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Title: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Stark on January 27, 2013, 01:33:54 AM
Working colleague of mine is in ( as it looks) last stage of his fight against his cancer, it's growing and they cannot operate plus the chemo seems to have no effect.

He has a blog a and I seem to be the only one from work that comments, I never know what to say, even when he comes into the office for a few days, what do you say? Hey how are you? Well let's see I am fucking dying that's how I am.

What would you say?


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Quickerblade on January 27, 2013, 01:51:51 AM
"hang in there"


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: calfzilla on January 27, 2013, 02:04:02 AM
Ask DA he should know. 

But seriously our big boss died a year or so ago from slow battle with cancer. She even had one of those blogs the last few weeks. Just wish thir famil good things and talk with them about things they care about, golf, kids, food. Remember they are still alive for now.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: _bruce_ on January 27, 2013, 03:25:35 AM
That's a tough one - I assume the dude ain't old enough to part ways legitimately. An old person dying is sad enough but it comes more natural so to speak.

Ask him if he's religious.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: phreak on January 27, 2013, 03:43:52 AM
He won't recover.



On a serious note: Just ask him how he feels and take it from there. Tears = run away. Smile = ask to be added to the will.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Jon Harridan on January 27, 2013, 03:45:53 AM
Ask him if he believes in God and His only begotten Son Jesus Christ.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: calfzilla on January 27, 2013, 03:48:51 AM
Does he even lift?


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: oni on January 27, 2013, 03:50:39 AM
I would tell him that he is a true bro and leave it at that


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Euro-monster on January 27, 2013, 05:46:27 AM
"did you pick out your music yet?"..... 8)


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Tito24 on January 27, 2013, 05:58:51 AM
we'll meet again


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Marty Champions on January 27, 2013, 06:03:03 AM
tell him to start lifting weights and consume cabbage puree shakes

life takes some effort to be alive and live, it aint no freebee


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: DroppingPlates on January 27, 2013, 06:07:38 AM
Give the guy his coffee or tea, stay calm & friendly and don't talk too much. When you start a conversation, talk about simple & positive things.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Quickerblade on January 27, 2013, 06:25:51 AM
Ask DA he should know. 

But seriously our big boss died a year or so ago from slow battle with cancer. She even had one of those blogs the last few weeks. Just wish thir famil good things and talk with them about things they care about, golf, kids, food. Remember they are still alive for now.

Very cool Calfzilla.

I havent had a conversation with someone that was dying, but i would make them feel better, tell them that they made you feel great and stuff like that, let them die happily and also you get closure and it wont sadden you to much when they do pass.

we all will pass away, some die without warning like accidents etc some get a time frame which i think is cool. its sad but i think its best to make people feel good.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: MikMaq on January 27, 2013, 06:27:34 AM
Just ask if their's anything you can do, whether it be running family members to the air port, or offering to fuck his wife, you'd be surprised how much that type of thing is appreciated, especially useful when your not a direct family member.  


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Mattyh7688 on January 27, 2013, 06:35:29 AM
Tell him to up the dose, the Arnold is almost here


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Quickerblade on January 27, 2013, 07:10:28 AM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WVT7-AC8qYo

Tell him to listen to this, he be set.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Irongrip400 on January 27, 2013, 07:54:30 AM
Tell him what Liam Neeson told that guy in "The Grey". That was brutal.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: WOOO on January 27, 2013, 08:01:49 AM
tell him that we're all worm meat in the end

our lives are all insignificant and short

his death is simply a reorganization of energy



this should make him happy


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: B_B_C on January 27, 2013, 08:22:29 AM
Working colleague of mine is in ( as it looks) last stage of his fight against his cancer, it's growing and they cannot operate plus the chemo seems to have no effect.
He has a blog a and I seem to be the only one from work that comments, I never know what to say, even when he comes into the office for a few days, what do you say? Hey how are you? Well let's see I am fucking dying that's how I am. What would you say?

what do you want to say?
learn from him, deal with your own discomfort and fear.
Not everybody gets the opportunity to prepare for their death. Search out if you can the Nuala O Faolain interview from a few years back. Unless you are completly disconnected from the natives one of them will remember it
If you are competely disconnected maybe this gentleman gives you an opportunity to do some thing about that


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Viking11 on January 27, 2013, 08:23:31 AM
Serious answer. Talk to him exactly like you always would.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: MikMaq on January 27, 2013, 08:29:12 AM
Serious answer. Talk to him exactly like you always would.
Really though, in times of need people want normalcy.

The worst thing you can do, is say I'm sorry to hear about your loss type of nonsense. It's just condescending.

If it was any other channel than a blog, I'd say just mention the normal stuff you get on with.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: LurkerNoMore on January 27, 2013, 10:11:33 AM
Doesn't matter what you say, just say something.  The worst you can do is keep silent.  He will think you just disregarded him already.

Don't make any false or generic offerings to him like most people or empty promises.  If he has accepted the inevitable then it is much easier.  Best thing you can do is just listen if he wants to talk.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Kwon_2 on January 27, 2013, 11:52:57 AM
Working colleague of mine is in ( as it looks) last stage of his fight against his cancer, it's growing and they cannot operate plus the chemo seems to have no effect.

He has a blog a and I seem to be the only one from work that comments, I never know what to say, even when he comes into the office for a few days, what do you say? Hey how are you? Well let's see I am fucking dying that's how I am.

What would you say?

If the doc told you you had three months left to live, what would YOU want people to say to you?

"Hey man! Ill buy you a trip to Rio/Thailand/Greece/Haiti and ill give ya 100k to spend on Hoes before you die"

or

"How ya doing old chap? Keep that chin up! It's not gonna be long now"


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: FitnessFrenzy on January 27, 2013, 11:55:26 AM
when I die and go to heaven, Tito24, Wiggs and I will sit and browse Getbig together.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Thespritz0 on January 27, 2013, 12:00:09 PM
Working colleague of mine is in ( as it looks) last stage of his fight against his cancer, it's growing and they cannot operate plus the chemo seems to have no effect.

He has a blog a and I seem to be the only one from work that comments, I never know what to say, even when he comes into the office for a few days, what do you say? Hey how are you? Well let's see I am fucking dying that's how I am.

What would you say?
^^
Im Namen der deutschen fuhrer ich hiermit vergeben Sie das Ritterkreuz ...


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Euro-monster on January 27, 2013, 01:33:30 PM
when I die and go to heaven, Tito24, Wiggs and I will sit and browse Getbig together.

As long tito is posting the pictures !!!..... ;D


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Parker on January 27, 2013, 01:52:56 PM
Talk to him. And not about the cancer. But about life. Listen to him. Most people want to just be heard. Ask questions about dealing with family, life, and focus on good times. Talk about his hobbies---fishing, cars, etc. and maybe in his honor, take it up. learn from him. You'd be surprise how people feel to NOT have to focus on their illness and be treated like a normal human being instead of a pity-case.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Mr Nobody on January 27, 2013, 02:03:41 PM
Talk to him. And not about the cancer. But about life. Listen to him. Most people want to just be heard. Ask questions about dealing with family, life, and focus on good times. Talk about his hobbies---fishing, cars, etc. and maybe in his honor, take it up. learn from him. You'd be surprise how people feel to NOT have to focus on their illness and be treated like a normal human being instead of a pity-case.
This ^. If someone is dying just be a friend listen to them do not be critical on whatever his life has been.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Parker on January 27, 2013, 02:14:34 PM
This ^. If someone is dying just be a friend listen to them do not be critical on whatever his life has been.
people are already hyper-critical of themselves already.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Mr Nobody on January 27, 2013, 02:31:18 PM
people are already hyper-critical of themselves already.
Agreed my dad died last year so I know what you are saying. You just got to befriend a dying person, listen to them.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: B_B_C on January 27, 2013, 03:16:08 PM
tell him to start lifting weights and consume cabbage puree shakes

life takes some effort to be alive and live, it aint no freebee

take enough cabbage puree and youll know your alive even as you feel the life fall out of your bottom evenif you already felt the bottom fell out of your life


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Marty Champions on January 27, 2013, 03:26:45 PM
i get a sick feeling my stomach thinking about death


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Mr Nobody on January 27, 2013, 03:29:58 PM
i get a sick feeling my stomach thinking about death
We all got to go Johnny, just hope it isnt painful I want to go out in my sleep never wake up again.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: B_B_C on January 27, 2013, 04:01:24 PM
i get a sick feeling my stomach thinking about death
get better quality cabbage


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: K-1 on January 27, 2013, 04:33:37 PM
damn the harmony..ask him when's the last time he had some ass thrown in his face then take him to a ratchet ass strip club and let the man go wild.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Parker on January 27, 2013, 04:41:24 PM
damn the harmony..ask him when's the last time he had some ass thrown in his face then take him to a ratchet ass strip club and let the man go wild.
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Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: SF1900 on January 27, 2013, 04:55:44 PM
i get a sick feeling my stomach thinking about death

Same here, Johnny. I do not like thinking about it. Often get depressed when I think about it.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: CalvinH on January 28, 2013, 08:46:33 AM
"Better you then me"
"Is your girlfriend/wife hot?"


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: Radical Plato on January 28, 2013, 09:43:45 AM
Just talk to the man as if you would anybody else, you don't have to talk about death, or unload some long winded philosophical gem.  We're all dying, it's just a matter of when, do you want some jerk off coming up to you and talking about how sad it is that you are going to die.  If they want to talk about it fine, but no need to change the way you interact with anybody just because they are dying.


Title: Re: What to tell a dying man
Post by: The True Adonis on January 28, 2013, 09:52:49 AM
i get a sick feeling my stomach thinking about death
Learn to embrace it with wind in your teeth Johnny and it will be allright.

Here is a song my friend wrote about it:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=boRzFrmcM60