I just saw a short video of Tom and he said that losing the 1981 Mr O was the biggest blessing of his life even though he didn't know it then or for many years. He said that winning the title is what should give everyone what they want and make them happy. But in his case, if he would have won it, he probably would have injured himself even more in his training to defend it. He said he lost the title but he still had decades in the sport that he made a very good living off of and had a lot of fun even without being on stage. Even up to this day, his seminars still bring in a decent amount for him.
(he did not specify what a "decent amount" was.)