Ok I'm gonna be serious here and give some nice helpful advice. What you really want is some type of control over a guy, right? I don't mean bitchy controlling girlfriend control, I mean control like you simply know he'll never disappoint you, when a man really lets you inside of his world and doesn't just let you ride along.
What you gotta do is realize that being hot doesn't = power in a man's world. When a guy like me sees that you go to the gym, wear makeup and what not, this tells me that you depend on looks for the power you have over men. Now I can manipulate you and control you - if I want you to be happy I compliment your looks (not just saying you look good, kissing you all slow and tender like you look like an angel), and if I want to crush you I will mention how round your friend's booty is - oh no babe, you're fine, I like you just the way you are.
when you want to have power over a man you gotta guarantee him that you won't abuse whatever power he gives you. That's all. Work on your attitude not your looks, this is what men really care about. Treat him like you want to be treated. Is that so hard? All you have to be is hot enough to fuck, all the rest is how you treat someone. When a woman treats me the way I know she wants me to treat her, I will consider making her my girlfriend - actually for now I'm still loving this one night stand shit, because I don't think I want to be with a woman who lets me do the things that women let me do to them lol