Cool, but uh, what made her your "ex" anyway? I know a guy that remarried his ex after about 8 years of being divorced......I wonder what drives this? Is it familiarity? Do people really change or is there more acceptance? Did you just give up on finding something new or did you settle because you're almost 50?
Just sayin........best of luck to ya this time.
I can understand why you would be curious and your question is perfectly within bounds.
In brief, we got married in 1998 and were togther all the time except for work. She is a national board certified PhD psychologist and a very smart woman. We kinda got too used to eachother and started to just get in a rut.
Now we did have a lot of fun and went on trips and enjoyed life, but during the work week it was pretty hum drum that last few mmonths of our marriage. We still had a great sex life, but mostly on weekends. She had to commute 60 miles each way on rural hwys to go to work each day and THAT wore on her as well.
Her dad died of a heart attack in May of 2006. It was one of those things where he hung on by a thread in the hospital for 3 weeks before he finally passed away. She was very close to her family and was daddys little girl.
He played football at Alabama back in the 60's and was a HUGE man ( 6' 5" 300 plus pounds).
He actually played with Joe Nammeth one season at Alabama under Bear Bryant. He was pastor of his own church and private Christain school , which he started when she was ready to go to school.
She stayed down in Louissiana to help her MOM that summer and it wss never the same when she came back to Ga.
She told me she needed to be alone and sort thru things and we got divorced under as good a terms as any couple ever has.
I dated this one woman Beth after that and she dated afew guys as well. She asked me if I wanted to start seeing her again on a romantic basis and I jumped at the chance as I still loved her. Besides she had also been the best friend I ever had as well as my lover and wife, etc.
In the end itwas lot more than sexual attraction that brought s back together. It was a unique bond we developed over all the years as a couple.
She told me I am better suited for her than any oher man she knew and I felt the same about her.
During the week she lives in a small apt near her work so she does not ahve to drive and we get together in the middle of the week and all out weekends and vacations, etc.
We are both very happy and content at this point...go figure.
Conventional marriage and kids may be ideal for some but it was not the deal for us. Oh we never had kids either.
Howard
