1 second of disrespect?There wouldn't be a marriage left on earth.
I have no idea about other marriages - only mine. I love my wife but I love life more. I respect her and I expect the same in return. We can disagree and even argue - but I told her from the get go that if things escalated to childish behavior we could both kick rocks.
I have known men that actually had arguments with their girlfriends / wives - after asking about their past?? And vice/versa - I don't get it. I lived a life before my wife and at times it was decadent and violent. I don't act that way now. She needs to be concerned with how I live moving forward and I don't give a shit about her past. She is friggin gorgeous and I am proud for her when men notice her.
I just don't get the insanity of living with someone that acts like an animal.
That being said - I can't speak for anyone else. You do whatever it is that makes you happy.