it's hard. you never get a minute to yourself again lol...
your life is about being there for the rugrat, and making the best life for him. Before that, you want to gain 50 pounds of muscle, change the world, be a millionaire, conquer everything.
Afterwards? it's all about making a good living while being there for your rugrat and living as long as you can. That's it. Time with loved ones is what matters.
Before I had a baby, I didn't have a real rason to live, ya know? I mean, I went to college and worked and dated, but never really had a purpose in this world. Being a parent gives you that purpose. Everytime I sit down to dinner, I ask myself, "Do I really need butter on that bread, or would I rather live to see my own grandkids one day".
I quit drinking. I quit speeding. I think things thru now. I chopped my goals list in half. When I have free time now, I'm outside kicking a soccer ball around.
it changes everything, and it was WAY harder than I thought it'd be, but it was the best thing i've ever done. i was an uncle times 2 before having my own, and it's not even remotely close. I'd recommend you wait til you're 25 or 30 and out of school and fairly established if you can, but don't want too long - complications arise when you try it in mid to late 30s.
Good luck. Prayers with you. It changes everything forever
