I usually tell them it's probably in their best interest to start taking contraception within the first few hours of meeting them. it's a nice icebreaker and lets them know just what I am after
Thing is, she was a virgin before me...so it is all kind of a big deal. I don't mind waiting and as we don't see each other often given the distance, it's ok...just was super keen on not having to use raincoats...oh well.
Yeah, of course I know she's not on the pill. I guess it is scary stuff for her. Eventually she'll get on it. We just talked about it, which is why I am asking.
why is the pill scary for her. is it because of her previous virgin status or does she have issues that could be exacerbated by the pill?some women have clot issues and other shit. if she doesn't have those she shoudl get on it for both your sakes.just say hey baby, are you getting on the pill? and then offer to pay for it.
Well, she's actually never been to a gynecologist before. It's weird but makes sense given her history. She is planning to go next month I think.
It's great when a women wants to get on the pill by her choice. But if she doesn't want to do it you can't make her do it. Lots of birth control pills are strong hormones that fuck up a woman's moods and menstrual cycles. Lots of women don't wanna take them. Just do the pull-out method.
yeah it can fuck with their moods and weight and other shit but pregancy does worse. the pull out method isn't reliable. doesn't that first drop of jizz hav the most sperm?
I did the pull out method for 1 year with some chick, fucking every day with no birth control and never had an accident. But i'm really good at pulling out a full 5 seconds before shooting a load. I don't think pre-cum has much spern in it. I think that's an urban legend.
Honestly though, I love her so much, it doesn't really make a difference. Sure, it would be better in terms of feeling but I do know that the pill can be harmful and I don't want her health compromised.
Ever had your sperm tested? Maybe you're just infertile.
You don't want her to go fat and lose her sex drive, that's what you don't want.
alright listen i think this is great sentiment but keep in mind that people and circumstances change.maybe you two should use some other kind of birth control -there are all kinds of hit but i do give you props for sayi8ng what you feel about your girl but keep in mind that shit can change in no time. hope it works out for you
Nope. I did knock up a woman too. And she had an abortion. So I know i'm not infertile. With her I was wasted drunk and I just creampied it. Big mistake.
Sure, shit can change in no time. I am pretty aware of it. In fact the first phase of my relationship basically consisted of her trying to reduce my inherent mistrust, which she eventually did. It might not work out but I can tell you that she is a treasure and I will do my best to make sure it works; I've never met a girl like her before...and if you knew me in real life, I never say things like that.
I like the fact that she was a virgin before she lost it to me. It means she values herself and didn't just fuck around (she had plenty of opportunity).
I agree in principle, but she's 22 and has had a lot of opportunities? Why hasn't she taken any of them? She doesn't like sex? Shes a square? Or is she lying to you? Do you honestly think your a good enough catch, at least in her eyes, to be the "one" she gives it up to after all those guys she's passed up.. Serious question, no flame, just trying to help you analyze your situation.
Was it a couple of months, weeks, years?
