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Title: Promise Rings
Post by: jaejonna on September 28, 2006, 07:18:32 AM
Hey babes,

What are your feelings about being in a relationship that has reached its year anniversary and getting a 'promise ring' as an aniversary gift ?? Is this common ?

Jaejonna
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Post by: Option D on September 28, 2006, 07:27:16 AM
Ive had a friend that has given out 4 "promise rings" in 5 years. Once it was because he was caught cheating on his girl so he gave her one. Kind of like a smaller scale kobe.
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Post by: Butterbean on September 28, 2006, 07:42:50 AM
I guess I'm not sure what a Promise Ring means.  Does it mean you promise to marry her?  IMO if you hand a girl a ring box or even a ring, she may think you're proposing and when you then call it a promise ring, there may be some trouble :P

...........unless you've talked about a promise ring together and she knows that's what her ring is from the start.


 
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Post by: jaejonna on September 28, 2006, 07:54:04 AM
I think the term is the modern day "going steady"... equivalent to her wearing my "pin".
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Post by: Option D on September 28, 2006, 08:01:58 AM
Yeah I think JJ has it right. I have never given any kind of ring except for earings, but i think its like a commitment ring.
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Post by: Butterbean on September 28, 2006, 09:41:23 AM
I think the term is the modern day "going steady"... equivalent to her wearing my "pin".

So it just means you and her are exclusive?  Of course you can both just verbally agree to this but I think that's kind of sweet that the ring is a symbol of your fidelity.

But I think you should tell her you want to give her a "promise ring" before giving it to her or she may think you are giving her an engagement ring.
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Post by: Option D on September 28, 2006, 09:43:26 AM
But with the engagement ring you go through the speech and the one knee. I think the promise ring is less dramatic.
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Post by: The BEAST on September 28, 2006, 10:45:14 AM
I think I would like it, depending on the ring...any pictures?

Oh and an explanation at the time of giving would be a good thing
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Post by: Oldschool Flip on September 28, 2006, 12:20:12 PM
Hey babes,

What are your feelings about being in a relationship that has reached its year anniversary and getting a 'promise ring' as an aniversary gift ?? Is this common ?

Jaejonna
Bro

If shes Flip, just give her a balut with your name on it! She'll understand! ;D
Title: Re: Promise Rings
Post by: YoMamaBeenLurking on September 28, 2006, 01:20:43 PM
Bro

If shes Flip, just give her a balut with your name on it! She'll understand! ;D


You sick, twisted bastard ;D :)
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Post by: Oldschool Flip on September 28, 2006, 05:40:31 PM

You sick, twisted bastard ;D :)
Yeah, someone in the group has to be the gross one. ;D Did I ever tell you what Dinaguan is?
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Post by: mish on September 28, 2006, 07:07:27 PM
Jesus I just googled it :-X

I don't know which one is worse, let me put it this way I'm sure as hell not eating either one voluntarily.
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Post by: Faust on September 29, 2006, 02:59:00 PM
Great idea.
Next time i take my girl to a restaurant, i'll get down on my knee, take out a ring.

And promise not to fart in bed ever again.
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Post by: Deadpool on September 29, 2006, 03:45:37 PM
it used to be, you got pinned

then you got a promise ring

then you got an engagement ring...this is the point of no return, you'd lose face after that.  YOu set the date with the engagement ring, the promise ring just means exclusivity, not marrage
Title: Re: Promise Rings
Post by: Butterbean on September 30, 2006, 08:32:48 AM
Great idea.
Next time i take my girl to a restaurant, i'll get down on my knee, take out a ring.

And promise not to fart in bed ever again.


I'll bet $100 you can't keep that promise :)
Title: Re: Promise Rings
Post by: Mydavid on September 30, 2006, 08:52:04 AM
Hey babes,

What are your feelings about being in a relationship that has reached its year anniversary and getting a 'promise ring' as an aniversary gift ?? Is this common ?

Jaejonna

This husband (i've had one other ;D) is the only guy in my life to have bought me a so called "promise ring"...a few months later i got the engagement ring and it was beautiful. When we got married we had a duplicate of the promise ring made and that's what he put on my finger at the wedding. I say promise rings are just fine...plus this guy is a keeper!!!!!

Lisa
Title: Re: Promise Rings
Post by: Deadpool on September 30, 2006, 09:35:19 AM
watch out for a kanardly diamond
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Post by: Butterbean on September 30, 2006, 09:42:50 AM
watch out for a kanardly diamond

what's that Meddie?
Title: Re: Promise Rings
Post by: Deadpool on September 30, 2006, 09:46:16 AM
it's so small, you kanardly see it!  :D
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Post by: Butterbean on September 30, 2006, 09:50:46 AM
hehehehehe
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Post by: danielson on September 30, 2006, 09:53:52 AM
Hey babes,

What are your feelings about being in a relationship that has reached its year anniversary and getting a 'promise ring' as an aniversary gift ?? Is this common ?

Jaejonna

Nothing says love like CZ, trust me ::)

http://cubiczirconia.goldenmine.com/
Title: Re: Promise Rings
Post by: Deadpool on September 30, 2006, 09:54:12 AM
thought you might enjoy that  ;)
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Post by: Mydavid on September 30, 2006, 10:00:22 AM
it's so small, you kanardly see it!  :D

That's funny!!!!!

Lisa
Title: Re: Promise Rings
Post by: Deadpool on September 30, 2006, 10:45:03 AM
I have to admit I stole that from my sister...but it was funny when she said it
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Post by: xxxLinda on September 30, 2006, 11:32:09 AM
I just say "give me a ring later..."


...on my way out the door.


xL
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Post by: ignorance on September 30, 2006, 12:06:14 PM
8 months within to my current relationship I got my girl a .50ct diamond ring. She cried then was happy, then cried and then held me for abit, and then.. well you have to be 18+ for that story. at 2 years into the relationship I got her an engagement ring, but we are not in engaged. 2.5 ct diamond ring. Same story just funnier, she didn't want to open the box fear for it to be empty. Then the 18+ happened again. Now I just buy her food and a movie, like to old days. To hell with rings. Diamond are not forever, you know why? Because you'll dead before they get put back into the ground.
Title: Re: Promise Rings
Post by: AVBG on September 30, 2006, 12:13:03 PM
IMO, Dont go half way with a promise ring, talk is cheap.. IF they mean that much to you, spend the extra cash and get an engagement ring.
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Post by: ToxicAvenger on October 03, 2006, 11:47:35 PM
my 2 cents...


if i love a girl i'll propose...

a promise ring shows that someone is unsure about love...


you either r in love or not

heed this sonnet

Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
   If this be error and upon me proved,
   I never writ, nor no man ever loved.
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Post by: 2lean on October 04, 2006, 10:39:04 AM
"a promise ring shows that someone is unsure about love..."
I agree with Toxic and I love the sonnet!

IMO, a promise ring just seems so high schoolish. High schoolish as in the 60's!  But if you are in to that sort of thing, that's your business.  Good luck to you whatever you decide to do.
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Post by: Playboy on October 04, 2006, 10:44:39 AM
I say skip on the promise ring and save it for the real deal. An engagement ring. That will truly tell her how you feel about her.  ;)

PB
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Post by: Migs on October 04, 2006, 10:52:45 AM
I say skip on the promise ring and save it for the real deal. An engagement ring. That will truly tell her how you feel about her.  ;)

PB

i agree.  promise rings seem immature. 
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Post by: Deadpool on October 04, 2006, 10:54:50 AM
they had their day in a more courtly society
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Post by: Migs on October 04, 2006, 11:01:43 AM
is it true that the first time a woman gets engaged its a diamond, but if she gets divordced, etc then it's ok to get her another stone or a ring that has several stones?
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Post by: jaejonna on October 04, 2006, 11:04:28 AM
I told my girl to chill with the promise ring ans instead I bought her nice jeans (hence the jeans thread) I told her that I didnt want to spend alot of money on something that will look small and insignificant but rather to buy something you would actually use!
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Post by: Migs on October 04, 2006, 11:06:30 AM
Bro

If shes Flip, just give her a balut with your name on it! She'll understand! ;D

buwahahahaha
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Post by: Playboy on October 04, 2006, 12:02:50 PM
i agree.  promise rings seem immature. 
Highschool kids do the promise ring thing. Immature is right.

PB
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Post by: Migs on October 04, 2006, 12:06:02 PM
i actually look forward to the time when i get to buy a woman a ring
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Post by: Playboy on October 04, 2006, 12:14:35 PM
i actually look forward to the time when i get to buy a woman a ring
i'm already looking. And believe me Migs, its not cheap. I'm in the 8 grand budget just to give you an idea.

PB
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Post by: Migs on October 04, 2006, 01:34:01 PM
i'm already looking. And believe me Migs, its not cheap. I'm in the 8 grand budget just to give you an idea.

PB

jebus man,  that's a lot.  Well i'm in the beginning stages of looking (i.e.  still need a girl, lol)
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Post by: BigWhoop on October 04, 2006, 01:43:49 PM
i thought an engagement ring is one third of your yearly salary ??
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Post by: The BEAST on October 04, 2006, 02:27:57 PM
i thought an engagement ring is one third of your yearly salary ??

Gosh I hope you find a woman who thinks this is ridiculous...people are so superficial and so easily influenced by advertisments it makes me shake my head
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Post by: danielson on October 04, 2006, 02:45:09 PM
i thought an engagement ring is one third of your yearly salary ??

Two months salary.
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Post by: Migs on October 04, 2006, 02:55:44 PM
debeers
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Post by: Playboy on October 05, 2006, 05:13:24 AM
Two months salary.
More...

PB
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Post by: Playboy on October 05, 2006, 05:26:37 AM
Gosh I hope you find a woman who thinks this is ridiculous...people are so superficial and so easily influenced by advertisments it makes me shake my head
Its not even that, rings in General are very expensive. Even a half decent engagement ring will cost anywhere from 4-5 thousand dollars. then you have to worry about the quality of the cut, flaws in the diamond(s), etc. You know the drill, the more you spend, the better quality cut of diamond you get. It pays to know a good jewler.

PB
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Post by: CQ on October 05, 2006, 05:52:30 AM
Gosh I hope you find a woman who thinks this is ridiculous...people are so superficial and so easily influenced by advertisments it makes me shake my head

I know. I think unless someone is loaded it is ghey to spend tons on a ring. If you are rich...cool. I know people who didn't own homes who went out and spent thousands on rings. People that had kids already, no college fund, but spent a mint on on rings :-\

My engagement and wedding rings were both rather inexpensive. We bought a house instead. I had a great marriage, and still wear them around my neck to this day. They have not turned green as of yet ;D
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Post by: Migs on October 05, 2006, 08:12:38 AM
lol.  I understand wanting to give your SO a nice ring, but 4-5k is a lot of money
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Post by: Playboy on October 05, 2006, 09:44:53 AM
lol.  I understand wanting to give your SO a nice ring, but 4-5k is a lot of money
I hear ya. Thats why its best if you know of or have a good hook up with a jewler. Things can get pretty pricy.

PB
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Post by: Migs on October 05, 2006, 09:50:54 AM
yeah but man it seems like its hard to find a jeweler that seems to be looking out or you
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Post by: Playboy on October 05, 2006, 12:02:38 PM
yeah but man it seems like its hard to find a jeweler that seems to be looking out or you
I meant a buddy or relative in the business.

PB
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Post by: The BEAST on October 05, 2006, 01:07:10 PM
I know. I think unless someone is loaded it is ghey to spend tons on a ring. If you are rich...cool. I know people who didn't own homes who went out and spent thousands on rings. People that had kids already, no college fund, but spent a mint on on rings :-\

My engagement and wedding rings were both rather inexpensive. We bought a house instead. I had a great marriage, and still wear them around my neck to this day. They have not turned green as of yet ;D

Very nice to hear (and congrats of course on having a good marriage and head on your shoulders!)

It is just a stupid ring...people should spend more time getting the relationship part down and not worry so much about the 4 C's and the wedding (imo)
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Post by: Migs on October 05, 2006, 01:09:24 PM
how much is the average wedding now a days, i heard something like 20k???   :o
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Post by: The BEAST on October 05, 2006, 01:15:48 PM
That may be the average but I know a few couples weddings that were over 30 G's and they did not have a ton of money.  What was the craziest was like 2 months after one girls wedding I was speaking with her mother.  Now the wedding was beautiful and the room looked amazing and the mother says "We should have had more flowers on the tables"  WTF???  I would think that you would be saying "man, we spent too much on flowers, or decorations...blah blah blah"  Most people don't remember those things, they remember the dancing and people and overall atmosphere.  Who really cares if there were 10 more roses on each table?  Granted decorations add to the overall ambiance but people are crazy.
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Post by: Migs on October 05, 2006, 01:29:18 PM
sorry but that is insane to me.  i rather use that money to buy a home or something
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Post by: The BEAST on October 05, 2006, 02:34:16 PM
Exactly
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Post by: bmacsys on October 05, 2006, 08:24:19 PM
Aren't promise rings something you do at like 17 years old?
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Post by: Migs on October 05, 2006, 08:27:31 PM
nope.  not unless you are a wussy
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Post by: bmacsys on October 05, 2006, 08:31:14 PM
nope.  not unless you are a wussy

Migs, I was married for 20 years to my childhood sweetheart. We hooked up at like 14. I had known her since kindergarten. I can't even remember anything about how courtship works. At 45 this old dog isn't learning any new tricks!
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Post by: Migs on October 05, 2006, 08:34:54 PM
lol.  growing up for me we would give girls our varsity pin..never a promise ring