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Dear brothers in iron! For the first time in my life, I'm going through such a difficult time that I don't even feel like training, even though it's been my favorite activity for over 10 years. However, I force myself and train because I know that if I stopped training, it would be the end.
Has any of you ever experienced a similar situation, and what helped you? How did you manage to rekindle your motivation?
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What is the cause of your mental situation?
Something beyond the gym?
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Dear brothers in iron! For the first time in my life, I'm going through such a difficult time that I don't even feel like training, even though it's been my favorite activity for over 10 years. However, I force myself and train because I know that if I stopped training, it would be the end.
Has any of you ever experienced a similar situation, and what helped you? How did you manage to rekindle your motivation?
Have you tried picking up and putting down heavy stuff?
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I actually had a nervous breakdown in Florida...........I chased myself down US 1 and when I caught myself I screamed like a bitch........then chased myself some more.......wash,rinse,repeat........true story.
I still had the presence of mind to seek help and look how sane I am today! ;D
In your case JK,you could just be overtrained......take exactly one week off and the flame more than likely will rekindle.......good luck brother. ;)
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Keep lifting no matter what!
Motivation is an interesting concept. Where does it originate?
I've felt like it's the end many times and I'm in it right now and I'm having problems getting to the gym myself.
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I actually had a nervous breakdown in Florida...........I chased myself down US 1 and when I caught myself I screamed like a bitch........then chased myself some more.......wash,rinse,repeat........true story.
I still had the presence of mind to seek help and look how sane I am today! ;D
In your case JK,you could just be overtrained......take exactly one week off and the flame more than likely will rekindle.......good luck brother. ;)
Did you chase yourself in a circle?
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Did you chase yourself in a circle?
Hey,who do I look like Curly Howard ??? ;D
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I actually had a nervous breakdown in Florida...........I chased myself down US 1 and when I caught myself I screamed like a bitch........then chased myself some more.......wash,rinse,repeat........true story.
I still had the presence of mind to seek help and look how sane I am today! ;D
In your case JK,you could just be overtrained......take exactly one week off and the flame more than likely will rekindle.......good luck brother. ;)
What is the cause of your mental situation?
Something beyond the gym?
Thank you, Wes. The cause of my nervous breakdown is a woman with whom our continued relationship is questionable. I've always laughed at such situations whenever someone tells me about them. I don't know what happened to me; it's so unlike me; I've never felt anything like this before, and I'm ashamed that I fell so deeply in love with her that I can't imagine life without her
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Thank you, Wes. The cause of my nervous breakdown is a woman with whom our continued relationship is questionable. I've always laughed at such situations whenever someone tells me about them. I don't know what happened to me; it's so unlike me; I've never felt anything like this before, and I'm ashamed that I fell so deeply in love with her that I can't imagine life without her
That's a tough one and likely most of us have gone through it. I have.
My advices to this is the following:
1) Don't do anything stupid like make a fool of yourself, get drunk, do drugs or such things.
2) Play it cool with her and don't stalk her or act needy to her. Ignoring her is the best thing. Don't text her or call her.
It's hard but you can do it. Let things play out as they will.
Soemtimes, oftentimes, things between people stop working and that is the just the way of man and woman. Nobody's fault.
Take the high road.
3) Keep busy, keep training, etc. Train more in fact. If you train 3 days a week, step it up to 6 days a week. Train twice a day if you have to.
An intelligent split routine that allows recovery.
This will keep you busy, keep the endorphins high, and help your mood.
Set some written goals like increasing your strength. Something tangible.
Take walks or long bike rides which will help you mentally.
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Determine the cause of your breakdown and analyze all that has happened to you. Was this all your fault? Or was it something you ultimately were not able to be in control of? Did you try your best 100%? Do you find yourself repeating your mistakes and being drawn to the same type of people /situations over and over? It helps some people to learn if they caused their stress and troubles. And by accepting responsibility that can help them get control over their lives and understand why their life is the way it turned out to be.
Try and control as much of your life as possible-Having a daily schedule can help.
Don’t force working out if for the time being if you are not into it, despite years of prior working out. You obviously are going through tough times right now. You’ll eventually want to work out again and you’ll feel inspired to do so. You’ll probably come back rested and fresh. If you are hard on yourself for not working out, then that’s one more thing to stress you out.
You may find if you’re able to set a schedule for your day and goals for your week, then you will feel good being in control of your life. Of course we feel low when we feel like we are losing control.
Good luck.
-Gene
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That's a tough one and likely most of us have gone through it. I have.
My advices to this is the following:
1) Don't do anything stupid like make a fool of yourself, get drunk, do drugs or such things.
2) Play it cool with her and don't stalk her or act needy to her. Ignoring her is the best thing. Don't text her or call her.
It's hard but you can do it. Let things play out as they will.
Soemtimes, oftentimes, things between people stop working and that is the just the way of man and woman. Nobody's fault.
Take the high road.
3) Keep busy, keep training, etc. Train more in fact. If you train 3 days a week, step it up to 6 days a week. Train twice a day if you have to.
An intelligent split routine that allows recovery.
This will keep you busy, keep the endorphins high, and help your mood.
Set some written goals like increasing your strength. Something tangible.
Take walks or long bike rides which will help you mentally.
Thank you, IronNat. This is exactly what I needed. Even though I want to call her first, I know I have to wait until she does.
As for training, I decided to do cutting during this period because I have no appetite due to stress anyway.
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Determine the cause of your breakdown and analyze all that has happened to you. Was this all your fault? Or was it something you ultimately were not able to be in control of? Did you try your best 100%? Do you find yourself repeating your mistakes and being drawn to the same type of people /situations over and over? It helps some people to learn if they caused their stress and troubles. And by accepting responsibility that can help them get control over their lives and understand why their life is the way it turned out to be.
Try and control as much of your life as possible-Having a daily schedule can help.
Don’t force working out if for the time being if you are not into it, despite years of prior working out. You obviously are going through tough times right now. You’ll eventually want to work out again and you’ll feel inspired to do so. You’ll probably come back rested and fresh. If you are hard on yourself for not working out, then that’s one more thing to stress you out.
You may find if you’re able to set a schedule for your day and goals for your week, then you will feel good being in control of your life. Of course we feel low when we feel like we are losing control.
Good luck.
-Gene
Thanks for the help, brother, but I know I can't stop training in this situation. I need to keep my head occupied so I don't do anything stupid
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Keep lifting no matter what!
Motivation is an interesting concept. Where does it originate?
I've felt like it's the end many times and I'm in it right now and I'm having problems getting to the gym myself.
That's exactly what I do. Training is the only thing that has saved me from difficult periods in the past.
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Thanks for the help, brother, but I know I can't stop training in this situation. I need to keep my head occupied so I don't do anything stupid
I have never stopped working out as well and I never want to. It keeps me calm and I look fwd to it each day. When I was going through some very hard times years ago, I kept working out, but just not as intense. I need to go to the gym or my mind would wander. I won’t ever stop working out, but I auto regulate in a sense my intensity and how heavy I go. I always remind myself that I have spent so many years working out and I wouldn’t want to stop and make the past years a waste. Getting control of my diet also helped tremendously with feeling better. I used to emotional eat and once I learned how to control my cravings, I felt much more in control in the other parts of my life. Make sure you’re sleeping enough as well. Sleep will ravage your mind. I only sleep 2-4 hours a night and I feel horrible.
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Thank you, IronNat. This is exactly what I needed. Even though I want to call her first, I know I have to wait until she does.
As for training, I decided to do cutting during this period because I have no appetite due to stress anyway.
Yes, be cool.
She may or may not call you but if she doesn't then move on.
Don't dwell on whether or not it happens.
Consider it fate or karma.
Focus on good nutrition to help your training.
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Going to the gym helps. Without it ... hard to say what state of mind I'd be in.
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Thank you, Wes. The cause of my nervous breakdown is a woman with whom our continued relationship is questionable. I've always laughed at such situations whenever someone tells me about them. I don't know what happened to me; it's so unlike me; I've never felt anything like this before, and I'm ashamed that I fell so deeply in love with her that I can't imagine life without her
Mine was a woman I was gonna` marry,so like the infantile fool I was back then,I drank and drugged myself into oblivion, while she was out partying with other guys almost immediately.
Some women can be cold hearted bitches......these days I would say........ "Don`t let the screen door hit ya`,where the good Lord split ya`" !! :D
Again,good luck...........PS - go get laid bro!! ;)
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That's a tough one and likely most of us have gone through it. I have.
My advices to this is the following:
1) Don't do anything stupid like make a fool of yourself, get drunk, do drugs or such things.
2) Play it cool with her and don't stalk her or act needy to her. Ignoring her is the best thing. Don't text her or call her.
It's hard but you can do it. Let things play out as they will.
Soemtimes, oftentimes, things between people stop working and that is the just the way of man and woman. Nobody's fault.
Take the high road.
3) Keep busy, keep training, etc. Train more in fact. If you train 3 days a week, step it up to 6 days a week. Train twice a day if you have to.
An intelligent split routine that allows recovery.
This will keep you busy, keep the endorphins high, and help your mood.
Set some written goals like increasing your strength. Something tangible.
Take walks or long bike rides which will help you mentally.
Great advice Bro Nat.....I wish I knew you years ago,you would haved saved me lots of grief...........but I have gained wisdom after being burnt so many times.......my heart has callouses on it and my wife is cool for a crazy person.
I did the exact opposite of what you recommended and it bit me in my ass.
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Thank you all brothers for your help. I really appreciate it and it means a lot to me
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Thank you, Wes. The cause of my nervous breakdown is a woman with whom our continued relationship is questionable. I've always laughed at such situations whenever someone tells me about them. I don't know what happened to me; it's so unlike me; I've never felt anything like this before, and I'm ashamed that I fell so deeply in love with her that I can't imagine life without her
Why lose any sleep over someone who obviously doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her.
Women are strange things, they say they want out the relationship and them when you say " fine, no problem" they come back with "so you are not prepared to fight for us?"
Err. why the fuck would anybody want to fight for someone who obviously doesnt give a fuck about them?
If she got hit by a car tomorrow you would have to manage without her.
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Lol
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Why lose any sleep over someone who obviously doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her.
Women are strange things, they say they want out the relationship and them when you say " fine, no problem" they come back with "so you are not prepared to fight for us?"
Err. why the fuck would anybody want to fight for someone who obviously doesnt give a fuck about them?
If she got hit by a car tomorrow you would have to manage without her.
The funny thing is that a few months ago I was explaining something similar to a friend whose woman had left him.
Today I know how difficult it is when you dream about her every night and everything reminds you of her
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The funny thing is that a few months ago I was explaining something similar to a friend whose woman had left him.
Today I know how difficult it is when you dream about her every night and everything reminds you of her
Not to be pretentiously deep but the heart is not logical. And I think on some level it seems to me to be a sign of health not to be able to discard deep emotional connections just like that. To do otherwise seems psychopathic to me. I once cut off completely 100% as if I snapped my fingers but I still suffer years later if I think about it, though it was probably the right course of action anyway :'( :D
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Not to be pretentiously deep but the heart is not logical. And I think on some level it seems to me to be a sign of health not to be able to discard deep emotional connections just like that. To do otherwise seems psychopathic to me. I once cut off completely 100% as if I snapped my fingers but I still suffer years later if I think about it, though it was probably the right course of action anyway :'( :D
Well thought, van.
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Not to be pretentiously deep but the heart is not logical. And I think on some level it seems to me to be a sign of health not to be able to discard deep emotional connections just like that. To do otherwise seems psychopathic to me. I once cut off completely 100% as if I snapped my fingers but I still suffer years later if I think about it, though it was probably the right course of action anyway :'( :D
I just find it easier to not get too attached in the first place.
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Not to be pretentiously deep but the heart is not logical. And I think on some level it seems to me to be a sign of health not to be able to discard deep emotional connections just like that. To do otherwise seems psychopathic to me. I once cut off completely 100% as if I snapped my fingers but I still suffer years later if I think about it, though it was probably the right course of action anyway :'( :D
I recognise this feeling, but it's only happened once when a family member was suddenly taken mortally ill - I'm the head of our family so I had to organise a lot of shit quickly and the clarity was helpful, but it did feel strange being the only one not falling to pieces at the time (and the funeral director gave me some filthy looks at the graveside!)
The others said they understood and for months afterwards they were worried it would suddenly hit me but I still look back and feel... nothing...
Signed, Taffin Bateman
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Dear brothers in iron! For the first time in my life, I'm going through such a difficult time that I don't even feel like training, even though it's been my favorite activity for over 10 years. However, I force myself and train because I know that if I stopped training, it would be the end.
Has any of you ever experienced a similar situation, and what helped you? How did you manage to rekindle your motivation?
Never stop lifting, it is the one true constant in life, I've went through 10 major hip surgeries, a burst appendix, open heart surgery, numerous breaks and tears, a pulmonary embolism, numerous other things, but I always looked forward to the day when I could feel the cool iron in my hands. NEVER SURRENDER.
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Take one week off from the gym, it will be harder than you think but you'll feel a lot better
Don't confuse taking a break with stop training.
WoooSSSHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHh
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Thank you, Wes. The cause of my nervous breakdown is a woman with whom our continued relationship is questionable. I've always laughed at such situations whenever someone tells me about them. I don't know what happened to me; it's so unlike me; I've never felt anything like this before, and I'm ashamed that I fell so deeply in love with her that I can't imagine life without her
The first thing you need to do is sit down and honestly ask yourself "am I better off with her or without her? Today? Next week? Next year?" Make a list of reasons why you either are or are not. But come to the answer from a state of logical thinking. Don't let emotions cloud your judgements. If this was your best friend, what would you tell him? Once you have that answer and list then decide how you are going to go from where you are now to the best outcome for YOU in the long run.
Don't try to meet someone new to get over her. You will only compare that person to her and it is unfair. Especially if the other person is a decent person.
Don't turn to alcohol or mind altering substances. They will only inflame emotions further.
Don't stop training, but don't train super hard. Your CNS is already going to be stressed just from this situation.
Don't stalk her - or let her stalk you - so refrain from any contact with her unless children/pets are involved.
Don't underestimate how long it will hurt. Once you get ran over by a dump truck, things are just going to be bad for a while. Don't blame yourself or take it out on others. It's just the nature of things. It is supposed to hurt. If it didn't, then it wasn't really love to begin with. True love doesn't go away easy.
You got this. It's just going to take a while and it is going to teach you about yourself as well.
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Dear brothers in iron! For the first time in my life, I'm going through such a difficult time that I don't even feel like training, even though it's been my favorite activity for over 10 years. However, I force myself and train because I know that if I stopped training, it would be the end.
Has any of you ever experienced a similar situation, and what helped you? How did you manage to rekindle your motivation?
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Thank you again for all the advice. I definitely won't stop training—it's the only thing keeping me from giving up right now.
Honestly, I never thought something like this would happen to me, because it's so unlike my personality
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Thank you again for all the advice. I definitely won't stop training—it's the only thing keeping me from giving up right now.
Honestly, I never thought something like this would happen to me, because it's so unlike my personality
I would change your gear supplier as well.. just in case.
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Never stop lifting, it is the one true constant in life, I've went through 10 major hip surgeries, a burst appendix, open heart surgery, numerous breaks and tears, a pulmonary embolism, numerous other things, but I always looked forward to the day when I could feel the cool iron in my hands. NEVER SURRENDER.
You`re a warrior Funk..............a true inspiration......God bless you my friend.
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Thank you again for all the advice. I definitely won't stop training—it's the only thing keeping me from giving up right now.
Honestly, I never thought something like this would happen to me, because it's so unlike my personality
The only reason I told you to take a week off was because I figured you went stale/overtrained........once I found out a woman was the cause,I could relate......trust me on that JK........good luck bud!!
If it has tits or mechanical parts,sooner or later,it`s gonna` give you trouble !
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Put your big boy pants on. Women, another brick in the wall. They are everywhere. The deal is to find that special one, without drama. And they bring something to the party. Remember, life is short. Do not let another individual, especially a woman, screw up your future. Move ahead like a man. And find your special relationship.
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Why lose any sleep over someone who obviously doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her.
Women are strange things, they say they want out the relationship and them when you say " fine, no problem" they come back with "so you are not prepared to fight for us?"
Err. why the fuck would anybody want to fight for someone who obviously doesnt give a fuck about them?
If she got hit by a car tomorrow you would have to manage without her.
90% of men's problems are caused by women.
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90% of men's problems are caused by women.
Only 90 %.....come on keep it real Narcy ???
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You`re a warrior Funk..............a true inspiration......God bless you my friend.
Thanks for the kind words WES, that's all we can do, just grin and bear it, just try to make the best out of a bad situation.
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Thanks for the kind words WES, that's all we can do, just grin and bear it, just try to make the best out of a bad situation.
Thanks, Funk51! What you wrote is very motivating for me. We struggle with various pains, but the most important thing is not to give up and keep moving forward without giving up on training.
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Thank you, Wes. The cause of my nervous breakdown is a woman with whom our continued relationship is questionable. I've always laughed at such situations whenever someone tells me about them. I don't know what happened to me; it's so unlike me; I've never felt anything like this before, and I'm ashamed that I fell so deeply in love with her that I can't imagine life without her
Jesus Christ you whiny low testosterone bitch.
Your relationship isn't questionable. You know she has been riding other men's cawks like a truck stop hooker. It's not that you can't imagine life without her, it's that you just don't want to accept that she is swallowing more load than Hankins in a Mexican prison. She is pulling a trifecta of strange dick every night while you sit at home crying to your mom over FaceTime.
Think back on your time with her and remember that every time you kissed her lips that you were blowing dudes by proxy. That pussy you were licking was raw dogged a few times a week by many different black men.
Seek dating advice elsewhere, Getbig is for stalking Hankins and whining about Trump. Advertising that you simped for a slut won't be tolerated here.
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When a Getbigger needs help the community responds.
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Your relationship isn't questionable. You know she has been riding other men's cawks like a truck stop hooker. It's not that you can't imagine life without her, it's that you just don't want to accept that she is swallowing more load than Hankins in a Mexican prison. She is pulling a trifecta of strange dick every night while you sit at home crying to your mom over FaceTime.
This post made me hard as a nail
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Why lose any sleep over someone who obviously doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her.
Women are strange things, they say they want out the relationship and them when you say " fine, no problem" they come back with "so you are not prepared to fight for us?"
Err. why the fuck would anybody want to fight for someone who obviously doesnt give a fuck about them?
If she got hit by a car Hankins tomorrow you would have to manage without her.
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On a serious note..... hitting the iron.... at the gym or at home.... is the great equalizer... done on your time,,,, your pace.... results from your hard work and dedication....
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Thanks for the kind words WES, that's all we can do, just grin and bear it, just try to make the best out of a bad situation.
I know,I`ve had my fair share of medical issues but like you said......it is,what it is.............just have to stay positive and hope for the best..... which isn`t easy,in fact it`s damn hard to do.
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Only 90 %.....come on keep it real Narcy ???
I was being nice.
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We've all been there. For every hot girl there is a guy that's sick of her. Straight facts. You have just been given the opportunity to find something new and most of us long term married Getbiggers here envy you. Take full advantage of this blessing.
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I was being nice.
;D