Felt the need to chime in... Having been in love and having cheated on people I love, I can say this, it's nothing but destructive.
I've had loyal relationships and if you don't want a loyal relationship, the best thing you can truly do is be up front about what you want and go from there. It's different with love though because you don't want to lose love. You want to find a way to have your cake and eat it too. It's a sick mental thing, but the problem is... the problem is when you get caught and you lose the love. Then you go nuts because it hits you like a cement truck knowing what you had and lost. All for what? A piece of ass? Meanwhile you had all that and a thousand other amazing things with the person you love and you get sick with yourself for throwing all that away for some bullshit. It's really destructive. Cheating on some random chick your dating and don't give a shit, fine. Cheat on those you love and you will only hurt yourself more in the end.
I fell in love with a girl head over heals in love when I was 16. We dated through highschool and then college. I was madly in love with this girl I would do anything for her. I totally gave her my heart she could rip it out and crush me if she chose to. We went to different colleges. She stayed in our home town I left the state to play football. No one new who I was there I could pretty much do whatever I wanted. Well I came home to visit one time when facebook first came out. I left my page singed in on her computer. I had messages from several other girls. I was driving home when I got the call and she told me what she saw. My world came crashing down I almost threw up in the car. I went through weeks and weeks of her torturing me for it. It was fucken horrible. She would call me at all hours of the night crying. I should of just broke up with her when I had the chance. I stuck around and made it up to her as best as I could. What a terrible time.
When college was over I moved home and we were still dating. Well I went on a cycle of some really good test and dbol. I was a walking hard on. Only 22 at the time. I got caught cheating again!! I went through that horrible struggle again to keep her around. God I should of just let her go. She would call my cellphone again all hours of the night. If I didn't pick up she would call my house phone! I moved in with my parents ao they would get woken up! I'm surprised my dad didn't beat my ass for that. I would have to go pick her drunk ass up at 4 in the morning so she could cry to me and bitch me out. Then we would have amazing sex for another couple hours. It was a really strange time. I was deep into pill addiction to. My life was spiraling out of control fast! I just couldn't deal with giving her to anyone else. What a mistake. There's nothing worse than getting caught cheating. I was way to young to be in such a serious relationship. I should of stayed single!
I was into pills and steroids and had all this fucked up shit going on with my girlfriend. Sometimes I wonder how I made it through those dark days. I would get so strung out! I could never make it through that kind of pain again. I really think the person who gets caught has it the hardest.!
(little side story the day I left for college was one of the hardest days in my life. I was so in love with my girlfriend I didn't have a veichle so I new I wouldn't be able to see her for months. We were inseparable throughout our relationship we spent every second together. We both dreaded me going off to school! I cried myself to sleep for the first 2 weeks! I couldn't concentrate on football I don't know how I made it through the camp. I would call my parents and tell them I wanted to come home and quit. Thank god they made me stay and get my degree! Thank god! Love can be a very powerful thing. My world felt like it had been torn apart. Just because I was five hours a way from the love of my life! I don't think I will ever be in love like that again! When I would come home after a long 2-3 months away we would have mind blowing passionate sex the whole time I was home. I would even cry with her sometime after. That is real true passion and love. It was almost scary!
