Author Topic: problem children on this board  (Read 24146 times)

Jeffro

  • Getbig IV
  • ****
  • Posts: 3614
Re: problem children on this board
« Reply #100 on: October 30, 2008, 09:19:31 AM »
Just go back in this thread and check out his posts, they are all pure whiney drivel, what a fucking bitch. :-\

It's just laughable when he posts, he's utterly delusional.  He thinks he is "owning" people... ::)


ASJChaotic

  • Guest
Re: problem children on this board
« Reply #101 on: October 30, 2008, 10:29:04 AM »
I didn't think being such a cry baby biaaaatch was even possible   :o


he hasn't even slept


constant meltdown for 28 hours straight 


do we have a record or what?  ???

Jeffro

  • Getbig IV
  • ****
  • Posts: 3614
Re: problem children on this board
« Reply #102 on: October 30, 2008, 10:35:39 AM »
Yea, I've never seen a meltdown of this magnitude, this one truly takes the cake. :o

www.BrinkZone.com

  • Getbig III
  • ***
  • Posts: 620
  • This Thing On?
Re: problem children on this board
« Reply #103 on: October 30, 2008, 10:41:02 AM »

 
lets get the boards opinion on this.


Being an anonymous troll who spends time throwing insults at people for the sake of trolling seems to be a time honored profession on GB, which is a shame. Here's my macro thoughts for owners, mods, and users of forums:

Successful Internet Forums For Owners And Users

By Will Brink

As a student of human nature, as well as a long-time forum member and owner, I am in a good position to offer some general thoughts (call it a rant if you like!) and guidelines regarding ‘net based forums. I guess I am as qualified as any to comment from the user’s side of the equation. Currently, I read or post to a least a dozen forums per day, some revolving around my line of work and others related to my hobbies and interests: fitness, health, bodybuilding, longevity, weight loss, audio-video, military, law enforcement, firearms—to name a few.

I can also comment from the owner’s side, as my two forums—Fat Loss Revealed and Bodybuilding Revealed—have over 10,000 active members. Not the largest forums on the ‘net for sure, but not small time either.

This article is not about how to market a forum to “drive” traffic or anything like that. Rather, this article is concerned with the culture of a forum, which directly impacts its long-term success. These comments are based on what I have seen and experienced, as both a long time forum user and owner, about the major downfalls and mistakes that ultimately lead to unhappy members.

Forum Culture

Every forum has its own culture. That culture always starts with the owner of the forum. It’s a direct reflection of what the owner does, or does not do, with their forums, such as the moderators (mods) they choose, how much power the mods are given, how much personal control the owner maintains, how active he is, and so on. The forum reflects the personality, values, goals, etc. of its owner. The “buck stops” with the owner of the forums, as he is literally the captain of the ship. As an owner, if you wish to run a successful forum long term, you should be on the look out for the following problems.

The Member Cabal

The member cabal is inevitable on any forum, but it’s not inherently a negative. All it means is that a group of long term “regulars” have formed their own clique. It can be a helpful, productive group that’s supportive of new people coming into the forum, or it can be highly damaging. It’s up to the owner of the forum and the mods to keep an eye out, and keep firm control over the member cabals that form. The type of cabal will be a direct reflection of the forum’s culture, which reflects on, as mentioned above, the owner of that forum.

“Beating up the new kid”

This is a logical transition from the above, because it usually, but not always, involves the member cabal. Many forums have a culture where every new person is “initiated” or generally hassled, simply due to the fact they are new to the forum. I recall one forum I visited regularly, which had a guy with an avatar that said something like “I sh&% on the new guy.” Mods, as representatives of the owner, should not tolerate this behavior, as—if not cut off early—it will only grow.

It’s the perfect way to assure a small group of people run the forum, and if it’s not prevented early on, the owner can literally lose control. New members looking to join won’t when they see the abuse, or else it will turn into one of those forums with a few active members and a bunch of lurkers, as few will actively participate due to the abusive member cabal. On the other hand, a friendly member cabal welcomes and accepts new people, and helps the forum grow.

On my forums, for example, my “regulars” are one and all friendly, helpful, and welcoming people. That’s because I have great mods, and make sure the forums are always going in the direction I feel they should, based on my overall guiding philosophy and principles.

The Moderator Cabal

Similar to the member cabal, but potentially much more damaging to a forum, is the moderator cabal. Again, it’s pretty much inevitable such a cabal will form when you have people working together, even if it’s a virtual work space. And again, there is nothing inherently wrong with it, but the owner of the forum needs to keep a very close eye on the moderators. Pecking orders, cliques, etc. will form, and unless the owner of the forum keeps a tight handle on his forum, it can quickly get out of control. I have seen forums where there was more drama behind the scenes with the mods than could be found on the forum! Like any office space–virtual or otherwise–the culture starts from the top down, so the owner must put time into the back end of the forum, as well as the front.

I know too many forum owners who have let their mod cabal essentially take over their forums, chase off members they don’t like, chase off, or generally harass, other mods they don’t like, and so on. The owner of any forum who takes a “hands off” approach will have a mess on his hands sooner then later. I spend at least a few hours per day on my own forums making sure they’re all running smoothly, supporting members and mods equally, and assuring the ship is heading in the direction it needs to, as reflected in the mission statement of the forums.

To finish my point, and continue with the ship analogy: big ships develop a great deal of momentum, so setting the course early, and making small adjustments, takes less energy and time than attempting to alter course once that ship has gotten it’s full momentum up.

“Mod as God” syndrome

As the member cabal section transitioned perfectly into the “beating up the new kid” section, the mod cabal transitions into this section. The “Mod as God” syndrome is, without a doubt, my personal peeve. It can be all the members of a mod cabal, or an individual, and it’s very destructive to any forum. This syndrome appears to start when a mod decides the section they mod, or the forum itself is their personal fiefdom. These mods often set different standards for themselves than for the members. Like the member cabal, they may insult, belittle, or generally hassle a member they have taken a dislike to, and if that member attempts to defend themselves or respond, the mods will ban them or use other penalties at their discretion.

This double standard is damaging to the morale of any forum and unacceptable behavior by the mod(s) in question. It’s also a very common problem on many forums where a mod has decided he or she has additional rights above that of the members, and their word is law, even if they are often responsible for the problems.

A similar issue is favoritism, where one member can say or “get away with” far more than others. Mods should be objective and fair; once they decide their word is law, they are no longer able to objectively carry out their jobs. Again, this comes about due to the owner of the forum not being the true overall guiding influence on the forum. The only word that is law on a forum is the owner’s—period. However, if the owner is not an active participant, and/or allows mods to abuse members, then sides with the mod (even when it’s obvious that mod is way out of line), he loses authority and credibility with the members.

The forum ultimately suffers. Productive members of the forum will leave, the cabals will stay and grow stronger, and the forum will cease to be relevant within its intended niche.

Now in the spirit of full disclosure, I have been banned from forums. A few times temporarily (though I will generally not return to that forum anyway), and a few times permanently. I’m not proud of that fact, but I am also not the least bit ashamed of it either. Whenever it’s happened, it was for one of the reasons I mentioned above.

Personally, I simply will not tolerate the “mod as God” syndrome as either a member of a forum or as the owner of that forum, and when a mod attacks me—or is clearly being biased or playing favorites—I will let them know it. I will not tolerate it on my own forums, and if I feel a member is right and the mod is wrong, I will side with the member. That has never happened on my forums, however, and that’s because I’ve stepped in long before it ever got to that point. I don’t put my mods in a position where they have to defend themselves, and they know I will deal with it well before that.

The members of my forums know I always take a fair and objective approach to the issue or dispute. It’s part of my mission statement, and is an essential component of a healthy, successful forum.

The Missing Mod Syndrome


There are also forums where you know there are mods somewhere, but you can’t figure where, or even who, they are. They don’t seem to do any actual moderating, don’t keep the forum running smoothly, and may show up to lock a thread after some flame war has been taking place for days or longer. These “hands off” mods and owners tend to end up with a ‘free for all’ type forum. There’s nothing inherently wrong with that if that’s what the owner wants and the members enjoy, and such forums have their own niche, but they are not for me and not what I recommend owners strive for. They are generally a big mess of flame wars, member cabals, and a waste of time for those people who actually want to talk about and read about relevant topics that such a forum pretends to offer.


Conclusion

One or more of the above pitfalls can produce what I call “Toxic Forum Syndrome.” The forum is sick and is in need of fixing. Obviously, prevention is always better than treatment, so it’s best to be proactive and “hands on” as the owner of a forum, rather than reactive. Members of forums will probably recognize the above categories from forums they visit regularly, which should help them decide whether to move on, or attempt to be part of the cure vs. the problem. I identified these problems over many years as a member and user of forums, so when I decided to start my own forums, I was fully aware and prepared to avoid them. So far so good…

bigmc

  • Getbig V
  • *****
  • Posts: 23049
Re: problem children on this board
« Reply #104 on: October 30, 2008, 11:17:54 AM »
fyi - my skin is plenty thick. the issue was about abusing the gf's... thats just low.

so whoever does that.. I will abuse. if thats not you.. disregard.

you need to chill out james

if you need your ass kissed on the internet

post somewhere else


who gives a fuck what a bunch of anonymous posters say


get over it - it aint real life
T

DeltsaForce

  • Getbig IV
  • ****
  • Posts: 2109
Re: problem children on this board
« Reply #105 on: October 30, 2008, 11:24:42 AM »
its not being insulted its the fact that there is clearly a group of 5 or 6 guys who are unemployed, angry and bitter middle aged failures who come to a bodybuilding site just to cause trouble and act like pathetic teenagers stalking new posters and calling them gay whilst they quote each other and pretend its really funny. it's not and i bet the majority are bored to death of pandamoneum, chaos, avesher, quakeroats ruining the place

bigmc

  • Getbig V
  • *****
  • Posts: 23049
Re: problem children on this board
« Reply #106 on: October 30, 2008, 11:45:08 AM »
its not being insulted its the fact that there is clearly a group of 5 or 6 guys who are unemployed, angry and bitter middle aged failures who come to a bodybuilding site just to cause trouble and act like pathetic teenagers stalking new posters and calling them gay whilst they quote each other and pretend its really funny. it's not and i bet the majority are bored to death of pandamoneum, chaos, avesher, quakeroats ruining the place

what about gimmicks  ::)
T

CQ

  • Competitors
  • Getbig V
  • *****
  • Posts: 7018
  • TGT
Re: problem children on this board
« Reply #107 on: October 30, 2008, 12:00:58 PM »
James, from the pics I saw I think your girlfriend is quite pretty, and I also think it's nice to see you defending her and all that obviously your heart is in the right place, even though you are melting a bit too much. Better to not post pics really, can't just post pics in the 'hottest chicks' thread on GB and expect all to agree. No worries though, seems you two are happy and as uber ghey as this is, that is all that matters.

PANDAEMONIUM

  • Getbig V
  • *****
  • Posts: 6583
  • Scourge of the Northern Gods
Re: problem children on this board
« Reply #108 on: October 30, 2008, 12:22:35 PM »
its not being insulted its the fact that there is clearly a group of 5 or 6 guys who are unemployed, angry and bitter middle aged failures who come to a bodybuilding site just to cause trouble and act like pathetic teenagers stalking new posters and calling them gay whilst they quote each other and pretend its really funny. it's not and i bet the majority are bored to death of pandamoneum, chaos, avesher, quakeroats ruining the place

Whoa, dude, chill out.  You rag on me for being negative, why don't you check out the hundreds of posts I've made on the training board encouraging the younger guys and trying to help them out with stuff I've learned over the years.

I've noticed almost every single one of your 90+ posts are attacks on longtime posters.  You cry about people not being positive enough, yet your entire account revolves around dissing others (case in point: your non stop stalking of jpegg, ragging on his physique, his wife, etc).  I think you need to can it with your gimmick account.

Just my 2 cents

chaos

  • Getbig V
  • *****
  • Posts: 57582
  • Ron "There is no freedom of speech here" Avidan
Re: problem children on this board
« Reply #109 on: October 30, 2008, 06:15:36 PM »
Whoa, dude, chill out.  You rag on me for being negative, why don't you check out the hundreds of posts I've made on the training board encouraging the younger guys and trying to help them out with stuff I've learned over the years.

I've noticed almost every single one of your 90+ posts are attacks on longtime posters.  You cry about people not being positive enough, yet your entire account revolves around dissing others (case in point: your non stop stalking of jpegg, ragging on his physique, his wife, etc).  I think you need to can it with your gimmick account.

Just my 2 cents
Yes, whoever is running the "deltsaforce" gimmick is blowing smoke trying to fly under the radar. Non-stop attacks and insults coming from that account towards longtime members.....strange how some new account know everything about certain long time posters. ::)

Someone should be running a cross reference on that accounts IP.
Liar!!!!Filt!!!!

ASJChaotic

  • Guest
Re: problem children on this board
« Reply #110 on: October 30, 2008, 06:33:47 PM »
Yes, whoever is running the "deltsaforce" gimmick is blowing smoke trying to fly under the radar. Non-stop attacks and insults coming from that account towards longtime members.....strange how some new account know everything about certain long time posters. ::)

Someone should be running a cross reference on that accounts IP.
I wonder if it's "Pumphard"  :-X  ;D