I'd suggest you stop going to max reps all the time.
Instead, during a transition period, try doing 4-5 sets of 5-6 reps, make sure to have good speed on all reps. It will prevent you from going too heavy.
Drop dips, and do close grip benchpresses instead. Drop the military press as well.
Then start doing the benchpress routine twice a week. Mondays and Fridays. Do the Squat on with the Monday workout and Deadlift with the Friday workout. Include one ab excersise in the benchpress workouts.
Just some suggestions, to get you to gradually increase the frequency of your training, and stop this habit of going to failure.
IMO, you should never have a slow lift in practice, when you're a powerlifter. All lifts need to be explosive, since the recovery time is so long for the CNS.
YIP
Zack