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So I meet all sorts of chicks through my work.  I travel a lot and get the luxury of going to nice restaurants, hotels and bars and meet all sorts of whores.  Most of the time I meet them, leave and never think twice about them until this one woman I met last week. I'm not exaggerating when I tell this story.  I'm in Austin, which I have been going to a lot and walking down Congress around 9:00 PM to the JW and pass this outside patio area and glimpse this woman from the side of my eye and just stop cold in my tracks.  I look at her and she has a friend sitting with her.  I say hi to them both and ask if I can sit and join them for a drink.  I never fucking do this on my own.  Not sure what super power came over me with steel balls to pull that move.  I pull up a chair next to the one chick and ignore her friend.  We start talking about stuff and about 20 minutes in the friend realizes it's her queue to leave and excuses her self.  Now I'm talking to this woman that caught my eye.  Little about her.  She's from Iowa (I'll get back to this) and is in Austin with her coworker (the chick that left) for two days for work.  Her and I just start talking like we've known each other for ages.  Strange conversation because the entire time I'm talking to her like we've known each other for years and finally met back up.  She's just a stunning gorgeous woman.  Dressed super professional but super sexy, like a dirty librarian.  She literally fits every category if I were to list out what I want in my perfect woman.  She has a great career, dog lover, beautiful, funny, sweet, tall, perfect physique, even her hairdo is my favorite style.  No shit we sat at this patio ordering drinks and food from 9:00 until 2:00 when they finally stopped serving.  We stayed on that patio until 5AM talking until we realized It's time to get some sleep since we both had work in a couple hours.  The entire time I never once thought about having sex.  I think about sex 99.99999% of the day but with her I was just enjoying what we were doing.  She was all touchy with me, our legs intertwined, sitting real close, just totally into each other.  She was flying out the next day but we agreed to meet back for a bit before she headed to the airport.  I met back and man,  she was still sweet, but seemed sad to say bye.   We talked for an hour, seemed awkward at times because we both seemed melancholy about the situation and she had to go to the airport but we said we'd keep in touch.   I texted her and get back short quick answers, she seems to want to talk but I can't figure out what's happening.  I want to push it a bit but feel what's the point.  No matter what happens this won't work out.  I'm in SoCal and she's in Iowa.  I'm not going to fly out there often to see her and certainly won't ever move out there but I don't think I want her to come to SoCal.  I want this chick so back but can't seem to push myself to pursue this anymore.  The shitty part is that it's consuming my fucking brain all week.  All I think about is her, wanting to hang out and just be with her.  Something happened when I met her, some chemistry, some connection and I can't let it go.  I know the same thing happened with her. This is not even a situation of seeing other whores to get her off of my mind, been there, done that already this week and it doesn't help.
She did say she was single, not dating blah blah and I totally believe her because that was what we spoke about for a bit the night we met..  

Would you guys pursue a cross country romance?  Aren't these things always destined to fail?  Fuck I had a cross state romance and just going from SoCal to NorCal was too much and we eventually called it off.  You guys can call my pathetic, loser whatever, I don't give a fuck.  Just needed to write this shit down and get it off of my chest.  Getbig is my fucking therapy.  The humor here and some of the actual knowledge from some of the good posters actually does help.  I just kind of want to stop texting and end this because it sucks ass and then part of me wants to go full force but I can't see any way this would logistically work out.  Its totally fucking up my mind.

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"I'm not going to fly out there often to see her "

Then she isn't "the one". Once you meet that special person, distance means nothing.

A buddy of mine living in NY went to Vegas for a weekend. Met a woman who he instantly had chemistry with. No sexual encounter in Vegas- just a meeting and then dinner the next day.

She lived in Colorado.Up till then my friend was a total man whore, lol- but he said she connected with him in a way no woman ever had.

A year later they were married and he lives in Colorado- happy as can be. They've been married since 2004.

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This is how I felt when I met Vince Goodrum, CSN, MFT, HPP, CEO.

We do live far apart, but we try to make it work. I fly out to NC every other weekend. Occassionally, Henda and Las Vegas meet us there.

We mainly spend the weekend working out, eating keilbasa, and developing business plans.
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I'd at least fly out there or fly her to CA and give it a shot. You'll never know otherwise. People connect sometimes, and you don't know when it's going to hit you, but maybe this is your chance. You only get one shot at this planet, why not try and make the bet of it. Offer to fly her out to you. Even if she rejects the offer you'll at least have closure.

Side note, I stays at the JW back in March and have heard you mention it before. Very cool place, and lots of "pros" in the main lounge/bar area.

Good luck

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This is how I felt when I met Vince Goodrum, CSN, MFT, HPP, CEO.

We do live far apart, but we try to make it work. I fly out to NC every other weekend. Occassionally, Henda and Las Vegas meet us there.

We mainly spend the weekend working out, eating keilbasa, and developing business plans.

You and Vince make a great pair. Both write great posts, both seem like nice people, and both have interesting desires, hahaha.

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just move to Bangkok and be with your ladyboy.

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You and Vince make a great pair. Both write great posts, both seem like nice people, and both have interesting desires, hahaha.

Thank you for your support, Hypertrophy.

Vince and I just have open communication.

If I think he’s messed up a big business deal, I let him know.
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So I meet all sorts of chicks through my work.  I travel a lot and get the luxury of going to nice restaurants, hotels and bars and meet all sorts of whores.  Most of the time I meet them, leave and never think twice about them until this one woman I met last week. I'm not exaggerating when I tell this story.  I'm in Austin, which I have been going to a lot and walking down Congress around 9:00 PM to the JW and pass this outside patio area and glimpse this woman from the side of my eye and just stop cold in my tracks.  I look at her and she has a friend sitting with her.  I say hi to them both and ask if I can sit and join them for a drink.  I never fucking do this on my own.  Not sure what super power came over me with steel balls to pull that move.  I pull up a chair next to the one chick and ignore her friend.  We start talking about stuff and about 20 minutes in the friend realizes it's her queue to leave and excuses her self.  Now I'm talking to this woman that caught my eye.  Little about her.  She's from Iowa (I'll get back to this) and is in Austin with her coworker (the chick that left) for two days for work.  Her and I just start talking like we've known each other for ages.  Strange conversation because the entire time I'm talking to her like we've known each other for years and finally met back up.  She's just a stunning gorgeous woman.  Dressed super professional but super sexy, like a dirty librarian.  She literally fits every category if I were to list out what I want in my perfect woman.  She has a great career, dog lover, beautiful, funny, sweet, tall, perfect physique, even her hairdo is my favorite style.  No shit we sat at this patio ordering drinks and food from 9:00 until 2:00 when they finally stopped serving.  We stayed on that patio until 5AM talking until we realized It's time to get some sleep since we both had work in a couple hours.  The entire time I never once thought about having sex.  I think about sex 99.99999% of the day but with her I was just enjoying what we were doing.  She was all touchy with me, our legs intertwined, sitting real close, just totally into each other.  She was flying out the next day but we agreed to meet back for a bit before she headed to the airport.  I met back and man,  she was still sweet, but seemed sad to say bye.   We talked for an hour, seemed awkward at times because we both seemed melancholy about the situation and she had to go to the airport but we said we'd keep in touch.   I texted her and get back short quick answers, she seems to want to talk but I can't figure out what's happening.  I want to push it a bit but feel what's the point.  No matter what happens this won't work out.  I'm in SoCal and she's in Iowa.  I'm not going to fly out there often to see her and certainly won't ever move out there but I don't think I want her to come to SoCal.  I want this chick so back but can't seem to push myself to pursue this anymore.  The shitty part is that it's consuming my fucking brain all week.  All I think about is her, wanting to hang out and just be with her.  Something happened when I met her, some chemistry, some connection and I can't let it go.  I know the same thing happened with her. This is not even a situation of seeing other whores to get her off of my mind, been there, done that already this week and it doesn't help.
She did say she was single, not dating blah blah and I totally believe her because that was what we spoke about for a bit the night we met..  

Would you guys pursue a cross country romance?  Aren't these things always destined to fail?  Fuck I had a cross state romance and just going from SoCal to NorCal was too much and we eventually called it off.  You guys can call my pathetic, loser whatever, I don't give a fuck.  Just needed to write this shit down and get it off of my chest.  Getbig is my fucking therapy.  The humor here and some of the actual knowledge from some of the good posters actually does help.  I just kind of want to stop texting and end this because it sucks ass and then part of me wants to go full force but I can't see any way this would logistically work out.  Its totally fucking up my mind.




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"I'm not going to fly out there often to see her "

Then she isn't "the one". Once you meet that special person, distance means nothing.

A buddy of mine living in NY went to Vegas for a weekend. Met a woman who he instantly had chemistry with. No sexual encounter in Vegas- just a meeting and then dinner the next day.

She lived in Colorado.Up till then my friend was a total man whore, lol- but he said she connected with him in a way no woman ever had.

A year later they were married and he lives in Colorado- happy as can be. They've been married since 2004.
Yup yup didn’t read op post. But if you are not willing to travel, expenses aside, she isn’t the one. 
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So I meet all sorts of chicks through my work.  I travel a lot and get the luxury of going to nice restaurants, hotels and bars and meet all sorts of whores.  Most of the time I meet them, leave and never think twice about them until this one woman I met last week. I'm not exaggerating when I tell this story.  I'm in Austin, which I have been going to a lot and walking down Congress around 9:00 PM to the JW and pass this outside patio area and glimpse this woman from the side of my eye and just stop cold in my tracks.  I look at her and she has a friend sitting with her.  I say hi to them both and ask if I can sit and join them for a drink.  I never fucking do this on my own.  Not sure what super power came over me with steel balls to pull that move.  I pull up a chair next to the one chick and ignore her friend.  We start talking about stuff and about 20 minutes in the friend realizes it's her queue to leave and excuses her self.  Now I'm talking to this woman that caught my eye.  Little about her.  She's from Iowa (I'll get back to this) and is in Austin with her coworker (the chick that left) for two days for work.  Her and I just start talking like we've known each other for ages.  Strange conversation because the entire time I'm talking to her like we've known each other for years and finally met back up.  She's just a stunning gorgeous woman.  Dressed super professional but super sexy, like a dirty librarian.  She literally fits every category if I were to list out what I want in my perfect woman.  She has a great career, dog lover, beautiful, funny, sweet, tall, perfect physique, even her hairdo is my favorite style.  No shit we sat at this patio ordering drinks and food from 9:00 until 2:00 when they finally stopped serving.  We stayed on that patio until 5AM talking until we realized It's time to get some sleep since we both had work in a couple hours.  The entire time I never once thought about having sex.  I think about sex 99.99999% of the day but with her I was just enjoying what we were doing.  She was all touchy with me, our legs intertwined, sitting real close, just totally into each other.  She was flying out the next day but we agreed to meet back for a bit before she headed to the airport.  I met back and man,  she was still sweet, but seemed sad to say bye.   We talked for an hour, seemed awkward at times because we both seemed melancholy about the situation and she had to go to the airport but we said we'd keep in touch.   I texted her and get back short quick answers, she seems to want to talk but I can't figure out what's happening.  I want to push it a bit but feel what's the point.  No matter what happens this won't work out.  I'm in SoCal and she's in Iowa.  I'm not going to fly out there often to see her and certainly won't ever move out there but I don't think I want her to come to SoCal.  I want this chick so back but can't seem to push myself to pursue this anymore.  The shitty part is that it's consuming my fucking brain all week.  All I think about is her, wanting to hang out and just be with her.  Something happened when I met her, some chemistry, some connection and I can't let it go.  I know the same thing happened with her. This is not even a situation of seeing other whores to get her off of my mind, been there, done that already this week and it doesn't help.
She did say she was single, not dating blah blah and I totally believe her because that was what we spoke about for a bit the night we met..  

Would you guys pursue a cross country romance?  Aren't these things always destined to fail?  Fuck I had a cross state romance and just going from SoCal to NorCal was too much and we eventually called it off.  You guys can call my pathetic, loser whatever, I don't give a fuck.  Just needed to write this shit down and get it off of my chest.  Getbig is my fucking therapy.  The humor here and some of the actual knowledge from some of the good posters actually does help.  I just kind of want to stop texting and end this because it sucks ass and then part of me wants to go full force but I can't see any way this would logistically work out.  Its totally fucking up my mind.

Why not fly out once and really get to know her if she is the one?

If you don't you might think about it constantly and regret it for months.
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There is no such person as "the one".


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So I meet all sorts of chicks through my work.  I travel a lot and get the luxury of going to nice restaurants, hotels and bars and meet all sorts of whores.  Most of the time I meet them, leave and never think twice about them until this one woman I met last week. I'm not exaggerating when I tell this story.  I'm in Austin, which I have been going to a lot and walking down Congress around 9:00 PM to the JW and pass this outside patio area and glimpse this woman from the side of my eye and just stop cold in my tracks.  I look at her and she has a friend sitting with her.  I say hi to them both and ask if I can sit and join them for a drink.  I never fucking do this on my own.  Not sure what super power came over me with steel balls to pull that move.  I pull up a chair next to the one chick and ignore her friend.  We start talking about stuff and about 20 minutes in the friend realizes it's her queue to leave and excuses her self.  Now I'm talking to this woman that caught my eye.  Little about her.  She's from Iowa (I'll get back to this) and is in Austin with her coworker (the chick that left) for two days for work.  Her and I just start talking like we've known each other for ages.  Strange conversation because the entire time I'm talking to her like we've known each other for years and finally met back up.  She's just a stunning gorgeous woman.  Dressed super professional but super sexy, like a dirty librarian.  She literally fits every category if I were to list out what I want in my perfect woman.  She has a great career, dog lover, beautiful, funny, sweet, tall, perfect physique, even her hairdo is my favorite style.  No shit we sat at this patio ordering drinks and food from 9:00 until 2:00 when they finally stopped serving.  We stayed on that patio until 5AM talking until we realized It's time to get some sleep since we both had work in a couple hours.  The entire time I never once thought about having sex.  I think about sex 99.99999% of the day but with her I was just enjoying what we were doing.  She was all touchy with me, our legs intertwined, sitting real close, just totally into each other.  She was flying out the next day but we agreed to meet back for a bit before she headed to the airport.  I met back and man,  she was still sweet, but seemed sad to say bye.   We talked for an hour, seemed awkward at times because we both seemed melancholy about the situation and she had to go to the airport but we said we'd keep in touch.   I texted her and get back short quick answers, she seems to want to talk but I can't figure out what's happening.  I want to push it a bit but feel what's the point.  No matter what happens this won't work out.  I'm in SoCal and she's in Iowa.  I'm not going to fly out there often to see her and certainly won't ever move out there but I don't think I want her to come to SoCal.  I want this chick so back but can't seem to push myself to pursue this anymore.  The shitty part is that it's consuming my fucking brain all week.  All I think about is her, wanting to hang out and just be with her.  Something happened when I met her, some chemistry, some connection and I can't let it go.  I know the same thing happened with her. This is not even a situation of seeing other whores to get her off of my mind, been there, done that already this week and it doesn't help.
She did say she was single, not dating blah blah and I totally believe her because that was what we spoke about for a bit the night we met..  

Would you guys pursue a cross country romance?  Aren't these things always destined to fail?  Fuck I had a cross state romance and just going from SoCal to NorCal was too much and we eventually called it off.  You guys can call my pathetic, loser whatever, I don't give a fuck.  Just needed to write this shit down and get it off of my chest.  Getbig is my fucking therapy.  The humor here and some of the actual knowledge from some of the good posters actually does help.  I just kind of want to stop texting and end this because it sucks ass and then part of me wants to go full force but I can't see any way this would logistically work out.  Its totally fucking up my mind.

.. Distance should never be a deterrent for love .. You will never get closure unless you explore the possibility with her .. If it goes any further, show good faith by flying out there to see where she stands .. If things go well, then as her if she is open to re-locate in the event things gets serious .. This will be a multi step process, but fully worth it if she truly is the woman of your dreams

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Although I don't believe in "the one." There are billions of people out there ffs but if you really believe this is the one, make the effort get out there and be with him.

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So I meet all sorts of chicks through my work.  I travel a lot and get the luxury of going to nice restaurants, hotels and bars and meet all sorts of whores.  Most of the time I meet them, leave and never think twice about them until this one woman I met last week. I'm not exaggerating when I tell this story.  I'm in Austin, which I have been going to a lot and walking down Congress around 9:00 PM to the JW and pass this outside patio area and glimpse this woman from the side of my eye and just stop cold in my tracks.  I look at her and she has a friend sitting with her.  I say hi to them both and ask if I can sit and join them for a drink.  I never fucking do this on my own.  Not sure what super power came over me with steel balls to pull that move.  I pull up a chair next to the one chick and ignore her friend.  We start talking about stuff and about 20 minutes in the friend realizes it's her queue to leave and excuses her self.  Now I'm talking to this woman that caught my eye.  Little about her.  She's from Iowa (I'll get back to this) and is in Austin with her coworker (the chick that left) for two days for work.  Her and I just start talking like we've known each other for ages.  Strange conversation because the entire time I'm talking to her like we've known each other for years and finally met back up.  She's just a stunning gorgeous woman.  Dressed super professional but super sexy, like a dirty librarian.  She literally fits every category if I were to list out what I want in my perfect woman.  She has a great career, dog lover, beautiful, funny, sweet, tall, perfect physique, even her hairdo is my favorite style.  No shit we sat at this patio ordering drinks and food from 9:00 until 2:00 when they finally stopped serving.  We stayed on that patio until 5AM talking until we realized It's time to get some sleep since we both had work in a couple hours.  The entire time I never once thought about having sex.  I think about sex 99.99999% of the day but with her I was just enjoying what we were doing.  She was all touchy with me, our legs intertwined, sitting real close, just totally into each other.  She was flying out the next day but we agreed to meet back for a bit before she headed to the airport.  I met back and man,  she was still sweet, but seemed sad to say bye.   We talked for an hour, seemed awkward at times because we both seemed melancholy about the situation and she had to go to the airport but we said we'd keep in touch.   I texted her and get back short quick answers, she seems to want to talk but I can't figure out what's happening.  I want to push it a bit but feel what's the point.  No matter what happens this won't work out.  I'm in SoCal and she's in Iowa.  I'm not going to fly out there often to see her and certainly won't ever move out there but I don't think I want her to come to SoCal.  I want this chick so back but can't seem to push myself to pursue this anymore.  The shitty part is that it's consuming my fucking brain all week.  All I think about is her, wanting to hang out and just be with her.  Something happened when I met her, some chemistry, some connection and I can't let it go.  I know the same thing happened with her. This is not even a situation of seeing other whores to get her off of my mind, been there, done that already this week and it doesn't help.
She did say she was single, not dating blah blah and I totally believe her because that was what we spoke about for a bit the night we met..  

Would you guys pursue a cross country romance?  Aren't these things always destined to fail?  Fuck I had a cross state romance and just going from SoCal to NorCal was too much and we eventually called it off.  You guys can call my pathetic, loser whatever, I don't give a fuck.  Just needed to write this shit down and get it off of my chest.  Getbig is my fucking therapy.  The humor here and some of the actual knowledge from some of the good posters actually does help.  I just kind of want to stop texting and end this because it sucks ass and then part of me wants to go full force but I can't see any way this would logistically work out.  Its totally fucking up my mind.

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Go for it and see what happens.

I'm friends with a chick who is a legit 10. She's divorced and had a guy here and there, but no one she thought highly of. She finally met someone she connected with, but they are in different cities like your scenario. Well, they are trying to make it work. We were all recently together on a trip. And, they already have plans for some upcoming visits in their respective cities. I was legit happy for her, and joked that she does have a heart (because I never saw her really interested in anyone).

So, you really have nothing to lose. If you try it and it doesn't work out, at least you won't be left wondering. If it works out, you'll be glad you did.

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I met my wife on Getbig. She lived on Guam at the time (over 7000mi away). We’ve been married over 10 years. Like everything else it’s a matter of how bad do you want it