half their retirement and pension funds, and being assessed alimony payments. Experiencing financial devastation from one divorce often may preclude a man from ever marrying again. This is a common observation of many middle-aged Western Women. Q: “Where are all the men?”. A: “He is broke from the divorce settlement, alimony and child support payments.” Thus these women don’t find him marriable, and he grows old alone and poor.
Men are led to believe that not marrying implies only one destiny; that of a solitary monk in a cave, a shunned loner. However, life is not so black and white. Not marrying does not mean you cannot continue to date or have meaningful relationships throughout your life. There are plenty of single people in all age brackets. A bad marriage can be the loneliest of institutions, because most of your emotional outlet and companionship is concentrated into one person who gives back nothing in emotion, affection or support. Young men in their 20′s and 30′s should be more aware of the alternatives that exist in life. They should be aware that marriage is a choice, and is not the only path life has to offer. An informed decision is less likely to be one that is later regretted.
“I have to be married to have kids”
Not anymore. Her ovaries do not physically need a contract at the government center in order to be fertilised by your sperm. Cro-Magnon man had children long before lawyers invented marriage contracts. Often, you do not need to be married in order to share health benefits. You do not need to be married to designate your partner on a life insurance policy. You do not need to be married to own a dream home together. It is ironic that responsible parents who raise a healthy family, but never actually sign marriage paperwork, get less respect than divorced parents or married parents who are ineffective, inattentive or incompetent.
-Having a lifelong, faithful, committed relationship has nothing to do with being “married”.
-Owning a beautiful dream home together has nothing to do with being “married”.
-Rearing healthy, happy, and successful children has nothing to do with being “married”.
-Building a family and life together has nothing to do with being “married”.
-Growing old together has nothing to do with being “married”.
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I can imagine that being in a retirment home, having never loved, been loved, or have any children visit or take care of you would be quite the bummer
BigCyp -
It's funny you made this statement. I'm gonna be 45 @ the end of this month. I have never had the desire to have kids but recently I have been thinking of it from this very perspective. My wife is 10 yrs younger than me - she doesn't pressure me about it or anything. Things to think about.
If I remember correctly from another thread - you are about to have a kid or you just did. Either way that exciting man. Congrats!
RS
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I'm a Christian who's doing the latter, so I probably won't have any choice but to do the former.
I'm pretty sure that you can be a good Christian without a wife or kids.
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BigCyp -
It's funny you made this statement. I'm gonna be 45 @ the end of this month. I have never had the desire to have kids but recently I have been thinking of it from this very perspective. My wife is 10 yrs younger than me - she doesn't pressure me about it or anything. Things to think about.
If I remember correctly from another thread - you are about to have a kid or you just did. Either way that exciting man. Congrats!
RS
Thanks man, yes I can't wait until the new addition arrives. Will be my second, and we're not finding out the sex which makes it pretty cool during the actual delivery (the only time i'm looking for a cock and happy when I see one - no homo)
You guys should go for it, it will blow your world when the kid arrives, and it gives you a completely new perspective on life! I literally rush home like a maniac sometimes just so I can read with my son before bed.
Don't wait too long lol
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I can imagine that being in a retirment home, having never loved, been loved, or have any children visit or take care of you would be quite the bummer
I think it's pretty egoistic to choose kids to fill your loneliness, as if this over populated world is waiting for more people... And why would a person without a wife and kids never been loved in his life ???
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I think it's pretty egoistic to choose kids to fill your loneliness, as if this over populated world is waiting for more people... And why would a person without a wife and kids never been loved in his life ???
Don't get me wrong DP, lonliness is not the motivator for raising kids, however the company they bring in your later years is a reward for putting them first and being unselfish for years in the first place.
TEAM GREAT ASS AND FACE
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My wife is bitching at me as i write this...been married 25 years in December .. when i first met her she was so quite but after a few years they change. still she cooks good and has gave me 2 great sons so i can´t really complain. ;D
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I can't think of any advantages for a man to be married other than tax exemptions.
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I can't think of any advantages for a man to be married other than tax exemptions.
I think if i was to get divorced i would just live together with a woman. It is good being married if you find the right partner, i don´t think any other woman would put up with my antics... ;)
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Don't get me wrong DP, lonliness is not the motivator for raising kids, however the company they bring in your later years is a reward for putting them first and being unselfish for years in the first place.
TEAM GREAT ASS AND FACE
They bring company & spice in your life, I can imagine that, but an animal is also good company (I know, that's way different).
But there's always a price to pay. You will have less time for yourself and your best buddies, to train, to party, etc. And what after a divorce? Right, you will see your ex, as long as your kids are below 18. And what about the future of this planet, will your kids life a good life in the next 80 years? And there is a thing called over population, our worst enemy in the long run. People tend to forget all these things and romanticize a great & happy family, but how feasible is all of this?
Great ass means a woman without kids, after that it will become a sloppy one ;)
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Thanks man, yes I can't wait until the new addition arrives. Will be my second, and we're not finding out the sex which makes it pretty cool during the actual delivery (the only time i'm looking for a cock and happy when I see one - no homo)
You guys should go for it, it will blow your world when the kid arrives, and it gives you a completely new perspective on life! I literally rush home like a maniac sometimes just so I can read with my son before bed.
Don't wait too long lol
Until they divorce you and use the kid as a bargaining chip.
And use the courts to get you jammed up so that you cannot see your kid, yet you still have to pay child support. And don't let there be two diff styles of raising kids, ie one parent is strict, the other is lax.
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Thanks man, yes I can't wait until the new addition arrives. Will be my second, and we're not finding out the sex which makes it pretty cool during the actual delivery (the only time i'm looking for a cock and happy when I see one - no homo)
You guys should go for it, it will blow your world when the kid arrives, and it gives you a completely new perspective on life! I literally rush home like a maniac sometimes just so I can read with my son before bed.
Don't wait too long lol
;D
but i agree, i have one daughter, single dad. im over the moon every other monday when its the first day of my week to have her, cant wait to get her from the kindergarden when i havent met here in a whole week. shes my world and everything else comes in second place after her.
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I'm pretty sure that you can be a good Christian without a wife or kids.
I know you can. I'm speaking of the difficulty of finding a mate who also doesn't want kids.
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People in general = trouble. Stay away.
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I know you can. I'm speaking of the difficulty of finding a mate who also doesn't want kids.
True that's a hard one, even for a non religious person. Seek for intelligent, career driven, independent 35+ women.
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Al Bundy quotes:
* I never wanted to get married, I got married.
Never wanted kids, I have 2 of them. Why the
hell am I here?
* Standing here with my loving family,
I wonder why I'm running from the axe.
* Envy me. That's my wife.
Those are my kids and I sell womens' shoes.
* I'm not paying for mistakes.
I've been doing that since I got married.
(http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/b/b8/Al_Bundy.jpg/289px-Al_Bundy.jpg)
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Damn, I'll miss MWC.
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I know you can. I'm speaking of the difficulty of finding a mate who also doesn't want kids.
I'm guessing you haven't upheld the stricture that one shouldn't have sex before marriage? ;D
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I'm guessing you haven't upheld the stricture that one shouldn't have sex before marriage? ;D
Actually, I've stuck to that Scripture quite well.
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Actually, I've stuck to that Scripture quite well.
Good to hear my brother.
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Interesting read. The guy can write.
Sounds jaded, but he can write.
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Actually, I've stuck to that Scripture quite well.
Congratulations. ::)
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I think if i was to get divorced i would just live together with a woman. It is good being married if you find the right partner, i don´t think any other woman would put up with my antics... ;)
Yeah, sounds great. Except if you find a woman you like well enough to live with, eventually she will start setting deadlines for moving it to the next level... If you are lucky enough to find one that doesn't want that "insurance" then good for you. The reality is, the ones you can let go of when the deadlines come weren't all that great to begin with.
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Al Bundy quotes:
* I never wanted to get married, I got married.
Never wanted kids, I have 2 of them. Why the
hell am I here?
* Standing here with my loving family,
I wonder why I'm running from the axe.
* Envy me. That's my wife.
Those are my kids and I sell womens' shoes.
* I'm not paying for mistakes.
I've been doing that since I got married.
(http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/b/b8/Al_Bundy.jpg/289px-Al_Bundy.jpg)
;D
I wanna get married just for the wife jokes.
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Yeah, sounds great. Except if you find a woman you like well enough to live with, eventually she will start setting deadlines for moving it to the next level... If you are lucky enough to find one that doesn't want that "insurance" then good for you. The reality is, the ones you can let go of when the deadlines come weren't all that great to begin with.
Fair enough.
I think social pressure, more than anything, makes a woman want marriage.
What do you think?
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Fair enough.
I think social pressure, more than anything, makes a woman want marriage.
What do you think?
You need to come back to the US, many women today think about the wedding, and not the marriage. It's the event, the planning, the dress, it's the whole show of the wedding. Many of today's women come from divorced or single parent homes, many haven't seen a a marriage that last longer than 10-15 yrs if that. So, they know not what it takes for a marriage to work, all they know is "it's time for me to get married", so that I can show off to my friends. And if they can get their daddy or their soon to be husband's family to pay, it's all the better.
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You need to come back to the US, many women today think about the wedding, and not the marriage. It's the event, the planning, the dress, it's the whole show of the wedding. Many of today's women come from divorced or single parent homes, many haven't seen a a marriage that last longer than 10-15 yrs if that. So, they know not what it takes for a marriage to work, all they know is "it's time for me to get married", so that I can show off to my friends. And if they can get their daddy or their soon to be husband's family to pay, it's all the better.
Oh, man, it's probably even worse in China.
The pressure not just to get married, but to have a kid (especially a son) is unreal. Parents are all over that shit.
I've dated a few women here and they talk about that shit on the first date (no exaggeration).
I've got a girl now who is bringing it up, but I've already told her how I feel about it.
TBH, I'm a little worried about it.
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You need to come back to the US, many women today think about the wedding, and not the marriage. It's the event, the planning, the dress, it's the whole show of the wedding. Many of today's women come from divorced or single parent homes, many haven't seen a a marriage that last longer than 10-15 yrs if that. So, they know not what it takes for a marriage to work, all they know is "it's time for me to get married", so that I can show off to my friends. And if they can get their daddy or their soon to be husband's family to pay, it's all the better.
If it's all about the wedding, just agree to stage a wedding, but don't actually sign any marriage certificate documents. Then, everyone leaves happy.
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If it's all about the wedding, just agree to stage a wedding, but don't actually sign any marriage certificate documents. Then, everyone leaves happy.
Haha.
Great idea.
Tough sell.
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If it's all about the wedding, just agree to stage a wedding, but don't actually sign any marriage certificate documents. Then, everyone leaves happy.
Unfortunately, that's the way a smart man thinks, women know to get a sucker to agree to all this ish...the sucker falls for the sex, she gets his head all wound up, think he's the shit...meanwhile, she is plotting and planning.
Oh, man, it's probably even worse in China.
The pressure not just to get married, but to have a kid (especially a son) is unreal. Parents are all over that shit.
I've dated a few women here and they talk about that shit on the first date (no exaggeration).
I've got a girl now who is bringing it up, but I've already told her how I feel about it.
TBH, I'm a little worried about it.
Of course, in countries like China, India and other developing countries, there is an expectation that women get married, have kids...and that's "Law", no questions asked. When more women have a say, or focus on their careers, more women will wait, and or use the wedding as a way of showing off.
Isn't there a shortage of women, due to the focus of only having sons? Having a girl should be valuable as it adds to the desirability of women due to the shortage of women. I understand why women are not wanted, I am just thinking of the flip side.
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Unfortunately, that's the way a smart man thinks, women know to get a sucker to agree to all this ish...the sucker falls for the sex, she gets his head all wound up, think he's the shit...meanwhile, she is plotting and planning.Of course, in countries like China, India and other developing countries, there is an expectation that women get married, have kids...and that's "Law", no questions asked. When more women have a say, or focus on their careers, more women will wait, and or use the wedding as a way of showing off.
Isn't there a shortage of women, due to the focus of only having sons? Having a girl should be valuable as it adds to the desirability of women due to the shortage of women. I understand why women are not wanted, I am just thinking of the flip side.
Yes, there is a shortage of women in China. A lot of Chinese men, judging by the looks I get, don't appreciate me going around with a Chinese girl. I often wonder if that has something to do with. Then again, it could be plain old racism.
Actually, the men in a Chinese marriage are supposed to defer to their women. I used to have roommates who were a couple and I asked the guy if he wanted to have a beer with me. His woman said he couldn't and he didn't drink. It was a super awkward moment and I felt terrible for him. I often wonder if that had something to do with a woman shortage or if that was cultural.
A son is preferred because a male child is a retirement plan. A daughter is expected to go and live with the man's family, and all of that money is expected to go to the same place.
Pensions, while not unheard of, are not the norm in China. The children are supposed to take care of the parents, and that's why having a son is so crucial.
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Thanks man, yes I can't wait until the new addition arrives. Will be my second, and we're not finding out the sex which makes it pretty cool during the actual delivery (the only time i'm looking for a cock and happy when I see one - no homo)
You guys should go for it, it will blow your world when the kid arrives, and it gives you a completely new perspective on life! I literally rush home like a maniac sometimes just so I can read with my son before bed.
Don't wait too long lol
That's awesome man - you sound really into it. Unfortunatly a lot of guys aren't that into it. Thx for the advice - I'm really thinking long and hard about this - probably the biggest commitment a person or a couple ever has to make.
Hope everything works out perfect with the birth. I'm happy for you - -
RS
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this guy lays the smackdown on marriage, should be made law that any man considering a life of slavery read this first
http://dontmarry.wordpress.com/
LOL.....one-sided bullshit.
you a member there ? that site is filled with some real winners
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Yes, there is a shortage of women in China. A lot of Chinese men, judging by the looks I get, don't appreciate me going around with a Chinese girl. I often wonder if that has something to do with. Then again, it could be plain old racism.
Actually, the men in a Chinese marriage are supposed to defer to their women. I used to have roommates who were a couple and I asked the guy if he wanted to have a beer with me. His woman said he couldn't and he didn't drink. It was a super awkward moment and I felt terrible for him. I often wonder if that had something to do with a woman shortage or if that was cultural.
A son is preferred because a male child is a retirement plan. A daughter is expected to go and live with the man's family, and all of that money is expected to go to the same place.
Pensions, while not unheard of, are not the norm in China. The children are supposed to take care of the parents, and that's why having a son is so crucial.
Yes, I've read and heard about this---the cultural issue in China, the woman (mother) kinda rules the roost with many things. A matriarchal culture/society.
I was reading back in 2007, of the black chick, who was a makeup artist, who met a Chinese dude and she was attracted to him due to his "feminine features" (WTF, you are attracted to a man due him looking feminine), well she moved to Shanghai with him and commented about how his mother ruled over him like a mother hen over a chick (so you married a feminine looking man who has no backbone). And at the time, his mother wanted a son, no daughters---she couldn't concieve at the time. But, the dude she married, seemed like by US standards as a twink with no backbone.
Anything that will lower a man's chances with an available woman, when women are in short supply, will set a male off. Regardless of race, that can be a box that is ticked off, but imagine if you were in their position, you'd think the same.
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I used to say "fuk marriage" but that was long ago. As much as my wife pisses me off and me inturn pissing her off, at the end of the day, we can't live without the other. I don't want to die alone with no kids to check up on my old crusty ass when that time comes.
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I used to say "fuk marriage" but that was long ago. As much as my wife pisses me off and me inturn pissing her off, at the end of the day, we can't live without the other. I don't want to die alone with no kids to check up on my old crusty ass when that time comes.
You are making an assumption that your kids will check up on you....unless you'll leave em some money, that is.
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You are making an assumption that your kids will check up on you....unless you'll leave em some money, that is.
My kids have a genuine love for me and their mom. They have never gave me a reason for me to doubt that they will "take care of me" when I get old and decrepit.
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I read the block as far as... why marriage has become a bad business decision... and closed the page.
Marriage will not work if you think that way - which is why you yank men are so fucking uptight about the whole subject, you guys have a complete neurotic fear and believe what marriage is all about, of course you fuck it up if you get married already expecting it to fail.
ANY marriage will get rocky for a while, in the old days you had no choice but to ride it out either change or get changed or both change or kill your wife - those were the options.
Today you go and get divorced, which is lazy and stupid, but it fits perfectly into the usual American way of life - if you don't like something close your eyes and it will go away by itself, instead lets blame woman and the economy.
Instead you guys should really think about it BEFORE you get married, am I getting married for the right reasons AND what are the right reasons for me personally - not anybody else but ME.
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My kids have a genuine love for me and their mom. They have never gave me a reason for me to doubt that they will "take care of me" when I get old and decrepit.
Well, that's good...
Hopefully, when they realize that taking care you two when your old costs more than shipping you off to a old folks home, then you'll realize "the bottom line is worth more than love"
****I'm being sarcastic, I hope it doesn't happen, but I've heard the same thing said (you just said) from many of old folks.
My folks have been married for 45 yrs, my dad is 70, my mother is 69, I plan on being there for them, just as they were for me.
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Well, that's good...
Hopefully, when they realize that taking care you two when your old costs more than shipping you off to a old folks home, then you'll realize "the bottom line is worth more than love"
****I'm being sarcastic, I hope it doesn't happen, but I've heard the same thing said (you just said) from many of old folks.
My folks have been married for 45 yrs, my dad is 70, my mother is 69, I plan on being there for them, just as they were for me.
Best you can do is to pull the plug when its time, I had to promise my mother that I'm not going to be afraid to do so if its time (my brother would never do that) and I would, never mind if I go to prison again (easy to say now I know).
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Kudos to the forum member who started this thread.
It's very simple... The biggest contributing factor to divorce, is marriage. Once you understand this, any/all pro-marriage debates are completely meaningless.
If you desire companionship, find a woman over 35-40 years old that has already had her kids. That way you will not suffer the financial ramifications of being a sperm donor.
Dumb men get married, so do smart women. One day you'll get taken to the cleaners.
All you need to do is simply observe your male family and friends who are married. Are they really happy?... no. Do they have freedom?... no. Are they typically buried under a pile of bills and living check to check... yes.
It's a no brainer... don't get married.
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Best you can do is to pull the plug when its time, I had to promise my mother that I'm not going to be afraid to do so if its time (my brother would never do that) and I would, never mind if I go to prison again (easy to say now I know).
What did you go to prison for the first time?
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I like my wife she is a great person. Her dad is an asshole though.
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Don't get me wrong DP, lonliness is not the motivator for raising kids, however the company they bring in your later years is a reward for putting them first and being unselfish for years in the first place.
TEAM GREAT ASS AND FACE
My grandfather had ten kids, he died alone, divorced his wife after 43 years and was hated by all of the children who never once visited him in his old age - He went to war, worked hard all his life raising the children (including my father) and was a hard old school English father. My Father, same deal, he had five kids (including me) divorced his wife after 43 years, moved to the country and is pretty much hated by the whole family (I am the only one who has remained on good terms with him), but he is in his 70's now, he doesn't want to see his family at all and will presumably die alone, bitter and angry, just like his Father. Both my mother and father wish they had never married, my Mother now believes marriage is unnatural and after 43 years married doesn't understand why people get married in the first place. Both my parents will die alone and miserable, after having many kids and a long marriage.
Marriage and children isn't always what it is cracked up to be!
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"its a no brainer, don't get married"....
That doesn't fit everyone. Some guys are wired to be single, some guys are wired to be married. The ones that can figure out which one they are, are the ones who struggle.
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You are making an assumption that your kids will check up on you....unless you'll leave em some money, that is.
I've recently witnessed a brutal example of kids not taking care of their parent. In fact, the son literally drugged his father to death legally... in order to get his house and land. (didn't work) ON the other hand, between my brother and I, we would both gladly take my Dad in when the time comes that he can't care for himself. He's 84 and still rocking and rolling.
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Marriage,is a joke!!! Dont get married.Look atHoward he has been married 4 times, and gues, what he still hasnt learned, lol.The reason why he was married 4 times, is women are bitches!!!!
Howard is a nice guy, but Jesus, after 4 times you think he would learn.lol.
If you havent been married, dont get married.
I dont want to sound negative but I honstly can say I dont know any man who is happily maried.
Once you get married, women cut sex in half, they start trying to control and change you.
You see, men want women to stay the same they were the first 3 months of the relationship, sex everydy, she is fun and exciting,.Women want to change you into the guy she wants you to be.
A woman thinks its her job to fix you, I am dead serious.Women all think men need to be fixed.
Most men dont need to be fixed, but women do, lol.
Listen, I dont care how good of a husband you are, you just cant win.
The best thing you can do is date them, and drive it like you stole it.
When you get married ost women gain weight, then blame you off course.
In as good as it gets Jack Nichols said it best.
Take accountabliity and reason and there you have a woman.
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I've recently witnessed a brutal example of kids not taking care of their parent. In fact, the son literally drugged his father to death legally... in order to get his house and land. (didn't work) ON the other hand, between my brother and I, we would both gladly take my Dad in when the time comes that he can't care for himself. He's 84 and still rocking and rolling.
Thats sad. I hope he gets the book thrown at him. People who disrespect their parents get to me. Also, when grown kids keep getting into trouble and their elderly parents continually get them out of trouble, sometimes losing their homes in the process.
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Marriage,is a joke!!! Dont get married.Look atHoward he has been married 4 times, and gues, what he still hasnt learned, lol.The reason why he was married 4 times, is women are bitches!!!!
Howard is a nice guy, but Jesus, after 4 times you think he would learn.lol.
If you havent been married, dont get married.
I dont want to sound negative but I honstly can say I dont know any man who is happily maried.
Once you get married, women cut sex in half, they start trying to control and change you.
You see, men want women to stay the same they were the first 3 months of the relationship, sex everydy, she is fun and exciting,.Women want to change you into the guy she wants you to be.
A woman thinks its her job to fix you, I am dead serious.Women all think men need to be fixed.
Most men dont need to be fixed, but women do, lol.
Listen, I dont care how good of a husband you are, you just cant win.
The best thing you can do is date them, and drive it like you stole it.
When you get married ost women gain weight, then blame you off course.
In as good as it gets Jack Nichols said it best.
Take accountabliity and reason and there you have a woman.
The other side of the question: Who wants sex everyday with the same woman after long years, decades?! Unnatural and bad for test levels.
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Never understood why you get married as a guy.
And never understood the phrase "afraid of commitment" which women often say. I'd say it's a perfectly rational fear and don't see why you should judge someone who doesn't want to make promises.
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What did you go to prison for the first time?
grievance bodily harm with intent
Or as they call it in Germany
Vorsätzliche schwere Koerperverletzung
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Well, that's good...
Hopefully, when they realize that taking care you two when your old costs more than shipping you off to a old folks home, then you'll realize "the bottom line is worth more than love"
****I'm being sarcastic, I hope it doesn't happen, but I've heard the same thing said (you just said) from many of old folks.
My folks have been married for 45 yrs, my dad is 70, my mother is 69, I plan on being there for them, just as they were for me.
Believe me...we are already financially prepared to handle our own care when that time comes even though my daughter insists that "we would live with her family" if it gets to the point of me and her mom not being able to take care of ourselves...but that is 50-60 years away I hope...lol
As far as my mom is concerned, I would never put her in an "old folks home". Either me or my brother would take her in if need be (if that time comes). She is kinda ornery though so it might be a tough battle...lol
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If your with "the one" you will want to marry her...
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Fuck em and leave em bros, it's the best of both worlds.... ;D
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If your with "the one" you will want to marry her...
Yes "you", not everybody
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marriage isnt for everyone.
It's for faithful christians, if you re not a faithful christian, you ll ruin your marriage.
Lol at people marying without even being christian nor having read the Bible ever.
Again, succesful mariages arent for everyone, as simple as that.
Many are called, but few are chosen.
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marriage isnt for everyone.
It's for faithful christians, if you re not a faithful christian, you ll ruin your marriage.
Lol at people marying without even being christian nor having read the Bible ever.
Again, succesful mariages arent for everyone, as simple as that.
Many are called, but few are chosen.
I have known many a Christian that does not follow Him in private, but only in public. You need not be Christian to be a good person, to love your husband or wife and that is the truth of it. A successful marriage can be for everyone. The deciding factor is whether or not those involved in said marriage work toward it.
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marriage isnt for everyone.
It's for faithful christians, if you re not a faithful christian, you ll ruin your marriage.
Lol at people marying without even being christian nor having read the Bible ever.
Again, succesful mariages arent for everyone, as simple as that.
Many are called, but few are chosen.
And a party can be christian yet still get divorced, what is your point?
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marriage isnt for everyone.
It's for faithful christians, if you re not a faithful christian, you ll ruin your marriage.
Lol at people marying without even being christian nor having read the Bible ever.
Again, succesful mariages arent for everyone, as simple as that.
Many are called, but few are chosen.
Just for a second, I thought you were serious ;)
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marriage isnt for everyone.
It's for faithful christians, if you re not a faithful christian, you ll ruin your marriage.
Lol at people marying without even being christian nor having read the Bible ever.
Again, succesful mariages arent for everyone, as simple as that.
Many are called, but few are chosen.
You crack me up, man.
Longest running schtick in the history of GB.
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My grandfather had ten kids, he died alone, divorced his wife after 43 years and was hated by all of the children who never once visited him in his old age - He went to war, worked hard all his life raising the children (including my father) and was a hard old school English father. My Father, same deal, he had five kids (including me) divorced his wife after 43 years, moved to the country and is pretty much hated by the whole family (I am the only one who has remained on good terms with him), but he is in his 70's now, he doesn't want to see his family at all and will presumably die alone, bitter and angry, just like his Father. Both my mother and father wish they had never married, my Mother now believes marriage is unnatural and after 43 years married doesn't understand why people get married in the first place. Both my parents will die alone and miserable, after having many kids and a long marriage.
Marriage and children isn't always what it is cracked up to be!
Both cases would have been different if the grandpa and dad manned up and stayed with their family?
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A good marriage is all about having the same intentions, and it has not been proven that believers have better intentions than non believers.
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marriage isnt for everyone.
It's for faithful christians, if you re not a faithful christian, you ll ruin your marriage.
Lol at people marying without even being christian nor having read the Bible ever.
Again, succesful mariages arent for everyone, as simple as that.
Many are called, but few are chosen.
I don't agree with this statement.
Christian's (who are walking the walk, as well as talking the talk) have an advantage in marraige, as it's God's invention and they have a relationship with the same God, who can help them form a strong lasting bond.
But, God's laws apply to the sinner as well. By that I mean that even the unrighteous unbeliever can have a successful marriage if they apply God's instructions to love, forgive, be faithful, not love money, be honest etc etc.
A verse in Proverbs, says the sun shines on the righteous and the unrighteous - meaning if anyone, not just christians sow good things they will reap good things.
I sense a lot of pride in your statement uberman.
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Human Beings are polygamists(in the single status context) by nature. It goes against the laws of human nature to marry and commit to only one person.
That being said, I can't wait to be officially divorced in January.
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Human Beings are polygamists(in the single status context) by nature. It goes against the laws of human nature to marry and commit to only one person.
That being said, I can't wait to be officially divorced in January.
So true, and I'm happy for you (who started "cheating"?)
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I have a general dislike for all humans, especially that of the vagina variety. Fortunately, maintaining close relations with breathing organisms isn't part of my natural inclination.
I'm surprised marriage hasn't distilled down to a game of Russian roulette, where one awaits the breaking point of a spouse to unleash homicidal fury.
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I don't agree with this statement.
Christian's (who are walking the walk, as well as talking the talk) have an advantage in marraige, as it's God's invention and they have a relationship with the same God, who can help them form a strong lasting bond.
But, God's laws apply to the sinner as well. By that I mean that even the unrighteous unbeliever can have a successful marriage if they apply God's instructions to love, forgive, be faithful, not love money, be honest etc etc.
A verse in Proverbs, says the sun shines on the righteous and the unrighteous - meaning if anyone, not just christians sow good things they will reap good things.
I sense a lot of pride in your statement uberman.
You confused pride with sarcasm..
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So true, and I'm happy for you (who started "cheating"?)
We were both guilty of it...Not sure who started it, to be honest.
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God grants hapiness to those who follow His words, if husband and wife dont both follow God's words, their marriage cannot be "successful". Both have to be genuinely submitted to God for life to fully develop. Marriage without faith is like an engine without the necessary liquids. Also not all engines are built with the same quality.
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We were both guilty of it...Not sure who started it, to be honest.
she did, judging by your stupid screen name, you are probably hung like a light switch, and she needed a big thick penis
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she did, judging by your stupid screen name, you are probably hung like a light switch, and she needed a big thick penis
LOL....Good one 'NEXUS 6'..... ::)
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LOL....Good one 'NEXUS 6'..... ::)
all kidding aside, how does it feel knowing your wife was moaning as another man enjoyed fucking her as hard as he could...and laughed with his friends about the married slut who sucks his cock before they even get in the house
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all kidding aside, how does it feel knowing your wife was moaning as another man enjoyed fucking her as hard as he could...and laughed with his friends about the married slut who sucks his cock before they even get in the house
wow....you're on a roll today, tough guy.
I'm sure the same feeling could be said for her imagining me with another horny slut. And I couldn't be happier these days being single. In fact, I'm in the process of getting my dick bronzed to celebrate my newfound promiscuity.
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wow....you're on a roll today, tough guy.
I'm sure the same feeling could be said for her imagining me with another horny slut. And I couldn't be happier these days being single. In fact, I'm in the process of getting my dick bronzed to celebrate my newfound promiscuity.
It's not even close to being the same for a man and a woman.
when a married woman opens her legs for another cock, she is abandoning her feelings for you completely, and submitting to another man's sexual desires, she is now his whore and his possession
a guy can fuck a hundred women and still love his wife just fine.
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It's not even close to being the same for a man and a woman.
when a married woman opens her legs for another cock, she is abandoning her feelings for you completely, and submitting to another man's sexual desires, she is now his whore and his possession
a guy can fuck a hundred women and still love his wife just fine.
Good analysis, Dr. Ruth....But it never bothers me any even if cheating was happening on her part. Again....I'm a happy camper so whatever you type just rolls right off my shoulders. And you're right about fucking other women and still being able to love your wife.
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if you are married with separation of goods and only spend money on your children (and make your wife spend her own money on the frivolities she craves like fashionable clothes, make up, other items) i dont see what is wrong with marriage
That is almost consistently across the board not the case. Vagina is a leaching parasite that kills the host and moves on if necessary. Children are just heavy anchors of nuisance and potentially deadly ammunition used by the vagina parasite.
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That is almost consistently across the board not the case. Vagina is a leaching parasite that kills the host and moves on if necessary. Children are just heavy anchors of nuisance and potentially deadly ammunition used by the vagina parasite.
This made me lol :D
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never understood the point of marriage, i envy the ugly guys out there..who are single, believe me it's a bigger blessing than you think...
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christmas is more fun with somone else around.
Yes, but the other 11 months of the year are much better without a ball and chain tying you down.
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being a pussified slave is never a good thing....
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Both cases would have been different if the grandpa and dad manned up and stayed with their family?
Hard to do when the wife seeks a divorce! They both would have had to have been sadists to stay in the relationship, come talk to me when you have been married for over 40 years! You might be whistling a different tune by then.
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Hard to do when the wife seeks a divorce! They both would have had to have been sadists to stay in the relationship, come talk to me when you have been married for over 40 years! You might be whistling a different tune by then.
Sorry man, was a pretty flippant comment.
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Sorry man, was a pretty flippant comment.
That's cool man, I watched my parents relationship deteriorate for years, in the end they would literally fight like teenagers, both were professionals their whole lives and after retirement they went around the twist spending too much time together. My dad was old school English father type, very stoical, unemotional except for a ferocious temper. He was hard on us kids and just as hard on my Mum, no need to go into details, but I am glad my Mum left him, it could have ended a lot worse for my Mum if she hadn't. It's funny how history repeats, because both my Grandparents on both my Mum and dad's side separated after 43 years, the same as my parents. I often joke with my girlfriend who I have been with for nearly a decade (but never married), that she has got another 33 years to go yet, I am not letting her off that easy. I hope that isn't a self fulfilling prophecy, but I don't look that far ahead, in my relationship I just take it one step at a time, life has a funny way of throwing you curve balls and things that are difficult to prepare for.
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Whenever someone ask's me why I'm not married yet, I ask them, would you get on a plane if it had a 60% chance of crashing?
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if husband and wife dont both follow God's words, their marriage cannot be "successful".
Haha ,fucking idiot.
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Whenever someone ask's me why I'm not married yet, I ask them, would you get on a plane if it had a 60% chance of crashing?
Damn fine post.
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PIP Beano Cook, a smart man who never married.
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PIP Beano Cook, a smart man who never married.
Women I only need one thing pussy, fuck the rest all they do is worry the fuck out of you and take money. Good thread thanks for reaching out.
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Lots of fellas living the dream in this thread.
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what about marrying a thai mailorder bride with a prenup
"She" might kill you in the middle of the night and then run with the money to support her poor family.
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this guy lays the smackdown on marriage, should be made law that any man considering a life of slavery read this first
http://dontmarry.wordpress.com/
This article is correct BUT only if the woman behaves as he claims and you have kids.
I am getting married again , this month.
My wife to be is a banker and makes more then I do.
She has her own house, car and money before I came into the picture.
We don't have kids nor do we want them.
She doesn't cook or clean and I don't provide 100% of the assets.
The sex is great and we both pull our own wt.
That is a true partnership and what this guy described as marriage may be common , but makes no sense.
I agree with the article IF a woman acts like he outlines
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God grants hapiness to those who follow His words, if husband and wife dont both follow God's words, their marriage cannot be "successful". Both have to be genuinely submitted to God for life to fully develop. Marriage without faith is like an engine without the necessary liquids. Also not all engines are built with the same quality.
I use my own judgement on personal issues and don't need a bible or preacher to tell me what GOD wants.
I don't think useing a 2000 yr old book is any way to have a good , loving partnership.
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if your money is in the bank killing you will not get her the money
It's a little too late, when she finds out that's the case ;D
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You need to come back to the US, many women today think about the wedding, and not the marriage. It's the event, the planning, the dress, it's the whole show of the wedding. Many of today's women come from divorced or single parent homes, many haven't seen a a marriage that last longer than 10-15 yrs if that. So, they know not what it takes for a marriage to work, all they know is "it's time for me to get married", so that I can show off to my friends. And if they can get their daddy or their soon to be husband's family to pay, it's all the better.
I agree ! The problem is the woman and not marriage of a long term relationship.
I would never get involved with a lazy , self absorbed woman that didn't work.
FYI, my wife to be, paid for at least 50% of our wedding costs.
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I read the block as far as... why marriage has become a bad business decision... and closed the page.
Marriage will not work if you think that way - which is why you yank men are so fucking uptight about the whole subject, you guys have a complete neurotic fear and believe what marriage is all about, of course you fuck it up if you get married already expecting it to fail.
ANY marriage will get rocky for a while, in the old days you had no choice but to ride it out either change or get changed or both change or kill your wife - those were the options.
Today you go and get divorced, which is lazy and stupid, but it fits perfectly into the usual American way of life - if you don't like something close your eyes and it will go away by itself, instead lets blame woman and the economy.
Instead you guys should really think about it BEFORE you get married, am I getting married for the right reasons AND what are the right reasons for me personally - not anybody else but ME.
Good post.
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My grandfather had ten kids, he died alone, divorced his wife after 43 years and was hated by all of the children who never once visited him in his old age - He went to war, worked hard all his life raising the children (including my father) and was a hard old school English father. My Father, same deal, he had five kids (including me) divorced his wife after 43 years, moved to the country and is pretty much hated by the whole family (I am the only one who has remained on good terms with him), but he is in his 70's now, he doesn't want to see his family at all and will presumably die alone, bitter and angry, just like his Father. Both my mother and father wish they had never married, my Mother now believes marriage is unnatural and after 43 years married doesn't understand why people get married in the first place. Both my parents will die alone and miserable, after having many kids and a long marriage.
Marriage and children isn't always what it is cracked up to be!
Yup! good post and just shows despite what some think their are no guarentees is life
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Marriage,is a joke!!! Dont get married.Look atHoward he has been married 4 times, and gues, what he still hasnt learned, lol.The reason why he was married 4 times, is women are bitches!!!!
Howard is a nice guy, but Jesus, after 4 times you think he would learn.lol.
If you havent been married, dont get married.
I dont want to sound negative but I honstly can say I dont know any man who is happily maried.
Once you get married, women cut sex in half, they start trying to control and change you.
You see, men want women to stay the same they were the first 3 months of the relationship, sex everydy, she is fun and exciting,.Women want to change you into the guy she wants you to be.
A woman thinks its her job to fix you, I am dead serious.Women all think men need to be fixed.
Most men dont need to be fixed, but women do, lol.
Listen, I dont care how good of a husband you are, you just cant win.
The best thing you can do is date them, and drive it like you stole it.
When you get married ost women gain weight, then blame you off course.
In as good as it gets Jack Nichols said it best.
Take accountabliity and reason and there you have a woman.
Ok since you mentioned me , here is my 2 cents on this.
You are 100% correct that a woman can make a radical change AFTER you get married.
For example, my 1st wife wanted kids 2 yrs after we married and I never did.
I didn't change and she did , thus we got divorced.
I like being married because when it goes well, it provides a unique framework.
However, if a woman decides she wants a major change AFTER the marriage , that breaks the orginal understood contract/agreement.
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It's not even close to being the same for a man and a woman.
when a married woman opens her legs for another cock, she is abandoning her feelings for you completely, and submitting to another man's sexual desires, she is now his whore and his possession
a guy can fuck a hundred women and still love his wife just fine.
wtf? c'mon, get real!