hey wait...stells had this thread locked when i tried to answer...
Sorry Toxy! To make a poll you have to make the thread first so I lock it until I'm done.
So the name of this chapter is "Keeper of the Visual Rolodex" and it talks about how men are visual.
Her poll results had 62% choosing the first option, 25% choosing the second, and 13% choosing the last option.
Here are some excerpts from the chapter:
"Even happily married men are instinctively pulled to visually "consume" attractive women, and these images can be just as alluring wheather they are live or recollected.
"A woman w/a great body is an "eye magnet" that is incredibly difficult to avoid, and even if a man forces himself not to look, he is acutely aware of her presence."
"Even when no such eye magnet is present, [some men have] a "mental Rolodex" of stored images that can intrude into his thoughts w/o warning or can be called up at will."
There is another Poll Question in the chapter regarding a compulsion to look at attractive women.
The chapter is really interesting and does state that some women may not want to know the things she has written there.
Here is a conversation that she had w/her husband that shows how differently men and women think:
"The Tom Cruise Conversation"One day, during the time I was trying to come to terms w/these findings, Jeff (her husband) and I were riding in the car, discussing what I was discovering. Jeff confessed that he didn't understand why I was so surprised. Here's how our conversation went from there:
Jeff: "But you know men are visual, right?"
Me: "Well, yes, of course. But since most women aren't, I just didn't get it. I just don't experience things the same way you do."
Jeff: "See, I'm not sure I really believe that."
Me: "Well, it's true!"
Jeff: "Maybe we just use different language to describe it. For example, think of a movie star that you find physically attractive - Tom Cruise, say. After we've seen one of his movies, how many times will that attractive image rise up in your mine the next day?"
Me: "Never."
Jeff: "I must not be explaining myself correctly. I mean, how many times will a thought of what he looked like with his shirt off just sort of pop up in your head?"
Me: "Never."
Jeff: "Never - as in
never?"
Me: "Zero times. It just doesn't happen."
Jeff: "Wow."