Jag brings up some good points and I can identify with many of them. It's tough for me to not justify my jealousy at times when my partners, including current, do the same thing albeit to some lesser degrees. I guess I always thought it was normal and that most people experience it.
Everyone experiences jealousy at some point or other. The thing is to not let those feelings of jealousy interfere in your relationship. Jealousy is nothing more than the fear of losing someone, ...it is the fear of being replaced. Get over it. If you're going to be replaced, you're going to be replaced. No sense in hastening the process, or even assuring such an eventuality by driving the other person away. Who wants to be in a relationship where they must constantly walk on egg-shells in order to bolster the other person's ego. Self esteem and security come from within. Another factor that often raises it's head is often too the perception of others. A partner may know there is only a snowball's chance in hell of something inappropriate going on, ...but it may not appear that way to others. ie: They may not know that the tall good looking buff guy she's laughing and having a good time with is her cousin. So the bf get's mad when she goes out with her cousin, because other people may think she's making a cuckold of him. Making your partner responsible for how the world perceives YOU is another burden often laid onto partner's by insecure jealous people.
I've gotten called out on it and I hear that my jealousy is abnormal but her/their actions are justified because of (insert comment here). I brush it off and ignore it, and actually like it because in a way it makes you feel important.
That sense of importance you derive from that is actually dysfunctional. you can'thave a stable relationship based on dysfunction.
I guess I always wonder if women think the same things insecurity wise when it comes to relationships because frankly, they can get it a lot easier than we can. No matter in how high regard a man holds himself, we are essentially waiting to be given permission to screw.
Cap, women cannot get "it" easier than men can. infact, it may even be harder for women because we have to constantly filter through throngs of men trying to get laid. What I'm saying is that women can only get "it" a lot easier than men can, depending solely on what "it" is. Women aren't looking for sex. We can get that anywhere, anytime from most anyone, ...if we want it. That's why jealousy is so ridiculously selfish. You are expecting a woman to give up what she doesn't find very easily ...friendship, in order for you to not feel threatened, or appear cuckolded in the eyes of people who truly do not matter.
Here's another qs. If you and your partner (in this case mine is a woman) are on the outs and are at the very least sharing a lease for the next few months, what is likely going through her mind if she says "I love you" still and is still nice? We agreed to see what happens with time apart but really, how likely is that to get back together? She says there is the likelihood but I think she could just be acting nice to ease the blow. Personally, I would not want someone to say those three words if they don't mean them. I really wonder what would go through a woman's head in this situation. Since she doesn't want to talk about things right now, I'll ask ya'll. 
Cap, no one can tell you what is going through her mind without actually knowing the woman herself.
How likely you are to get back together again, depends on whether both of you want it or not.
Also too, depending upon how unbearable certain aspects of your relationship were, one or both of you might decide you never want to experience something like that again. If you've eaten nothing but cream cheese all your life, a sudden introduction to fibre might be a life altering and liberating moment.
ps: If she tells you she loves you, ...she probably does. If you're asking for a prediction of whether you can make it, it depends upon both of you, and your willingness to recognize the crazy cycle that occurs when jealousy rears it's head, the willingness to overcome the obstacle it presents to your relationship, as well as having the willingness and the patience to endure the growing pains that come from evolving your relationship out of that crazy cycle.
