Hurt and pain are an illusion. It is not real, so no one can really hurt anyone. You can create a situation where you "think" you are hurt and blame others, but you do it to yourself with your own mind-patterns.
To the Vikings, battle meant life. That was how they conquered themselves inwardly.
How many people are aware of the fact that Shakespeare did not exist, the works belonged to Bacon, and they were an early and rudimentary form of programming for ze mind ?