It has been said that sometimes the smallest of persons take up the most room in your heart. To that I would add, but first you must have a heart.
To date you have not shown this. How you behave from this moment on will show us who you truly are. Remember young man, that character is more easily kept than recovered.
Your child sleeps in Christ. To those that would take offence at this I say, "Why?". If my words are false there is no harm. If true there is hope. Regardless they are said in empathy, with love.