How long do YOU wait to call a chick after a successful FIRST date?

[Topskin69]

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[_bruce_]

When you want to... a few days.
Less than a week.

[JOHN MATRIX]

also be sure to mention to her that you post on Getbig, that is usually enough to get their panties soaked.

[newmom]

Danimal,

Just dont play the games. Call her when you want, but don't hound her to death (not saying you are or were). If you call more than twice with no return phone call, blah to her. I'll admit I didn't read all the posts in this thread. Until you and her (if your still talking and seeing each other) decide to be "relationship" status. See other women. Don't throw all your eggs in one basket, because your back to dating now.
I wouldn't put to much weight into her picking you up, if she knows you just lost your car. However, make sure your "picking up the tab", not because you should, but basically to show your not a scumbag, IMO. Now, here is the tester. If or when you do take her out for grub, I'm hoping she offers to throw in some money. Some women, don't feel a man should always pay. I for one don't think its fair a man should always pay, but at least the genuine offer should be there.

Good Luck

[Danimal77]

UPDATE***

So, as mentioned, she's an elementary school teacher and their hours are strange. She starts work at 7:42am. They have breaks at 10:47am... You get the idea. Anyway, on our date, we kind of joked around about those weird times. So, this morning, not to disturb her while she's working, I sent her a text, saying: "10:42 and someone's thinking of you. Guess who? "

She responds within half an hour, with a " , just had a class at 10:47 and am going into another one soon. Have a good afternoon". So, I found it a bit odd that she didn't ask me how I am, or how my day is going. It seemed more of a closed response, versus an open one. I dismissed that thought and went in for the kill. I replied back saying, hey, I'll be working from home tomorrow. I'd like to see you. Would you like to do something? She replies back saying, "I actually have plans tomorrow evening. It would have to be in the afternoon. What did you have in mind? We may be able to figure something out."

So, of course I'm thinking that she's seeing the same guy she saw last Wednesday night again this Wednesday night. Maybe not, but maybe she is. Then I'm thinking of her reply seems more business like. I said I'd like to see her. No response back that she'd like to see me too. Anyways, should I be content with seeing her in the afternoon? She didn't brush me off, which is good. I want to see her, so should I be accepting? She also asked me what I had in mind? What I had in mind was dinner and a movie. Seeing her in the afternoon changes that.

[newmom]

UPDATE***

So, as mentioned, she's an elementary school teacher and their hours are strange. She starts work at 7:42am. They have breaks at 10:47am... You get the idea. Anyway, on our date, we kind of joked around about those weird times. So, this morning, not to disturb her while she's working, I sent her a text, saying: "10:42 and someone's thinking of you. Guess who? "

She responds within half an hour, with a " , just had a class at 10:47 and am going into another one soon. Have a good afternoon". So, I found it a bit odd that she didn't ask me how I am, or how my day is going. It seemed more of a closed response, versus an open one. I dismissed that thought and went in for the kill. I replied back saying, hey, I'll be working from home tomorrow. I'd like to see you. Would you like to do something? She replies back saying, "I actually have plans tomorrow evening. It would have to be in the afternoon. What did you have in mind? We may be able to figure something out."

So, of course I'm thinking that she's seeing the same guy she saw last Wednesday night again this Wednesday night. Maybe not, but maybe she is. Then I'm thinking of her reply seems more business like. I said I'd like to see her. No response back that she'd like to see me too. Anyways, should I be content with seeing her in the afternoon? She didn't brush me off, which is good. I want to see her, so should I be accepting? She also asked me what I had in mind? What I had in mind was dinner and a movie. Seeing her in the afternoon changes that.

Well she is at work, maybe just making quick responses that may seem closed (don't know the girl). I would see her in the afternoon, see how it goes. I wouldn't yet ask her if she is seeing anyone (because you have only had one date). Try and see what kind of vibes she is throwing. Ask her out for dinner on this afternoon date. If she makes more excuses, FUCK THAT, cut her off.
The text you sent at 10:42 was very sweet. Id like to think most women would eat that up but yet think in the back of their mind, hmmm what's his alterior motive. I would of said awwwwww thank you.
Again, be yourself, SHE may be the one playing the game of MAKING HIM chase or the other, playing hard to get card. We all know women do it, have I, yes I USED to, now I just through all the cards on the table and I dont mean strip poker

[Danimal77]

Well she is at work, maybe just making quick responses that may seem closed (don't know the girl). I would see her in the afternoon, see how it goes. I wouldn't yet ask her if she is seeing anyone (because you have only had one date). Try and see what kind of vibes she is throwing. Ask her out for dinner on this afternoon date. If she makes more excuses, FUCK THAT, cut her off.
The text you sent at 10:42 was very sweet. Id like to think most women would eat that up but yet think in the back of their mind, hmmm what's his alterior motive. I would of said awwwwww thank you.
Again, be yourself, SHE may be the one playing the game of MAKING HIM chase or the other, playing hard to get card. We all know women do it, have I, yes I USED to, now I just through all the cards on the table and I dont mean strip poker

So, take into account, I was thinking evening date with her tomorrow. She can't. She suggests afternoon (probably 3 or 4pm, seeing it's an elementary school). She asks me what I had in mind. Find that strange, seeing I had evening plans in mind. Late afternoon plans are different. We can't do dinner together, etc, so what do I reply to her question, because I have no clue what to do at that time of the day. If she were my gf, SURE, but this technically would be only a second date. Maybe an ice cream and another walk in the park if weather permits? Remember, I'm carless for the moment, so I can't take her for a drive.. My only concern with accepting this date, is that am I not working within her time frame?

[BIG ACH]

If the date was "so successful", you wouldn't have to call 

[Hulkotron]

I say fuck it Danimal.  Who goes on a date in the afternoon?

[nder98]

don't play the "waiting game" and don't follow "the rules"

call her when you want

Exactly, the 3 day thing is for 20 year olds

[Danimal77]

If you want dating advice then this is not the board to ask. PM me if you want a link.

Dude, with all due respect, people talk about their jobs, about politics, religion, punching dogs in the face, returning their microwaves, etc..... So fucking what if I take a moment to discuss this shit. Been on here for 4 years and contribute my share of bodybuilding related stuff. If you don't like this thread, then skip it brother.

[newmom]

So, take into account, I was thinking evening date with her tomorrow. She can't. She suggests afternoon (probably 3 or 4pm, seeing it's an elementary school). She asks me what I had in mind. Find that strange, seeing I had evening plans in mind. Late afternoon plans are different. We can't do dinner together, etc, so what do I reply to her question, because I have no clue what to do at that time of the day. If she were my gf, SURE, but this technically would be only a second date. Maybe an ice cream and another walk in the park if weather permits? Remember, I'm carless for the moment, so I can't take her for a drive.. My only concern with accepting this date, is that am I not working within her time frame?

Dont worry about the car thing, honestly. Perhaps if its 4pm, a nice coffee somewhere outside, if weather permits. Or an early dinner. I know its not your ideal setting, but go with the flow. It seems your into this lady, which is great, but heed my advice, DONT LET HER KNOW THIS or make it obvious. Be yourself though, which is a tad of a back peddle I know.

[Danimal77]

I say fuck it Danimal.  Who goes on a date in the afternoon?

Well, look, she has plans and clearly she didn't blow me off. She could have proposed another day. She stuck with tomorrow and is offering a time she isn't busy. We can make the best of it and if it goes well, I can seal a "real" evening date with her for the weekend this time. I don't think this is terrible. Not crazy about her business like responses. Was hoping for more TLC in them, or at least mirror what I put out. I think it's pretty stupid, or even arrogant though of her to have mentioned to me about having had a date with another guy last Wednesday and then go on and tell me today she has plans tomorrow night. Most people would automatically assume she's going on another date... Again, she's entitled. I'll accept and for tomorrow. NOT going to give her an immediate response though. I wasn't too impressed with her replies. "I'll say sure, maybe we'll do ice cream."

[El Diablo Blanco]

Au fuck no you didn't  "10:42 and someone's thinking of you. Guess who? "  Really   Oh well.  Yes she has plans, you make your plans earlier in the day, blow her away and make sure she doesn't make her night plans.  If she spends the entire afternoon checking her watch, her phone, texting or taking long bathroom breaks then you know she has something she's cooking on the side.  You don't want to seem needy or jealous.  The true way to keep her is to not get too needy.  be the man.

Take her up on the afternoon date.  Don't worry about the texting.  A lot of people don't like texting or writing long messages.  Especially at work.  Being a teacher she has to be careful.  what if one of the students saw a racy text message?  She would be fired.  She is at work, being professional.  That is not a bad thing.

[Danimal77]

Dont worry about the car thing, honestly. Perhaps if its 4pm, a nice coffee somewhere outside, if weather permits. Or an early dinner. I know its not your ideal setting, but go with the flow. It seems your into this lady, which is great, but heed my advice, DONT LET HER KNOW THIS or make it obvious. Be yourself though, which is a tad of a back peddle I know.

Yeah, but isn't it a bit obvious that I'm into her, by having told her that someone's thinking of her and that I'd like to see her tomorrow? She knows. She may be flattered INSIDE, but she sure didn't reciprocate the sentiment in her 2 texts.

Don't think I'll suggest dinner, seeing that's exactly what she may be doing tomorrow night with whomever she has plans with. I'll text her back in a couple of hours, saying "sure, afternoon works. Maybe we'll do ice cream (weather permitting)". Again, was looking for more of an enthused response. I'd understand if I called her, but this is a text where she can say or do anything. No one is monitoring them.

[Danimal77]

Au fuck no you didn't  "10:42 and someone's thinking of you. Guess who? "  Really   Oh well.  Yes she has plans, you make your plans earlier in the day, blow her away and make sure she doesn't make her night plans.  If she spends the entire afternoon checking her watch, her phone, texting or taking long bathroom breaks then you know she has something she's cooking on the side.  You don't want to seem needy or jealous.  The true way to keep her is to not get too needy.  be the man.

Take her up on the afternoon date.  Don't worry about the texting.  A lot of people don't like texting or writing long messages.  Especially at work.  Being a teacher she has to be careful.  what if one of the students saw a racy text message?  She would be fired.  She is at work, being professional.  That is not a bad thing.

Sound advice brother. I'll take her up on it. As said, I'll respond in an hour or two. Let her wait a bit. I'm proposing we do ice cream. Reason being, her nickname on the site I met her on is "Berry Vanilla". So, I'll say let's try and go hunt down some Berry Vanilla ice cream tomorrow .

[El Diablo Blanco]

Yeah, but isn't it a bit obvious that I'm into her, by having told her that someone's thinking of her and that I'd like to see her tomorrow? She knows. She may be flattered INSIDE, but she sure didn't reciprocate the sentiment in her 2 texts.

Don't think I'll suggest dinner, seeing that's exactly what she may be doing tomorrow night with whomever she has plans with. I'll text her back in a couple of hours, saying "sure, afternoon works. Maybe we'll do ice cream (weather permitting)". Again, was looking for more of an enthused response. I'd understand if I called her, but this is a text where she can say or do anything. No one is monitoring them.

Dude she's at work and this is all done through text messaging.  Nothing romantic about texting.  You need to hear her voice to know how she feels.

Especially if she is already dating someone.  She is probably all confused now.

[Hulkotron]

Well, look, she has plans and clearly she didn't blow me off. She could have proposed another day. She stuck with tomorrow and is offering a time she isn't busy. We can make the best of it and if it goes well, I can seal a "real" evening date with her for the weekend this time. I don't think this is terrible. Not crazy about her business like responses. Was hoping for more TLC in them, or at least mirror what I put out. I think it's pretty stupid, or even arrogant though of her to have mentioned to me about having had a date with another guy last Wednesday and then go on and tell me today she has plans tomorrow night. Most people would automatically assume she's going on another date... Again, she's entitled. I'll accept and for tomorrow. NOT going to give her an immediate response though. I wasn't too impressed with her replies. "I'll say sure, maybe we'll do ice cream."

Why bother posting this thread if you're just going to get all defensive when anyone gives you advice?  You don't want to go on some worthless afternoon "date", you want to take her out in the evening.  So ask to take her out in the evening.  Don't waste your time with this 4:00-in-the-afternoon shit, and don't settle for being someone's afternoon ice cream date so she can go carouse with some other dude in the evening.

You are investing waaaaaaaaaay to much emotion on a bitch you don't know.

QFT

[Danimal77]

Relax man, all was saying is that there are better places for this. I wasn't saying delete your thread. Epic nonsense meltdown, when I was actually trying to help. 

If you can't see, I'm getting a TON of sound advice. Appreciate the looking out for me though brother .

[newmom]

Yeah, but isn't it a bit obvious that I'm into her, by having told her that someone's thinking of her and that I'd like to see her tomorrow? She knows. She may be flattered INSIDE, but she sure didn't reciprocate the sentiment in her 2 texts.

Don't think I'll suggest dinner, seeing that's exactly what she may be doing tomorrow night with whomever she has plans with. I'll text her back in a couple of hours, saying "sure, afternoon works. Maybe we'll do ice cream (weather permitting)". Again, was looking for more of an enthused response. I'd understand if I called her, but this is a text where she can say or do anything. No one is monitoring them.

I agree it is obvious, but dont want to put words in your mouth. Again I thought it was a very sweet message. Id like to think some of women folk would love that, I know I would. Ask her out to dinner either this weekend or next. But can I let you in on a secret. Dont jump when she says (example) cant do dinner tonight but what about this afternoon, tell her you have plans. See if she is into you just as much. I agree noone is monitoring them, but like I said, she may not have the time for a longer message, so dont perceive it as being a closed message either.

[Danimal77]

You are investing waaaaaaaaaay to much emotion on a bitch you don't know. Who gives a shit if she didn't respond this or that way, maybe she doens't like texting? Maybe she thought you were a pussy for not calling? Maybe she thought were creepy to send "Im thinking about you" texts after one date?

Shes going on several dates, you on the other hand are acting like she's all that after one date?. You should go on several dates and not just settle for the first and best thing.

My 2 cents. Take it or leave it.

I didn't call her out of respect, seeing she is at work. Been going on several dates since December. Actually, several is an understatement....haha. She impressed me. What can I say? All my long relationships (1-3 years) started out like this. Then again, dating sites weren't really that popular then, as they are now. Women didn't have dozens of men daily emailing them back in the day. They got too many options today. Anyway, back on topic.

[El Diablo Blanco]

I agree it is obvious, but dont want to put words in your mouth. Again I thought it was a very sweet message. Id like to think some of women folk would love that, I know I would. Ask her out to dinner either this weekend or next. But can I let you in on a secret. Dont jump when she says (example) cant do dinner tonight but what about this afternoon, tell her you have plans. See if she is into you just as much. I agree noone is monitoring them, but like I said, she may not have the time for a longer message, so dont perceive it as being a closed message either.

Good point. Let her know the afternoon is no good for you and pick another night.  be firm and have plans.  Don't just say what are you doing this Friday.  Tell her "I want to take you to ______ this Friday at 7:00"  Be affirmative.  If she brushes you off again then you know something is up.

[240 is Back]

her response 'Have a good afternoon'

that worries me.   that's what you say to a peer, not a dude she wants to get with.

[Danimal77]

Why bother posting this thread if you're just going to get all defensive when anyone gives you advice?  You don't want to go on some worthless afternoon "date", you want to take her out in the evening.  So ask to take her out in the evening.  Don't waste your time with this 4:00-in-the-afternoon shit, and don't settle for being someone's afternoon ice cream date so she can go carouse with some other dude in the evening.

QFT

I don't know if the afternoon date has to be worthless persay. She could have just said she's busy, maybe another day. We don't know if she has a date tomorrow night. It's speculation. If I'm coming across as defensive to certain posters, is because I'm getting a "fuck that" response. Trying to stay in a positive frame of mind.

I love you guys  

[newmom]

Good point.

see Im good for some things around here huh