You are a wise man, we may not agree on some points when it comes to marriage or so (I see too many unhappy/depressed people..and I'd say it's because they tried to fulfill a "scenario" that has been made up against human nature, or generally - just acted out of fear to be "alone". Most of them commited while very young. I'd say if to marry, at 35-40 - would be a far wiser move..But that's just MY point of view, I generally don't agree with these traditions, and not because I'm some kind of a "rebel", I just have my own ways..), but generally I'd agree with what you replied to my posts.
There are a lot of folks who believe it is better to wait until one is settled and somewhat secure in life before they marry....and this goes for men as well as women. I have come to believe that what makes a successful marriage varies from person to person and that good marriages also happen when folks marry young and grow together.
I married at twenty. I was just a kid really. My education wasn't finished. I didn't have a secure job or hardly any money. On top of that, I was bisexual. My wife was twenty-one when we married. We were both just a couple of dumb kids really. Our families were against the marriage, btw. Here we are today, almost forty-seven years later and still married and loving it. Our families didn't think our marriage would last a year. We showed them!
Our son married at twenty-two. His bride was nineteen. They were just kids too. They have been happily married for twenty-three years.
Our daughter married at nineteen. Her husband was twenty-one. They have been happily married for sixteen years.
Unlike my and my wife's families we embraced/supported our kids marriages and hoped the best for them. Maybe there is something unique going on in our family that makes for successful marriages, I don't really know.
One thing I do know is that I am not perfect and neither is my wife. Our marriage has been good, but not some story book example of marriage, like Ozzie and Harriet. If we exampled anything to our kids it was to accept that life isn't always what you expect and people are not always perfect in every way. Love each other, flaws and all and don't try to change one another into someone else.
I don't know that I am wise....just been around for a long time now.