i wonder if these people had fate-less parents if you know what i mean? this behavior gets absorbed by the child and then the child becomes fate-less and short term thinking, pretty sad reality.
it takes work to be positive, some sweat and some tears, the alternative seems fucking miserable
Not always does this happen. My parents lived well but were always in debt and saved nothing for their old age. My stepdad died when he was 65 and he was still working up until his death to supplement his SSI, which probably wasn't very much since he underreported his income most of his working years. My mom lived about three years after he died. She was living off the interest of the proceeds from a life insurance policy she had on my dad and SSI. In those days, money market interest rates were 11%. She also moved in with us, so her expenses were nil.
Unlike my parents, I am very cautious about spending money. My wife and I planned carefully for our retirement years. We have no debts. My wife and I were spendthrifts when we were dating, a few periods of hard times taught us a lesson and we changed our ways.
Although I had a lot of material things as a kid, they usually came with some responsibility too. Furthermore, I knew if I got into trouble, I was on my own. My parents made that very clear to me.
It seems to me a lot of folks play the blame game. Nothing is every their fault, it is always someone or something else which is to blame. I'm a control freak. As such blaming others is like giving up control of my own life. I am responsible for what happens to me and I wouldn't want it any other way.