I don't know if this is a perfect example but it's related.
I had a friend some years back who hooked up with this girl. They really seem to hit it off though they always looked weird together because she was kind of a hippie (drove a Volkswagon van that she hand painted graffiti on. Even had the peace symbol hand painted on the front). He was kind of straight laced. She was also very tall and towered over him.
One day he confided in me that he was wild about her but there was just one thing -- she liked it in the butt (why don't I ever meet girls like that?). Like I said, he was kind of straight laced and felt it was not quite right (though not immoral) and felt it demeaned the girl (he loss me there because he made it sound like that was a bad thing). He asked for my advice. Like I said, he felt it was "kind of" wrong (no comparison to simply a change in grooming habits). Of course, I told him to just suck it the F up and hammer that pooper until there's tears in her eyes.
What would you have advised nycbull?
First I would advise that he figure out why he believes anal sex makes a person bad, weak, or less...why he is so judgemental about it? Is it religion? And why he is intimidated and threatened by her making the decisions about sex. Something about her taking control and knowing what she wants is demeaning to him, so he sees her as demeaned.
Also, She needs to stop being selfish, if he doesnt like it, then she should stop demanding it and making him feel that she is not satisfied with normal type sex.
And if she is forcing this kind of sex then I have to wonder if she isnt being a demanding bitch to take some kin
