Or a realist. In the dating world it's mostly young incel men. In the world at large it is awareness of a decaying culture.
The "incels" seem to be the most bitter, loser that are total dickwads.
In my experience/observation, just be yourself and never waiver from your own core values.
Ya gotta talk to the ladies , be polite and have a sense of humor, to have a shot.
BUT, being polite should never be an excuse to let her change you.
You can always say "NO, thank you" and walk away.
That's a hell of a lot more effective then being an asshole and stalking her LOL
