I've been living with my girlfriend now for the last year and half. We have been together for a long time though. She has been the worst roomate I've ever had. I come home everyday clean up the house make everything look nice. She doesn't appreciate it at all never helps out. We actually have separate rooms but share the same bed. Her room is covered in clothes, her closet is like a jungle. Her bathroom sink has dried toothpaste and all kinds of nasty shit. My room is pretty spotless my clothes are always put away laundry done. I'm not quite obsessive compulsive but pretty close.
Is there anyway I can get her to change her habits? When I ask for help she gives me a bad attitude then I end up exploding on her calling her a disgusting slob and all kinds of other names. I can really get pretty mean because It's a lot of built up bad feelings and anger. Then I end up feeling like the asshole and I have to make up to her and make her feel better because my crazy outburst. This is bullshit I can't take it anymore. It's turning into a bad cycle. Any suggestions.
I grew up in a family where my dad never lifted a finger around the house. My mom would ask us if we wanted anything to eat or drink. She cleaned up after us. My dad did all the work outside. I don't have a problem with sharing the responsibilities but this is getting ridiculous.
Here is my advice:
1. Ask her to please reach into her purse, to then kindly pull your testicles out of her purse and hand them back to you.
2. Dump her.
Nah, in all seriousness, how about picking an evening out of the week and cleaning together? Play some music while you are cleaning, find ways to make it more "fun" for her to clean.
What is good about your relationship w/her? Does it outweigh her slobbiness?
Would your relat. be great if she wasn't a slob?
Is she overly sensitive or pretty even keel?
Very good, Butterbean!
I knew this guy who is/was a marital counselor. He told me one time that he gets many couples who have problems with sex, the husband is unhappy that the wife is not interested in sex as much has he is. The counselor said one day a couple came in and the husband, just like makaveli25, was unhappy that the wife was a slob. The counselor asked the husband "how is the sex?" The husband answered "the sex is great, always has been." The counselor then told him "you are one of the few lucky husbands. Be happy that your sex life with your wife is great and put up with her slobbiness."