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A neighbor lady has been diagnosed with breast cancer. I guess they've removed the mass and now she's going to be going thru chemo or radiation or both - not sure. Either way, I'd like to do something ~ nothing major ~ just something helpful. She's 50something, husband, kids (boys) moved away. Any ideas? Bring a dish over, fresh picked fruit (strawberries are in season), bake something, flowers... ???
Although we've been neighbors for many years, we don't really "know" them. Very little socializing over the years, just mostly a wave here and there, small chit chat, etc.
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Any ideas? Bring a dish over, fresh picked fruit (strawberries are in season), bake something, flowers... ???
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Sorry to hear about that Princess L.
I think those are all good ideas. You may want to wash and trim the strawberries so she won't have to do anything but add sugar or honey if she wants.
We've got an aquaintance who is dying of cancer and she is staying away from fats and protein for some reason. They are getting a lot of casseroles so it was suggested I make them a salad. I chopped/made several ingredients for a Southwest Chicken Salad and put everything in separate ziplock baggies so she could choose what she wanted or not on her salad. Her husband eats everything so he probably dumped some of every baggie in his.
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i think what Stella did is a good idea. Add a card and it is a nice gesture. i wouldnt get flowers, flowers can die quickly and well you know.
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Thanks for the suggestions.
I'm going strawberry picking tomorrow.
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on one of the weekends..go over with a few bottles of good wine...some pizza and some movies..
NOONE wants to be reminded of their sickness and NOONE likes pity sympathy...
seriously i'd be pissed if ya didn;t know me and then all of a sudden when i ws sick showed up with stuff..thats pity..
be a friend..spend some time with her..watch a movie and drink some wine..she'll admire you for it...as would i
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Like Toxi said, your time will be the best present.
But I'd also bring a small "care basket" fully of goodies to cheer her up a little. Maybe some magazines of different types to keep her busy during the day if no one is home with her.
Let her know you are right there if she needs anything and give her your number.
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give her your number.
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mike is lucky...
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mike is lucky...
why do you say that Toxi?
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why do you say that Toxi?
you r a good looking gal..
and you've known that since u were 15..so lets not argue that..
but you have a clean heart and an old soul....
empathy > looks...or at least as far as i'm concerned..
you r yelow and blue...yello cause despite your looks you r still insecure..insecure sometimes that mike might leave...
blue..cause you r a hopeless romantic :)
i might tiff with ya once in a while..but i ike ya..
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you r a good looking gal..
and you've known that since u were 15..so lets not argue that..
but you have a clean heart and an old soul....
empathy > looks...or at least as far as i'm concerned..
you r yelow and blue...yello cause despite your looks you r still insecure..insecure sometimes that mike might leave...
blue..cause you r a hopeless romantic :)
i might tiff with ya once in a while..but i ike ya..
Awww, you're a sweetheart Toxi. Actually at 15 I was a overweight, wore really stupid looking glasses, had brown hair and to be 100%...didn't have my first date until I was 17 (and unfortunately he was a cheater).
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well ..hon ya turned out well..well more than well..the proverbal swan......btw..i ws an ugly child also...
and you got a good man..albiet an ass at time...man he pisses me off sometimes >:(
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well ..hon ya turned out well..well more than well..the proverbal swan......btw..i ws an ugly child also...
and you got a good man..albiet an ass at time...man he pisses me off sometimes >:(
He is definitely a good man and I love him to death! :D
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I love him to death! :D
www.kitsnmore.com
mikey..get some cialis.. ;D
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eeeks
:-\
that sucks Princess L.
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Like Toxi said, your time will be the best present.
But I'd also bring a small "care basket" fully of goodies to cheer her up a little. Maybe some magazines of different types to keep her busy during the day if no one is home with her.
Let her know you are right there if she needs anything and give her your number.
That's a good idea ~ along with the strawberries I'll be picking tomorrow ;D
They're very private people (her & her husband), so I want to be careful not to intrude.
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so I want to be careful not to intrude.
sweetie..intrusion is in the delivery...
you could talk to someone for a second and be intruding and spend a day with em and with the right language they'll love you..
call it fortunate or unfortunate..taching 8 to 12 hr classes i need my folks to be paying attention ...and i've kinda learned how to manipulate attention..i know i know..i dont consider that a good thing either..
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btw..i ws an ugly child also...
no you weren't. Post that kid pic of you Toxy.... :)
Post it >:(.....
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no you weren't. Post that kid pic of you Toxy.... :)
Post it >:(.....
Oh no! :o Not Moly-gun!!!
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no you weren't. Post that kid pic of you Toxy.... :)
Post it >:(.....
i gotta to look for it...
flowey didcha or ANYONE save it...??
be warned i ws an ugly child..with..wasn't i wearing something backwards flowey?
in the mean time here is me doing a damien impression as a child somewhere in london..
PS mums got the wierd shaped natty geog boobs goin on..
(http://i22.photobucket.com/albums/b327/ProteinFarts/babytox.jpg)
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(http://i22.photobucket.com/albums/b327/ProteinFarts/babytox.jpg)
Awwwwww :)
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i gotta to look for it...
flowey didcha or ANYONE save it...??
be warned i ws an ugly child..with..wasn't i wearing something backwards flowey?
in the mean time here is me doing a damien impression as a child somewhere in london..
PS mums got the wierd shaped natty geog boobs goin on..
(http://i22.photobucket.com/albums/b327/ProteinFarts/babytox.jpg)
hEY! i HAD saved it! When I went to save it again it came up as babytox :)
Thanks for posting it again :)
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;D
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actually there is another one..where i'm like 5 or 6...i seriously look like i'm autistic in that one...
honest..i might have to find and rescan it..
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;D
Awwwwwwww, I could pinch those cheeks.
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Cancer huh...well when my grandfather got cancer, he went out and started buying what he called "Wacky Tobaccy"...you know...the "green" stuff...lol
In all honesty though, her energy level will suck so anything you can do to help would be appreciated I'm sure.
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Awwwwwwww, I could pinch those cheeks.
;D
Yeah...I have to admit...I was a cute kid.
Don't know what the hell happened though
;)
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Follow-up:
She beat the breast cancer and things were going great. Then in (late) '08 she was diagnosed with another type of cancer - a pre-leukemia-type cancer. She had a very positive outlook and things seemed to be going well for her. Saw her many times this summer & fall with really no mention of it. She looked and acted healthy. As a matter of fact, my husband spoke with her about 3 weeks ago.
I was just informed she is now in "at-home hospice". :-\
Any suggestions?
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I just attended a memorial for a fiend that just passed from cancer. Once she was put in hospice she passed within 2 weeks. not much you can do for her other than let her know that her significant other will be sorroounded with friends and family and will be supported.
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I just attended a memorial for a fiend that just passed from cancer. Once she was put in hospice she passed within 2 weeks.
Sorry to hear that Migs :'(
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Cancer is a bastard.
Princess, maybe ask someone who knows her or her family well and ask if flowers sent would be a good idea. I don't know if it would or not.....but if so, have the arrangement be a modern one and not funeral homey at all.
I was just searching....look at these :D
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awww...very cute.
I'm going over there today, probably empty handed (really) and just talk to her, offer to run errands or whatever for her husband. We're out in the boonies - sorta - so nothing is a quick trip (except the corner bar(s)). He probably doesn't want to leave the house for any length of time.
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awww...very cute.
I'm going over there today, probably empty handed (really) and just talk to her, offer to run errands or whatever for her husband. We're out in the boonies - sorta - so nothing is a quick trip (except the corner bar(s)). He probably doesn't want to leave the house for any length of time.
thats a nice thing to do
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The pre-leukemia turned into full blown AML which both her parents and brother died from - wow!
Spent about an hour+ there. Seems like she's accepted it - very upbeat, not in any pain, just very tired. Quote: "not a bad way to go". Could be a "front". I brought a couple of books over, but she was very blunt and honest, stating she has no interest in reading books because she can't stay focused or recall what she read.
I don't think her husband is going to fare well through this :'(
Maybe flowers are a good idea :-\ I didn't see one bouquet.
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it's a rough thing. I feel for me friend since he is alone now. He lost both his dogs and his wife in the span of a year and a half.
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it's a rough thing. I feel for me friend since he is alone now. He lost both his dogs and his wife in the span of a year and a half.
This is when it's really rough - when "it's over" and all of the support is gone (in a sense). Nights are probably the worst. Spending your time with him is probably one of the best things you can do.
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he's taking a trip to canada to visit with family
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just talk to her
was what i wanted to say ^^^
forget flowers, cakes, pics of getbeggers when they were young, nothing, she's had enough of that pathetic sympathy >just talk to her tell her she's very much loved,
or>>>better still: listen to what she might need to say, make sure someone's there >?
xL
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The pre-leukemia turned into full blown AML which both her parents and brother died from - wow!
Spent about an hour+ there. Seems like she's accepted it - very upbeat, not in any pain, just very tired. Quote: "not a bad way to go". Could be a "front". I brought a couple of books over, but she was very blunt and honest, stating she has no interest in reading books because she can't stay focused or recall what she read.
I don't think her husband is going to fare well through this :'(
Maybe flowers are a good idea :-\ I didn't see one bouquet.
I brought her a poinsettia about a week after the first visit, but didn't get to see her (sleeping). Visited the following week, but again, didn't get to talk to her. Took some chili and cookies over to her husband on the 22nd. She passed away Christmas Eve.
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I brought her a poinsettia about a week after the first visit, but didn't get to see her (sleeping). Visited the following week, but again, didn't get to talk to her. Took some chili and cookies over to her husband on the 22nd. She passed away Christmas Eve.
Sorry Princess. My condolences.
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Sorry Princess. My condolences.
Thank you.
Her memorial service is tomorrow.
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:'(
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She passed away Christmas Eve.
Fucking ouch.
That's terrible.