Parents: "You're too big!!!"

[columbusdude82]

Ummm... back to me...

Has anyone else heard the complaint "you're too broad/thick for your height"?

I'm 5'9/5'10 in that range. Is it a legitimate concern when someone says my shoulders are too broad/arms too big so i look disproportionate?

[realkarateblackbelt]

The Luke wants bigfoot's cock hahahahahaha.

[Earl1972]

Ummm... back to me...

Has anyone else heard the complaint "you're too broad/thick for your height"?

I'm 5'9/5'10 in that range. Is it a legitimate concern when someone says my shoulders are too broad/arms too big so i look disproportionate?

cut bodyfat and you won't get any "you're too big" comments

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[ToxicAvenger]

I am sure many dudes have had something similar happen with their parents. I have just come home for the first time in over a year. The last time I was here, I was 210 pounds, and my parents thought I was too big. This time around, I weigh 240 and they are going ballistic.

Nonstop questions about whether I am using steroids, endless lectures telling me to slim down and lose the muscle, my arms chest legs and shoulders are too big, how bbing is ruining my physique, how i look disproportionate etc etc...

Now I am carrying around about 14% bodyfat, and I plan on going down to 8-10 in the new year, and I agree with them when they say I oughtta bring that down. It's their anti-bbing stance that annoys me. My mom thinks brad pitt is very muscular, and that all guys should aspire to have that kind of physique. She can't seem to understand that I love lifting heavy weights, and love bodybuilding, and want to compete in the sport when the time is right...

So this thread is where you guys can give me advice on how to deal with the folks and support if you wish, or share similar experiences you may have had...

did u also creme yourself when the first time u couldn't fit into store bought jeans 

[columbusdude82]

did u also creme yourself when the first time u couldn't fit into store bought jeans 

Nah... all the cream went down your mom's throat... Tell her I say thanks!

[columbusdude82]

OK now that my trip home is over, time for the conclusion...

First off, thanks again to all you folks who gave helpful advice and insight.

Even when we were saying goodbye, my folks were still trying to make me promise to stop lifting and go back to having a soccer player build. They had gotten so annoying that any time they brought up the subject, I would just get up and walk away. I had grown tired of trying to reason with them, telling them not to run my life for me, and resisting their emotional blackmail.

Many's the time I was tempted to snap and just tell everyone to fcuk off. I resisted that temptation, though, it being christmas n all, time for family and all that...

Now I'm back to living on my own and doing what I want!

[The Squadfather]

OK now that my trip home is over, time for the conclusion...

First off, thanks again to all you folks who gave helpful advice and insight.

Even when we were saying goodbye, my folks were still trying to make me promise to stop lifting and go back to having a soccer player build. They had gotten so annoying that any time they brought up the subject, I would just get up and walk away. I had grown tired of trying to reason with them, telling them not to run my life for me, and resisting their emotional blackmail.

Many's the time I was tempted to snap and just tell everyone to fcuk off. I resisted that temptation, though, it being christmas n all, time for family and all that...

Now I'm back to living on my own and doing what I want!

my Lord you must be absolutely massive.

[gymrat3082]

I just wanted to ask how other dudes handled their parents in similar situations. Not a showoff, just a bit bored, I didn't bring any titty porn with me:)

Look bro, just tell them to back off, quit buggin the shit out of you, or else you won't come back to visit.  When I first started competin i was 130 pounds, that was 2 years ago, now i am up to 222 15-16% body fat, currently in off season.  My mom bitches, your to fat, you need to lose weight.  I tell her, I'm happy this way, if you don't like it, don't talk to me.   It's alittle different for me, I don't live at home, so when she starts bitchin to me about my weight or what not I just get up and leave the house.  Few days later she will call up and say she is sorry... But she doesn't stop, bitchin is a mother thing! As for the hardcore church thing... you on your own, I have no answers there, good luck, Just don't let them get to you!!!

[hifrommike]

A mother doesn't have the right to run your adult life. After she has made her point yet again, next time say, "I understand we don't agree on this matter.  You don't have to remind me again.  If you do, you will not see or hear from me for the foreseeable future."  If that doesn't shut her up, make good on your threat. 

[beatmaster]

my Lord you must be absolutely massive.

i was thinking the same thing............ pic would be nice

[Army of One]

Look bro, just tell them to back off, quit buggin the shit out of you, or else you won't come back to visit.  When I first started competin i was 130 pounds, that was 2 years ago, now i am up to 222 15-16% body fat, currently in off season.  My mom bitches, your to fat, you need to lose weight.  I tell her, I'm happy this way, if you don't like it, don't talk to me.   It's alittle different for me, I don't live at home, so when she starts bitchin to me about my weight or what not I just get up and leave the house.  Few days later she will call up and say she is sorry... But she doesn't stop, bitchin is a mother thing! As for the hardcore church thing... you on your own, I have no answers there, good luck, Just don't let them get to you!!!

You competed at 130 pounds  now your 222 2 years later?  hahahah Monster bullshit

[Brixtonbulldog]

You competed at 130 pounds  now your 222 2 years later?  hahahah Monster bullshit

Agrees... my guess is serious bodyfat. 

Pics?

[Jr. Yates]

Look bro, just tell them to back off, quit buggin the shit out of you, or else you won't come back to visit.  When I first started competin i was 130 pounds, that was 2 years ago, now i am up to 222 15-16% body fat, currently in off season.  My mom bitches, your to fat, you need to lose weight.  I tell her, I'm happy this way, if you don't like it, don't talk to me.   It's alittle different for me, I don't live at home, so when she starts bitchin to me about my weight or what not I just get up and leave the house.  Few days later she will call up and say she is sorry... But she doesn't stop, bitchin is a mother thing! As for the hardcore church thing... you on your own, I have no answers there, good luck, Just don't let them get to you!!!

yup.  they'll get used to it. the haters get mad like db4321 or whatever the fuck his name is cuz they'll never have anyone compliment or critique their doggshit body.

[younggunz]

Tell them you're lifting for Jesus...



The Luke

     lol  good 1

[G.STEELE]

Back to the parents issue.  To me, it's a matter of bullying.  I don't let anyone do it to me anymore.  Try looking at this book: http://www.amazon.com/Bullies-Tyrants-Impossible-People-Joining/dp/1400050111
It really helped me deal with the situation, & made me realize how much of it goes on all the time.

My parents don't bug me, but if they did, the first thing I'd say is, "I would prefer not to discuss this any further."  If they kept on, I would pack my stuff, say goodbye, & drive away.  They would get the message. 

Running away from a problem isn't really good advice....besides you'd have to return your parent's car someday.

[slaveboy1980]

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[gymrat3082]

You competed at 130 pounds  now your 222 2 years later?  hahahah Monster bullshit

Na bro when I started my first off season to compete i was 130, I competed at 155 my first show!!! so chill!!! I'm not saying im all that or "monster bull shit"  its been 2 years now since I competed!

[gymrat3082]

yup.  they'll get used to it. the haters get mad like db4321 or whatever the f**k his name is cuz they'll never have anyone compliment or critique their doggshit body.

Thanks bro.... Its been 2 years since I competed... I been trying to improve on my muscle thickness and improving my back, I'm 24 now and I know from going to local shows where I live, The big guys over 200 inshape win 85% of the time.