I dunno what makes others stay but it doesn't make me feel they were weak or stupid in any way .. I know I tried to make it work without just being one to cut and run out on something that was intended to be a partnership
Nobody is perfect and to have a temper surely doesn't help to solve issues , I tried very hard to give my "loved ones" the benefit of the doubt and try to mend and work on what I could as much as I could .. I have many times been told I'm gullible and have low self worth .. but I'm not one to take on others opinions as gospel .. if I'm asked if I made bad decisions .. I say yes but with good reasons
When we join up with a life mate we don't actually truly know them completely , not straight away , our feelings are all mostly just happy and fulfilling .. in time our flaws and issues crop up , as well as work issues or extended family issues or ex- issues even.. so the level of anxiety has a lot to do with explosions sometimes
Unless it's a daily or weekly issue it becomes "less" than dangerous , troublesome or worrisome in some ways , and if it's not blood drawing , bone breaking or really fear inducing ..it seems like escalated "events" more than a part of the persona and a reoccurring theme to worry about
this isn't saying anyone else thinks this way I'm just relating my train of thought .. when I hear people say you can just leave it makes me think that they haven't a clue of the total picture and find an immediate reaction rational .. to make such a drastic and complete decision shouldn't be immediate especially when a lot of love and compassion is felt and part of the picture
HM maybe because your Mom truly loved your Dad and didn't want the family all tore up she did what she felt was fair at the time , she seems like a very loving woman so I'm thinking she just wanted it all to be better and couldn't be the one to tear it up, of course I don't know ..I'm just guessing .. but to know your feelings about this I bet would hurt her more
Hate and violence are ugly and the damage can cause life long issues to those who have to face it .. it doesn't appear to bother the ones inflicting it as much though does it ?