A woman can be just a cum bucket if you dont want kids with her and if she doesnt want kids with you. But she s going to die inside a little everytime she cummed on by a different man.
But nothing says a woman cant be your private sexual toy if she wants to -if she considers you deserve it for what you bring her and if you convince her it would make you and her happier - once/if you re married and agree to both spend your life trying to better each others and get as much fun as possible while following some basic rules. There are many men and women who enjoy a healthy sexual life that is the core of a stable relationship ; you physically please the other one the best you can with what you have as much as you do your best to please her/him psychologically. It can only get better and better as time goes. Some women get it, and dont even try to control their men over the sexual question and simply let them dispose of them when they NEED to, others use their pussy as a control tool to get what they want.
Actually the Bible says you can do pretty much anything with your wife as long as it doesnt hurt her and you re married and none of you do that stuff with someone else. It's pretty simple. Loyalty to one person or to one God is the key. We simply cannot get to know deeply every and each person on earth, we can only at the expense of great effort get the best of ourselves and two or three other significant people in a lifetime. The Bible tells you how to get the best ouf of a relationship. Find the best fit for you (God will), and shape it the way you want it as long as it doesnt interfere with God's words and everything will be just fine.
THERE IS ONE TRICK THO... BOTH NEED TO THINK ALIKE AND BELIEVE IN THE SAME GOD AND PRINCIPLES, VALUES OR IT CANNOT LAST.
In the Bible a woman is not a good woman if she loves many different men; neither does a man who has several women. You cant reach true genuine happiness that way. Only random pleasure, and you cant have a stable family either.
She has to take care of only one man, of house, and kids, she can work as long as it doesnt interfere with the more important tasks. She must not be a slut, tease other men, she must make her husband proud and understand him to make him as happy and fulfilled as possible...as long as what he wants from her follows what God says he should want from her. just like her husband must be the best man, father, and husband he can, by following God words in order to become like Him. We arent Him, but we have to try to be like Him.
To be completely honest with you, the result is proportional to the work you put in it just like for everything else. But you have to try hard to better yourself as much as you want to better the other. If you really love your significant other, you ll let her/him tell you everything she/he thinks about everything...including YOU. This way you can always find what has to be corrected for everyone to be satisfied and happy. The problem is when you dont say what you need or think you need and keep it for you.
99.9% of couples separate because man or woman is unsatisfied with... their sexual life/because one wants to dominate the other, take more than he or she gives; it only works as long as both consider they receive as much as they give. Women have had a better access to work and it fucked everything up; they felt like they didnt have to submit to men sexually anymore. And men lost their number one natural anti depressant because many of these women started to prevent access to something they could easily give.
They wanted power, this is why most wanted to work. But they couldnt be mothers or wives anymore. And couples and families started to implode, and Religious belief followed. Broken sons and daughters of broken mothers and fathers now stop reproducing and kill themselves en masse while being replaced by believers, wether they are muslim or christian, from the third world.
Even today in this day and age, a woman is happier, makes her family and society happier, only if she s able to take good care of family first, with eventually a job on the side as long as it doesnt interfere with family. It will never cease to be the best model to follow in the interest of everyone.
Just wait for the next major collapse. In the end the Christian couple and family will always remain as the best example to follow if you want life to continue. Couple and family are the core , fundation of life.
There s a middle ground between being unsatisfied with your sex life in your couple but sticking with it, and banging women as lost as you randomly for years, decades while never being able to start a family with them. The middle ground is simply having a family with someone you can trust and who will give her/his best to you both on the psychological and physical plan. This way you have the best of both worlds. You can find that path too, if you read the Bible.
When i met my wife, i didnt know of God and the Bible, but it helped me to...keep them and make them as happy as i could with what i have, and to stay happy myself.
