Why don't you get a clue and don't say stuff like that about something you know nothing about. Get back to selling snake oil or insulting somebody's dead mother.
tsk., tsk, how very defensive of you? Oh well
You made a "general" cliche statement, ...and I expressed my disagreement with a "general" cliche statement of my own. When I said "that's what you get..." I mean't it in the general sense. ie: "If you go to bed with dogs... you wake up with fleas". If I had said that, would you still have taken it so personally? Do you have relatives visiting? Why so sensitive? Sheesh...
My natural inclination is to believe that you've gone on the warpath, libelously attacking the messenger rather than the message, while displaying more hypersensitivity than a woman with PMS, because you sense some truth in that statement, and perhaps, it causes you shame... Well the statement was NOT directed at YOU personally.
Next time you can say a woman is responsible if her husband beats her to death, because she should never have had a relationship with her.
I would say that woman bears some responsibility for being involved with that person, not all but some. A relationship doesn't occur with only 1 person. Sharing responsibility in a disastrous outcome doesn't imply such disastrous outcome is deserved.
At the start of a relationship NOBODY knows the other person so well. From what i've seen a lot of people still don't know each other so good even after being married for so many years.
A person can cry & whine about it all day long, but that doesn't change the fact they do bare some responsibility in the fact that things are not all peaches & cream. Yes, people change, and people can grow apart in a relationship, however, there are some things that are blatantly obvious from the start. People simply just don't pay attention to these things, and often only see them in hindsight... as an afterthought when they break down what went wrong. Even then, ...many often choose to stay in denial, by placing the blame elsewhere rather than where it firmly belongs, ...on the shoulders of the person staring them back in the mirror. Bottom line is: 'If you don't know a person's character, ...then you're a fool for marrying them!'
I trust that statement will not cause you to throw a PMS tantrum. I'm assuming you're not married, and as such won't take the statement personally.
I'm not saying i'm perfect and i know so much about women/relationships. Hell, i'm 22 yo. But like i said, i learned a lot and rest assured, next time a girl comes to me with some serious problems i'll think twice before being a "dumb fvck".
Nuff said about my situation, i was venting on here, but i'm over it now.
The bottom line is you got involved with the wrong person. It happens.
Accept responsibility for your end in the mistake, learn from it and move on. But to generalize the way you did and assume because you made the mistake of spending time with someone unworthy of you, requires you to now spend your time being an asshole... or "not be a nice guy" is ridiculous. You come on a women's board, and make a strong misogynistic sounding statement, ...and wonder why anyone would dare counter it strongly?
I think you're the one in need of a clue... or two.