i d be a lot more careful about the assessment none of your father/grandfathers strayed... and i would also say that they might have strayed and that you've subconsciously been impregnated by these events that haven't been talked about openly but might have been hidden. We do not inherit just conscious behaviors and thoughts, influences, but also invisible, subconscious ones, and they are often the most powerful ones. All these little subconscious patterns are either genetically embedded in your brain or recorded/learned, and lead your life, they re just flying very low under the radar. Again i may be wrong, but reproductions of behaviors two or even three generations later aren't unheard of. Sometime having a father who was strongly unsatisfied with his relationship might somewhat influence his son or grandson subconsciously to cheat on his own gf/wife. We are all affected by everything we re in contact with. Sometimes we are in contact with things we cannot comprehend fully, explain, especially when we re kids. Yet these events are recorded in our brain by our senses and for some reasons even if we don't remember them, their meaning, they start emerging in our own life after some event activates them, often the same events that activated them in the life of our progenitors / grandparents.Those who come from family where nobody speaks, where the rule is don't tell don't ask, are the ones who are the more prone to reproduce. The best way to get rid of these things is to be conscious of what we are repeating, where it originates. If you don't know you're "sick" you cannot start to get better.
One thing is sure you have troubles getting into serious relationships and it has to have an origin.
Interesting, as I'm a strong believer that one's DNA has a strong influence on the person they'll eventually become, but none of them were *known* to have carried on inappropriate relationships. Meanwhile, my baby mama accused me of being unfaithful and actually did so in front of our 2yo child. I did not choke slam or bitch slap the woman on those occasions, but maybe I should have.
My ancestors had to work too hard and too much to have any time for leisure not with their families. When I was first trying to build my business, I felt similar pressures to put in the hours. I still put in a lot of hours at work, but get to play a lot more than I did a decade ago. Plus, not being married anymore helps. I'm with my daughter every day, but not having to deal with her mom as her husband allows more time for other pursuits.
You're right about my capacity for getting into and managing 'typical' relationships, but when I examine my feelings about religion, big central government, and the educational establishment, there's a definite parallel with my feelings about relationships - that is, the 'rules' that people just accept and go along with are not in the individual's best interests at all. And as I've reasoned it out, anything which diminishes the individual also diminishes the societal unit comprised by all these individuals being less than their potential.
The rule sets which are ingrained into most Americans regarding coupledom have really served to create a false happiness for many and led to a lot of shattered dreams for the believers.
