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Getbig Main Boards => Gossip & Opinions => Topic started by: Stark on January 27, 2013, 01:33:54 AM
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Working colleague of mine is in ( as it looks) last stage of his fight against his cancer, it's growing and they cannot operate plus the chemo seems to have no effect.
He has a blog a and I seem to be the only one from work that comments, I never know what to say, even when he comes into the office for a few days, what do you say? Hey how are you? Well let's see I am fucking dying that's how I am.
What would you say?
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"hang in there"
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Ask DA he should know.
But seriously our big boss died a year or so ago from slow battle with cancer. She even had one of those blogs the last few weeks. Just wish thir famil good things and talk with them about things they care about, golf, kids, food. Remember they are still alive for now.
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That's a tough one - I assume the dude ain't old enough to part ways legitimately. An old person dying is sad enough but it comes more natural so to speak.
Ask him if he's religious.
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He won't recover.
On a serious note: Just ask him how he feels and take it from there. Tears = run away. Smile = ask to be added to the will.
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Ask him if he believes in God and His only begotten Son Jesus Christ.
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Does he even lift?
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I would tell him that he is a true bro and leave it at that
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"did you pick out your music yet?"..... 8)
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we'll meet again
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tell him to start lifting weights and consume cabbage puree shakes
life takes some effort to be alive and live, it aint no freebee
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Give the guy his coffee or tea, stay calm & friendly and don't talk too much. When you start a conversation, talk about simple & positive things.
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Ask DA he should know.
But seriously our big boss died a year or so ago from slow battle with cancer. She even had one of those blogs the last few weeks. Just wish thir famil good things and talk with them about things they care about, golf, kids, food. Remember they are still alive for now.
Very cool Calfzilla.
I havent had a conversation with someone that was dying, but i would make them feel better, tell them that they made you feel great and stuff like that, let them die happily and also you get closure and it wont sadden you to much when they do pass.
we all will pass away, some die without warning like accidents etc some get a time frame which i think is cool. its sad but i think its best to make people feel good.
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Just ask if their's anything you can do, whether it be running family members to the air port, or offering to fuck his wife, you'd be surprised how much that type of thing is appreciated, especially useful when your not a direct family member.
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Tell him to up the dose, the Arnold is almost here
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Tell him to listen to this, he be set.
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Tell him what Liam Neeson told that guy in "The Grey". That was brutal.
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tell him that we're all worm meat in the end
our lives are all insignificant and short
his death is simply a reorganization of energy
this should make him happy
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Working colleague of mine is in ( as it looks) last stage of his fight against his cancer, it's growing and they cannot operate plus the chemo seems to have no effect.
He has a blog a and I seem to be the only one from work that comments, I never know what to say, even when he comes into the office for a few days, what do you say? Hey how are you? Well let's see I am fucking dying that's how I am. What would you say?
what do you want to say?
learn from him, deal with your own discomfort and fear.
Not everybody gets the opportunity to prepare for their death. Search out if you can the Nuala O Faolain interview from a few years back. Unless you are completly disconnected from the natives one of them will remember it
If you are competely disconnected maybe this gentleman gives you an opportunity to do some thing about that
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Serious answer. Talk to him exactly like you always would.
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Serious answer. Talk to him exactly like you always would.
Really though, in times of need people want normalcy.
The worst thing you can do, is say I'm sorry to hear about your loss type of nonsense. It's just condescending.
If it was any other channel than a blog, I'd say just mention the normal stuff you get on with.
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Doesn't matter what you say, just say something. The worst you can do is keep silent. He will think you just disregarded him already.
Don't make any false or generic offerings to him like most people or empty promises. If he has accepted the inevitable then it is much easier. Best thing you can do is just listen if he wants to talk.
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Working colleague of mine is in ( as it looks) last stage of his fight against his cancer, it's growing and they cannot operate plus the chemo seems to have no effect.
He has a blog a and I seem to be the only one from work that comments, I never know what to say, even when he comes into the office for a few days, what do you say? Hey how are you? Well let's see I am fucking dying that's how I am.
What would you say?
If the doc told you you had three months left to live, what would YOU want people to say to you?
"Hey man! Ill buy you a trip to Rio/Thailand/Greece/Haiti and ill give ya 100k to spend on Hoes before you die"
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"How ya doing old chap? Keep that chin up! It's not gonna be long now"
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when I die and go to heaven, Tito24, Wiggs and I will sit and browse Getbig together.
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Working colleague of mine is in ( as it looks) last stage of his fight against his cancer, it's growing and they cannot operate plus the chemo seems to have no effect.
He has a blog a and I seem to be the only one from work that comments, I never know what to say, even when he comes into the office for a few days, what do you say? Hey how are you? Well let's see I am fucking dying that's how I am.
What would you say?
^^
Im Namen der deutschen fuhrer ich hiermit vergeben Sie das Ritterkreuz ...
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when I die and go to heaven, Tito24, Wiggs and I will sit and browse Getbig together.
As long tito is posting the pictures !!!..... ;D
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Talk to him. And not about the cancer. But about life. Listen to him. Most people want to just be heard. Ask questions about dealing with family, life, and focus on good times. Talk about his hobbies---fishing, cars, etc. and maybe in his honor, take it up. learn from him. You'd be surprise how people feel to NOT have to focus on their illness and be treated like a normal human being instead of a pity-case.
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Talk to him. And not about the cancer. But about life. Listen to him. Most people want to just be heard. Ask questions about dealing with family, life, and focus on good times. Talk about his hobbies---fishing, cars, etc. and maybe in his honor, take it up. learn from him. You'd be surprise how people feel to NOT have to focus on their illness and be treated like a normal human being instead of a pity-case.
This ^. If someone is dying just be a friend listen to them do not be critical on whatever his life has been.
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This ^. If someone is dying just be a friend listen to them do not be critical on whatever his life has been.
people are already hyper-critical of themselves already.
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people are already hyper-critical of themselves already.
Agreed my dad died last year so I know what you are saying. You just got to befriend a dying person, listen to them.
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tell him to start lifting weights and consume cabbage puree shakes
life takes some effort to be alive and live, it aint no freebee
take enough cabbage puree and youll know your alive even as you feel the life fall out of your bottom evenif you already felt the bottom fell out of your life
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i get a sick feeling my stomach thinking about death
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i get a sick feeling my stomach thinking about death
We all got to go Johnny, just hope it isnt painful I want to go out in my sleep never wake up again.
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i get a sick feeling my stomach thinking about death
get better quality cabbage
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damn the harmony..ask him when's the last time he had some ass thrown in his face then take him to a ratchet ass strip club and let the man go wild.
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damn the harmony..ask him when's the last time he had some ass thrown in his face then take him to a ratchet ass strip club and let the man go wild.
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i get a sick feeling my stomach thinking about death
Same here, Johnny. I do not like thinking about it. Often get depressed when I think about it.
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"Better you then me"
"Is your girlfriend/wife hot?"
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Just talk to the man as if you would anybody else, you don't have to talk about death, or unload some long winded philosophical gem. We're all dying, it's just a matter of when, do you want some jerk off coming up to you and talking about how sad it is that you are going to die. If they want to talk about it fine, but no need to change the way you interact with anybody just because they are dying.
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i get a sick feeling my stomach thinking about death
Learn to embrace it with wind in your teeth Johnny and it will be allright.
Here is a song my friend wrote about it: