Gays @ work

[Big N]

This is something new to me, so i definitely need some advice from the bros @ getbig. This is the 1st time ever i've worked with a gay guy @ work. The first few days at work he seemed pretty cool, but as time went on my "gay radar" suspected something.
Now personally i don't have anything against gay people, but for god's sake man wtf is it with gay guys gossiping like fucking bitches at work?? He complains about not liking the job, how he likes to walk into women's shoe stores, he shops at the children's place, he loves his "sidekick", his mother pays all his bills, he's lazy, he talks about how he doesn't know how to shave  And the way he rolls his eyes and makes that hand gesture god damn it's getting fucking annoying and hearing all this shit from him whenever he's on shift.

Is this shit normal? I mean really, squadfather what do you think?


P.S. GAYBAY and the dude with the george michael avatar, if you guys gonna chip in don't try to protect the "gay community" cause i'm not ragging i'm just asking a question.

[K-1]

The only advice I can give you is to not allow it to kind of consume you even a little to where you are un professional in the office jeopardizing your employment, and also pass judgement on those who are not as flamboyant gay.

I do know what you are referencing to since I've shared a similar exp. The way I look at it is, it's no different than the group of females who gossip all day, or the group that always complains about their job...etc. It's more of a personality/individual issue than a gay coworker issue. Sure I know it kind of makes it more noticeable...I agree, but this is just how you have to look at it.

On the flip side I have worked with some coworkers that were gay,and they were consummate professionals.

But I do understand what you are trying to say though. My first time was a bit of a shocker, but after awhile you'll see it's more of an individual issue. It's just the Gay part in addition to what's being said is blowing you away right now I'm sure. 

[Dos Equis]

This is something new to me, so i definitely need some advice from the bros @ getbig. This is the 1st time ever i've worked with a gay guy @ work. The first few days at work he seemed pretty cool, but as time went on my "gay radar" suspected something.
Now personally i don't have anything against gay people, but for god's sake man wtf is it with gay guys gossiping like fucking bitches at work?? He complains about not liking the job, how he likes to walk into women's shoe stores, he shops at the children's place, he loves his "sidekick", his mother pays all his bills, he's lazy, he talks about how he doesn't know how to shave  And the way he rolls his eyes and makes that hand gesture god damn it's getting fucking annoying and hearing all this shit from him whenever he's on shift.

Is this shit normal? I mean really, squadfather what do you think?


P.S. GAYBAY and the dude with the george michael avatar, if you guys gonna chip in don't try to protect the "gay community" cause i'm not ragging i'm just asking a question.

Doesn't sound normal to me.  I just hired a gay young man.  He was a former summer intern.  Great kid.  Smart.  Works hard.  Also hired a lesbian summer intern this summer.  She is terrific.  Funny.  Very bright.  I would just treat him like a normal person.  You don't have to agree with his lifestyle to work with him.   

[Butterbean]

One of the most gossipy people I know is a heterosexual male.  One day he was in my hub's office and I walked in and he said to me, "Hey can you keep quiet about this..I know how women like to gossip."   Then he proceeded to dish a bunch of rumors about a guy we all know.  The irony 

[Big N]

The only advice I can give you is to not allow it to kind of consume you even a little to where you are un professional in the office jeopardizing your employment, and also pass judgement on those who are not as flamboyant gay.

I do know what you are referencing to since I've shared a similar exp. The way I look at it is, it's no different than the group of females who gossip all day, or the group that always complains about their job...etc. It's more of a personality/individual issue than a gay coworker issue. Sure I know it kind of makes it more noticeable...I agree, but this is just how you have to look at it.

On the flip side I have worked with some coworkers that were gay,and they were consummate professionals.

But I do understand what you are trying to say though. My first time was a bit of a shocker, but after awhile you'll see it's more of an individual issue. It's just the Gay part in addition to what's being said is blowing you away right now I'm sure. 

That's some solid advice there. I have to admit, i was to the point where i was thinking that if he tries to pull the same bs on me as to our boss (nice female boss) as far as nagging, telling her what to do sometimes and etc. i would put him in his place. But as you said i'm a professional at work, and i don't need somebody with a personality/individual issue jeopardize my professionalism or dig myself a grave because of him.
I just kind of got really annoyed because it's like dealing with a half man, half woman so i really didn't know where to draw the line as far as dealing with his personality/individual issues. Or how to go about it ya know? Obviously males are different to females, and because of that i know how to deal with different type of sexes. In this case i was somewhat lost, but i now know how to go about it.

Thanks for your constructive advice bro. Just out of curiousity, what type of business are you in?

[Big N]

Doesn't sound normal to me.  I just hired a gay young man.  He was a former summer intern.  Great kid.  Smart.  Works hard.  Also hired a lesbian summer intern this summer.  She is terrific.  Funny.  Very bright.  I would just treat him like a normal person.  You don't have to agree with his lifestyle to work with him.   

Yeah well it doesn't sound normal to me either, because i've seen gay people on tv act normal. But he's just too much, and i actually like gay "girls" too. But i'm not used to "gay guys" acting like he does. Honestly i could care less about his lifestyle, but at least be a professional at work?
I do treat him normal, and i do talk to him normally. But his personality/individualism is getting too much. Which is a good point that K-1 pointed out, it's his "personality/individual issues" that's causing problems at work.

But then again does the personality/individual issue have to do with him being gay?

[Big N]

One of the most gossipy people I know is a heterosexual male.  One day he was in my hub's office and I walked in and he said to me, "Hey can you keep quiet about this..I know how women like to gossip."   Then he proceeded to dish a bunch of rumors about a guy we all know.  The irony 

lol alright alright i guess i sounded a bit sexist. Yes men do gossip too, but not as much as women. Why? Because women are usually more sensitive & more emotional because of hormones, estrogen and etc. fair enough? 

[K-1]

That's some solid advice there. I have to admit, i was to the point where i was thinking that if he tries to pull the same bs on me as to our boss (nice female boss) as far as nagging, telling her what to do sometimes and etc. i would put him in his place. But as you said I'm a professional at work, and i don't need somebody with a personality/individual issue jeopardize my professionalism or dig myself a grave because of him.
I just kind of got really annoyed because it's like dealing with a half man, half woman so i really didn't know where to draw the line as far as dealing with his personality/individual issues. Or how to go about it ya know? Obviously males are different to females, and because of that i know how to deal with different type of sexes. In this case i was somewhat lost, but i now know how to go about it.

Thanks for your constructive advice bro. Just out of curiosity, what type of business are you in?

That's cool. Glad I could help. This is kind of stuff that will separate you and keep you at a professional level in all walks of life. Always take the high road always and maintain discipline at all times. Those are marks of a true professional right there. You have to be better than everyone in your office by not participating in gossip and all that mess. Everyone has this potential, you just have to want to stand alone and not be like the masses of majority footsteps. It's a reason why they are there and you can go higher. You have to set yourself apart professionally and master yourself. Perfect yourself.

You will be amazed how easy things will get and how fast/far you will advance once you maintain that professionalism and handle yourself well with everyone from top to bottom anywhere,anytime, anyplace.

I am a Network Systems Administrator full time also finishing up my Masters in Information Technology. Former Military also. 30yrs old.   

[Slin1]

Gay people is worse than women

Didn't you feel like Punch him in the nose?

[Dos Equis]

Yeah well it doesn't sound normal to me either, because i've seen gay people on tv act normal. But he's just too much, and i actually like gay "girls" too. But i'm not used to "gay guys" acting like he does. Honestly i could care less about his lifestyle, but at least be a professional at work?
I do treat him normal, and i do talk to him normally. But his personality/individualism is getting too much. Which is a good point that K-1 pointed out, it's his "personality/individual issues" that's causing problems at work.

But then again does the personality/individual issue have to do with him being gay?

Nothing really.  I agree with K-1 that it's a personality and not a sexual preference issue. 

[nycbull]

I think you should tell him everything you dont like about him. Normally gays have a good sense of humor about themselves and if he doesn't fck him.

I dont think you have to tip toe around him. If he was straight you would bust him about his mannerisms and his personality and loser ways. You shouldn't have to be afraid to express your opinion just because he is gay. We should not follow the way of Blacks and make people afraid to criticize us. I dont believe in that.

I would tell him everything you dont like about him, but only the things he can change, not his sexuality or physical looks.

[Geo]

Now personally i don't have anything against gay people, but for god's sake man wtf is it with gay guys gossiping like fucking bitches at work??

it's pretty obvious that ya do

[WOOO]

it's pretty obvious that ya do

at the very least he lacks the ability to coexist with them without bitching on a board