Author Topic: Would you say anything if you knew your dinner guest did this? (Read 4722 times)

Butterbean · « **on:** April 25, 2011, 02:21:59 PM »

Dear Amy: "I know I'm Right" was miffed when he brought fine wine to a dinner party and the wine wasn't served with dinner.

I disagree with your response and think the hostess' action (She thanked him when she accepted the wine but didn't serve it that night) was in poor taste.

The hostess "scooped" the fine wine and in return, served him cheap swill.

This is one of the oldest tricks in the book and the hostess should be ashamed of herself.

A host should always offer to serve the food or wine that has been brought by the guest.

I bring my good wine to the party and leave it in the car. If fine wine is being poured by the hostess, I will return to the car and bring in my wine to share saying I forgot to bring it in.

If swill is being served, I excuse myself. I have a wine opener in my car and fill my glass with my own stash, then return to the party.

— Touché

Dos Equis · « **Reply #1 on:** April 25, 2011, 03:17:13 PM »

Would not say anything. But they would only burn me once.

Princess L · « **Reply #2 on:** April 25, 2011, 07:11:06 PM »

When you bring wine, you should expect it not to be opened. It is a gift for the host(ess) for them to do with as they please. If you don't like it, bring another hostess gift. Anyone who serves "cheap swill" at a dinner party is likely clueless when it comes to wine, otherwise they wouldn't intentionally embarrass themselves by serving it. In the case of someone who knows how to pair wine with food, bringing a bottle and expecting it to be opened is presumptuous as the host(ess) planned the menu and selected what they felt to be the appropriate wine. The only time I would expect a wine gift to be opened is if I contacted the host first, asked if I could bring the wine for dinner and asked what was on the menu.

The letter writer should probably stick to flowers.

Migs · « **Reply #3 on:** April 25, 2011, 07:12:30 PM »

was the wine appropriate for the dinner though?

and hell froze over for a bit becuase I agree with princess 100% on this one

Princess L · « **Reply #4 on:** April 25, 2011, 07:29:38 PM »

Quote from: Migs on April 25, 2011, 07:12:30 PM

was the wine appropriate for the dinner though?

and hell froze over for a bit becuase I agree with princess 100% on this one

Migs · « **Reply #5 on:** April 25, 2011, 08:11:41 PM »

crazy ain't it?

CalvinH · « **Reply #6 on:** April 26, 2011, 05:15:00 AM »

Quote from: Princess L on April 25, 2011, 07:11:06 PM

When you bring wine, you should expect it not to be opened. It is a gift for the host(ess) for them to do with as they please. If you don't like it, bring another hostess gift. Anyone who serves "cheap swill" at a dinner party is likely clueless when it comes to wine, otherwise they wouldn't intentionally embarrass themselves by serving it. In the case of someone who knows how to pair wine with food, bringing a bottle and expecting it to be opened is presumptuous as the host(ess) planned the menu and selected what they felt to be the appropriate wine. The only time I would expect a wine gift to be opened is if I contacted the host first, asked if I could bring the wine for dinner and asked what was on the menu.

The letter writer should probably stick to flowers.

This...it's a gift,not yours anymore when you give it to them.

w8m8 · « **Reply #7 on:** April 26, 2011, 06:07:38 AM »

if someone is going out to their car to swig down wine .... there's issues

Butterbean · « **Reply #8 on:** April 26, 2011, 06:37:37 AM »

Quote from: CalvinH on April 26, 2011, 05:15:00 AM

This...it's a gift,not yours anymore when you give it to them.

x2

CalvinH · « **Reply #9 on:** April 26, 2011, 07:31:44 AM »

Quote from: w8m8 on April 26, 2011, 06:07:38 AM

if someone is going out to their car to swig down wine .... there's issues

Sounds like something done at a party with a bunch of 21/22 year olds.

w8m8 · « **Reply #10 on:** April 26, 2011, 08:21:56 AM »

Quote from: CalvinH on April 26, 2011, 07:31:44 AM

Sounds like something done at a party with a bunch of 21/22 year olds.

a bad party .. or a selfish bass turd hogging the Boone's Farm all to hisself

CalvinH · « **Reply #11 on:** April 26, 2011, 11:14:26 AM »

Quote from: w8m8 on April 26, 2011, 08:21:56 AM

a bad party .. or a selfish bass turd hogging the Boone's Farm all to hisself

Down here it's Old Thunderbird

Princess L · « **Reply #12 on:** April 26, 2011, 11:17:56 AM »

Quote from: w8m8 on April 26, 2011, 08:21:56 AM

a bad party .. or a selfish bass turd hogging the Boone's Farm all to hisself

I can't believe they're still making that stuff

w8m8 · « **Reply #13 on:** April 26, 2011, 11:34:39 AM »

Quote from: Princess L on April 26, 2011, 11:17:56 AM

I can't believe they're still making that stuff

.. I didn't know they did !!

HA HA .. I remember trying every kind and thinking they were the bomb LOL

YoungBlood · « **Reply #14 on:** April 26, 2011, 05:35:53 PM »

Thunderbird, Night Train, Boone's Field and a few others were the usual suspects in most of my friends Friday night lives.

BayGBM · « **Reply #15 on:** April 26, 2011, 06:13:43 PM »

Quote from: Princess L on April 25, 2011, 07:11:06 PM

When you bring wine, you should expect it not to be opened. It is a gift for the host(ess) for them to do with as they please. If you don't like it, bring another hostess gift. Anyone who serves "cheap swill" at a dinner party is likely clueless when it comes to wine, otherwise they wouldn't intentionally embarrass themselves by serving it. In the case of someone who knows how to pair wine with food, bringing a bottle and expecting it to be opened is presumptuous as the host(ess) planned the menu and selected what they felt to be the appropriate wine. The only time I would expect a wine gift to be opened is if I contacted the host first, asked if I could bring the wine for dinner and asked what was on the menu.

The letter writer should probably stick to flowers.

x2. It is common at a dinner party for the host to receive several bottles of wine in one evening from different guests. It is up to the host to decide what wine to serve with dinner. if you bring a bottle, it is a gift for the host to use how and when he sees fit--including regifting!