Domestic Abuse - 20 % of all women?

[Faust]

Ok, i just read that 20% of all women supposedly have had a man use violence against them in a relationship.
I remember reading that in Lesbian relationships this number is as high as 40%.

Seems a little high to me.

How would you girls react if your partner did it once? (Say he slaps you pretty hard/pushes you during an argument?)
Give him another chance? Tell everyone/try to hide it from your friends and relatives?

I'm a bit curious cause i never heard a woman say that they would put up with it, but apparently 20% of them do. 

[Butterbean]

I'm not sure if I would give him another chance or not...I guess it would depend on all the circumstances.  I am a strong believer in second chances depending on the subject but I'm not a strong believer in third chances.  Oh and I would probably tell at least 2 people.

[INSOMNIA]

Ive had several LT relationships over the years. There was one relationship that got physically violent...it was like an episode of Jerry Springer

[Butterbean]

Ive had several LT relationships over the years. There was one relationship that got physically violent...it was like an episode of Jerry Springer

What is LT?

[INSOMNIA]

What is LT?

Long Term

[freespirit]

Long Term

I usually prefer ST. You've got to move on, and never look back.   

[Deadpool]

PTSD is an ugly subject.  It's best to live well.

-Meddie

[INSOMNIA]

PTSD is an ugly subject.  It's best to live well.

-Meddie

PTSD?

[Butterbean]

PTSD?

lol yeah

[INSOMNIA]

I usually prefer ST. You've got to move on, and never look back.   

So...a new "relationship" what...like every 3 days or so? 

[Playboy]

Ive had several LT relationships over the years. There was one relationship that got physically violent...it was like an episode of Jerry Springer

No good. At least you had the courage to get out. A lot of women don't and it gets worse and worse. How many have ended up dead as a result of this? Just imagine.

[Faust]

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[w8m8]

PTSD?

post traumatic stress disorder






I've been in abusive relationships with both a man and a woman .. I was with the woman longer and put up with her bullcrap moreso than any man I was with ..
I got hurt worse getting hit by the guy ..but the physical stuff doesn't hurt as much as the emotional to me ... I'd rather take a punch in a fit of rage than have someone who supposedly loves me say mean hateful things that can't be taken back

[Butterbean]

Dang w8m8

[michael arvilla]

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(whats with all the "shorthand")




TTYL 

[Playboy]

post traumatic stress disorder






I've been in abusive relationships with both a man and a woman .. I was with the woman longer and put up with her bullcrap moreso than any man I was with ..
I got hurt worse getting hit by the guy ..but the physical stuff doesn't hurt as much as the emotional to me ... I'd rather take a punch in a fit of rage than have someone who supposedly loves me say mean hateful things that can't be taken back

That is very sad and terrible. I would rather stay single and be happy then in a relationship full of verbal/emotional/physical abuse. Life is too short. There are a lot of good people in the world too. Best to take your time and wait for the right person who will give your heart a home.

[freespirit]

So...a new "relationship" what...like every 3 days or so? 

3 days, 3 weeks, or even 3 months if it gets serious.   

[Hustle Man]

Never understood why my mom put up with the physical abuse and could never understand what she could have done that would cause my dad to hit her. The way i see it any man that hits a woman and don't care what she did or is doing, he is a coward!

HMIC

[Parker]

post traumatic stress disorder






I've been in abusive relationships with both a man and a woman .. I was with the woman longer and put up with her bullcrap moreso than any man I was with ..
I got hurt worse getting hit by the guy ..but the physical stuff doesn't hurt as much as the emotional to me ... I'd rather take a punch in a fit of rage than have someone who supposedly loves me say mean hateful things that can't be taken back

Had you'd been my sister...I might have gone to jail and done time if your man had hit you.
I deal a lot with DV's...and how some dude's justify it...

[Deedee]

There is always this.

[Deedee]

Never understood why my mom put up with the physical abuse and could never understand what she could have done that would cause my dad to hit her. The way i see it any man that hits a woman and don't care what she did or is doing, he is a coward!

HMIC

She had you and all her children.    Besides, probably in her day it would have seemed like her fault. She did okay raising you so maybe that's enough reason. Back then there weren't many options, and I'm thinking 30 years ago?

[INSOMNIA]

3 days, 3 weeks, or even 3 months if it gets serious.   

then BAM! youre gone? just like that?? 

[JosephineD]

2 years ago, my live in boyfriend came after me in a rhoid rage and left a hole in the wall and me with a broken ankle and broken foot.

Unfortunatly at the time, I wanted to leave but couldn't as I was new to the area (Vegas... go figure) and had no friends or family and had just started a new job, so I had no money. I was scared to have him arrested in fear he'd kill me.  He didn't ask for forgiveness and actually ignored me for 2 days.

I picked up shifts at work and hid my ankle and heavily powdered my nose. Two weeks later we had another arguement and I left immediately because I actually feared for my life. For 2 nights I stayed in my car before i found a place to stay.

The law isn't all that helpful for women who have to deal with domestic violence. Yeah, they can put a guy in jail but restraining orders don't do sh*t. I honestly feel the best defense is to learn how to kick a guy's ass, to own a gun and know how to use it sanely, and to value yourself enough so a man knows that you wont think twice about hitting back then leaving if he even thinks about laying a finger on ya !
!

In my 34 years, this guy is the ONLY man who has ever physically hurt me... and I am 100% positive that it was because it was a time in my life when i was weak and low in self esteem... and that's what attracts these losers.  Normally, people call me conceited and it used to bother me. Now, if they think I'm conceited.. they can kiss my a*s...

"we're not talking about conceit. We're talking about a healthy respect for yourself. And when you respect yourself, others will respect you as well".

PS- I think 20% is an understatement.

[freespirit]

then BAM! youre gone? just like that?? 

I'm going places, boldly go where no one has gone before.   

[Playboy]

2 years ago, my live in boyfriend came after me in a rhoid rage and left a hole in the wall and me with a broken ankle and broken foot.

Unfortunatly at the time, I wanted to leave but couldn't as I was new to the area (Vegas... go figure) and had no friends or family and had just started a new job, so I had no money. I was scared to have him arrested in fear he'd kill me.  He didn't ask for forgiveness and actually ignored me for 2 days.

I picked up shifts at work and hid my ankle and heavily powdered my nose. Two weeks later we had another arguement and I left immediately because I actually feared for my life. For 2 nights I stayed in my car before i found a place to stay.

The law isn't all that helpful for women who have to deal with domestic violence. Yeah, they can put a guy in jail but restraining orders don't do sh*t. I honestly feel the best defense is to learn how to kick a guy's ass, to own a gun and know how to use it sanely, and to value yourself enough so a man knows that you wont think twice about hitting back then leaving if he even thinks about laying a finger on ya !
!

In my 34 years, this guy is the ONLY man who has ever physically hurt me... and I am 100% positive that it was because it was a time in my life when i was weak and low in self esteem... and that's what attracts these losers.  Normally, people call me conceited and it used to bother me. Now, if they think I'm conceited.. they can kiss my a*s...

"we're not talking about conceit. We're talking about a healthy respect for yourself. And when you respect yourself, others will respect you as well".

PS- I think 20% is an understatement.

I always tell people don't confuse conceit & confidence. There is a fine line between the two but both are very different.