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How do your "split" look like? As in custody. And is it satisfactory to you, are you content?
I'm looking at devising one of these situations for myself.
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Fortunately not a quandary I'll ever find myself in, since my semen only fertilizes post-menopausal barren soil.
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Fortunately not a quandary I'll ever find myself in, since my semen only fertilizes post-menopausal barren soil.
Ok
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If you decide to split with your partner you need to accept it will be saturday afternoons at Mc Donalds every 2 weeks.
Exs can be a bitch, literally.
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If you decide to split with your partner you need to accept it will be saturday afternoons at Mc Donalds every 2 weeks.
Exs can be a bitch, literally.
And what a strong ally they have in the family courts system, including the black-robed, man-hating 'experts' pontificating from the bench.
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If you decide to split with your partner you need to accept it will be saturday afternoons at Mc Donalds every 2 weeks.
Exs can be a bitch, literally.
Lol yeah
I was thinking 1 week on 1 week off to start things off
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And what a strong ally they have in the family courts system, including the black-robed, man-hating 'experts' pontificating from the bench.
Agreed, its the way of the world.
Even if you get a court order to see a kid, doesn't mean fuck all if the ex wants to play funny fucker.
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Agreed, its the way of the world.
Even if you get a court order to see a kid, doesn't mean fuck all if the ex wants to play funny fucker.
I hope you aren't speaking from experience :-\
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I hope you aren't speaking from experience :-\
I am. My father got screwed by the family court system here. He was a well-paid professional with a sterling academic background and no criminal record, yet only got to see me twice a month. My mother, well, let's not go there. Let's just say I won't be picking up the phone today.
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I am. My father got screwed by the family court system here. He was a well-paid professional with a sterling academic background and no criminal record, yet only got to see me twice a month. My mother, well, let's not go there. Let's just say I won't be picking up the phone today.
Not right :-X
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I hope you aren't speaking from experience :-\
No, its just what I see.
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i'm a single dad and i exercise everyday
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Fishing for a testimonial of this shit working out here
Fuck..
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i'm a single dad and i exercise everyday
I plan to excercise at the same pace as before kids.
I think it can be done. I managed this far.
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Me...have my daughter every day every night
Ex..takes my daughter every other week for a Saturday afternoon :)
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Me...have my daughter every day every night
Ex..takes my daughter every other week for a Saturday afternoon :)
what did this woman do to deserve this cruel unusual punishment
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Me...have my daughter every day every night
Ex..takes my daughter every other week for a Saturday afternoon :)
Nice job
When do you go clubbing ???
:P
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I was there from day one with my son. Was single when I impregnated his mom, got with her four months after he was born (for 4 years). When we split up she let me see him once a week then decided to move without saying where and changing number.
It was horrible. I didn't get to speak to him on my birthday, she started dating a guy from England and I worried she'd move. My mom parents were too soft and thought things would work out but I instigated legal proceedings for custody.* I had her bring up loads of shite in court but got custody and legal guardianship in the end. She accused me of drug dealing, hiding cocaine in his bed etc, all lies but judge gave me custody and guardianship and access.
We get on great now, it took a year or two but she eventually saw that he has tp be put first. She is happy with her now husband, I am happy with my girlfriend. I can see him when I want, he loves me he loves his mom and his step dad. It was tough as hell, suicide contemplating tough, but I'm here now and he's the happiest kid you could meet.
*On the issue of custody, I see him every Saturday as per court agreement but more often most weeks when I have time off or if he is on holidays from school.
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I was there from day one with my son. Was single when I impregnated his mom, got with her four months after he was born (for 4 years). When we split up she let me see him once a week then decided to move without saying where and changing number.
It was horrible. I didn't get to speak to him on my birthday, she started dating a guy from England and I worried she'd move. My mom parents were too soft and thought things would work out but I instigated legal proceedings for custody.* I had her bring up loads of shite in court but got custody and legal guardianship in the end. She accused me of drug dealing, hiding cocaine in his bed etc, all lies but judge gave me custody and guardianship and access.
We get on great now, it took a year or two but she eventually saw that he has tp be put first. She is happy with her now husband, I am happy with my girlfriend. I can see him when I want, he loves me he loves his mom and his step dad. It was tough as hell, suicide contemplating tough, but I'm here now and he's the happiest kid you could meet.
*On the issue of custody, I see him every Saturday as per court agreement but more often most weeks when I have time off or if he is on holidays from school.
Wow
I don't understand how you could forgive something like that. Making up those lies.. And then like nothing ever happened.
I'm just hoping we come to a mutual understanding without legal bullshit. Even females should realize it's not in the interest of the kids to shut a parent out.
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Wow
I don't understand how you could forgove something like that. Making up those lies..
The alternative is bearing a grudge for the rest of your life, that my friend takes effort that the other person is not entitled to.
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The alternative is bearing a grudge for the rest of your life, that my friend takes effort that the other person is not entitled to.
Yes. Definitely draw a line and be done with it. But very sinister..
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Yes. Definitely draw a line and be done with it. But very sinister..
Desperate times calls for desperate measures.
She probably thought she was doing the right thing at the time.
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I had her bring up loads of shite in court but got custody and legal guardianship in the end.
Must be different where you live but doesnt getting custody and legal guardianship mean that the child lives with you either full or part time?
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If you decide to split with your partner you need to accept it will be saturday afternoons at Mc Donalds every 2 weeks.
Exs can be a bitch, literally.
its changeda bit now mate, when i split up with the missus for a bit in jan i took kids with me and was told by solicitor i was well within my rights to do this and she would have to go to court for access.
the mother still has head start but its not despairingy vast anymore an joint custody is very commonly awarded these days
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If you decide to split with your partner you need to accept it will be saturday afternoons at Mc Donalds every 2 weeks.
Exs can be a bitch, literally.
When I split with my Ex I got Friday afternoon to Sunday afternoon.
Now she gets that once a fortnight. ;D
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Wow sounds like some of y'all got screwed over. I divorced over year ago after 8 crap years of marriage and my Son recently turned 6 he is always be first priority in my life.
I have in Texas a standard possession agreement but slightly modified, Every Tuesday 4pm-8pm, every Thursday 4pm-8pm, 1st, 3rd, and 5th weekends starting Friday 5pm-Sun 8pm. Also She has agreed to let him stay with me on my weekends Thur-Sun (that's not official just something worked out on the side). We split holidays depending on odd or even years and every summer he is with me from July1st-30th.
Also she has a job where she has to be there at 7am so I get to pick him and take him to school every day, also I coach his rec sports so I get "bonus days" on game days.
This all happens because I work/train/live within 5 miles of his house. I do pay child support at $1000 per month and medical $200 per month (thanks Obama).
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what did this woman do to deserve this cruel unusual punishment
She has a drug habit and doesn't work. Dont actually want her anywhere near my child but allow her the one afternoon a week. I agree this is very unusual but if the mother can't provide a stable home for the child we are the next best thing.
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Must be different where you live but doesnt getting custody and legal guardianship mean that the child lives with you either full or part time?
I'm Irish. You are right that there is no point in bearing a grudge. I dumped her after cheating with some slag then went off with another woman, I was hardly an angel. She always said if we broke up it wouldn't affect me seeing my son but you can't legislate for how you will feel in that situation.
As for legal guardianship, it just gives you a legally recognised role in the child's life. The situation here is a joke. Even though I was at the birth (remember not with her at this stage) she didn't put me as the father on birth certificate cos she was pissed off I was with some girl. She was allowed to do this with impunity. I rectified this but any time I pushed for guardianship while we went out it was taken as me seeking an exit strategy from the relationship.
Fathers have NO rights in Ireland... none and what pisses me off the most is they are trying to introduce legislation to allow same sex couples to adopt. For fuck sake, give biological fathers rights before you even look at that bollox.
My experience is that it is best for the child, and that's who is most important, if everyone gets along or at least treats each other civilly. Son is 9 years old now and doesn't even remember that I went out with his mother so he is obviously unaffected by events at the time.
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Nice job
When do you go clubbing ???
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;D no more clubbing for this getbigger. Once my daughters 18 ill go back to the clubs, hopefully shel have some fit mates. I'll only be 39 :)
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If you guys can agree to always live in the same school district and split visitation 50/50 great. And it will be cheap
However...If not she better be a bi-polar crack whore of which you will need to prove it preferably with video in most states for you to get primary custody of your child(ren).
If you have multiple kids, you stand less chance of winning primary custody.
If you have a daughter, you stand less chance of winning.
If you have a son, OVER the age of 12 and he (via Guardian ad Litem) expresses his wish to live with you ...you have a chance.
It will be expensive as well. Plan on spending $25-45k easily.
I was a single dad of my daughter long time ago before meeting my wife. My daughters mom abandon her for 3 years. Sounds like a slam dunk huh?
Nope.
It still cost me $25k to get primary custody because she came back and decided she wanted to be a mom and get her daughter back. In addition, I was ordered by the Judge (female)to get a full psychological test done and I had to take (and bring proof I took) Anger Management classes, Parenting classes and First Aid / CPR Class. No shit. My Lawyer said if my sister and mother didn't live so close and had a serious impact / involvement in my daughters life I could have lost. Says she see's this shit all the time. Shit mothers getting custody and judges thinking a man could never raise a kid alone, especially a girl.
I won custody but also had to agree to send my daughter to a "counselor" once a week for a year to help deal with the trauma of her mother coming back in her life or lack there of. That cost $100 a week.
Happy to say not but 6 months after all this her "mother" move to Texas far far away and I raised a well adjusted, well mannered 14yr old young lady.
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If you guys can agree to always live in the same school district and split visitation 50/50 great. And it will be cheap
However...If not she better be a bi-polar crack whore of which you will need to prove it preferably with video in most states for you to get primary custody of your child(ren).
If you have multiple kids, you stand less chance of winning primary custody.
If you have a daughter, you stand less chance of winning.
If you have a son, OVER the age of 12 and he (via Guardian ad Litem) expresses his wish to live with you ...you have a chance.
It will be expensive as well. Plan on spending $25-45k easily.
I was a single dad of my daughter long time ago before meeting my wife. My daughters mom abandon her for 3 years. Sounds like a slam dunk huh?
Nope.
It still cost me $25k to get primary custody because she came back and decided she wanted to be a mom and get her daughter back. In addition, I was ordered by the Judge (female)to get a full psychological test done and I had to take (and bring proof I took) Anger Management classes, Parenting classes and First Aid / CPR Class. No shit. My Lawyer said if my sister and mother didn't live so close and had a serious impact / involvement in my daughters life I could have lost. Says she see's this shit all the time. Shit mothers getting custody and judges thinking a man could never raise a kid alone, especially a girl.
I won custody but also had to agree to send my daughter to a "counselor" once a week for a year to help deal with the trauma of her mother coming back in her life or lack there of. That cost $100 a week.
Happy to say not but 6 months after all this her "mother" move to Texas far far away and I raised a well adjusted, well mannered 14yr old young lady.
Fair play to you, the system is a joke but gets fuck all attention from the media. Most broadcasters are too liberal to see how female biased the system is or are married so never know the reality of single parenthood.
The mother should be forced to pay maintenance in your situation. You took on the responsibility of raising the child so she should have to compensate you.
Funny thing is it worked out for me that she moved away because that gave me the right to initiate proceedings where she lived. Judge in district court here automatically grants access to mothers without listening to case - that would mean appeals and a drawn out and costly case.
When you've gone through this ordeal dead beat dads and the general perception that all dads not with the mother are dead beats pisses you off.
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Im supposed to get $250 a month plus she must cover her on her insurance as well.....I've gotten $83 so far this year and she is in arrears for over $6,000 ::)
I make good money as does my wife so we aren't even sweating it. Anyone that has a teenager can tell you they eat more than $250 worth of food a month let alone all the other shit they need. Especially girls and all the products and shit they use.
That $25k was the best money I've ever spent. I don't regret it or a second. Fuck her.
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Im supposed to get $250 a month plus she must cover her on her insurance as well.....I've gotten $83 so far this year and she is in arrears for over $6,000 ::)
I make good money as does my wife so we aren't even sweating it. Anyone that has a teenager can tell you they eat more than $250 worth of food a month let alone all the other shit they need. Especially girls and all the products and shit they use.
That $25k was the best money I've ever spent. I don't regret it or a second. Fuck her.
Reverse the tables and cops would be at your door with a court order to pay maintenance. Equality of peace.
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Im supposed to get $250 a month plus she must cover her on her insurance as well.....I've gotten $83 so far this year and she is in arrears for over $6,000 ::)
I make good money as does my wife so we aren't even sweating it. Anyone that has a teenager can tell you they eat more than $250 worth of food a month let alone all the other shit they need. Especially girls and all the products and shit they use.
That $25k was the best money I've ever spent. I don't regret it or a second. Fuck her.
Is he on GH and insulin? ;D
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SHE plays rugby and takes judo so while no GH just yet, she does put down her fair share of food.
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I have a 27yr old Daughter & now a grandson i have never met living in America, I live in England,
Her mother met an american service man and we split up,we were not married.
one day with out warning she disappeared along with my 2yr old daughter, it took me 9yrs to track her down. Have only seen my daughter a few times since then.
As for the mother she has gone on to have 6 kids 4 different men.
Met and married a woman 6yrs later 2 great son's after 18yrs of marriage she wants out,
she left & left my son's with me aged 7 & 12 at the time nearly 5yrs later now.
is / was hard going she had a very well paid job & the loss of income was devastating to us left behind.
she dose not contribute financially towards them here with me.
Plus my youngest has a very serious life threatening illness with psychosomatic problems mostly relating to his mother... as Much as i'd like to deal with a Few Issue's with her, For his health sake i have to keep the peace and we get along amicably.
Though life with my lads has been worth all the hardship. :)
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If you guys can agree to always live in the same school district and split visitation 50/50 great. And it will be cheap
However...If not she better be a bi-polar crack whore of which you will need to prove it preferably with video in most states for you to get primary custody of your child(ren).
If you have multiple kids, you stand less chance of winning primary custody.
If you have a daughter, you stand less chance of winning.
If you have a son, OVER the age of 12 and he (via Guardian ad Litem) expresses his wish to live with you ...you have a chance.
It will be expensive as well. Plan on spending $25-45k easily.
I was a single dad of my daughter long time ago before meeting my wife. My daughters mom abandon her for 3 years. Sounds like a slam dunk huh?
Nope.
It still cost me $25k to get primary custody because she came back and decided she wanted to be a mom and get her daughter back. In addition, I was ordered by the Judge (female)to get a full psychological test done and I had to take (and bring proof I took) Anger Management classes, Parenting classes and First Aid / CPR Class. No shit. My Lawyer said if my sister and mother didn't live so close and had a serious impact / involvement in my daughters life I could have lost. Says she see's this shit all the time. Shit mothers getting custody and judges thinking a man could never raise a kid alone, especially a girl.
I won custody but also had to agree to send my daughter to a "counselor" once a week for a year to help deal with the trauma of her mother coming back in her life or lack there of. That cost $100 a week.
Happy to say not but 6 months after all this her "mother" move to Texas far far away and I raised a well adjusted, well mannered 14yr old young lady.
Wow
Why did you have to take anger management classes??? Didn't follow
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I have a 27yr old Daughter & now a grandson i have never met living in America, I live in England,
Her mother met an american service man and we split up,we were not married.
one day with out warning she disappeared along with my 2yr old daughter, it took me 9yrs to track her down. Have only seen my daughter a few times since then.
As for the mother she has gone on to have 6 kids 4 different men.
Met and married a woman 6yrs later 2 great son's after 18yrs of marriage she wants out,
she left & left my son's with me aged 7 & 12 at the time nearly 5yrs later now.
is / was hard going she had a very well paid job & the loss of income was devastating to us left behind.
she dose not contribute financially towards them here with me.
Plus my youngest has a very serious life threatening illness with psychosomatic problems mostly relating to his mother... as Much as i'd like to deal with a Few Issue's with her, For his health sake i have to keep the peace and we get along amicably.
Though life with my lads has been worth all the hardship. :)
Wow, thats some story, hats off mate.
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Think we all know where this is going. Scorned women = bitches. Institutions are female-biased. We must fight back.
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Wow, thats some story, hats off mate.
It's life, good & bad.
Thanks for some kind words.
is a always a risk posting any personal
stuff on Getbig.
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It's life, good & bad.
Thanks for some kind words.
is a always a risk posting any personal
stuff on Getbig.
Heavy doses of reality sometimes make people unsure how to respond.
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It's life, good & bad.
Thanks for some kind words.
is a always a risk posting any personal
stuff on Getbig.
Most here, with notable exceptions, know talking about kids is a no troll area. The getbig lifestyle is also conducive to a conveyor belt of pussy so many of us are in this situation ;D ;D ;D
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conveyor belt of pussy.!!! Ha
A classic line.
;D
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It's life, good & bad.
Thanks for some kind words.
is a always a risk posting any personal
stuff on Getbig.
Good job. You sound like a decent human being and your boys will know who looked after them and who abandoned them and how hard it must of been when they have children of their own.
Get this back on track tho.. You look like shit hth :)
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Wow sounds like some of y'all got screwed over. I divorced over year ago after 8 crap years of marriage and my Son recently turned 6 he is always be first priority in my life.
I have in Texas a standard possession agreement but slightly modified, Every Tuesday 4pm-8pm, every Thursday 4pm-8pm, 1st, 3rd, and 5th weekends starting Friday 5pm-Sun 8pm. Also She has agreed to let him stay with me on my weekends Thur-Sun (that's not official just something worked out on the side). We split holidays depending on odd or even years and every summer he is with me from July1st-30th.
Also she has a job where she has to be there at 7am so I get to pick him and take him to school every day, also I coach his rec sports so I get "bonus days" on game days.
This all happens because I work/train/live within 5 miles of his house. I do pay child support at $1000 per month and medical $200 per month (thanks Obama).
wtf 1000 dollars a month. Food clothes etc t l a kid cant be 1000dollars a month and you have the kid to, for a swede that sounds crazy.
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wtf 1000 dollars a month. Food clothes etc t l a kid cant be 1000dollars a month and you have the kid to, for a swede that sounds crazy.
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Jean Claude Van Damme's ex gouged him for $85k/month maintenance hence the reason he does Coors Light and Volvo ads now. Fucking ridiculous "maintenance" sums.
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Wow sounds like some of y'all got screwed over. I divorced over year ago after 8 crap years of marriage and my Son recently turned 6 he is always be first priority in my life.
I have in Texas a standard possession agreement but slightly modified, Every Tuesday 4pm-8pm, every Thursday 4pm-8pm, 1st, 3rd, and 5th weekends starting Friday 5pm-Sun 8pm. Also She has agreed to let him stay with me on my weekends Thur-Sun (that's not official just something worked out on the side). We split holidays depending on odd or even years and every summer he is with me from July1st-30th.
Also she has a job where she has to be there at 7am so I get to pick him and take him to school every day, also I coach his rec sports so I get "bonus days" on game days.
This all happens because I work/train/live within 5 miles of his house. I do pay child support at $1000 per month and medical $200 per month (thanks Obama).
That child has an equal amount of your blood running through his veins. This notion that as fathers we should be thankful for the limited time they are "allowed" with their children is outrageous. It`s a crock that the children are treated like a possession of the mother. Joint custody should be the standard unless there is extenuating circumstances. But as ignorant Americans, we will be more concerned about the impoverished women than the well being of the children. Can`t figure out why every generation is more messed up than the last...
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...I raised a well adjusted, well mannered 14yr old young lady.
This is what matters!
I live in scandinavia where father has fairly goog rights is divorce/separation issues.
Still these are the things one scales when thinking about leaving.
Nagging wife is a shit but is is worse than not living full time with your kids? Or all the other related crap?
Hardly.
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Wow
Why did you have to take anger management classes??? Didn't follow
One of the judges conditions though I have no criminal history and served in the USMC. I think its cause her mom claimed I had a bad temper.
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One of the judges conditions though I have no criminal history and served in the USMC. I think its cause her mom claimed I had a bad temper.
The judges always believe the mother's story over the father's. Even if she DOES have convictions or is on medication for mental problems.
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This is what matters!
I live in scandinavia where father has fairly goog rights is divorce/separation issues.
Still these are the things one scales when thinking about leaving.
Nagging wife is a shit but is is worse than not living full time with your kids? Or all the other related crap?
Hardly.
not sure about that
I really don't think the kids are better off if the parents are arguing all the time
But the court stories on here are outrageous. I think in Sweden were I live it's pretty common with shared custody and a weekly arrangement
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Mine is shit, BUT... I'm going back to court.
As a matter of fact, you should always remember that when it comes to "kids"... Kids are NEVER done.
You can ALWAYS go back over kids.
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not sure about that
I really don't think the kids are better off if the parents are arguing all the time
But the court stories on here are outrageous. I think in Sweden were I live it's pretty common with shared custody and a weekly arrangement
and neither are the parents..me and my ex split almost 3 years ago when our kid was 2.5..one week of one week on. Leaving theckid on mondays in kindergarden and gerting her the other monday...pm me if you feel the need to talk with someone who has been there.
In swedish to
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Me...have my daughter every day every night
Ex..takes my daughter every other week for a Saturday afternoon :)
dont know the story and im sure there is a good reason for that but it sad when a child dont meet one of there parents more than that. We have it great altough my ex is a bitch but she is a great mother to my kid and thats all that mathers. Atleast i dlnt havecto hear the nagging when i put dpwn the phone =D
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and neither are the parents..me and my ex split almost 3 years ago when our kid was 2.5..one week of one week on. Leaving theckid on mondays in kindergarden and gerting her the other monday...pm me if you feel the need to talk with someone who has been there.
In swedish to
Thanks might hit you up on that
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wtf 1000 dollars a month. Food clothes etc t l a kid cant be 1000dollars a month and you have the kid to, for a swede that sounds crazy.
The child support is based of my net income, the more I make the more I have to pay. I was able to pay less because my bonus does not count as guaranteed money so they could not include the other $25K a year in the my salary. I think its a small price to pay to be in my kids life.
I think Texas is 20% for the first kid and 5% for every additional. Once I close on my new house I will taking her back to court for 50/50 so then she will not get any child support after that. :)
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The child support is based of my net income, the more I make the more I have to pay. I was able to pay less because my bonus does not count as guaranteed money so they could not include the other $25K a year in the my salary. I think its a small price to pay to be in my kids life.
I think Texas is 20% for the first kid and 5% for every additional. Once I close on my new house I will taking her back to court for 50/50 so then she will not get any child support after that. :)
Child support where I am is not much really. Pretty reasonable.
But I'd rather have 50/50 care and no support.
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Sounds like a lot of you guys needed to learn a cardinal rule; never breed with horrible c.unts.
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Sounds like a lot of you guys needed to learn a cardinal rule; never breed with horrible c.unts.
They're fine when you're with them. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
I left FB back in 09 cos of a psycho ex, never used the shitty thing anyway. She called my parents house (this is a "woman" in her 30s) and tried to make up a load of shit when she found out (via FB) that I had a new girlfriend. She also wrote shit to my ex and my current gf. Actually, she was a psycho while I was with her, but luckily she was infertile.
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The child support is based of my net income, the more I make the more I have to pay. I was able to pay less because my bonus does not count as guaranteed money so they could not include the other $25K a year in the my salary. I think its a small price to pay to be in my kids life.
I think Texas is 20% for the first kid and 5% for every additional. Once I close on my new house I will taking her back to court for 50/50 so then she will not get any child support after that. :)
but the question is how much goes to the kid. I thi k its weird that you have to pay more the a guy that earns less then you. Your both kids have the same needs and should be paid the same. Your kid dpnt eat more and need more clothes etc then the other kid.
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but the question is how much goes to the kid. I thi k its weird that you have to pay more the a guy that earns less then you. Your both kids have the same needs and should be paid the same. Your kid dpnt eat more and need more clothes etc then the other kid.
This is it. I was going to criticise Halo for seeking to reduce his maintenance but the mother seems to have cash and it would just end up as disposable income for her.
There's a bad heroin problem in my town, you see the scumbag whore mothers collecting social welfare and child benefits and just know it all goes on heroin. Pisses me off, they keep their kids yet fathers like us who want to be integral in raising our children have to fucking pay out of pocket for the minimum of rights.
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This is it. I was going to criticise Halo for seeking to reduce his maintenance but the mother seems to have cash and it would just end up as disposable income for her.
There's a bad heroin problem in my town, you see the scumbag whore mothers collecting social welfare and child benefits and just know it all goes on heroin. Pisses me off, they keep their kids yet fathers like us who want to be integral in raising our children have to fucking pay out of pocket for the minimum of rights.
sick
i hope it all turns out good for you a child needs her father to so keep o fighting.
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sick
i hope it all turns out good for you a child needs her father to so keep o fighting.
All's good for me, have a son btw ;D
I would always like more time and more influence in my son's life but he really looks up to me.
This is what I don't think Halo gets. YOU can influence your child and instill values in them. People like to blame schools or tv or "society" for their children being shits. The buck stops with you, the parent. You shape what sort of adult your child will become. Any mistakes you made you can identify and stop your kid making the same mistakes. You can make sure they learn the value of work, how to get pussy whatever you want, but only if you are there and they look up to you.
They may not berate you for clubbing while they're hospitalised but they will remember how you behaved when they needed you when they grow up.
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dont know the story and im sure there is a good reason for that but it sad when a child dont meet one of there parents more than that. We have it great altough my ex is a bitch but she is a great mother to my kid and thats all that mathers. Atleast i dlnt havecto hear the nagging when i put dpwn the phone =D
Yes mate 100% agree with you 2parents in a child's life is important
But in this case tho it is for the better as she is not a good influence. My daughter still sees her mothers family and all my family whenever we can. My exes family don't see my ex either. Sounds harsh but she had many many chances to save herself but fucked everyone over time and time again.
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Yes mate 100% agree with you 2parents in a child's life is important
But in this case tho it is for the better as she is not a good influence. My daughter still sees her mothers family and all my family whenever we can. My exes family don't see my ex either. Sounds harsh but she had many many chances to save herself but fucked everyone over time and time again.
Not to derail thread but this is why same sex couples shouldn't adopt. It is BEST (not always possible) for a child to have a mom and a dad. I was the disciplinarian and the one who did boy things. His mom was the primary nurturer and sensitive one. I'm sensitive now but not like a mom. I didn't believe it was anything serious when he was sick before, his mom did. Queue 2 operations. On the other hand, he was awful in the terrible 2s. Would run around with his mom's wool when she was knitting and hit her and she was too soft to do anything so I laid down the law. It resulted in tears but he is well behaved now.
I don't see where this fusion of opposite approaches would happen with homo couples.
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All's good for me, have a son btw ;D
I would always like more time and more influence in my son's life but he really looks up to me.
This is what I don't think Halo gets. YOU can influence your child and instill values in them. People like to blame schools or tv or "society" for their children being shits. The buck stops with you, the parent. You shape what sort of adult your child will become. Any mistakes you made you can identify and stop your kid making the same mistakes. You can make sure they learn the value of work, how to get pussy whatever you want, but only if you are there and they look up to you.
They may not berate you for clubbing while they're hospitalised but they will remember how you behaved when they needed you when they grow up.
Thanks for contributing.. How old were you at the conception?
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Thanks for contributing.. How old were you at the conception?
19, 20 when he was born. I was scared shitless as not with her at time.
First time she called me to say she was pregnant I just went silent and hung up phone. Told myself it didn't happen, wasn't real. Ignored her calls for a couple of weeks. Just before new year doorbell rang in my parents. "Hi I'm Susan, Ellen's mother..." Ran into my bedroom still trying to say it wasn't real.
Balled my eyes out when talking to her mom and my parents. Having a kid without being with mother was supposed to be worst thing in world, here I was in Uni and this happened. It was so awkward until birth going to scans etc then soon as I saw him in incubator it all changed. This wasn't a teenage pregnancy it was a child and my son. Stopped boozing, got a second job and manned up (for a while).
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All's good for me, have a son btw ;D
I would always like more time and more influence in my son's life but he really looks up to me.
This is what I don't think Halo gets. YOU can influence your child and instill values in them. People like to blame schools or tv or "society" for their children being shits. The buck stops with you, the parent. You shape what sort of adult your child will become. Any mistakes you made you can identify and stop your kid making the same mistakes. You can make sure they learn the value of work, how to get pussy whatever you want, but only if you are there and they look up to you.
They may not berate you for clubbing while they're hospitalised but they will remember how you behaved when they needed you when they grow up.
aa sorry i mixed you up with a othee members post
great post btw
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aa sorry i mixed you up with a othee members post
great post btw
Listening to the radio here you would think teachers and to a lesser extent child minders/workers in montessories etc are the reason children grow up bad. My gf is a child minder, so many of the parents not only delegate all parenting to the child minder but then break the routines and discipline of the child minder through guilt for not bothering to mind their own children.
Parents of fat children, I mean obese lard asses, should be subject to negligence charges. It is as bad as not feeding your child which is widely seen as bad parenting and disgusting behaviour.
I think my generation had it right. Bullying is wrong but picking on someone for being fat or annoying is right. If you act like a dick or annoy people (like I used to) you deserve grief til you mend your ways. Picking on handicapped kids deserves a beat down, pointing out a kid is fat (unhealthy, lazy and setting up for a life of suckling from the teat of public healthcare) is worthy of merciless bullying... and the parents should be mocked moreso.
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19, 20 when he was born. I was scared shitless as not with her at time.
First time she called me to say she was pregnant I just went silent and hung up phone. Told myself it didn't happen, wasn't real. Ignored her calls for a couple of weeks. Just before new year doorbell rang in my parents. "Hi I'm Susan, Ellen's mother..." Ran into my bedroom still trying to say it wasn't real.
Balled my eyes out when talking to her mom and my parents. Having a kid without being with mother was supposed to be worst thing in world, here I was in Uni and this happened. It was so awkward until birth going to scans etc then soon as I saw him in incubator it all changed. This wasn't a teenage pregnancy it was a child and my son. Stopped boozing, got a second job and manned up (for a while).
Damn I thought I was young at 28.
I would probably react the same at 19. Just bail out.
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i clicked your thread because you say GB and I live in Great Britain...
Google Fathers for justice
xL
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i clicked your thread because you say GB and I live in Great Britain...
Google Fathers for justice
xL
50 or so weirdos disillusioned with the (unjust) system don't represent the majority of single fathers.
All women cook, clean and fuck and don't work right? Like Jordan?
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i clicked your thread because you say GB and I live in Great Britain...
Google Fathers for justice
xL
First time I see you post on GO
That's Gossip & Opinions :)
I hope to get a pretty equal custodian arrangement
But getbig seems to have a plethora of screwed over fathers, unfortunately
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plethora of screwed over fathers, unfortunately
Single Dads of GB:
"Fathers for justice" have been fighting all of their lives to be allowed to see their children. They do not give up. They've been dressing up as superheros and climbing every bridge in the country and Buckingham Palace for years for their rights. Many of them have no access to their offspring.
google
fathers for justice
xL
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Find a google image of the thousands of fathers stuck in district courts begging for one day a week.
Oh yeah, Sky News don't care about that.
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Well I mistook the thread. Obviously I ought not post on the G&O because reading at the top of it at the description bit, it says it's about BodyBuilding. But I went and read the entire thread about single dads of GB. then posted. sorry.
The last poster there? The one with the childminder partner who sounds all so nice and caring then goes and posts very soon afterwards about women as slutty baby makers?
>>>I doubt you'll make it to proper parenthood, so I hope you wear a condom always
Some (if not most of you) really ought not breed, that's all
xL
take care
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Well I mistook the thread. Obviously I ought not post on the G&O because reading at the top of it at the description bit, it says it's about BodyBuilding. But I went and read the entire thread about single dads of GB. then posted. sorry.
The last poster there? The one with the childminder partner who sounds all so nice and caring then goes and posts very soon afterwards about women as slutty baby makers?
>>>I doubt you'll make it to proper parenthood, so I hope you wear a condom always
Some (if not most of you) really ought not breed, that's all
xL
take care
Post where I said that. Go on...
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Expect that post to remain unreplied to without a quote.
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Expect that post to remain unreplied to without a quote.
Don't want to quote myself but a female head was melted and exploded by that taunt. Off to bed soon, perhaps I can expect to awake to some fabrication or imagined response.
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Off to bed safe in the knowledge some bullshit statement by a female went unproven and unsubstantiated. I expect all night erection and sweet dreams.
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Expect that post to remain unreplied to without a quote.
I think it's quite rude to barge in like that without posting pussy shots first.
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I was there from day one with my son. Was single when I impregnated his mom, got with her four months after he was born (for 4 years). When we split up she let me see him once a week then decided to move without saying where and changing number.
It was horrible. I didn't get to speak to him on my birthday, she started dating a guy from England and I worried she'd move. My mom parents were too soft and thought things would work out but I instigated legal proceedings for custody.* I had her bring up loads of shite in court but got custody and legal guardianship in the end. She accused me of drug dealing, hiding cocaine in his bed etc, all lies but judge gave me custody and guardianship and access.
We get on great now, it took a year or two but she eventually saw that he has tp be put first. She is happy with her now husband, I am happy with my girlfriend. I can see him when I want, he loves me he loves his mom and his step dad. It was tough as hell, suicide contemplating tough, but I'm here now and he's the happiest kid you could meet.
*On the issue of custody, I see him every Saturday as per court agreement but more often most weeks when I have time off or if he is on holidays from school.
That's something I can't live with....guess in your situation you don't have a choice but the thought of another man living with my offspring rattles my core....this is why I find the single life a blessing...a comfort zone. I have soo many less worries than many of my friends.
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That's something I can't live with....guess in your situation you don't have a choice but the thought of another man living with my offspring rattles my core....this is why I find the single life a blessing...a comfort zone. I have soo many less worries than many of my friends.
first when we separeted i feared that to but 5montha aftee when she met a new a was just happy my kid liked the guy and that he was good for her...no afterwards i have heard different and if i meat him again i will rip his head off
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first when we separeted i feared that to but 5montha aftee when she met a new a was just happy my kid liked the guy and that he was good for her...no afterwards i have heard different and if i meat him again i will rip his head off
See, there's just many different outcomes to this some bad some good. This is the problem.
Just the fact that my ex is single whilst my baby is at her home...that's enough to give me nightmares, she will eventually meet someone, if he's violent, a jobless wanker, a lame ass...etc etc etc, You just hate the idea of another adult living with your child. I can't imagine having grown in another man's shadow whilst my dad visited at the weekends.
Granted, sometimes dead beat fathers are replaced by more honest caring step dads, but that's not me.
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See, there's just many different outcomes to this some bad some good. This is the problem.
Just the fact that my ex is single whilst my baby is at her home...that's enough to give me nightmares, she will eventually meet someone, if he's violent, a jobless wanker, a lame ass...etc etc etc, You just hate the idea of another adult living with your child. I can't imagine having grown in another man's shadow whilst my dad visited at the weekends.
Granted, sometimes dead beat fathers are replaced by more honest caring step dads, but that's not me.
The guy my ex wife is now married to is not a bad guy... He is very respectful to me and certainly understands where I'm coming from most of the time. He's an ok dude.
The first guy she really got with, I will punch in the motherfucking face if I ever see him again.
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See, there's just many different outcomes to this some bad some good. This is the problem.
Just the fact that my ex is single whilst my baby is at her home...that's enough to give me nightmares, she will eventually meet someone, if he's violent, a jobless wanker, a lame ass...etc etc etc, You just hate the idea of another adult living with your child. I can't imagine having grown in another man's shadow whilst my dad visited at the weekends.
Granted, sometimes dead beat fathers are replaced by more honest caring step dads, but that's not me.
It is a likely scenario with kids. I don't like it either.
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That's something I can't live with....guess in your situation you don't have a choice but the thought of another man living with my offspring rattles my core....this is why I find the single life a blessing...a comfort zone. I have soo many less worries than many of my friends.
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I love how that girl withered in the face of my challenge to post where I said what she claimed.
Anyway, one of my BIGGEST fears was that my son would call another man "dad". Kept me with the girl way longer than was healthy.
Anyway, she met a good guy who really loved her, he moved here, got a job and treats them well. Son calls me dad and his step dad by his first name. As long as the guy she meets is good with kids and good for the partner you're golden.
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See, there's just many different outcomes to this some bad some good. This is the problem.
Just the fact that my ex is single whilst my baby is at her home...that's enough to give me nightmares, she will eventually meet someone, if he's violent, a jobless wanker, a lame ass...etc etc etc, You just hate the idea of another adult living with your child. I can't imagine having grown in another man's shadow whilst my dad visited at the weekends.
Granted, sometimes dead beat fathers are replaced by more honest caring step dads, but that's not me.
that is my biggest fear in life, evn if he is a good guy i will never allow another man to ever play any part in my kids life, they are the most important thing in my life and id rather die a slow and painfull death than let another man play a part in raising my kids
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that is my biggest fear in life, evn if he is a good guy i will never allow another man to ever play any part in my kids life, they are the most important thing in my life and id rather die a slow and painfull death than let another man play a part in raising my kids
not trying to come of as an ass but thats very selfish of you, thats all about your ego and nothing else.. i rather have my kids mother happy and with another guy then lonely and down cause that affects my daught. .If you are a good and loving dad you will always be your kids father and no one can replace that.
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not trying to come of as an ass but thats very selfish of you, thats all about your ego and nothing else.. i rather have my kids mother happy and with another guy then lonely and down cause that affects my daught. .If you are a good and loving dad you will always be your kids father and no one can replace that.
This. We were fighting loads towards the end, kid picks that up. Not his fault, he is happier now than that last year or so I was with his mom cos he has a stable and happy home.
I understand where Bass Generator is coming from. You think your kid having another father figure in his life will strip you of your role. Kids are adaptable, when young at least, and they can deal with the family dynamic that results... as long as all parties work to keep the kid happy.
You could get a vindictive mom or a new step dad who uses the child to punish you. Those selfish girls are ignoring what's best for the child and should be castrated/kicked in the ovaries.
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If you're smart you'll add to the parenting plan that neither can bring another person around the kids for the first 6 months of dating and after the other parent receives a copy of a criminal background report. Neither are allowed to date felons.
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Well I mistook the thread. Obviously I ought not post on the G&O because reading at the top of it at the description bit, it says it's about BodyBuilding. But I went and read the entire thread about single dads of GB. then posted. sorry.
The last poster there? The one with the childminder partner who sounds all so nice and caring then goes and posts very soon afterwards about women as slutty baby makers?
>>>I doubt you'll make it to proper parenthood, so I hope you wear a condom always
Some (if not most of you) really ought not breed, that's all
xL
take care
4000 posts is way past where gimmickhood crosses over from 'a bit of a laugh' to 'truly fucking tragic'
is this uncle loony? The pastel font seems familiar
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not trying to come of as an ass but thats very selfish of you, thats all about your ego and nothing else.. i rather have my kids mother happy and with another guy then lonely and down cause that affects my daught. .If you are a good and loving dad you will always be your kids father and no one can replace that.
i fully undestand and think you are spot on in what you say.
to me though they are by far the most important, most cherised thing in my life and cannot stand the thought of anyone else spending time with them that i should be. i think we are allowed to be selfish when it comes to our kids