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Title: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: Thin Lizzy on May 09, 2007, 05:20:47 AM
Someone I know was telling me about her friend who has a rule:

After the first date, if the guy doesn't promptly send her flowers, she won't go out with him again.

To me, that signals someone a bit too full of herself.

Thoughts?
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: Butterbean on May 09, 2007, 05:50:48 AM
Does she tell the guy "the rule" or is he supposed to be a mind-reader?

Either way, it seems pretty stringent and a bit weird.  She may have other "rules" as well which could be pretty hard on a relationship  :-\  Maybe she is afraid of commitment?
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: Thin Lizzy on May 09, 2007, 06:02:36 AM
Does she tell the guy "the rule" or is he supposed to be a mind-reader?

Either way, it seems pretty stringent and a bit weird.  She may have other "rules" as well which could be pretty hard on a relationship  :-\  Maybe she is afraid of commitment?

Thanks for the response

He's supposed to be a mind reader.

I didn't really get into details, but like you, I found it a bit wierd. Just wanted to make sure it wasn't just me who felt that way.
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: Deedee on May 09, 2007, 06:43:40 AM
That's REALLY high maintenance!  >:(
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: CQ on May 09, 2007, 06:56:37 AM
Someone I know was telling me about her friend who has a rule:

After the first date, if the guy doesn't promptly send her flowers, she won't go out with him again.

To me, that signals someone a bit too full of herself.

Thoughts?

I get the same signal as you :-\
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: Laura Lee on May 09, 2007, 07:01:34 AM
Someone I know was telling me about her friend who has a rule:

After the first date, if the guy doesn't promptly send her flowers, she won't go out with him again.

To me, that signals someone a bit too full of herself.

Thoughts?
She obviously doesn't have many second dates.  ;D
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: Samourai Pizzacat on May 09, 2007, 07:47:07 AM
Someone I know was telling me about her friend who has a rule:

After the first date, if the guy doesn't promptly send her flowers, she won't go out with him again.

To me, that signals someone a bit too full of herself.

Thoughts?

Sounds like a girlfriend of mine, not in the exact same sense but she has a mental list of things a boyfriend should have/be, constantly ignoring the good guys because they don't precisely fit her stereotype of a boyfriend.

A lot of women would probably consider flowers after a first date a bit pushy and overzealous.
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: Mydavid on May 09, 2007, 07:58:49 AM
He's supposed to be a mind reader.

Well of course he's supposed to be a mind reader...that's ALL we ask for in a man :o!!! JK by the way!!!

Lisa
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: Migs on May 09, 2007, 10:42:08 AM
yes! tell him to run
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: 24KT on May 09, 2007, 01:44:59 PM
yes! tell him to run

Why bother running... he can simply just not bother to send her flowers.  ;D

That's not high-maintenance... that's just plan delusional. The woman is living in a fantasy world.
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: trab on May 09, 2007, 04:25:53 PM
That one needs help, bad. How old is she? She's got a hell of a rough time ahead.
But then again, there are guys stupid enough to kiss her ass and heed her every whim.
Then he'll complain AFTER he marries her!! She wont respect him for allowing that behavior. Perhaps thats what she craves.  This one is too weird to even ponder.
These delusional people cant even see their own actions.
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: Deedee on May 09, 2007, 04:32:18 PM
It probably falls under the "best defense is a good offense" strategy. Reject before you get rejected.

Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: Migs on May 09, 2007, 07:04:45 PM
Why bother running... he can simply just not bother to send her flowers.  ;D

That's not high-maintenance... that's just plan delusional. The woman is living in a fantasy world.

i still say run...
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: powerpack on May 09, 2007, 10:20:00 PM
It probably falls under the "best defense is a good offense" strategy. Reject before you get rejected.



I agree, she sets her sights so high that no one can measure up and then uses that as an excuse for not having a guy in her life............ sounds like she has other issues.
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: az on May 09, 2007, 11:34:42 PM
to me she sounds like a wanna be reformed farm tool. she may have been the complete opposite and thinks that by being so stringent now it makes up or straightens out what she did in the past. either way she's wacked.
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: Bluto on May 10, 2007, 02:17:45 AM
not at all. im the same way. so it works out we send eachother flowers.
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: trab on May 10, 2007, 05:15:09 AM
to me she sounds like a wanna be reformed farm tool. she may have been the complete opposite and thinks that by being so stringent now it makes up or straightens out what she did in the past. either way she's wacked.

 ;)
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: overcome on May 11, 2007, 09:31:53 AM
Well of course he's supposed to be a mind reader...that's ALL we ask for in a man :o!!! JK by the way!!!

Lisa


.... no your not...

Greg
Title: Re: Is this overly High-Maintenance?
Post by: gtbro1 on May 11, 2007, 09:36:48 AM
 
  What if the guy brings flowers on the first date?  ???  Does that automatically void out his obligation to send the flowers after tha date?