To be a "real Man" you have to be a father and a husband. If you cant, you re only half a man, at best.
Everything else is pure bullshit for ignorant , immature people. It's tougher to be a good father from day one than beating the shit out of anyone in an "arena". It's tougher to build a family while working and realizing yourself than living alone only focusing on your childish pleasures.
It's especially tough to be that Man when yourself had no father or when your father failed at being a good, let's say decent, one. Too bad that's the only purpose of our existence, being born as males.
The real difficulty in life is not to reproduce unconsciously what bad stuff (habits, cognitions and behaviors, ways of thinking) our family and environment taught us during our childhood and adolescence. And to keep what was valuable and cultivate, develop it. We re not equal in terms of what was taught to us, in what we inherited. But we all wish we could free ourselves from the bad, and develop the good. This can be done with others people, complementing each others thru healthy relationships. Problem is when you dont know how to communicate, how to select healthy people, when you dont have the basics to communicate efficeintly. In this case you cannot even find what, who would cure the unhealthy influences that are preventing you from maturing. At this point you obviously need a mentor.
An healthy mind in an healthy body. Takes both to claim being "happy". People who are happy dont claim they are, you just can see it. You can be heahtlhy physically yet be unhealthy psychologically. Best proof are people who do steroids, who are unhealthy psychologically speaking which leads to unhealthy behaviors towards their body, while convincing themselves what they re doing is healthy. Fact is trying to overcompensate for intelectual, psychological shortcomings by using chemicals and to get "bigger and bigger and bigger" only means you re underachieving in one or several aspects of your existence and dont know how to reverse this processus.
