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Or a turn-OFF?
Does it make you feel loved and protected... or suffocated and claustrophobic?
I find there is a lot more acceptance for a man to seethe with the green-eyed monster and perhaps destroy a few things in his wake to make his point, while women are often perceived as demonic witch creatures if they show the same kind of passionate response. Maybe it's the marking of the territory thing that makes it more acceptable for men.
Never show weakness is my own personal motto.
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time and again my girlfriends have gotton mad at me here and there for NOT being jeleous >:( :-\
i know how me being jeleous can be seen as ..me caring more....but girls...some guys just aren't the jeleous type...
look at it this way...just cause i'm secure enough to be ok with ya dancing with other doods at some party does not mean i love ya less...it means i trust ya..
and if ya betray that trust.well...it'll hurt..but at least i find out it ws not meant to be
2 love dosen't betray :)
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suffocated and claustrophobic
And I'm with Toxie, I've been told I dont care cause I dont get jealous........but whatever.
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suffocated and claustrophobic
And I'm with Toxie, I've been told I dont care cause I dont get jealous........but whatever.
The one time I wasn't jealous with a girl got me the same response. It's funny because girls get pissed about jealousy too.
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Kelly, my ex tried to make me jealous constantly, it didnt work well and it was stoooopid!
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I usually make em jealous on accident........dont even try. I mean whats up with that?
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I usually make em jealous on accident........dont even try. I mean whats up with that?
u know exactly what u r doing mate...
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u know exactly what u r doing mate...
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Actually I dont.....kinda. I was raised by a single mother....natural for me to relate to women better than guys, so im obviously more comfortable around them. They dont see it that way.
That might be why I dont get jealous too.....I dunno.
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suffocated and claustrophobic
And I'm with Toxie, I've been told I dont care cause I dont get jealous........but whatever.
DITTO.
I know all about this. It makes me want to run for the hills and never look back or come down.
I'm not a jealous kind of guy by any means. I frown upon people who are jealous and insecure. NOTHING is more of a turn on than a woman who's trusting, confident and totally secure.
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DITTO.
I know all about this. It makes me want to run for the hills and never look back or come down.
I'm not a jealous kind of guy by any means. I frown upon people who are jealous and insecure. NOTHING is more of a turn on than a woman who's trusting, confident and totally secure.
This rarely happens unless they are on the end of the looks spectrums. You either get fat women who think they look good and model types who know they look hot.
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Depends on how they react and why.
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gets on my nerve, but I've been told I have a jealous streak
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I think to an extent it is natural. People are just better than others about controlling the feelings or are in some cases delusional. I think only sociopaths don't get jealous. Rules don't apply to them.
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As Jay-Z said, "Jealousy is a female trait". Men don't get jealous, they get envious. Envious of what others have that they don't have.
I've been envious before, and then thought, "that was stupid", because the energy that goes into that could energy put into more productive things. Plus, people feed off of that energy, so why give the party that your envious of, more power? Give them credit and a pat on the back, and you feel better.
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Jealousy and envy are two different things. Jealousy relates to feeling threatened and thinking that someone is going to take something from you. E.g. in a relationship, if you are jealous you are afraid someone will take your partner away.
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DITTO.
I know all about this. It makes me want to run for the hills and never look back or come down.
I'm not a jealous kind of guy by any means. I frown upon people who are jealous and insecure. NOTHING is more of a turn on than a woman who's trusting, confident and totally secure.
Amen my brother! My boyfriend has no problem with me hanging out with a pro bodybuilder of the opposite sex. He said to just hook him up for a workout or two with him. (no not in the gay way) ha ha
I think it's funny when women drool over him, cause I know at the end of the day who he is with...
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cause I know at the end of the day who he is with...
And that is truly what matters.....
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I'd actually appreciate it if my bf showed a lil itty bit of jealousy once in a while...but that may be because he NEVER EVER EVER shows that he is and I don't have to deal with someone who is overly insecure. Me on the other hand...jealousy is my worst quality in my books.
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I think to an extent it is natural. People are just better than others about controlling the feelings or are in some cases delusional. I think only sociopaths don't get jealous. Rules don't apply to them.
Cap, I love reading your posts. You always just crack me up!
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Cap, I love reading your posts. You always just crack me up!
I'm not sure if that is good or bad. ??? Do I come off like a total moron or are they just funny?
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I think if the relationship is very open there is no reason for jealousy...though I think for many it is just a part of them. I absolutely HATE being jealous, think it is one of the worse feelings to have and a horrible thing to have to deal with-that being said sometimes it is impossible for me to contain these feelings try as I might.
Definitely not a turn on for me. I know that I would never do anything intentional to hurt the person I am with so for them to be jealous of my friends or lifting partner is ridiculous.
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So true Beast. It sucks being jealous but realizing it is a good first step to controlling it.
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I really hate the feeling too... and am usually ashamed when I feel jealous, but fortunately it barely ever happened, and mostly I have tried to crush it before it ever showed.
The reason I was curious was because on Monday my girlfriend and I were in line at the farmacia and the guy in front of us started talking to us. It took forever to get to the cashier so we had enough time to joke and laugh with him... until all of a sudden some chick comes out of nowhere and gives us the laser-eyed death stare, then attaches herself to him like crazy glue. When we left, we saw them standing outside and she was railing at him like a loon... He just took it too. :-\
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This rarely happens unless they are on the end of the looks spectrums. You either get fat women who think they look good and model types who know they look hot.
Lol, that's a little black and white isn't it? Only fatties and hotties have self-esteem?
(PS. You're Italian, so you're allowed to be jealous. It's in your genes. :))
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Lol, that's a little black and white isn't it? Only fatties and hotties have self-esteem?
(PS. You're Italian, so you're allowed to be jealous. It's in your genes. :))
I have a sarcastic side. 8) Actually, I think models have low ass self esteem. They are 100 % dependent on what people think of them in terms of look. I think life is black and wife IMO but many would disagree with me. I'm Italian for sure but unfortunately I cannot be like Joe Pesci in Goodfellas. "If I see you talking to any guys I'll kill ya. *Kisses her cheek*. ;D
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Hotties DO NOT have self-esteem.....lol......that I know for a fact, at least a majority of them.
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Hotties DO NOT have self-esteem.....lol......that I know for a fact, at least a majority of them.
So we agree there.
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Must not be a hottie then, oh well :)
DeeDee-don't lie, you know you were trying to set up a threesome, plus he probably has a hstory of hooking up with the girls behind him in line at a store when his girlfriend is there.
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Must not be a hottie then, oh well :)
DeeDee-don't lie, you know you were trying to set up a threesome, plus he probably has a hstory of hooking up with the girls behind him in line at a store when his girlfriend is there.
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I have a sarcastic side. 8) Actually, I think models have low ass self esteem. They are 100 % dependent on what people think of them in terms of look. I think life is black and wife IMO but many would disagree with me. I'm Italian for sure but unfortunately I cannot be like Joe Pesci in Goodfellas. "If I see you talking to any guys I'll kill ya. *Kisses her cheek*. ;D
This one too is classic... actually only Italians can make jealousy seem cute and funny.
Jake LaMotta: Did you f**k my wife?
Joey LaMotta: What?
Jake La Motta: Did you f**k my wife?
Joey LaMotta: [pauses] How do you ask me that? I'm your brother and you ask me that? Where do you get you're balls big enough to ask me that?
Jake La Motta: I'm gonna ask you again, did you or didn't you? Just answer the question.
Joey LaMotta: I'm not gonna answer that. It's stupid. It's a sick question and you're a sick f**k and I'm not that sick that I'm gonna answer it. I'm leaving, If Nora calls tell her I went home. You know what you should do? Do a little more f**king and a little less eating, so you don't have to blame it all on me and everybody else, you understand me? You're cracking up! Ya' f**king screw ball ya'!
PS. Not all models have low self-esteem. A lot of them are just in it for the money and don't care about anything else. I think it's more or less what you learn at home, i.e. role models, that drives how you see yourself later in life.
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actually only Italians can make jealousy seem cute and funny.
PS. Not all models have low self-esteem. A lot of them are just in it for the money and don't care about anything else. I think it's more or less what you learn at home, i.e. role models, that drives how you see yourself later in life.
I never knew any jealous people really growing up. I think I am cursed with the jealous Italian gene. I used to freak out like those guys but have mellowed in the last couple of years but I still have my Pesci moments. Now I don't really use them on my girl, just other people. 8)
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Must not be a hottie then, oh well :)
DeeDee-don't lie, you know you were trying to set up a threesome, plus he probably has a hstory of hooking up with the girls behind him in line at a store when his girlfriend is there.
Exactly... she took one look at my motrin and keri lotion and she just knew we had hoe written all over us. And I could tell from the way he said "my girlfriend's around here somewhere" that this was code for "you girls meet me in fifteen in the parking lot." :P
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I never knew any jealous people really growing up. I think I am cursed with the jealous Italian gene. I used to freak out like those guys but have mellowed in the last couple of years but I still have my Pesci moments. Now I don't really use them on my girl, just other people. 8)
Well, as long as you can control it... I'm sure your girlfriend appreciates your new mellow tude. :P I used to have an Italian boyfriend who was very jealous... but usually I would just laugh, and then eventually he would laugh too. When he got jealous around other people, he'd get this extremely mean look in his eyes and it was amazing to watch how big his chest would get. :D
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Well, as long as you can control it... I'm sure your girlfriend appreciates your new mellow tude. :P I used to have an Italian boyfriend who was very jealous... but usually I would just laugh, and then eventually he would laugh too. When he got jealous around other people, he'd get this extremely mean look in his eyes and it was amazing to watch how big his chest would get. :D
That sounds about right. She definitely deals with it better than other girls I've been with. I swear we Italians must have the "I wanna yell, throw things, and hit people that piss us off at the drop of a hat" gene
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I'm not jealous.
BUT SHE BETTER NOT MAKE EYE CONTACT WITH ANOTHER GUY!!!!
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Hotties DO NOT have self-esteem.....lol......that I know for a fact, at least a majority of them.
there r many different types of hotties...
1) hotties whose self esteem is ONLY based on looks...remember the chick i talked about that i did in my car...well she sure ws confident..when i told her she ws hot she told me " i know" :-\ except....her whole personna ws an act to enhance her physical...her gestures..the way she moved her lips...the way she let her hair fall over her ever...the way she sat next to me..they way she used her bedroom voice at the friggin bar.. ::)
such behaviour in her is VERY interesting to me when i'm horney...and boring as crap on a stick when i'm not :-\
2) hotties that know they are good looking but want people to like em for their brain. exxxcept in most cases..when a guy comes along and DOES like em for their brains and personalities they become resentfull and distant....as much as they go around showing how smart they are...deep down..they only want to be appreciated for their looks.My ex laura.. :-\
3) True confident good looking women....a rare animal. only known 1 in my life for about 6sh months. It ws a great 6 months :)
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Toxie... you're talking about 3 women here. From these you have formulated a hypothesis on all of womankind? :-\
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Toxie... you're talking about 3 women here. From these you have formulated a hypothesis on all of womankind? :-\
but ya see the archetype and i mentioned the 3 kinda relevant to this thread...
i never said it ws a representation of all population... :-\
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Oh... nevermind. Archetype no. 1 probably fits the jealousy profile the best. That kind of woman has nothing to fall back on when the dust settles after the six month nuclear sex thing starts to wear off a little... they usually aren't very interesting.
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Oh... nevermind. Archetype no. 1 probably fits the jealousy profile the best. That kind of woman has nothing to fall back on when the dust settles after the six month nuclear sex thing starts to wear off a little... they usually aren't very interesting.
for such women being good looking ws interesting enough..thats why for the longest time i'd date theater and lit majors...
the good looking ones were actually interesting to boot...
then i quickly decided that dating theater majors ws a bad bad bad bad idea >:(
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for such women being good looking ws interesting enough..thats why for the longest time i'd date theater and lit majors...
the good looking ones were actually interesting to boot...
then i quickly decided that dating theater majors ws a bad bad bad bad idea >:(
LMAO... theater majors are hilarious people if you like histrionics and bizarre games. Lol. Should have stuck with us Lit Majors. ;)
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Must not be a hottie then, oh well :)
Well your one of those rare hotties who has self-esteem because you know your value doesn't come from your looks.......
;D
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LMAO... theater majors are hilarious people if you like histrionics and bizarre games. Lol. Should have stuck with us Lit Majors. ;)
i do i do!
i have a thing for physics majors (being really into it) ...i'll totally forgoe the looks deal for a physics majors...very few and far between though....
i know one..Mary..we kept making plans and they kept falling thru...last i saw she ws with some east european phsyics math wiz...wel;l he looked like a math wiz..he had the math hair and math clothes..
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Was the look completed with a comb-over and really thick glasses, and perhaps some strange flaking skin condition? :P
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Was the look completed with a comb-over and really thick glasses, and perhaps some strange flaking skin condition? :P
(I think we ruined Proschic's thread btw... :-[ )
no..the dood ws good looking.. i approved..if she had been with some ugly dood i'd have been pissed and tried to steal her away...this guy ws the "i'm 2 smart to care about my dress .aloof type"
n yeah i think we ruined this thread..sorry proschic...
btw..for the love of god go watch the vid i posted under " what you think of this girls" thread... :(
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no..the dood ws good looking.. i approved..if she had been with some ugly dood i'd have been pissed and tried to steal her away...this guy ws the "i'm 2 smart to care about my dress .aloof type"
n yeah i think we ruined this thread..sorry proschic...
btw..for the love of god go watch the vid i posted under " what you think of this girls" thread... :(
Proschic's thread was the Christmas plans one. Oh well, someone will redeem it later.
I'll watch the vid, promise... but you know, being of German extraction, I know all this stuff already. It's no secret anymore, and wasn't there some whole thing about the Bush/Nazi connection on A&E or some such channel. Let's face it, many people did business with the Nazis until the over the top craziness... and even then, sadly. Times change... people don't.
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its bayond the bush nazi connections..
like did you know in the bible the word "appollo" means "lucifer"
now what ws the name of the first shuttle mission to the moon? apollo 11
also..why did niel armstrong take a pic on the moon with the masonic flag held? the vid shows the pic..its still there in a masonic temple in scotland..
yanno the "titan" rocket name ws also the nick name of a 33degree mason who ws the mentor of the guy who built the titan rocket engine?
but why the secrecy? ..what did buzzaldrin means when he said " Houston THERE IS A SANTA CLAUSE..I REPEAT THERE IS A SANTA CLAUSE"
why did during the sts-50 mission ..during a routine space walk you hear (actualy nasa footage) one astronaut say " we have a bogie at 10 overhead" and the other one says "ignore it"?
what is the REAL reason we r in iraq?? it aint oil..it aint the jew/muslim onflict..thats a movie for us to watch..
watch it..or at least watch the last hour of it..
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I'm not sure if that is good or bad. ??? Do I come off like a total moron or are they just funny?
Cap, you're no moron my brother, I enjoy your humor. That's the main thing that won me over with my bf. His insane sense of humor that keeps me laughing my ass off all the time. A guy with a great sense of humor is golden... :)
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Cap, you're no moron my brother, I enjoy your humor. That's the main thing that won me over with my bf. His insane sense of humor that keeps me laughing my ass off all the time. A guy with a great sense of humor is golden... :)
Lol I think my gf would agree. I def open up with her in that sense as opposed to others.
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someone needs to watch that video and then talk about it with me >:(
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Or a turn-OFF?
Does it make you feel loved and protected... or suffocated and claustrophobic?
I find there is a lot more acceptance for a man to seethe with the green-eyed monster and perhaps destroy a few things in his wake to make his point, while women are often perceived as demonic witch creatures if they show the same kind of passionate response. Maybe it's the marking of the territory thing that makes it more acceptable for men.
Never show weakness is my own personal motto.
Through my personal experiences I would have to say a turn-off. Thats where trust factors come into play.
PB
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Or a turn-OFF?
Does it make you feel loved and protected... or suffocated and claustrophobic?
I find there is a lot more acceptance for a man to seethe with the green-eyed monster and perhaps destroy a few things in his wake to make his point, while women are often perceived as demonic witch creatures if they show the same kind of passionate response. Maybe it's the marking of the territory thing that makes it more acceptable for men.
Never show weakness is my own personal motto.
A complete and total turn-OFF! Makes me feel not only suffocated and claustrophobic, ...but sometimes homicidal!
A little jealousy is understandable at times, and I try to be sympathetic and not exascerbate the situation, but constantly having to reassure someone, bolstering their ego, ...or defending against unwarranted accusations and suspicions gets real stale, real fast. If a guy can't trust me, or is more concerned with "appearances", then I'm happy to show him the door, ...and hope he doesn't let the doorknob hit him in the behind on the way out.
And men who 'mark their territory'... don't even get me started.
I swear I'm surprised some of these guys don't end up peeing on your leg. Hate it hate it hate it! >:(
This one too is classic... actually only Italians can make jealousy seem cute and funny.
Sorry Deedee, the cuteness factor wore off for me round about the time he was making death threats. :-\
LMAO... theater majors are hilarious people if you like histrionics and bizarre games. Lol. Should have stuck with us Lit Majors. ;)
{ROTFLMAO} That Meisner will mess up your head everytime! :P
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A little jealousy is cute. You know, when they don't say it openly, but you can see it in their eyes and hear it in the intonation that they're a little jealous. When they start asking questions and interrogations it's annoying as hell. Especially when you aren't doing anything, ;).
When they're making accusations and almost make you do a lie-detector test it's time to get the fuck out.
I'm a little jealous sometimes as well.
I know a guy and his gf was going away for two weeks. He admitted to me he was lying on the floor crying, lol. He's half italian, dont know if it's a coincidence.
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Sorry Deedee, the cuteness factor wore off for me round about the time he was making death threats. :-\
I was the only one who responded in that "what's the worst thing a guy has done to you" thread. Looks like you have a few stories of your own. Like we all do... ;)
{ROTFLMAO} That Meisner will mess up your head everytime!
LMAO. No comment!
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I know a guy and his gf was going away for two weeks. He admitted to me he was lying on the floor crying, lol. He's half italian, dont know if it's a coincidence.
Only an Italian, or a Frenchman, can get away with admitting something like that... :)
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I was the only one who responded in that "what's the worst thing a guy has done to you" thread. Looks like you have a few stories of your own. Like we all do... ;)
He wasn't making the death threats directly towards me, but for all intents & purposes, he might as well have, because the end result could very well have been the same thing. For years guys were terrified to even talk to me 'cause he was such a 'well-connected' Calabrese hothead (if ya know what I mean). Even in highschool, as we walked home from school, if someone spotted one of his cars in the distance, guys were jumping over hedges trying not to be seen anywhere near me. After we broke up, most guys in our town were too intimidated to even come near me. One guy who wasn't intimidated, happened to be a 'well-connected' Sicilian (if ya know what I mean.) Needless to say, when those fireworks started, being in the middle was not the safest place to be. It doesn't take a genious to figure out that when the Hatfield & the McCoys have finally settled their differences and lived in relative peace, the last thing either family wants or needs is war, ...let alone a war over a chick. ::) It doesn't take a genious to understand that Old Man Hatfield & Old Man McCoy, ...might simply take it upon themselves to rid themselves of the cause of the renewed feuding, so they can go back to a state of truce. :o Let's just say I've had enough Soprano chic to last me a lifetime... or two. :-\
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I think we Italians have a jealous gene that other people don't get because I have felt like go after guys the way you guys describe and I know many other Italians who are the same way.