270 seconds to a better marriage / live in relationship

[w8m8]

from a piece in Esquire



Morning

First thing, take ninety seconds to give her the greatest good morning possible: "Good morning. I love you." And if she's asleep, you can lower your voice and whisper, "I love you. Have an awesome day." She'll hear you anyway.

After work

Right when you get home, focus on her for a full ninety seconds. If she's happy, you go happy; if she's low, you go low, and make sure you look her in the eyes long enough to discern her eye color. This says, I value you, I need you.

Night

Sometime during the last thirty minutes before bed, take ninety seconds to engage fully with her. Do not talk about children, money, or work. Don't talk about the past at all. Look at her, stroke her hair, snuggle up to her, tell her you love her.

Conclusion

Ninety seconds in the morning, ninety seconds after work (or any time you've been away from her for at least two hours), and ninety seconds at night. That's how you bond. After seven to ten days, the marriage will change.







I think those 270 seconds are very well spent and should be reciprocal 

[Butterbean]

make sure you look her in the eyes long enough to discern her eye color.

 

[w8m8]

And if she's asleep,She'll hear you anyway.

 

[CalvinH]

You girls are not kidding me.you love this and pretend you're asleep to see if the guy says's anything.

[w8m8]

You girls are not kidding me.you love this and pretend you're asleep to see if the guy says's anything.

no .. it's because we have excellent listening skills 

[loco]

no .. it's because we have excellent listening skills 

Uh?  Did you say something, honey?   

[CalvinH]

no .. it's because we have excellent listening skills 

Yeah,thats why you give a little smile when you hear it......even though you're sleeping

[w8m8]

Uh?  Did you say something, honey?   

lol 

Yeah,thats why you give a little smile when you hear it......even though you're sleeping

no

the smile is from the sweet dreams we get from having a man that whispers sweet nothin's to us even if we are sleeping 

[Parker]

from a piece in Esquire



Morning

First thing, take ninety seconds to give her the greatest good morning possible: "Good morning. I love you." And if she's asleep, you can lower your voice and whisper, "I love you. Have an awesome day." She'll hear you anyway.

After work

Right when you get home, focus on her for a full ninety seconds. If she's happy, you go happy; if she's low, you go low, and make sure you look her in the eyes long enough to discern her eye color. This says, I value you, I need you.

Night

Sometime during the last thirty minutes before bed, take ninety seconds to engage fully with her. Do not talk about children, money, or work. Don't talk about the past at all. Look at her, stroke her hair, snuggle up to her, tell her you love her.

Conclusion

Ninety seconds in the morning, ninety seconds after work (or any time you've been away from her for at least two hours), and ninety seconds at night. That's how you bond. After seven to ten days, the marriage will change.







I think those 270 seconds are very well spent and should be reciprocal 

And what does she do? Last time i checked, a marriage is between two people...It's not like a man can't be neglected either...

[w8m8]

And what does she do? Last time i checked, a marriage is between two people...It's not like a man can't be neglected either...

 

I said it should be reciprocal

[Butterbean]

lol

[Parker]

I said it should be reciprocal

It should be changed to reflect what a man needs...which is not to have one's hair stroked (what if one doesn't have hair?), and a snuggle...the 270 was written from a woman's perspective on what a man should do

[w8m8]

It should be changed to reflect what a man needs...which is not to have one's hair stroked (what if one doesn't have hair?), and a snuggle...the 270 was written from a woman's perspective on what a man should do

that's a fair statement .. so list what men would like for those 270 seconds .. split into 90 at a time 

[Migs]

wth 270 seconds...that's a freaking marathon

[tonymctones]

my buddy does this with his g/f...says "i know you need some attention so Im going to give you 90 secs of uninterrupted eye contact" lmao

always funny as ish

what was the womans list to do for a better marriage? lol

[w8m8]

wth 270 seconds...that's a freaking marathon

HA HA !! 

my buddy does this with his g/f...says "i know you need some attention so Im going to give you 90 secs of uninterrupted eye contact" lmao

always funny as ish

what was the womans list to do for a better marriage? lol

lolololerss ... these topics reinforce the reasoning behind me being a single recluse 

[Butterbean]

wth 270 seconds...that's a freaking marathon

 

[CalvinH]

I said it should be reciprocal

270 seconds of not talking to us sounds great

[w8m8]

270 seconds of not talking to us sounds great

not talking ... "sounds" great


 



oh brother

[CalvinH]

not talking ... "sounds" great


 



oh brother

Why yes...yes it does

[tonymctones]

lolololerss ... these topics reinforce the reasoning behind me being a single recluse 

LOL these topics and women who buy into them are the reason im single and content

alas but soon I will be the only single guy left in my group of friends and then I will be forced to get into a serious relationship...waaa waaa waaaaaaaaah

[Migs]

not talking ... "sounds" great


 



oh brother

the "not talking stuff" im thinking about sounds great...and can apparently be done between commercial breaks.


so....


w8m8, got some free time?

[Parker]

that's a fair statement .. so list what men would like for those 270 seconds .. split into 90 at a time 

I have to take my time...I'm thinking

[loco]

that's a fair statement .. so list what men would like for those 270 seconds .. split into 90 at a time 

My understanding is that husbands are perfectly satisfied with only two things: sex and quiet.   

[Butterbean]

the "not talking stuff" im thinking about sounds great...and can apparently be done between commercial breaks.

lol!  How about you people that wait till we are on the phone to start yapping away!