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1  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: The Requests are Through the Roof on: April 17, 2014, 10:29:51 AM
oh ya, 2 favorite songs  Cheesy

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Excellent taste in music. Which is obviously a self-serving comment, since I love the same two songs you posted.
2  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Street Thug VS German Shepherd (Who Would Win?) on: April 17, 2014, 08:28:35 AM
Good dogs.
3  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: advise: guys who been there or the science behind it on: April 17, 2014, 08:20:25 AM
I rely, generally speaking, on science.

One individual's genetic make-up makes it near impossible to apply their methods to me and hope for similar results. They may in fact be an outlier, and outliers are of no use to the average person.

I use average results, over large populations, to extrapolate what my results will be.

For example, on average, people with post-secondary education make $X,XXX more than those who only have high school education. I know high school educated friends who make far more than I do. To have emulated their methods hoping for their results may have proven disastrous for me.

So instead, I rely on the law of averages over large populations. I went and got post-secondary education because if I'm the average guy, then on average, I should expect average results. And lets face it, we're all pretty average, even though society and our moms keep telling us we're all very, very special unique butterflies.

So, when it comes to how I eat, I follow the general average results that average people can expect with the average diet. Nothing special. I'm probably quite average.

When it comes to response to supplements, I generally tend to assume I'm average, and look to what the average results are with supplements. And I expect I'll be around there.

In fact, I may or may not be an outlier. But I can't assume I will be. But I must assume that a single person, does not a statistically significant average result make.

I like to idolize those who achieve the results I desire. But I would never fool myself into believing that doing what they do will work in any way, shape, or form for me. I err on the side of caution; what are the majority of bodybuilders doing, most of the time, and how to do most of them look? I will then do what most of them do, most of the time, and expect to look like most of them do.

Chances are I'm not going to find any sort of secret on my own. Or by watching another person do it.

But that's just my opinion. And I'm one guy. So you'd be foolhardy to base your approach on what one man said, if you believe anything I've written above. How ironic...
4  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Worst muscle receptors than ESFitness on: April 16, 2014, 10:17:10 AM
This guy was kicked out from the Tour De France for steroid usage. He admitted to the following usage for many years:

Growth hormone, Testosterone, DHEA, Insulin, IGF-1, EPO, Cortisone

Anabolics of peace

That's the color my arms take on when I fall asleep in the boat on my fishing trips for pickerel.
5  Getbig Bodybuilding Boards / Steroids Info & Hardcore / Re: Who here currently takes or has taken Masteron? on: April 13, 2014, 04:50:14 PM
I didn't respond like crazy to it. Just being honest.

It was a very forgettable compound for me.

Maybe I didn't use enough.

Was using 1g of test/week at contest time, and did 200mg/week on top of that of Masteron for 4 weeks. Didn't like it, and went back to the old faithful stuff.

Like I said, just one guy's opinion.
6  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Man to serve sentence after clerical error let him walk for 13 years on: April 13, 2014, 04:03:13 PM
fucked up situation for that fella for sure. maybe he'll get a judge with some common sense.. or maybe not.

on a side note.. aol is still around  Huh

That's the real crime here.

Won't someone think about the children?
7  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: What is your worst nutcracker moment? on: April 11, 2014, 04:09:06 PM
My worst one was a botched vasectomy where the freezing did not work as expected. I don't believe I need to go into greater detail here. Just imagine the most outrageous, inhuman, and eye-bulging pain you've ever felt. That's what it was during the surgery. You know that scene in the James Bond movie where Daniel Craig is sitting naked on the chair, and the bad guy hits his nuts repeatedly with that thick knotted rope? That's how I felt. Time three. The pain was so significant I actually froze up and was paralyzed. No crying, no screaming...just pure pain. I now know what will happen to me if I'm ever tortured. I won't cry or scream. I'll just freeze up and clench my teeth until they shatter. It's good for a man to know that about himself, I suppose.

Second worst: post-botched vasectomy, I was walking through a grocery store, pushing the cart with my son in the little carrier section up top. He's facing me (all of about 1 year old). His little feet are dangling and kicking back and forth the way little boys feet do. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, one of his little kicking feet connects squarely with my right nut. This is approximately one month after my botched surgery, and the nerves down there are trying to re-generate, and part of that regeneration is that they go haywire with pain signals at the lightest of touches. I'd gone a solid month without even so much as a vague brush up against the sweets. But my son's little toe caught me square in the chicklets with exacting precision. I dropped like a stone, in the middle of the ice cream aisle. I couldn't cry out, because the pain was so significant. I just collapsed. Moms in the aisle thought I was having a stroke. One dad walked up to me, looked down on me, and said (and I shit you not): "the little guy really got you good on that one pal!". And then he walked away chuckling. I can now laugh about it to this day. That random guy had to have been a getbigger.

8  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: My wife backed over my protein powder on: April 11, 2014, 03:59:44 PM
It's all over the driveway. Grounds for divorce?

I'm sure this is covered in your pre-nup, since the standard getbig billionaire pre-nups usually contain this boilerplate clause.

She's probably already packed her bags, which I'm sure will come as a great relief to you. 

9  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Any of the 30ish year olds have the urge to compete in a sport or something? on: April 10, 2014, 05:39:59 AM
My glory days were cut short a la Al Bundy. For a while now I've had the urge to compete again. I was thinking about getting back in bjj and grappling and actually competing this time.

I notice Soul Crusher probably has the similar drive to compete and test himself.

Do it.

I picked up BJJ in my 30s and now compete (albeit with mixed results).

I had a high school/college wrestling background, which makes me effective in things traditional BJJ people are weak in, yet also very uncomfortable and awkward in other spots where I freak out and other BJJ guys are very comfortable.

It's lots of fun. As long you don't get some dickhead who thinks inverted heel locks are ok in white belt, and he rips your knee up. Good BJJ practitioners are a reflection of their sensei/renshi. Dicks beget dicks.
10  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: 10 outrageous (but true) facts about vaccines on: April 10, 2014, 05:37:09 AM
I'll hold my breath until OMR chimes in.

He knows more about this stuff than just about anyone on the board.
11  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Mass Stabbing @ High School in Pennsylvania on: April 09, 2014, 04:07:37 PM
Those advanced knife wielding skills will come in handy in the state pen, should our young man, shiv in hand, find himself being recruited for a not-so-glamorous lifestyle.
12  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Grape Ape on a roll on: April 09, 2014, 08:27:31 AM
Grape is a man who knows a thing or two about posting and lifting.
13  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Dorian Yates vs. Ronnie Coleman - who was better? on: April 09, 2014, 07:24:20 AM
It's about time this debate had its moment in the sun. A long time coming, I say.

14  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Mentally challenged bbder BANNED from GYM and destroys the place! on: April 09, 2014, 07:21:07 AM

I had the most unpleasant dinner this past Friday evening... a true disaster, brothers!

I was having dinner with my family. My father sat at the head of the table, and as we enjoyed a 7 course meal the subject drifted to that of my 'future.'
"Son, you are 34 years old... graduate of a top university...bred of the finest stock...yet you waste yourself on this horrible bodybuilding nonsense. I demand it cease- at once!!" he roared.
I stopped chewing on my mouthful of pacific smoked salmon.
I looked slowly around the table at my family and guests, glaring at each of them. I stood up, quivering in rage. Through gritted teeth, I addressed my father- "Father, I am going to be Mr. Olympia and bring honour to this family! You'll see....soon, I shall be the biggest, most developed human being in recorded history!" I declared. "It's simply revolting, really horrible...all those MUST stop it! tsk tsk!" my 108 year old great-grandmother croaked. My sister and mother chimed in "A sick, narcissistic pastime- it's DISGUSTING!!" they sneered.

I had had enough- "No man respects his elders as I, but this is infringing on my very reason for existence! **** ALL OF YOU ****ING WANKERS! YOU'LL SEE! DIE DIE DIE!!!" I screamed, and struck the table with my fist with such force that it cracked down the middle. I picked up a bottle of red wine, chugged it down, and threw it against the wall, shattering it to bits! Screaming "NOBODY ****ING UNDERSTANDS ME! ARRRGGH! FUUUUCK!!!" I flipped over the table and stormed out! My great-grandmother got in my way, and I picked her up and bodyslammed her on the hardwood floor, putting her right through it! Nobby entered the scene, just in time, as my mother and older sister were advancing with hostile intent- Nobby caught them both in a devastating double clothesline, sending them arse-over-tit onto the floor. "Fookin bitches! Ere you go!" he snarled, as he gave them each a well-deserved boot to the ribs.

Nobby and I marched out. "Nobby, let's head to the gym...I'll show them all!" I roared, so loud that the house trembled.
"Roight. Fookin gym. Let's fookin do it!!" Nobby added, in his thick east-end of London accent. We stopped at Marvin's group home (he is the Down Syndrome's afflicted lad that works out with us) punched out one of the staff who got in our way, and brought Marvin along with us!

We got to the gym...and it was closed!
Seems that on Fridays it shuts at 930pm. Not to be dismayed, Marvin threw himself through the front door, screaming, and we entered and had the place to ourselves. After an incredibly hard-core workout, we ordered a 12-person Chinese meal, and Nobby gathered the various liquor bottles and cigars from the Rolls Royce and we drank and smoked cigars till the wee hours of the morning, then passed out on the gym floor. I awoke to a gymful of smoke- seems Marvin must have dropped a lit cigar on the floor! As the fire spread and the sirens of fire engines neared, I woke Nobby and we staggered out of the gym, and passed out in a back alley. Later that morning, as we headed down the street, passing the burnt-out gym, I mentioned to Nobby "Seems the place burnt down. Oh well, I couldn't stand their 'no-injecting- in the locker room' nonsense!" I sneered.
"Fookin roight" Nobby commiserated.
"Looks like Marvin didn't make it...oh, there he is- alive and well!" I exclaimed, noticing paramedics wheeling a badly burned Marvin into an ambulance.

Has anyone else had to suffer from parental disapproval of his Iron Warrior lifestyle?
15  Getbig Main Boards / General Topics / Re: 2 yr old starved 9 days before dying due to ban on euthanasia on: April 09, 2014, 06:49:56 AM
Yes it is very different.. but I still think there should be room for a review of the current situation instead of blindly following protocol. The law as helpful as it is, cannot describe everything in this world.

Personally I think if you going to kill someone.. it's better to end it quickly than to starve the person no matter how many drugs you give them. I'm not sure what happened with this baby and why one way of killing is legal but another isn't.

But I am not sure anyone has the right to kill someone anyhow, even though they may suffer it seems wrong to me and I wouldn't want anyone else making that choice for me and I would have a hard time pulling someones plug no matter what.

There are of course nuances to killing, like self defense, suicide, survival and euthanasia. And also the species of killee.

And the fact that we can keep someone alive with machines today really adds to the difficulty of defining euthanasia when the person should never have survived in nature. When is the person really alive, where is the line drawn? Where will technology go in the future? Is there no need to change the laws when the world is changing around us?

All these nuances makes it questionable to have a cookie cutter absolutistic bans that is supposed to apply for all.

I definitely agree with this.

If one is capable of choosing (i.e. old enough, mature enough, and with their faculties intact), then one should be free to choose when to checkout. I find it appalling that the law will not allow me to sign a document right now stating that I choose to die on my terms, when it is my time, without calling it suicide. If I were to do it, my family would be robbed of all the life insurance money that should rightfully be paid to them.

Doesn't that make anyone wonder who really pulls the strings here? Is it a life insurance corporate agenda to keep people from checking out and forcing payouts?

Maybe...maybe not. Probably not. And I digress....

If I'm terminally ill, I should be able to put a gun in my mouth and take care of things my own way. And life insurance companies should payout to my family as if I were allowed to waste away and rot in a hospice bed for months. Is one death ok, and another decidedly more undignified and unworthy? I say no.

The grey area comes into when adults are allowed to decide when others in their family should be put to death. What if I'm old, and rotting, and my kids decide it's time for dad to ride into the sunset so they can get a payout? What if I decide it's not my time, but I'm not considered "mentally there" enough to make that decision. And euthanasia is deemed ok, and the kids get to decide it. I'd still love them if there's an afterlife, and if there isn't, I'm dead and won't care anyways. But I want it to be my call...not the state, or a family member.

I wonder if that little girl felt the same. Or felt nothing at all and it didn't matter. I guess we'll never know. Maybe that's why the debate is so hard to wrestle to the ground.

Who's allowed to kill themselves for humanitarian reasons? Who's not?

Can a parent really decide for a child? Should they? I want to say yes, but I couldn't. Because if it were my little one suffering, as much I'd want to hold onto them forever, it would be my own selfish heart that's doing the thinking. I wouldn't be thinking clearly about my own child's needs. I couldn't bear life without them. I couldn't bear waking up in the middle of the night wondering if there was some tiny sliver of hope and I gave up on them.

Maybe my child would always want to live. Children have a natural fighting spirit that never gives up...a spirit that gets beaten out of us as we grow into adults. You see all these little kids in cancer wings of the hospital (I saw it a lot when my daughter was very ill and spent a while in the hospital) know there are adults that if faced with the hell these kids go through, would want to give up. But these kids smile, and laugh, and just go on living. They're not as happy as they could be, but somehow, their joie-de-vivre lets them live on. They're so much stronger than adults.

And if my child is like that, even in a vegetative state, is there not some tiny bit of spirit in their bodies somewhere...some tiny bit of consciousness somewhere crying out to mommy and daddy to just hug them a bit more and not give up on them? How do I know there isn't? Some doctor's word? Some machine? How will I ever live with myself? I'll never know, will I? I'll never know if there was a tiny bit of hope left in their bodies, and I snuffed it out. I will have given up on them.

And I know they'll be dead. So it won't matter to them. But it will matter to me for the rest of my life and haunt me until it crushes every last reason for living out of my body. And I know that's selfish. But I'm honest enough with myself to know where I stand.

I'm admitting I'm not strong enough to do what these parents did, if that is in fact a show of strength. I could never do it. I would simply lay in their beds beside them and hold them until the machines couldn't keep them alive anymore, or my own heart stopped beating and someone else could step in and do what I didn't have the strength or courage or unattachment to do.

Buy my weakness should not prevent another parent who's strong enough to do what I won't. And the heartlessness of a state that forces a parent, who deems this to be appropriate, to have to starve a baby is badly in need of reform.

If you don't think a humane euthanasia is acceptable, then neither is starving a little girl. One cannot be unacceptable and the other acceptable. That kind of laissez-faire attitude doesn't cut it with me. That's laziness and avoiding the complexity and humanity of the situation. But we can't bury our heads in the sand about it.

Reform is needed. And I would vote that parents should have a right to end a child's needless suffering. I would never use the power this law gives me, but it's nice to know bureaucracy and a nanny-state aren't preventing me from doing what is right for my baby. It's not their call. It's mine. It always will be mine. And there's a big difference between murder and euthanasia, and those who don't see the line are shit-disturbers of the most heinous nature.
16  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Mentally challenged bbder BANNED from GYM and destroys the place! on: April 08, 2014, 11:17:16 AM


I don't want to ruin anyone's festive season, but I couldn't hold back from posting the following tale of some horrible injustices visited on a couple of dear colleagues and fellow Iron Warrior Brothers of mine.

Nobby was sentenced to community service, stemming from a violent altercation at the gym.

His 'community service' was none other than a stint as Santa Claus at a local shopping mall. Marvin, a mentally retarded lad from the gym, and I went along to lend him moral support, and the following events transpired.

The three of us arrived at the mall, Nobby and I both a tad intoxicated, and the shopping mall manager suited Nobby out. "HAVE YOU BEEN DRINKING??!!" the scrawny mall manager snapped at Nobby as he helped him put on the Santa coat. Nobby seized the fellow by the tie and pulled him up in the air and an inch from his nose. "FOOKIN ROIGHT!!" he snarled, then threw the little worm into the wall, knocking him unconscious!
Nobby's massive, tree trunk thighs and telephone pole arms barely fit into the spacious outfit.

Nobby lumbered out to Santa's chair, and I stood within earshot, and in between sips from my flask of whiskey I listened in on Nobby's touchingly warm and gentle manner with children. A lad of about 7 climbed up on 'Santa's' lap, and Nobby snarled "Wot the fook yew wontin this year, pal?".
"Well, Santa, me friends beat up on me, and I could use something to defend myself with...maybe a book on karate.." the young boy whimpered. Nobby reached into his pocket, and produced his bike chain. "'Ere, son. Give em a few fookin belts across the face with this. URT THE BAHSTAHDS!" Nobby said in a warm, fatherly tone. The young lad, filled with joy, seized the bike chain, jumped off of Santa's lap, and ran up to another youngster and began beating him down with the chain, screaming "Who's bullyin who now, ****in arsehole!". I grew misty eyed, as the joy of Christmas was so touchingly spread by Nobby's special way with children.

The next youngster was a little girl of perhaps 4. She looked terrified, and Nobby hit a double-biceps pose in her face, the seams of the sleeves bursting open under the pressure from his cannonball biceps. "Mama, Santa's a monster!" the little girl screamed, and ran off crying. Santa's merry 'Ho Ho Ho' echoed through the mall, and I joined him in thunderous laughter. The girl's mother looked most displeased.
The next lad, about 6, hopped up on Santa's lap. "Santa, I want
a toy gun...but my parents are making me want a ballet outfit" he snivelled. "Wot the fook?!" Santa gasped. "A fookin real gun is what you need, laddie" . "NO HE WANTS A BALLET OUTFIT!" a bitchy voice screeched. Two 'wimmin', obviously 'partners', angrily approached Santa. "He is our son...yes, WE adopted him...and we won't have him becoming a violent male pig...he WILL enroll in ballet" the manly-looking lesbian snarled. Nobby calmly put the boy aside, then exploded in rage. With a mighty roar of "FOOKIN POOFTTAAHHS!!!" he sprang from his chair and, both arms outstretched, dealt a devastating double-clothesline to the two abberations of nature, sending their fat, pants-and-sweatshirt forms flying through the air and into the shopping mall fountain.

I turned to Marvin, our down-syndrome afflicted, 2-inch-thick-lensed glasses wearing, fellow Iron Warrior.
Pointing at the calamity ensuing between Nobby, the lesbians, and the little girl's mother, I pointed out "Will you look at the way those horrible people are treating Nobby? MARVIN, ARE YOU JUST GOING TO BLOODY WELL STAND THERE AND LET SANTA BE ABUSED?!" I screamed in his ear. Marvin began trembling in rage, then charged forth in one of his celebrated, Japanese 'banzai' charges and, seizing a plastic Christmas tree, began attacking the growing crowd of angry parents that surrounded Nobby. He charged into them, bashing heads with the tree until it broke apart, then began clotheslining, kicking, and biting his way through the crowd. Nobby and I headed off, as a crowd of security guards arrived on the scene, and after emptying a few cans of mace into Marvin's face, pummelled him into a pulp with their clubs.
Nobby and I ducked into the liquor store, and on leaving Nobby seized one of our whiskey bottles and hurled it towards the crowd of security guards, screaming "FOOKIN BASTAHHHDS!!". The bottle sailed through the air and, as cruel fate would have it, hit Marvin smack on the head, shattering into a million pieces! We made it out of the mall as the crowd fled, screaming, and roared out the parking garage in the Rolls Royce, like a bat out of Hell!
Nobby has since been fired by the mall management.

What on earth ever happened to the Spirit of Christmas? Where has it gone, for the love of GOD!?
17  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Mentally challenged bbder BANNED from GYM and destroys the place! on: April 08, 2014, 11:12:29 AM
I have read that 'roid rage' is nonsense. Well, let me say, after Sunday's events, I KNOW roid rage is real, and it frightens me!

I have been on a bulking cycle of 2 grams of test a week and 200 mg anadrol a day for some months now, and I can tell you I definitely must be experiencing roid rage. Here is how it all happened-

Sunday began as always.
I awoke in the morning, ate stacks of pancakes, several packs of sausages, 2 dozen eggs, and a 5-scoop shake of Joe Weider's 'Mega Mass 4000', then donned one of my 1500 dollar Italian suits, and headed off for Sunday mass. My driver, Nobby, whisked me to the 500 year old Cathedral I attend every Sunday, and we both walked in and sat down most humbly and reverently.
As the mass commenced, I heard a voice behind me whispering, and some giggling, and simply EXPLODED in rage. I spun around, and screamed "SILENCE! This is a HOUSE OF GOD, you tramp!!" in the face of the teenage girl who was the cause of this disturbance. The congregation fell silent, even the priest stopped saying mass for a moment. The man in front of me turned around and gave me a most insulting look, as if I had somehow done something wrong here!
I sat shaking in rage at this pencil neck, and when that part of the mass came in which members turn to others and shake their hands, saying 'Peace of Christ', this man turned to me.
"Peace be with you" he muttered, and held out his hand.
I grasped his hand, began crushing it in a vice-like grip, and screaming!!
It took 20 parishioners, including Nobby, to pull me off of him- I voluntarily released my grip, and he fell to the floor, his hand a lump of crushed bone!
Later, outside, as the ambulance took the fellow away, a hostile crowd of parishioners approached me. One of them, a woman who looked about 100 years old, 5 feet tall, and not a pound over 95, came at me brandishing an umbrella- she meant to strike me! Nobby saw this danger, and came rushing forward, clothes-lining the old witch with one of his stubby, massive arms- she was knocked backward so hard that she did a perfect back-flip, arse-over-tit, and fell to the cement like a rag doll. Then the priest approached us, and I punched him right in the face with the force of a wrecking ball, sending him sprawling to the ground, knocked out cold. Nobby took out his bike chain and, swinging it over his head, sent the rest of the hostile crowd running in terror.
Nobby and I got into the Rolls Royce and left the scene, as the blaring of police sirens grew near.
Those bastards! They were lucky I hadn't stuck about to press assault charges!

Brothers- what do you think- am I indeed suffering from 'roid rage'?
18  Getbig Main Boards / General Topics / Re: 2 yr old starved 9 days before dying due to ban on euthanasia on: April 08, 2014, 09:33:46 AM
Well yes it's a slippery slope indeed. I don't like the idea of accepted killing, wether it be capital punishment, "euthanasia" or killing of animals for fun.

However you have to make room for common sense and do a case to case judgement when needed about euthanasia and real suffering. I mean in principle is one thing but also important to look at the whole picture.

In the end even if science allowed all humans to live forever it wouldn't be sustainable... slippery yes..

And that, to me, sounds like a trial. With a jury. On a case by case basis.

And how many people are going to be willing to ok a child being killed? Enough to create a consensus amongst a jury? I don't think it'll ever get passed...there's just too much division of opinion on the topc.

And then does that case create precedent to try future cases? If it's a similar case (a little girl, brain dead and suffering, but who was refused euthanasia in a previous case), does that case get dismissed without a hearing? What about a case that's almost the same...

It's not easy, is it.

I agree in common sense. But what's common sense to each of us is quite different, isn't it? 

19  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: 9 month old charged with attempted murder in Pakistan! on: April 08, 2014, 06:24:28 AM
If I had a son, he would look like this.
20  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Mentally challenged bbder BANNED from GYM and destroys the place! on: April 08, 2014, 06:23:02 AM
I absolutely loved these stories from years ago. I was wondering the other day how to find them.

The mention of beatings with a bike chain never fails to make me laugh out loud.

Whoever wrote these is a genius.

I dare someone not to laugh.
21  Getbig Main Boards / General Topics / Re: 2 yr old starved 9 days before dying due to ban on euthanasia on: April 07, 2014, 08:12:35 PM
I like the idea of being able to choose my own way out, and not have the state decide how and when I should go.

But does anyone else on here find it a slippery slope when folks are given the ability to choose when someone else's life should end? How "ok" is it for someone to choose someone's else's time of death, when they person who's dying can't really give consent? Who should be allowed to make that choice? When are they allowed to make it?

I don't have the answers, and I truly wrestle with this one.

Here's one thing I know; those parents just went through the worst kind of hell imaginable. A parent should never have to bury their child.
22  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Do couples married for more than twenty years still have sex? on: April 04, 2014, 01:02:29 PM
Probably tired a lot.

You're probably right.

She's been tired for a long time...

23  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Do couples married for more than twenty years still have sex? on: April 04, 2014, 12:58:21 PM
That wasn't very nice of her, what she said.  Embarrassed

It could be that her drive is really that much lower than yours, in which case you'll be pesky trying to turn her on, or there's something else at work. So...her not wanting sex could be anything else besides not wanting sex...stress at work, insecurity, unresolved issues, etc.

You're going to have to figure out why it takes so much for her to consent to sex. If you've told her that sex is one of the few ways you feel close to her, and she won't go to bed more often...that's sad. If she told you that love notes, dinner, and asparagus made her feel loved or close to you, you should be all up on that writing a note that dinner will be asparagus.

Hi The Boob (fun to write that one):

I've been surrounding the issue and digging at various points to try and find reasons.

She's said "I feel unfulfilled at work". So I took a new higher stress job to make more money, so she could quit her job, find her dream job, and go get it. Which she did.

She's said "the kids drive me crazy - I have no time to be anything but a mom". So I took over getting the kids ready in the morning, making lunches, driving them to school.

She's said "all I do is chores". So I do all the laundry and cooking now (I love cooking, so I've always done that), and dishes. I draw the line at cleaning the bathroom. I'd rather be celibate.

She's said she hates grocery I do that and take the kids with me so she has a couple of hours per week to just hang around the house and de-compress.

She's said she doesn't feel pretty, so I fund a twice monthly spa/haircut appt with a stylist. And I took a portion of my bonus this year, and just turned it over to her "no strings attached" to go on a killer shopping spree.

She's said she has no time to let her hair down with her friends. So I paid for a trip for her and her two girlfriends two months ago to an exclusive spa to do girly crap at the spa.

Often, her excuse is just "I don't feel sexy". But I make sure I remind her daily that I love her, and how attractive I think she is. I think she thinks I'm saying that to "try and score" or I'm "just saying it".

So I am trying. This is not an exhaustive list, and I'm not doing it to create a sense of entitlement for either of us. But merely to illustrate I'm trying.

And I'm not willing to give up. I'll try the next thing.  I haven't bought lingerie or anything like that for her. Maybe that's the next step? Seems obviously self-serving on my part, which is why I've avoided it.

I know there's one thing this board hasn't asked (and I'm surprised): no one has said "hey snx, maybe you just suck in bed and are hung like a sparrow". I don't, and I'm not, but I know no one here will believe that. That's ok. I'm just very sure it's not that, and I won't go into gory details because frankly, that's just rude! :-)
24  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Do couples married for more than twenty years still have sex? on: April 04, 2014, 12:46:36 PM
Does she work?

Yep. A sr. management job in an office. Decent amount of stress, but not crippling stress.

I don't like playing "one up", but her stress at work is about 50% of what I have. And we both agree on that.
25  Getbig Main Boards / Gossip & Opinions / Re: Do couples married for more than twenty years still have sex? on: April 04, 2014, 12:38:04 PM
Ooops. This is going to be a journey, NOT a destination. You'll have to work on it.

Has she seen an endo about her impending menopause? I have recently started "battlespace preparation" for that by talking to her about testosterone therapy as opposed to any estrogen/progesterone therapy. She is all about the increased muscle mass and libido, so this might be an easy sell.

Are handjobs/BJs out of the question if she's not feeling horny? I actually had my wife beg off sex and when I asked for the BJ/HJ she said, "but what about me?". I LOL'd long and hard.

That's the weird thing...HJ's are even off the table if she's not feeling up to it. It's not really that hard...I've been doing them to myself for years. LOL.

Perhaps I start slipping a bit of halotestin in her morning coffee.

Menopause is about 10 years off for her, so she won't get meno treatment now. About all they'd do is counsel her on sex drive, and since most women don't complain about low sex drive, there aren't a lot of doctors out there well versed in helping women treat that problem. If she in fact does have a physiological problem.

And yeah, as we's a long, long road of re-establishing the dynamics of the relationship. My first step was a little shaky and ended on a less than sensitive note, but at least I'm trying.
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