What percentage of marriages would you say are happy ones?

[Natural Man]

You raise some interesting points.  Please expand on these.

highlight them then.

[Natural Man]

Marriage is bullshit!  My parents were married for 45 years then separated. In that time they had 5 kids and I wouldn't describe their union as happy, convenient, YES, but not HAPPY.  Ironically both of their parents separated after the same amount of time.  All those claiming to be happy now, you wait till 30 years, 35 years, 40 years then come back and tell me how happy you are.  I don't think in my time I have ever met a happy couple, I have met plenty who try and fake it, but I am pretty good at seeing through bullshit!

The problem with humans is, they are 'MORE' creatures, they always want more, because they think what they want is better than what it is.  When they finally get what they want, they realise the reality of it, that it wasn't as good as what they thought it was, and the only way to overcome that is too start the cycle again.  Chasing an illusion.  I think the best one can hope for is to be content with being in a miserable relationship.  The alternative is to learn to live on your own, and be content with that.  

dumb. Some people want more, some others are content with what they have, you cannot generalize. Some dumb ugly poor people are happier than richer people who are spoiled. The poor ones have hopes to rise in the ladder, the have "dreams" (they envision themselves or their offsprings dominating others in a distant future, they have the hunger) while rich people already have it all. Each couple is a system of strategies of survival, i didnt say "unique" because after some time in life you realize most couples are always variations of some limited templates. People just try to adapt with what they inherited, merge their strategies of survival, develop new ones etc etc. We re all drones being conditionned by our surroundings more than we actually control, shape them. Those who shape mankind are the 1% at the top of the pyramid, and they shape it so the 99% of sucker stay down below.

[Natural Man]

I don't know what it's like to get nailed in my ass either, but I'll assume it's not fun.
When I watch people with their kids, I think...yikes...one mistake I never made.  I go home with my girl and enjoy the evening, do whatever we want.  Meanwhile, some couple is going home with their whining kid.  I see it all the time at stores.  Not every kid is like that, but still.

that s great and all, you probably think of yourself as smarter than everyone else, the irony is that everyone thinks they re smarter than everyone else, it's called human nature. Some people are unhappy, regretful people, some are happy with their kids, some are neither happy or unhappy... still those who have kids and "love" them -teach them how to dominate others in society and live thru them later- will have something you wont have once you re past your 50s. 

[King Shizzo]

This thread is king approved. Will weigh in when I get home. Remember, the king is always right.

[Psychopath]

Uberman has very strange views on subject matters considering he's a bible thumper. Maybe it's time for you to retire Jesus, clearly you don't agree with his teachings.

[Natural Man]

I feel no need to reproduce.  Even though my genes are above average, I'm good with pulling out.
I marvel at people who confuse "being in love" with nutting in someone.  Smarten up.

You arent any smarter than them, you re in the same boat called life. BTW just for the laugh, who conditionned you to think that way? your own father? So much for "free thinking", you only think what other people with influence ony you convinced you to think.

[Natural Man]

I'm sure he takes care of his family very well...

It's about protecting your own.

smart parents take care of their kids because they calculated that when they re old then their kids will take care of them in return...as simple as that. There is always an hidden agenda behind every single human behavior ; more realistic , basic, animal instincts. 

[Archer77]

You arent any smarter than them, you re in the same boat called life. BTW just for the laugh, who conditionned you to think that way? your own father? So much for "free thinking", you only think what other people with influence ony you convinced you to think.

Says the man who bases his entire life on an ancient book of magic.

[Primemuscle]

how do you figure?
The kids dont know any different they still get more than enogh love and attention. I couldnt wish for a better mother for my kids.
Its not a bad situation its just we have nowt in common

If they are infants, your children may not be aware of any lack of love between you and your wife. It is great that the mother of your children is a excellent mother. If you and your wife don't argue and you are affectionate around your children, things should be okay for sometime, except you don't seem happy in this situation. Eventually, this will be evident and once it is, expect that it will change the dynamics of you and your wife's relationship which will also affect your children. Besides love and attention, children need security....the security that their parents will be together and the knowledge that their parents are happy.

My wife and I are very different people. Some might question what we have in common. I am into exercise, she never has been. I take care of my health, she never did and is quite ill as a result. When we were young, I liked to party and she did not. I love hanging out at the beach all day, she burns in the sun. There are a number of areas where we have little in common. There are also many things like our core beliefs were we share the same feelings. In the long run, this seems to be what counts. One thing we have always both had in common was the need to maintain our independence. We are not joined at the hip as are some couples.

One other thing we do not have in common. She would never post on Getbig and I do.

Is it possible you are focusing too much on your differences and not enough on your similarities? Surely something attracted the two of you to each other at one time?

[tu_holmes]

1. Not 1 percent... but just 1 marriage.

[Tedim]

Scary how devoid of honor men have become....nowadays this word is used as a punch line.

BTW I would bet that 1% of the wealthiest have on avg very successful marriages.....why?.....because they are educated people of substance who can control their base instincts, unlike the dogs and bitches in heat like the lazy stupid poor are.

[Primemuscle]

Scary how devoid of honor men have become....nowadays this word is used as a punch line.

BTW I would bet that 1% of the wealthiest have on avg very successful marriages.....why?.....because they are educated people of substance who can control their base instincts, unlike the dogs and bitches in heat like the lazy stupid poor are.

Sometimes having money helps a marriage and other times it is a detriment to happiness and marital bliss. Most people think money will solve all their problems. It does not.

[Wiggs]

Scary how devoid of honor men have become....nowadays this word is used as a punch line.

BTW I would bet that 1% of the wealthiest have on avg very successful marriages.....why?.....because they are educated people of substance who can control their base instincts, unlike the dogs and bitches in heat like the lazy stupid poor are.

Devoid of honor? These whores are devoid of class!

[Tedim]

Devoid of honor? These whores are devoid of class!

Devoid of honor was a direct commentary on the men....but I agree with you on devoid of class for the usual whores lushing it up at the corner bar. Or getting her tramp stamp by Biff the same tat guy who did her clit piercing.

[King Shizzo]

Marriage has gone even farther down the gutter since the advent of social media. Maybe even coincides with the invention of the internet. You can get into alot of trouble online.

[MB]

Once married, women have all the power and backing from the courts.  This has to change for divorce rates to go down.  Women were not meant to be in a position of control.   

[evandatp]

I've been married for 7 years, before that we were dating for 10 years, and I wouldn't trade it for the world.  Love the person I'm with, she has a successful career of her own, cooks me some delicious meals, puts pro-tan on me when I'm competing, makes me smile and makes me laugh, and is there for me overall whenever I need it!

Uberman will be along shortly to analyse her qualities & the order you listed them in.

[Henda]

If they are infants, your children may not be aware of any lack of love between you and your wife. It is great that the mother of your children is a excellent mother. If you and your wife don't argue and you are affectionate around your children, things should be okay for sometime, except you don't seem happy in this situation. Eventually, this will be evident and once it is, expect that it will change the dynamics of you and your wife's relationship which will also affect your children. Besides love and attention, children need security....the security that their parents will be together and the knowledge that their parents are happy.

My wife and I are very different people. Some might question what we have in common. I am into exercise, she never has been. I take care of my health, she never did and is quite ill as a result. When we were young, I liked to party and she did not. I love hanging out at the beach all day, she burns in the sun. There are a number of areas where we have little in common. There are also many things like our core beliefs were we share the same feelings. In the long run, this seems to be what counts. One thing we have always both had in common was the need to maintain our independence. We are not joined at the hip as are some couples.

One other thing we do not have in common. She would never post on Getbig and I do.

Is it possible you are focusing too much on your differences and not enough on your similarities? Surely something attracted the two of you to each other at one time?

thank you for your input it really has given me something to think about.
Im sure it can be worked out as the ill feeling on my behalf has only been the last year or so. I blamed our old house but since moving have realised it hasnt really solved anything.
Whatever it is will sort its self out

[Primemuscle]

Once married, women have all the power and backing from the courts.  This has to change for divorce rates to go down.  Women were not meant to be in a position of control.   

Good point. I recommend you not marry until things change back to they way they were in the old days....days before my time.

[Primemuscle]

smart parents take care of their kids because they calculated that when they re old then their kids will take care of them in return...as simple as that. There is always an hidden agenda behind every single human behavior ; more realistic , basic, animal instincts. 

This doesn't seem to be working out so well for a lot of older folks whose kids shuffle them off to a nursing home or a trashy trailer park.

I am not speaking for my wife and me, because our kids have shown themselves to be very caring children. However, they have never needed to contribute to our financial welfare yet.