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How would you handle this...
« on: August 28, 2008, 02:37:44 PM »
My S.O. introduced a Male friend of mine to a female friend of hers while I was away on travel.

He has HIV and only I know about it and he informed me that he has not mentioned it to the female friend yet.


Get involved or no?


P.S. They have been dating for almost 2 weeks now!


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Re: How would you handle this...
« Reply #1 on: August 28, 2008, 03:45:24 PM »



P.S. They have been dating for almost 2 weeks now!


Have you asked him if/when he intends to tell her?
Do you know what "dating" means for this couple?
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Re: How would you handle this...
« Reply #2 on: August 28, 2008, 04:20:26 PM »
Make sure you hit it before he does.

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Re: How would you handle this...
« Reply #3 on: August 28, 2008, 04:56:38 PM »
Your SO and her friends are a major factor in most of your quandries  :D


I would tell my friend to make the " decent " move and I would make it clear it's no joke


if I was you doing that ?

I would then get ready for my SO to "discuss" this with you for a few hours when her GF tells her it's all your fault ;)

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Re: How would you handle this...
« Reply #4 on: August 28, 2008, 04:58:44 PM »
bitches aint shit, i said it before and i say it again.

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Re: How would you handle this...
« Reply #5 on: August 28, 2008, 06:08:56 PM »
bitches aint shit, i said it before and i say it again.

Where did that come from? The guy is the one withholding the truth.
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Re: How would you handle this...
« Reply #6 on: August 28, 2008, 06:21:49 PM »
You definitely need to ask him if he has discussed this with her.  I'm sure/I hope he is responsible when dating as far as the physical end, but if their relationship get's to a point where it is emotional (for both of them) prior to becoming physical, she could end up leaving when finding out because he held that from her.  She deserves to be told.  If she really likes him and he is careful with his disease, there is no reason that the relationship couldn't work.
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Re: How would you handle this...
« Reply #7 on: August 29, 2008, 02:47:39 AM »
Yes and Stella should tell the huband of that harpy that the kid is not his.
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Re: How would you handle this...
« Reply #8 on: August 29, 2008, 08:06:16 AM »
Have you asked him if/when he intends to tell her?
Do you know what "dating" means for this couple?

Talked to him last night and he has not told her yet but he said he would tell her soon. Just another reminder for couplpes to get checked before going to a more physically intimate level. This guy is in great shape never been sick even since he's tested positive you would never know if he did'nt tell you.

I am not exactly sure what it means for her but for him (well before the infection) it meant getting to home plate by the 4 date; Hopefully that has changed since he has tested positive.

FYI My S.O. does not know he is positive and I don't think she would have introduced them with out sharing this info with her friend first.

The relationship could work as LL said but all the cards have to be placed on the table.
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Re: How would you handle this...
« Reply #9 on: August 31, 2008, 11:44:41 AM »


FYI My S.O. does not know he is positive and I don't think she would have introduced them with out sharing this info with her friend first.

Kind of off-topic but did your friend ask that you not tell anyone that he is HIV positive and that's why you haven't told your girl?

HM, I can't remember, are you planning to marry your girl?
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Re: How would you handle this...
« Reply #10 on: August 31, 2008, 06:36:47 PM »
Kind of off-topic but did your friend ask that you not tell anyone that he is HIV positive and that's why you haven't told your girl?

HM, I can't remember, are you planning to marry your girl?


Yes, he asked me not to tell anyone (we knew, telling here does'nt count lol) even my girl so I did'nt.

We are supposed get married but 1 1/2 of us likes the relationship the way it is.

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