Matt - I love you man - hell I love TA because I love all people. I just think you need to stop the delusions of having a high intellect and using autistic retardation as an excuse. You deliberately have children that you have no intention of spending EVERY night tucking into bed and protecting under your roof. I cannot comprehend any man thinking that way. You are a terrible writer as you digress and insert little facts and information that have absolutely nothing to do with the thought or story you are trying to convey. It also seems that you don’t fully comprehend your social awkwardness and the reason that people see you as extremely odd. Hopefully you are giving each mother $1,000 / month per child as that’s just the only decent thing. If you have 4 kids that’s only 4K so earn 12 and you can live extremely comfortably. Work two jobs and with rentals that should be easily doable.
You are right that I don't tuck my kids into bed every night, because my kids don't live in my home, so my time with them is split, but I live off my savings and rents, so I'm available 24/7. I am able to drop them off at their mom's house at bedtime.
Here's something to consider: the mother of my first two kids completed a 2-year college course, and 4-year Biology degree and a 1-year education degree at university from 2011-2017, which she was enrolled in FULL-TIME during that time.
That would never have been possible if I wasn't hugely available, and available to be a full-time dad at all sorts of random times. And the bottom line was - I was available all that time, any time, and those were bar none the BEST years of my life.
I think it's fair to say that if you compare the time I spent with my kids with the time spent by average man working a 9-5 job, that I would have spent more time with my kids than they did, because I have them for full days, going to a facility here [The Canada Games Complex], and restaurants before I got banned from both of them for being unvaccinated.
And that's why I'm so bitter about this pandemic - probably something like 2/3 of my time spent with my kids were spent at The Complex and at restaurants or the movie theatre, all of which I can't go to now with them. This pandemic has impacted my outings with my kids the most. But what can I do about that? I've taken all the steps I can against this insanity.
The thing is - my kids spend Saturday overnight with my mom, who takes them to church on Sunday morning. So from around 10am Saturday, to around 2pm Sunday, I'm in the process of dropping my kids off to my mom, and picking them up.
AND...the other grandparents want them too for one overnight a week, so that left me to split my kids five days a week - so that's why I only got two overnights a week - sometimes none in the event of family things.
I think the fact that no one is having kids [and my first two kids being the ONLY grandchildren for both pairs of grandparents], and given my kids are exactly one year apart in age [born 2009 and 2010] made it so every relative wanted to see them. I mean, you have two cute little babies - why wouldn't grandparents want to be with them? And all four grandparents were between 47-50 when my first baby was born. So with young grandparents who wanted time with the kids, and splitting time, I couldn't get overnights much at all. And my kids had SEVEN great grandparents when they were born! As a matter of fact, at age 11 and 12 now, they still have THREE great grandmothers living in my city! My grandmother lives just up the block from me. So my kids were really in-demand with other relatives.
But that said, I took every opportunity I possibly could to be with my kids...and now, they are in school full-time, and have their own interests as tweens - and with that, kids just start doing their own thing.
Luckily, my son was hanging out with a friend, and he played one of my Strongman contest videos and it blew his friend's mind, and now my son wants to train with me.
I just want to make sure he is doing appropriate training for his age [11].
My little girl just started Junior Kindergarten in September, so that means less time with her.
But just for the record - historically, when I've on Getbig for hours, it's because I'm just at home with the kids, and we're chilling out watching movies. And I type very fast.
While I feel I may have missed out on the nuclear family stuff [I was with their mom for the first four years], I feel I have made up for not tucking my kids into bed every night by being available 24/7 for literally all of their lives, and not working a single day in any of those years.
I am pretty confident in saying I spent more time with my kids in their formative years than a man who has to work a 9-5.
And as I said - those were bar none the BEST years of my life, and I wouldn't have traded that for ANYTHING. I loved it.
Also, I am trying to encourage my son to move in with me when he turns 16 [in four years], because he can have the basement with a private entrance...I think that would be a good setup until I move him into his own place sometime when he is 18 or older.
My family life has been unorthodox, but I got to spend the formative years of the lives of my kids as a full-time dad.
As much as I like the nuclear family model, it just seems to me that married couples are miserable...I just see it fail way too often. It scares me from even trying it frankly.
Regarding TA's pro-pedophile comments - Bast and I addressed it here in his friend Dino's podcast [too bad Dino and Bast kept talking over one another].
